Re: Opinions needed....dressing up like an elf......

[Guest guest]

No.

Please don't set me back in my struggle to be as much normal as the next.

When you do this, you add to the stereotyping and it even seems a bit

slut-ish. I say slut, because I don't think your child will be paid, that would

make

it something else, pros...

The mayor is rude and sees your child as different. He is not being kind by

asking.

Besides, I am trying to get a better deal for myself in my next life and this

kind of stuff sets me back. I'm a little self absorbed when it comes to

people what is it called EXPLOITING!?

Okay, no.

Besides, Santa isn't real. Christmas should be holy and not so

materialistic. What counts is all the people who love you.

Oh, did I say no?

No!

Blessed Be!

S

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Roflmao I have dressed up as an elf for Christmas but I volunteered for it

when I was a salesman in an Electronics store lol. I even had a name badge

made that read Evil Elf #1, you would be surprised how many people want to

take a picture with you lol. Support him to be outspoken and in public

view... People view you more often than not how you view yourself...

Encourage him to be outgoing... Now are ye referring to the Magic wielding

man, by blessed be I take it you are as well pagan lol. Many consider Saint

Nich and honestly there is nothing wrong with added incentive for children

to behave and act nice so don't discourage others views. If he is

comfortable with it let him do it.

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Re: Opinions needed....dressing up like an elf......

>

> No.

>

> Please don't set me back in my struggle to be as much normal as the next.

>

> When you do this, you add to the stereotyping and it even seems a bit

> slut-ish. I say slut, because I don't think your child will be paid, that

> would make

> it something else, pros...

>

> The mayor is rude and sees your child as different. He is not being kind

> by

> asking.

>

> Besides, I am trying to get a better deal for myself in my next life and

> this

> kind of stuff sets me back. I'm a little self absorbed when it comes to

> people what is it called EXPLOITING!?

>

> Okay, no.

>

> Besides, Santa isn't real. Christmas should be holy and not so

> materialistic. What counts is all the people who love you.

>

> Oh, did I say no?

>

> No!

>

> Blessed Be!

>

> S

>

> Get a Free Single Card Tarot Reading, Read my Card of the Day Page.

>

> http://www.tarotreadings.net/

> http://www.customclergy.com/

> http://www.customtarot.com/

> http://www.lifecycletarot.com/

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi --

>>> My dilemma is this: Do I let go ahead and do what he

>>> wants to do OR do I go with my instincts and not allow him to do

>>> this. I don't want him to be degraded and/or make fun of because

>>> he is a dwarf.

jumped at the chance, right? Now maybe it's because he gets

to ride, or maybe because he gets to be with Santa or maybe it's

because he has a bit of a show-off streak in him & is dying to

exercise it. (This streak is not a negative thing.)

How is treated by kids at school, by the neighbors & the

neighborhood? Is he treated like a local celebrity or is he treated

like something you would find on the bottom of your shoe? If (as I

suspect) he is a local celebrity, then he's going to be fine. If he's

treated poorly then this would be a good time for you to ask him why

he agreed.

Give him a chance to be a kid. Go with your gut -- you are the best

judge of how the town sees him. Do you think this will be a good

thing or a situation for ridicule? If he does it & by some chance,

the day does not go smoothly, talk to him about it. Let him live a

bit & even if it goes awfully, as long as he knows he can talk to

people who love him about it he'll be okay.

Don't worry about what a bunch of strangers on a list think -- this

is your kid, your precious son. You know him best.

Good Luck!

Rose

ps -- is this a good time to sneak my list to Santa?

[Guest guest]

Dear :

Whatever happens, try not to take whatever responses you get

personally.

As you know, this is a hot-button issue in the dwarf community. The

two sides will be (vehemently):

Some feel this kind of thing is fine and take the attitude " if it

doesn't bother me to dress up like an elf, why does it bother you? " and

they'll tell you " let him do it if it doesn't bother him and he enjoys

it! What's the big deal?! "

and

Some feel this kind of thing perpetuates dehumanizing stereotypes about

dwarves. Dehumanizing in that we are continually seen as elves, trolls,

objects of amusement/ridicule, but never seen as WHOLE-souled, thinking,

feeling, contributing human beings. They will say " don't let him do it,

people will never take him seriously as a person. He will be known as

" that little elf , instead of that little BOY . "

I can't advise you either way, but I can say follow your gut.

If there were other average-sized children being dressed as elves on

the float, that might level the playing field. He'd be just one of

several KIDS dressed like elves. If it's just him, I think he is kind

of being exploited.

Obviously, you love your son and want to make sure he grows up to be

proud of WHO he is and WHAT he's about as a person (ie, good, kind,

smart, etc). Whatever happens, love him as hard as you can and he will

find his way.

Good luck and Happy Holidays!

Sincerely,

marty (the lady one)

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