visiting at school

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My kids could never be visited at school. My daughetr would stop everyhting or

get wilder,

and my son would (and still) gets too excited. The old home vs. school and the

two not

mixing with our kids on the spectrum. Even when her preschool teacher would

visit us at

our home, my daughter would not look at her and got too over-stimulated to do

anything,

You need an unbiased party to observe properly, or one way glass!

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> I hate to bring up the sensitive point of MRDD case manager, but my son's

> manager came to Bobby's school at recess and lunchtime and wrote down some

> observations. Which was wonderful because my son is so busy with me when I

> have been on the playground. I didn't know what the usual routine was.

> Chris

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> >From: " rmaher1969@... " <rmaher1969@...>

> >Reply-

> >

> >Subject: Re: [ ] Re: Broken Collar Bone

> >Date: Mon, 22 May 2006 11:02:30 -0400

> >

> >Wow Roxanna,

> > You're FULL of great ideas! I used to peek through the door b/c my son

> >would immediately go for his coat and pull me to the door if he saw me. I

> >still can't show up at school without having to bring him home. I could

> >never get a real idea of what he is doing in class b/c when I'm there he

> >just wants me to take him home. Good advice though, and don't you LOVE

> >showing them you know what you're doing at IEP meets?

> >

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> >----- Original Message -----

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> >Sent: 5/22/2006 10:58:07 AM

> >Subject: Re: [ ] Re: Broken Collar Bone

> >

> >

> >In a message dated 5/22/2006 10:31:46 AM Eastern Standard Time,

> >angelabiehl@... writes:

> >Are you an attorney. Unfortunatley we have gone to bat for our son for the

> >entire school year for a sensory diet and help with his social skills. We

> >are being told constantly that he is doing great at school. I think because

> >he has a huge vocabulary that he does not need help with social skills. We

> >finally had to contact an attorney who gave us similar advice. She has also

> >gave us some advice for our next IEP meeting on Thursday. We are asking for

> >summer school and are being told that he has not regressed during breaks

> >and they will not give it to him. Our argument is that he has alot of

> >emerging skills and has been in school since he was 2 (summers also) it

> >took him this long to obtain these skills. I would hate to have to bring an

> >attorney into the school this early in his education. (kindergarten going

> >into first) The attorney does not think they settle with us. So wish us

> >luck.

> >

> >Thanks for your help

> >

> >goodluck! Let us know what happens.

> >

> >One thing you can do in the future is go visit the classroom yourself and

> >take notes. I've done that before and you will be either amazed that your

> >child is REALLY do as well as they say or you will confirm with data that

> >you are right. For instance, I went to visit my ds's pre-school class when

> >they said he didn't need the help with language problems. I took data on

> >how often he spoke, who he spoke to and what he said. It was easy since he

> >didn't talk at all! lol. But had he spoken, I would have had a list of

> >what was said. And I would have gone back more than once as well to get a

> >good idea of what would be " typical " for him.

> >

> >Unfortunately, sometimes they say the child is doing wonderful when what

> >they really mean is that he isn't causing them any problems. so check it

> >out yourself or get someone you know to do observations. Nothing like your

> >own data to contribute to the IEP meeting.

> >

> >Roxanna ô¿ô

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