Guest guest Posted November 20, 2010 Report Share Posted November 20, 2010 Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that I'm not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure makes me irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. in TX Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2010 Report Share Posted November 20, 2010 Hi >>Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that >>I'm not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure >>makes me irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. I had mine done 13th August this year (yes it was a Friday too, but I'm not superstitious!). So just over 3 months. At your stage I was still in a lot of pain, especially shin and calf pain. It's gradually got less, now it's mainly the 'ace bandage' effect, and the odd ache and pain, especially if I overdo things. I'm told that the pain I had was mainly due to swelling, and that walking would assist the dispersal of the swelling and excess fluid. Hope you will feel happier soon. Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2010 Report Share Posted November 20, 2010 Hi , That sounds awful. I¹m hoping that soon you will not even remember that you have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks doesn¹t sound right to me. What does your doc say? ³It will pass with time² I¹m guessing.... Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can really help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in pain, tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held massager could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot spa. I didn¹t do steam baths but that would also help relax the muscles. That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! Best, Jackie -- Jackie on Jackiett@... R-TKR 3-19-09 L-TKR 9-1-09 Dr. Patch On 11/20/10 9:39 AM, " kjc " <k_j_cotten@...> wrote: > > > > Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that I'm > not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure makes me > irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. > > in TX > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2010 Report Share Posted November 20, 2010 The doctor had to tighten up my MCL & straighten my leg as it had begun to bow. I also have an atrophied calf muscle. My therapy ended 2 weeks ago, but I'm on a maintenance program indefinately at home. I tend to do more than prescribed though. A heating pad is helpful. I just wondered how long I could expect the pain. I haven't been able to walk a WalMart store yet either. I'm just very impatient! I'm planning on having my family for Thanksgiving this week & will do all the cleaning & cooking myself. When I lay down at night, I'm very restless and can't get comfortable for hours. I sleep well for about 4 hours. Frustrating! in TX > > > > Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that I'm > not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure makes me > irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. > > in TX > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 20, 2010 Report Share Posted November 20, 2010 I had a TKR 7 weeks ago and I am in pain 24/7 also. i stopped the Norco, which was hard, but my doctor wouldn't prescribe anymore, and I can see why. I weaned it down to 2 tablets a day, then stopped. I just went through a horrible week of chills, diarrhea, nausea, restless leg syndrome and anxiety. i never want to take that stuff again. Right now i am only on Mobic and Tylenol. I was wondering the same thing . At what point does the pain stop, at least during the day.. I am going back to work in 10 days ________________________________ From: kjc <k_j_cotten@...> Joint Replacement Sent: Sat, November 20, 2010 4:57:30 PM Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10  The doctor had to tighten up my MCL & straighten my leg as it had begun to bow. I also have an atrophied calf muscle. My therapy ended 2 weeks ago, but I'm on a maintenance program indefinately at home. I tend to do more than prescribed though. A heating pad is helpful. I just wondered how long I could expect the pain. I haven't been able to walk a WalMart store yet either. I'm just very impatient! I'm planning on having my family for Thanksgiving this week & will do all the cleaning & cooking myself. When I lay down at night, I'm very restless and can't get comfortable for hours. I sleep well for about 4 hours. Frustrating! in TX > > > > Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that I'm > not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure makes me > irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. > > in TX > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 21, 2010 Report Share Posted November 21, 2010 Lin, thanks for the encouragement! in TX From: Tinopener <tinopener@...> Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 Joint Replacement Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 3:54 PM Â Hi >>Maybe I'm just being impatient, but when will I be able to have a day that >>I'm not in pain every waking minute? It's only been 9 weeks, but it sure >>makes me irritable. It is muscle pain, mostly below the involved knee. I had mine done 13th August this year (yes it was a Friday too, but I'm not superstitious!). So just over 3 months. At your stage I was still in a lot of pain, especially shin and calf pain. It's gradually got less, now it's mainly the 'ace bandage' effect, and the odd ache and pain, especially if I overdo things. I'm told that the pain I had was mainly due to swelling, and that walking would assist the dispersal of the swelling and excess fluid. Hope you will feel happier soon. Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 This is probably out of order, but may I ask why, given the givens here, that you will be doing all the cooking and cleaning on Thanksgiving this year? You don¡¯t have daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, daughters-in-law, granddaughters? All your family members are men, and all the men in your tribe are born without thumbs (or, legs?). Without any women, how did you-all manage to reproduce? How do these people manage to eat the rest of the year? I¡¯m perfectly well but I¡¯m frankly getting tired of doing all the work for my tribe on Thanksgiving (why is it never at my daughter-in-law¡¯s house?) and I think they¡¯re sort of catching on, because both my youngest daughter and my daughter-in-law are making rather fulsome requests about what can they do to help. I¡¯ll certainly be taking them up on it. You should not be doing this entire job yourself. Actually, you shouldn¡¯t be doing any of it. You know this perfectly well. Everything else failing, this is why God invented restaurants, or at least take-out. F TKR 1/15/09 on 11/20/10 4:57 PM, kjc at k_j_cotten@... wrote: > > > > > > The doctor had to tighten up my MCL & straighten my leg as it had begun to > bow.? I also have an atrophied calf muscle.? My therapy ended 2 weeks ago, but > I'm on a maintenance program indefinately at home.? I tend to do more than > prescribed though.? A heating pad is helpful.? I just wondered how long I > could expect the pain.? I haven't been able to walk a WalMart store yet > either.? I'm just very impatient!? I'm planning on having my family for > Thanksgiving this week & will do all the cleaning & cooking myself.? > > When I lay down at night, I'm very restless and can't get comfortable for > hours.? I sleep well for about 4 hours.? Frustrating! > > in TX > > > > From: on <jackiett@... <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> > > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 > Joint Replacement > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM > > ? > > Hi , > > That sounds awful. I©öm hoping that soon you will not even remember that you > > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks doesn©öt > > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ©øIt will pass with time©÷ I©öm > > guessing.... > > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can really > > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in pain, > > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a > > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a > > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held massager > > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot > > spa. I didn©öt do steam baths but that would also help relax the muscles. > > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. > > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. > > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! > > Best, > > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Like F, I am somewhat astounded that you have mentioned that you will be doing all the work for Thanksgiving as if that was the only way it could be - even though you describe yourself in a good deal of pain -- especially when you over-exert. Perhaps it's time to have a talk with the next generation and formulate a new way of celebrating family holidays. Assuming your children aren't total louts, I would think that simply explaining that you are in pain and don't feel able to do it all this year should bring about some suggestions to retool. If your home is the only place that makes sense to gather, perhaps they can chip in for a cleaning service before or after and you all can figure out how to make the food. Entertaining people is exhausting even for those who don't have issues - between cleaning before, prepping, cooking, serving and then clean afterwards. On Nov 22, 2010, at 7:01 AM, Foley wrote: > This is probably out of order, but may I ask why, given the givens > here, > that you will be doing all the cooking and cleaning on Thanksgiving > this > year? You don’t have daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, daughters- > in-law, > granddaughters? All your family members are men, and all the men in > your > tribe are born without thumbs (or, legs?). Without any women, how did > you-all manage to reproduce? How do these people manage to eat the > rest of > the year? > > I’m perfectly well but I’m frankly getting tired of doing all the > work for > my tribe on Thanksgiving (why is it never at my daughter-in-law’s > house?) > and I think they’re sort of catching on, because both my youngest > daughter > and my daughter-in-law are making rather fulsome requests about what > can > they do to help. I’ll certainly be taking them up on it. > > You should not be doing this entire job yourself. Actually, you > shouldn’t > be doing any of it. You know this perfectly well. Everything else > failing, > this is why God invented restaurants, or at least take-out. > > F > TKR 1/15/09 > > on 11/20/10 4:57 PM, kjc at k_j_cotten@... wrote: > > > > > > > > > > > > > The doctor had to tighten up my MCL & straighten my leg as it had > begun to > > bow.? I also have an atrophied calf muscle.? My therapy ended 2 > weeks ago, but > > I'm on a maintenance program indefinately at home.? I tend to do > more than > > prescribed though.? A heating pad is helpful.? I just wondered how > long I > > could expect the pain.? I haven't been able to walk a WalMart > store yet > > either.? I'm just very impatient!? I'm planning on having my > family for > > Thanksgiving this week & will do all the cleaning & cooking myself.? > > > > When I lay down at night, I'm very restless and can't get > comfortable for > > hours.? I sleep well for about 4 hours.? Frustrating! > > > > in TX > > > > > > > > From: on <jackiett@... <mailto:jackiett%40att.net > > > > > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 > > Joint Replacement > > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM > > > > ? > > > > Hi , > > > > That sounds awful. I¹m hoping that soon you will not even remember > that you > > > > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks > doesn¹t > > > > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ³It will pass with > time² I¹m > > > > guessing.... > > > > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can > really > > > > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in > pain, > > > > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so > on in a > > > > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a > > > > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held > massager > > > > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially > the hot > > > > spa. I didn¹t do steam baths but that would also help relax the > muscles. > > > > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. > > > > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. > > > > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! > > > > Best, > > > > Jackie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, daughters-in-law, or granddaughters. I had 3 boys & none of them are married. I have an aunt, but due to back pain issues, she isn't reliable to help. I bought the turkey, ham, & desserts already made. I'm only having to make the sides. I will pull a bar stool up to the counter and sit during the preparation. My husband would help with the cleaning, but I prefer everything CLEAN and not just the dirt smeared around. ) There's no decorating this year either. Then we do it all over again at my house for Christmas. :o/ All shopping is being done on the internet. in TX > > From: on <jackiett@... <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> > > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 > Joint Replacement > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM > > ? > > Hi , > > That sounds awful. I¹m hoping that soon you will not even remember that you > > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks doesn¹t > > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ³It will pass with time² I¹m > > guessing.... > > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can really > > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in pain, > > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a > > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a > > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held massager > > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot > > spa. I didn¹t do steam baths but that would also help relax the muscles. > > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. > > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. > > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! > > Best, > > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Doing all that work is certainly not going to reduce your pain level or promote your healing! This is a good time to let go and let others take care of you. You don¡¯t even need to find a solution. You can just let everyone know that you are not able to do thanksgiving this year. If no one else wants to take it on, there are restaurants. Or you can always celebrate with a quiet dinner at home (take out is good!) and a nice walk in nature to reflect on the importance of your health. But you may find that there¡¯s someone who would love to do this but has deferred to you because this holiday has been your domain. Take care, and all of us women who take on too much and forgot to learn to ask for help! Peace, Jackie -- Jackie on Jackiett@... R-TKR 3-19-09 L-TKR 9-1-09 Dr. Patch On 11/22/10 7:01 AM, " Foley " <sefoley@...> wrote: > > > > > > This is probably out of order, but may I ask why, given the givens here, > that you will be doing all the cooking and cleaning on Thanksgiving this > year? You don¡¯t have daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, daughters-in-law, > granddaughters? All your family members are men, and all the men in your > tribe are born without thumbs (or, legs?). Without any women, how did > you-all manage to reproduce? How do these people manage to eat the rest of > the year? > > I¡¯m perfectly well but I¡¯m frankly getting tired of doing all the work for > my tribe on Thanksgiving (why is it never at my daughter-in-law¡¯s house?) > and I think they¡¯re sort of catching on, because both my youngest daughter > and my daughter-in-law are making rather fulsome requests about what can > they do to help. I¡¯ll certainly be taking them up on it. > > You should not be doing this entire job yourself. Actually, you shouldn¡¯t > be doing any of it. You know this perfectly well. Everything else failing, > this is why God invented restaurants, or at least take-out. > > F > TKR 1/15/09 > > on 11/20/10 4:57 PM, kjc at k_j_cotten@... > <mailto:k_j_cotten%40> wrote: > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > The doctor had to tighten up my MCL & straighten my leg as it had begun to >> > bow.? I also have an atrophied calf muscle.? My therapy ended 2 weeks ago, >> but >> > I'm on a maintenance program indefinately at home.? I tend to do more than >> > prescribed though.? A heating pad is helpful.? I just wondered how long I >> > could expect the pain.? I haven't been able to walk a WalMart store yet >> > either.? I'm just very impatient!? I'm planning on having my family for >> > Thanksgiving this week & will do all the cleaning & cooking myself.? >> > >> > When I lay down at night, I'm very restless and can't get comfortable for >> > hours.? I sleep well for about 4 hours.? Frustrating! >> > >> > in TX >> > >> > >> > >> > From: on <jackiett@... <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> >> <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> > >> > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 >> > Joint Replacement >> <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> >> > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> >> > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM >> > >> > ? >> > >> > Hi , >> > >> > That sounds awful. I©öm hoping that soon you will not even remember that >> you >> > >> > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks doesn©öt >> > >> > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ©øIt will pass with time©÷ I©öm >> > >> > guessing.... >> > >> > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can really >> > >> > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in pain, >> > >> > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a >> > >> > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a >> > >> > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held massager >> > >> > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot >> > >> > spa. I didn©öt do steam baths but that would also help relax the muscles. >> > >> > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. >> > >> > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. >> > >> > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! >> > >> > Best, >> > >> > Jackie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 If your boys haven¡¯t learned to cook and clean yet, you will do them a service by teaching them now ¡ª a ¡°teachable moment¡±. Jackie On 11/22/10 7:35 AM, " kjc " <k_j_cotten@...> wrote: > > > > > > Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, > daughters-in-law, > > or granddaughters.? I had 3 boys & none of them are married.? I have an aunt, > but due to back pain issues, she isn't reliable to help.? I bought the turkey, > ham, & desserts already made.? I'm only having to make the sides.? I will pull > a bar stool up to the counter and sit during the preparation.? My husband > would help with the cleaning, but I prefer everything CLEAN and not just the > dirt smeared around.? )? There's no decorating this year either.? Then we do > it all over again at my house for Christmas.? :o/? All shopping is being done > on the internet.? > > in TX > > > >> > > >> > From: on <jackiett@... <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> >> <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> > > >> > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 > >> > Joint Replacement >> <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > >> > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > >> > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM > >> > > >> > ? > >> > > >> > Hi , > >> > > >> > That sounds awful. I©öm hoping that soon you will not even remember that >> you > >> > > >> > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks doesn©öt > >> > > >> > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ©øIt will pass with time©÷ I©öm > >> > > >> > guessing.... > >> > > >> > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can really > >> > > >> > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in pain, > >> > > >> > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a > >> > > >> > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a > >> > > >> > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held massager > >> > > >> > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot > >> > > >> > spa. I didn©öt do steam baths but that would also help relax the muscles. > >> > > >> > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. > >> > > >> > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. > >> > > >> > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! > >> > > >> > Best, > >> > > >> > Jackie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Hi >>Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, >>daughters-in-law, or granddaughters. I sympathise with the work you're expected to do! I have two daughters, neeither is married, and although they can sook for themselves, I dont think either of them is up to doing the big festive meal yet! If you are only doing the 'sides' could you ask your sons to have a go at one each? Send them a recipe! Or reduce the number of sides so that you have less work - I'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you have made a real effort despite being temporarily handicapped. Don't wear yourself out though - you are entitled to have a good time celebrating, too! Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects the furniture <g>. Perhaps you could get the men to clear away and wash up! Happy Thanksgiving! Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 HOORAY! on 11/22/10 9:11 AM, on at jackiett@... wrote: > > > > > > If your boys haven¡¯t learned to cook and clean yet, you will do them a > service by teaching them now ¡ª a ¡°teachable moment¡±. > > Jackie > > On 11/22/10 7:35 AM, " kjc " <k_j_cotten@... > <mailto:k_j_cotten%40> > wrote: > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, >> > daughters-in-law, >> > >> > or granddaughters.? I had 3 boys & none of them are married.? I have an >> aunt, >> > but due to back pain issues, she isn't reliable to help.? I bought the >> turkey, >> > ham, & desserts already made.? I'm only having to make the sides.? I will >> pull >> > a bar stool up to the counter and sit during the preparation.? My husband >> > would help with the cleaning, but I prefer everything CLEAN and not just >> the >> > dirt smeared around.? )? There's no decorating this year either.? Then we >> do >> > it all over again at my house for Christmas.? :o/? All shopping is being >> done >> > on the internet.? >> > >> > in TX >> > >> > >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > From: on <jackiett@... >>>> <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> >>> >> <mailto:jackiett%40att.net> > >> > >>>> >> > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 >> > >>>> >> > Joint Replacement >>>> <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> >>> >> <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> >> > >>>> >> > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> >> > >>>> >> > Date: Saturday, November 20, 2010, 6:32 PM >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > ? >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Hi , >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > That sounds awful. I©öm hoping that soon you will not even remember >>>> that >> > you >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > have a bionic knee. Being in pain every waking minute at 9 weeks >>>> doesn©öt >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > sound right to me. What does your doc say? ©øIt will pass with time©÷ I©öm >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > guessing.... >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Have you had any massage or other body work on the legs. That can >>>> really >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > help with muscle pain. As can acupuncture etc. We tend to be in >>>> pain, >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > tense up and so reduce the oxygen flow causing more pain, and so on in a >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > terrible cycle. So if you can break the cycle of pain, even with a >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > reduction or temporarily, that might help. Even using a hand held >>>> massager >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > could help. Also being in the water helped me a lot, especially the hot >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > spa. I didn©öt do steam baths but that would also help relax the >>>> muscles. >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > That assumes you are cleared for that kind of heat. >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Are you doing any stretching? That could also help. >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Take care, , and I hope this subsides. Soon! >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Best, >> > >>>> >> > >> > >>>> >> > Jackie >> > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 As you recognize, Jackie, this is just me talking to myself. The pie does not have to be perfect; anyone who doesn¹t like it need not eat it. The floor may not be clean been to my daughter-in-law¹s house lately? She¹s not likely to utter a complaint. And as for my daughter¹s apartment, the less said the better. (!!) Everyone really just wants to get together and enjoy each other. If I stress out over the whole thing I¹m ruining it. It¹s hard for me to learn this. And I¹m sticking to my opinion that no one who had major joint surgery in September should be masterminding this thing. , please please don¹t get hurt and set your recovery back, no one in your family wants this. You¹re already in maybe more pain than you should be: no family dinner is worth making it worse. F TKR 1/15/09 on 11/22/10 9:08 AM, on at jackiett@... wrote: > > > > > > Doing all that work is certainly not going to reduce your pain level or > promote your healing! > > This is a good time to let go and let others take care of you. You don¹t > even need to find a solution. You can just let everyone know that you are > not able to do thanksgiving this year. If no one else wants to take it on, > there are restaurants. Or you can always celebrate with a quiet dinner at > home (take out is good!) and a nice walk in nature to reflect on the > importance of your health. > > But you may find that there¹s someone who would love to do this but has > deferred to you because this holiday has been your domain. > > Take care, and all of us women who take on too much and forgot to > learn to ask for help! > > Peace, > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 You're probably right, . It's just 2pm and I'm dying. I have allocated 1 chore & 2 dishes to prepare per day, and that while sitting in a bar stool. I've already informed everyone that we would be very scaled back this year. I have purchased ready-made also - very taboo here in the South. in TX > > > > > > Doing all that work is certainly not going to reduce your pain level or > promote your healing! > > This is a good time to let go and let others take care of you. You don¹t > even need to find a solution. You can just let everyone know that you are > not able to do thanksgiving this year. If no one else wants to take it on, > there are restaurants. Or you can always celebrate with a quiet dinner at > home (take out is good!) and a nice walk in nature to reflect on the > importance of your health. > > But you may find that there¹s someone who would love to do this but has > deferred to you because this holiday has been your domain. > > Take care, and all of us women who take on too much and forgot to > learn to ask for help! > > Peace, > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Don¡¯t hurt yourself, that¡¯s all I¡¯m saying. If these people love you (which I assume they do) they¡¯d be grief-stricken if they thought this holiday set you back!! on 11/22/10 11:58 AM, kjc at k_j_cotten@... wrote: > > > > > > You're probably right, .? It's just 2pm and I'm dying.? I have allocated > 1 chore & 2 dishes to prepare per day, and that while sitting in a bar stool.? > I've already informed everyone that we would be very scaled back this year.? I > have purchased ready-made also - very taboo here in the South. > > in TX > > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > Doing all that work is certainly not going to reduce your pain level or > >> > promote your healing! > >> > > >> > This is a good time to let go and let others take care of you. You don©öt > >> > even need to find a solution. You can just let everyone know that you are > >> > not able to do thanksgiving this year. If no one else wants to take it on, > >> > there are restaurants. Or you can always celebrate with a quiet dinner at > >> > home (take out is good!) and a nice walk in nature to reflect on the > >> > importance of your health. > >> > > >> > But you may find that there©ös someone who would love to do this but has > >> > deferred to you because this holiday has been your domain. > >> > > >> > Take care, and all of us women who take on too much and forgot to > >> > learn to ask for help! > >> > > >> > Peace, > >> > Jackie > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects the furniture That's funny! I'll have to remember that one. in TX From: Tinopener <tinopener@...> Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 Joint Replacement Date: Monday, November 22, 2010, 12:24 PM  Hi >>Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, >>daughters-in-law, or granddaughters. I sympathise with the work you're expected to do! I have two daughters, neeither is married, and although they can sook for themselves, I dont think either of them is up to doing the big festive meal yet! If you are only doing the 'sides' could you ask your sons to have a go at one each? Send them a recipe! Or reduce the number of sides so that you have less work - I'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you have made a real effort despite being temporarily handicapped. Don't wear yourself out though - you are entitled to have a good time celebrating, too! Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects the furniture <g>. Perhaps you could get the men to clear away and wash up! Happy Thanksgiving! Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 Gotta love it! on 11/22/10 2:33 PM, kjc at k_j_cotten@... wrote: > > > > > > Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects > > the furniture > > That's funny! I'll have to remember that one. > > in TX > > > > From: Tinopener <tinopener@... > <mailto:tinopener%40moggies.freeuk.com> > > Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 > Joint Replacement > <mailto:Joint Replacement%40> > Date: Monday, November 22, 2010, 12:24 PM > > > > Hi > >>> >>Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, > >>> >>daughters-in-law, > > or granddaughters. > > I sympathise with the work you're expected to do! I have two daughters, > > neeither is married, and although they can sook for themselves, I dont think > > either of them is up to doing the big festive meal yet! If you are only > > doing the 'sides' could you ask your sons to have a go at one each? Send > > them a recipe! Or reduce the number of sides so that you have less work - > > I'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you have made a real effort > > despite being temporarily handicapped. > > Don't wear yourself out though - you are entitled to have a good time > > celebrating, too! Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects > > the furniture <g>. Perhaps you could get the men to clear away and wash > > up! > > Happy Thanksgiving! > > Lin > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2010 Report Share Posted November 22, 2010 I am a firm believer in dust protecting the furniture. Woe to anyone who moves it! Joan ________________________________ From: kjc <k_j_cotten@...> Joint Replacement Sent: Mon, November 22, 2010 5:33:08 PM Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects the furniture That's funny! I'll have to remember that one. in TX From: Tinopener <tinopener@...> Subject: Re: TKR 9/16/10 Joint Replacement Date: Monday, November 22, 2010, 12:24 PM Hi >>Actually, no, I don't have any daughters, sisters, sisters-in-law, >>daughters-in-law, or granddaughters. I sympathise with the work you're expected to do! I have two daughters, neeither is married, and although they can sook for themselves, I dont think either of them is up to doing the big festive meal yet! If you are only doing the 'sides' could you ask your sons to have a go at one each? Send them a recipe! Or reduce the number of sides so that you have less work - I'm sure they will appreciate the fact that you have made a real effort despite being temporarily handicapped. Don't wear yourself out though - you are entitled to have a good time celebrating, too! Remember, the dust is there for a purpose - it protects the furniture <g>. Perhaps you could get the men to clear away and wash up! Happy Thanksgiving! Lin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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