A possable book????

[Guest guest]

I think that in generail, not just LP's but all disabled individuals

alike need to a good book on topics not only that touch on sexuality

bettween disabled and non disabled's LP's etc., How it affects us

and how to aproach it and handle it etc.

I have seen often that insecurty, Jealousey and possesiveness is also

another very very imortant topic to focus on.

Why are so many people so jealouse to the point that they will hurt

manipulate and sometimes even kill a mate, ex mate, a lover, etc? Is

it really worth it? Does it really solve anything or make that

person more happy? No, in fact most of the time they then become

worse!

Where is it written, and by who, that ANYONE OWNS ANYONE? We are ALL

only in owbership of ourselves, if we did own others then this would

mean we have the right to rape, put wives or husbands thru whatever

wee see fit for them or treat them abussaive, it would mean that once

we say " I do " we have the right to do nearly anything we want to and

the other person just has to deal with it.

These were all rules probably designed and promoted by narrow minded

selfish men, possably founding fathers who were probaby cheating on

their wives themselves, yet didn't want their wives to do it to them.

There are no garentees to anything in this life other than we are

born and we die and that's it. We hope to have a loving an

understanding relationship evolve out of it, but if things don't work

out for whatever reaon, that doesn't give anyone the right to do harm

to someone no matter what. That is supposed to be up to God or the

courts or whoever.

So many people out their are just even so sick minded that they will

stoop as low as to use their own childern as tools to harm that

childs other parent. Personally I feel that legally if a parent does

this, their child should be taken away from them because they

are " Unfit " to be a good parent and are bad role models. That, like

other things is a form of abuse to a child and leaves permanent

scares on a child forever.

We all get frustrated and angry from time to time, were all only

human but that give no one the right to take our anger out on

others. We need to be able to get along together, even more so in

the disabled comunity, because no one else out there understands us

or gives a crap about us unless it's some pity thing or they think

were cute becauise wre small. Most of the time the genrail public,

the majority do not and never ever will see the disabled and equel to

them. Yes, things are much better, but, things will always be this

way.

Too many people are just much to " Uptight " about words and images of

the disabled, most of really means nothing, we don't have to read

things we don't like, we don't have to watch TV shows we don't like

or listen to things people say. Sometimes I think that some people

just want to hear about or see these things to be able to have things

to complaine about because some of them are unhappy and misserable

themselves. I have done it out of frustration and anger myself, it's

just not worth it, not worth the stress and aggravation it causes.

These are all very good topics for a book, how do we deal with these

things? How do we turn things around to be more possative and put

the past behind us, I am no devout Christain or anything but there is

a story about a woman turning into a piller of salt that really has

some very deep meaning to it. This story tells the woman to leave

her past behind and DO NOT LOOK BACK! No matter what! What did she

do? She looked back and turned to stone! I see this in some ways as

possably not literail but as an example to us all. If your past is

full of horrable things that have nothing good to offer. Get away

from it, don't look back ever! Because when we look back on the past

and obsess on it, it turns us all to stone, makes ud bitter and

hard. Sure great and wonderfull memories age great to remember but

obsessing on all that dark stuff is not.

What I have learned is, if you have people in or around your life who

cause negative energy, even if they are family or friends, you have

to seperate yourselves from them completly, because for whatever

reason, they are unhappy and misserable enogh to find other

misserable people to join in with them, together they will destroy a

person. Often times cause you to go nuts or even become ill!

I feel so much better now, I have new friends and people I love who

are not messed up inside their heads. It's not always easy to cut

off people we love, but sometimes it's either them or us, no one is

worth making yourself crazy or ill over, no one.

I wish you all the best and keep up with the great posts!

Kurt~~