Re: reflecting on the past....and now...

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I do not see myself as the typical anything...not always a good

thing either...and I do not see myself as the typical dad either

which is a good thing a some ways...my son has always been my best

buddy and when we were told about his autism I knew nothing had

changed about him, just how we looked at things. I did fully

understand how my wife could feel that way and do not begrudge

anyone their feelings. You cannot tell someone they are not mad, or

upset, or any other feeling. You can only be there and remind them

that their child is still right there.

Anyone just starting this journey can learn a lot from what

n wrote. Remember, it's not what you're going through, but

what you're going to! Live in the today but work for the tomorrow.

Shane

>

> Hi Shane,

>

> I know exactly how your wife feels about looking at pictures of

your son

> before you knew of the autism. I didn't take any photos of my son

from the time

> he was about 14 months till he was about 22 months after we

started him in

> early intervention and had a new hope for him. I guess I was very

torn and didn't

> have a desire to take pictures of him, it wasn't intentional, just

> heartbreaking..... I remember the feeling very well. it still

brings tears to my eyes

> to think about it. I've got to say though,that I am so happy

now....and full

> of hope. My son has exceeded my hopes since than, even though we

still have a

> long way to go he is really coming along. I have a wonderful

relationship

> with my son!!! which is priceless...above everything else the

relationship is

> worth everything.

>

> ~ n

>

> In a message dated 5/23/06 9:24:27 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

> SMD@... writes:

>

> > so truth be known my wife has a hard time

> > looking a pictures of my son from before we knew. I guess it's

> > quite common to feel like life has stolen the child you knew or

> > planned for once autism steals them from you.

> >

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