An apology of my own- OT

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Hello all. I have been blessed by all of you on this list. Your caring, support

and knowledge are just what I need right now. Only someone who's been through a

joint replacement can possibly understand the journey of rehab.

However, right now I am hanging my head in shame. I have been unable to

reciprocate lately, and I'd like to explain why. Tom, my husband, has ADHD, and

REFUSES to take medication. Wherever he goes, there's chaos around him.

Remember the " Pigpen " character in the old " Charlie Brown " cartoons? Remember

how everywhere he went, there was a cloud of dust and dirt that surrounded him?

Well, that's what it's like living with Tom. He doesn't even have to TRY; the

chaos just follows him.

I've gotten to the point where I can even concentrate around him. I think its

time I take my computer back upstairs where it's not so noisy. Between Tom

talking on the phone, having the TV going, AND his speech output program on his

computer constantly talk, I go stir-crazy! I'm very sensitive to such things,

and get " sensory-overload very easily, especially now. Maybe it's the surgery,

but I have about zero tolerance for him right now. He's going on vacation next

Saturday the 26th for a week and a half. Normally I go with him. But I'm

thinking it's probably better for me, MENTALLY, that I'm staying home this year.

So if I have failed to offer an encouraging word here, or a sympathetic ear

there, please forgive me. Right now, as I type this, it's 2:30 AM, and Tom's in

bed. But it's quiet, and I can concentrate. I really feel like I'm at the end

of my rope with him. And no, he will NOT take any of the medications that are

available. He doesn't like the way he feels on them. I guess I'm just weaker

now, emotionally, due to my LTHR.

I've been very dedicated in taking my walks every day. Okay, I missed maybe two

days, but not consecutively. Getting out of the house and walking to the park

down the street gives me a chance to get AWAY from Tom's chaos. I NEED those

walks, so even though it's been hot as Hades here lately, I still walk; in the

morning, before it gets too bad. There's no changing Tom. He doesn't see that

he has a problem. So either I put up with it, or, I don't.

I do think of you guys a lot and believe me my positive thoughts and good wishes

go out to you. It's just that writing them down in a cohesive email is next to

impossible. I simply am unable to concentrate. That's why I'm moving my laptop

computer BACK upstairs where it's fairly quiet. If it makes anyone feel better,

I've been neglecting my private email friends too, simply because I just can't

concentrate with all Tom's chaos going on. Then he insists on telling me every

little thing that he hears, or happens to him. the problem is, I DON'T CARE.

I'm just too spent, physically, mentally and emotionally to give him much of

anything. He hasn't given me much for awhile.

My apologies for this off-topic post. I just wanted you all to know that I

don't mean to be neglectful. Chuck, you poor thing, with no hip. How WILL you

ambulate? , in some ways, you HAVEN'T gotten over the hospital's screw-up

with your own infection. Those of you with mean or arrogent PTs, switch

IMMEDIATELY! Don't tolerate that kind of behavoir. And tell the offending

supervisor exactly WHY you are asking for a switch. a, we're all allowed a

pity-party once in a while, as long as we come out of it, which you obviously

have. And I applaud you for " graduating " to the cane! I know that was a big

deal to me. I never thought I'd be able to. I tried while in rehab, with no

luck. But a few days after coming home, the PT had me up on the cane, and

waddling around.

For others who's situations I haven't addressed, please forgive me. It's hard

to keep track of everyone. But I do read your messages, and cheer your

successes, and wish I could give " pep-talks " to anyone who needs them.

Well, I really do need to get to bed. I just wanted everyone to know I wasn't

be neglectful or selfish. At least I hope I wasn't.

Take care all, and listen to your bodies!

All my best.

Tammy Klaus

tammy.kl@...

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Tammy,

I'm sorry about what you are going through. While my husband hasn't been

diagnosed as ADHD (sometimes I just think that is an oversight) he is OCD,

very, and while it isn't constant chaos, he is one of this people who is

always clapping or snapping his fingers or singing jingles or just generally

making noise that isn't productive. It makes me nuts. I'm seeing a therapist

to learn to deal with it since I obviously can't fix him. I love him, but if

he responds to me saying " It's windy outside today " with " Marsh " (a

person we know) one more time, I might go nuts.

So I kind of know what you are going through and I am probably more

sensitive to it now that I'm not constantly dealing with knee pain to blunt

my reaction to him. Take care of yourself and find peace for yourself since

you can't make a grown up change into what you want.

An apology of my own- OT

Hello all. I have been blessed by all of you on this list. Your caring,

support and knowledge are just what I need right now. Only someone who's

been through a joint replacement can possibly understand the journey of

rehab.

However, right now I am hanging my head in shame. I have been unable to

reciprocate lately, and I'd like to explain why. Tom, my husband, has ADHD,

and REFUSES to take medication. Wherever he goes, there's chaos around him.

Remember the " Pigpen " character in the old " Charlie Brown " cartoons?

Remember how everywhere he went, there was a cloud of dust and dirt that

surrounded him? Well, that's what it's like living with Tom. He doesn't

even have to TRY; the chaos just follows him.

I've gotten to the point where I can even concentrate around him. I think

its time I take my computer back upstairs where it's not so noisy. Between

Tom talking on the phone, having the TV going, AND his speech output program

on his computer constantly talk, I go stir-crazy! I'm very sensitive to

such things, and get " sensory-overload very easily, especially now. Maybe

it's the surgery, but I have about zero tolerance for him right now. He's

going on vacation next Saturday the 26th for a week and a half. Normally I

go with him. But I'm thinking it's probably better for me, MENTALLY, that

I'm staying home this year.

So if I have failed to offer an encouraging word here, or a sympathetic ear

there, please forgive me. Right now, as I type this, it's 2:30 AM, and

Tom's in bed. But it's quiet, and I can concentrate. I really feel like

I'm at the end of my rope with him. And no, he will NOT take any of the

medications that are available. He doesn't like the way he feels on them.

I guess I'm just weaker now, emotionally, due to my LTHR.

I've been very dedicated in taking my walks every day. Okay, I missed maybe

two days, but not consecutively. Getting out of the house and walking to

the park down the street gives me a chance to get AWAY from Tom's chaos. I

NEED those walks, so even though it's been hot as Hades here lately, I still

walk; in the morning, before it gets too bad. There's no changing Tom. He

doesn't see that he has a problem. So either I put up with it, or, I don't.

I do think of you guys a lot and believe me my positive thoughts and good

wishes go out to you. It's just that writing them down in a cohesive email

is next to impossible. I simply am unable to concentrate. That's why I'm

moving my laptop computer BACK upstairs where it's fairly quiet. If it

makes anyone feel better, I've been neglecting my private email friends too,

simply because I just can't concentrate with all Tom's chaos going on. Then

he insists on telling me every little thing that he hears, or happens to

him. the problem is, I DON'T CARE. I'm just too spent, physically,

mentally and emotionally to give him much of anything. He hasn't given me

much for awhile.

My apologies for this off-topic post. I just wanted you all to know that I

don't mean to be neglectful. Chuck, you poor thing, with no hip. How WILL

you ambulate? , in some ways, you HAVEN'T gotten over the hospital's

screw-up with your own infection. Those of you with mean or arrogent PTs,

switch IMMEDIATELY! Don't tolerate that kind of behavoir. And tell the

offending supervisor exactly WHY you are asking for a switch. a, we're

all allowed a pity-party once in a while, as long as we come out of it,

which you obviously have. And I applaud you for " graduating " to the cane!

I know that was a big deal to me. I never thought I'd be able to. I tried

while in rehab, with no luck. But a few days after coming home, the PT had

me up on the cane, and waddling around.

For others who's situations I haven't addressed, please forgive me. It's

hard to keep track of everyone. But I do read your messages, and cheer your

successes, and wish I could give " pep-talks " to anyone who needs them.

Well, I really do need to get to bed. I just wanted everyone to know I

wasn't be neglectful or selfish. At least I hope I wasn't.

Take care all, and listen to your bodies!

All my best.

Tammy Klaus

tammy.kl@...

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Tammy

I dont know what its like to have a husband with ADHD but my 19 year

old son has it and does not like to take his meds either. My husband

who had his BTKR done 12 days ago gave him an ultimatum of take your

meds or leave. When someone in your house has this problem and wont

take the meds it does make your life VERY difficult. Take the time

your husband is on vacation to recharge your batteries and take care

of yourself.

n Joint Replacement , " DeRouen " <asd@...>

wrote:

>

> Tammy,

>

> I'm sorry about what you are going through. While my husband hasn't

been

> diagnosed as ADHD (sometimes I just think that is an oversight) he

is OCD,

> very, and while it isn't constant chaos, he is one of this people

who is

> always clapping or snapping his fingers or singing jingles or just

generally

> making noise that isn't productive. It makes me nuts. I'm seeing a

therapist

> to learn to deal with it since I obviously can't fix him. I love

him, but if

> he responds to me saying " It's windy outside today " with "

Marsh " (a

> person we know) one more time, I might go nuts.

>

> So I kind of know what you are going through and I am probably more

> sensitive to it now that I'm not constantly dealing with knee pain

to blunt

> my reaction to him. Take care of yourself and find peace for

yourself since

> you can't make a grown up change into what you want.

>

>

>

> An apology of my own- OT

>

>

> Hello all. I have been blessed by all of you on this list. Your

caring,

> support and knowledge are just what I need right now. Only someone

who's

> been through a joint replacement can possibly understand the

journey of

> rehab.

>

> However, right now I am hanging my head in shame. I have been

unable to

> reciprocate lately, and I'd like to explain why. Tom, my husband,

has ADHD,

> and REFUSES to take medication. Wherever he goes, there's chaos

around him.

> Remember the " Pigpen " character in the old " Charlie Brown " cartoons?

> Remember how everywhere he went, there was a cloud of dust and dirt

that

> surrounded him? Well, that's what it's like living with Tom. He

doesn't

> even have to TRY; the chaos just follows him.

>

> I've gotten to the point where I can even concentrate around him.

I think

> its time I take my computer back upstairs where it's not so noisy.

Between

> Tom talking on the phone, having the TV going, AND his speech

output program

> on his computer constantly talk, I go stir-crazy! I'm very

sensitive to

> such things, and get " sensory-overload very easily, especially

now. Maybe

> it's the surgery, but I have about zero tolerance for him right

now. He's

> going on vacation next Saturday the 26th for a week and a half.

Normally I

> go with him. But I'm thinking it's probably better for me,

MENTALLY, that

> I'm staying home this year.

>

> So if I have failed to offer an encouraging word here, or a

sympathetic ear

> there, please forgive me. Right now, as I type this, it's 2:30 AM,

and

> Tom's in bed. But it's quiet, and I can concentrate. I really

feel like

> I'm at the end of my rope with him. And no, he will NOT take any

of the

> medications that are available. He doesn't like the way he feels

on them.

> I guess I'm just weaker now, emotionally, due to my LTHR.

>

> I've been very dedicated in taking my walks every day. Okay, I

missed maybe

> two days, but not consecutively. Getting out of the house and

walking to

> the park down the street gives me a chance to get AWAY from Tom's

chaos. I

> NEED those walks, so even though it's been hot as Hades here

lately, I still

> walk; in the morning, before it gets too bad. There's no changing

Tom. He

> doesn't see that he has a problem. So either I put up with it, or,

I don't.

>

> I do think of you guys a lot and believe me my positive thoughts

and good

> wishes go out to you. It's just that writing them down in a

cohesive email

> is next to impossible. I simply am unable to concentrate. That's

why I'm

> moving my laptop computer BACK upstairs where it's fairly quiet.

If it

> makes anyone feel better, I've been neglecting my private email

friends too,

> simply because I just can't concentrate with all Tom's chaos going

on. Then

> he insists on telling me every little thing that he hears, or

happens to

> him. the problem is, I DON'T CARE. I'm just too spent, physically,

> mentally and emotionally to give him much of anything. He hasn't

given me

> much for awhile.

>

> My apologies for this off-topic post. I just wanted you all to

know that I

> don't mean to be neglectful. Chuck, you poor thing, with no hip.

How WILL

> you ambulate? , in some ways, you HAVEN'T gotten over the

hospital's

> screw-up with your own infection. Those of you with mean or

arrogent PTs,

> switch IMMEDIATELY! Don't tolerate that kind of behavoir. And

tell the

> offending supervisor exactly WHY you are asking for a switch.

a, we're

> all allowed a pity-party once in a while, as long as we come out of

it,

> which you obviously have. And I applaud you for " graduating " to

the cane!

> I know that was a big deal to me. I never thought I'd be able to.

I tried

> while in rehab, with no luck. But a few days after coming home,

the PT had

> me up on the cane, and waddling around.

>

> For others who's situations I haven't addressed, please forgive

me. It's

> hard to keep track of everyone. But I do read your messages, and

cheer your

> successes, and wish I could give " pep-talks " to anyone who needs

them.

>

> Well, I really do need to get to bed. I just wanted everyone to

know I

> wasn't be neglectful or selfish. At least I hope I wasn't.

>

> Take care all, and listen to your bodies!

>

> All my best.

>

>

> Tammy Klaus

> tammy.kl@...

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

There is an excellent ADHD Partner support group here on ,

called ADHD_Partner. While reading your post I thought I was on that

forum.

If you want to vent or get advice about ADHD and its meds, that is

the place to go.

From what I've read there, it usually takes the partner leaving (or

something drastic) to get them to take their meds. Also there are so

many new meds out now that one really needs to experiment,

experiment. They know all about the meds on that group.

Good luck,

Hollie

> Tammy

>

> I dont know what its like to have a husband with ADHD but my 19

year

> old son has it and does not like to take his meds either. My

husband

> who had his BTKR done 12 days ago gave him an ultimatum of take

your

> meds or leave. When someone in your house has this problem and wont

> take the meds it does make your life VERY difficult. Take the time

> your husband is on vacation to recharge your batteries and take

care

> of yourself.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> > Hello all. I have been blessed by all of you on this list. Your

> caring,

> > support and knowledge are just what I need right now. Only

someone

> who's

> > been through a joint replacement can possibly understand the

> journey of

> > rehab.

> >

> > However, right now I am hanging my head in shame. I have been

> unable to

> > reciprocate lately, and I'd like to explain why. Tom, my

husband,

> has ADHD,

> > and REFUSES to take medication. Wherever he goes, there's chaos

> around him.

> > Remember the " Pigpen " character in the old " Charlie Brown "

cartoons?

> > Remember how everywhere he went, there was a cloud of dust and

dirt

> that

> > surrounded him? Well, that's what it's like living with Tom. He

> doesn't

> > even have to TRY; the chaos just follows him.

> >

> > I've gotten to the point where I can even concentrate around

him.

> I think

> > its time I take my computer back upstairs where it's not so

noisy.

> Between

> > Tom talking on the phone, having the TV going, AND his speech

> output program

> > on his computer constantly talk, I go stir-crazy! I'm very

> sensitive to

> > such things, and get " sensory-overload very easily, especially

> now. Maybe

> > it's the surgery, but I have about zero tolerance for him right

> now. He's

> > going on vacation next Saturday the 26th for a week and a half.

> Normally I

> > go with him. But I'm thinking it's probably better for me,

> MENTALLY, that

> > I'm staying home this year.

> >

> > So if I have failed to offer an encouraging word here, or a

> sympathetic ear

> > there, please forgive me. Right now, as I type this, it's 2:30

AM,

> and

> > Tom's in bed. But it's quiet, and I can concentrate. I really

> feel like

> > I'm at the end of my rope with him. And no, he will NOT take any

> of the

> > medications that are available. He doesn't like the way he feels

> on them.

> > I guess I'm just weaker now, emotionally, due to my LTHR.

> >

> > I've been very dedicated in taking my walks every day. Okay, I

> missed maybe

> > two days, but not consecutively. Getting out of the house and

> walking to

> > the park down the street gives me a chance to get AWAY from Tom's

> chaos. I

> > NEED those walks, so even though it's been hot as Hades here

> lately, I still

> > walk; in the morning, before it gets too bad. There's no

changing

> Tom. He

> > doesn't see that he has a problem. So either I put up with it,

or,

> I don't.

> >

> > I do think of you guys a lot and believe me my positive thoughts

> and good

> > wishes go out to you. It's just that writing them down in a

> cohesive email

> > is next to impossible. I simply am unable to concentrate.

That's

> why I'm

> > moving my laptop computer BACK upstairs where it's fairly quiet.

> If it

> > makes anyone feel better, I've been neglecting my private email

> friends too,

> > simply because I just can't concentrate with all Tom's chaos

going

> on. Then

> > he insists on telling me every little thing that he hears, or

> happens to

> > him. the problem is, I DON'T CARE. I'm just too spent,

physically,

> > mentally and emotionally to give him much of anything. He hasn't

> given me

> > much for awhile.

> >

> > My apologies for this off-topic post. I just wanted you all to

> know that I

> > don't mean to be neglectful. Chuck, you poor thing, with no

hip.

> How WILL

> > you ambulate? , in some ways, you HAVEN'T gotten over the

> hospital's

> > screw-up with your own infection. Those of you with mean or

> arrogent PTs,

> > switch IMMEDIATELY! Don't tolerate that kind of behavoir. And

> tell the

> > offending supervisor exactly WHY you are asking for a switch.

> a, we're

> > all allowed a pity-party once in a while, as long as we come out

of

> it,

> > which you obviously have. And I applaud you for " graduating " to

> the cane!

> > I know that was a big deal to me. I never thought I'd be able

to.

> I tried

> > while in rehab, with no luck. But a few days after coming home,

> the PT had

> > me up on the cane, and waddling around.

> >

> > For others who's situations I haven't addressed, please forgive

> me. It's

> > hard to keep track of everyone. But I do read your messages, and

> cheer your

> > successes, and wish I could give " pep-talks " to anyone who needs

> them.

> >

> > Well, I really do need to get to bed. I just wanted everyone to

> know I

> > wasn't be neglectful or selfish. At least I hope I wasn't.

> >

> > Take care all, and listen to your bodies!

> >

> > All my best.

> >

> >

> > Tammy Klaus

> > tammy.kl@

> >

> >

> >

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Hi Tammy,

My 36 year old son has ADHD and after a trial of medication long ago, uses

the Feingold diet. Have you looked into it?

Marcia

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Tammy,

there has been some recent studies that show many adult ADHD people are

actually low in one of the thyroid levels and should be test with the

T3, T4, etc. and the TSH Uptake test. Taking a thyroid tablet to

replace missing natural hormaone feels a lot better than taking Ritalin

or one of the other ADHD meds.

Jeanine

PS My step son is ADHD and I just told him and my 2 daughters to " BE

QUIET " .