Re: Public reactions - kids etc

[Guest guest]

Good illustratiosn Ruth. After we had first adopted Jianna we ran into an

older friend of mine ...His wife had been my old sunday school teacher when I

was younger than Jianna at the tiem....The adoption came up and this man,

bless his heart in all sincerity, upon finding out we had adopted was happy for

us but gave us sincere condolences when he found out she was a dwarf...

Apryl

[Guest guest]

Personally for me it is different. I think ignorant parents make

for ignorant kids. Most kids are very rude and their parents are

dumbfounded on how to explain to their kids not to stare, point,

make comments. I don't sit back anymore and let bratty kids make

comments, I go directly to their parents. 2 and 3 years olds I can

understand but after 3 then to me parents need to do their job. I

have never once had a parent have their child apologize to me for

their rude comment, pointing, or stairing. I know as a kid I did

and believe me my mom nipped that in the bud right then and there.

I hate going places where there will be alot of little kids, like

this weekend is my Godson's first birthday and I found out 9 rugrats

will be there, ohhh goody. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate kids, I

loove kids and hope to have some, I just don't like rude bratty

children with oblivious ignorant parents.

People with disabilities may have equal rights under the law but

when it comes to society's mentality we are still behind.

When people make fun of me I am not equal, when people feel sorry

for me I am not equal, when people are admire me for doing everyday

things I am not equal. I will be equal in society's eyes when all

of those reactions stop. The one thing missing in a child's

education is learning respect for people who have differences. They

learn about different religions and ethnicities but what about

differences??? I have never seen a lesson plan about that. That is

what is needed. Only through education can come equality

-

[Guest guest]

Very well put and true! There is no reason an 8 year old should point

and yell " Look at the midget! " , its called teaching manners. Kids

these days barely have any, god forbid a child says please or thank

you anymore.

Kurt and I make sure my 4 year old soon-to-be-step-son uses manners

while he visits us, kids are kids, but they are not stupid and can be

taught manners. Its amazing the differnece of how he acts around me

and Kurt (pretty much a well behaved polite sweet little boy) and as

soon he's in mommy's care hes a raging screaming bratty

uncontrollable child. I can hear when she calls for him to talk to

Kurt, in the other oom, his screaming his head off and say NO!.

My god, my mother would have slapped me a good one if i ever said no

to her in that tone. He doesnt do that crap here, he knows no TV and

a time out for not listening.

Too many ppl want to use the cop out " Oh hes only 4 years, he's only

a child, he doesn't understand " , yea well thats a load of donkey doo.

LOL. No he gets it, he's just taking mommy for a ride and in the

end it will bite her in the butt, when he's a teen and out of

control. She'll be asking " Why is he like this? " Well duhhh.

My mom has a friend who totally spoiled her duaghter growing up, gave

her everything . let her walk allover her and now she's like 16 and

the mom doesnt understand why her daughter hardly has any friends or

is a brat. Well if you don't demand respect, you'll never get it,and

buying your kids off only makes it worse.

So you're right, they need to be taught manners and respect from

early on. And it should be in schools too. Hardly ever see books on

handi-caps, but mostly ethnic and religious differences.

Good post hun.

Bon

Bon

> Personally for me it is different. I think ignorant parents make

> for ignorant kids. Most kids are very rude and their parents are

> dumbfounded on how to explain to their kids not to stare, point,

> make comments. I don't sit back anymore and let bratty kids make

> comments, I go directly to their parents. 2 and 3 years olds I can

> understand but after 3 then to me parents need to do their job. I

> have never once had a parent have their child apologize to me for

> their rude comment, pointing, or stairing. I know as a kid I did

> and believe me my mom nipped that in the bud right then and there.

> I hate going places where there will be alot of little kids, like

> this weekend is my Godson's first birthday and I found out 9

rugrats

> will be there, ohhh goody. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate kids,

I

> loove kids and hope to have some, I just don't like rude bratty

> children with oblivious ignorant parents.

> People with disabilities may have equal rights under the law but

> when it comes to society's mentality we are still behind.

> When people make fun of me I am not equal, when people feel sorry

> for me I am not equal, when people are admire me for doing everyday

> things I am not equal. I will be equal in society's eyes when all

> of those reactions stop. The one thing missing in a child's

> education is learning respect for people who have differences.

They

> learn about different religions and ethnicities but what about

> differences??? I have never seen a lesson plan about that. That

is

> what is needed. Only through education can come equality

> -

[Guest guest]

Very well said Bon! I liked how you pointed out how some people are

like " he's only 4 years old "

I had an argument with my stepfather on this type of a matter. You

see, he has no tolorant for kids, but a couple of the kids he loved

and would spoil rotten. To the point where they had no limits and

taught no manners from him.

He would use the same line about the age and being a child. Yet he's

the type of person that would be very upset if a puppy at 6 months

of age would poop on the floor. He would find a way to disipline

this dog. I used that as an example.

Kids are able to manipulate people from the time they are born. Kids

are extremely bright and knows whats going on around them. They can

be taught what " No " is at an early age and how to respect people.

Also, the home environment also has a lot to do with a child's up

bringing. If they are brought up in a household that is " do what I

say, not what I do " they arent going to behave, in most situation.

Action DOES speak louder than words.

I had volunteered at a teen center. The kids were great and helped

us create rules for the center. There were times when we had to kick

PARENTS out of the center because they REFUSED to follow the same

rules as everyone else.

I HONESTLY believe that kids want to know what they can or cant do.

They are always going to test the bounderies. But it's up to parents

to remain consistant! My sister is a person who will say " No, No,

No " the after a while give in and let the kids have their way. Now

my nephew is on Ritilin. (but thats another issue)

a

> Very well put and true! There is no reason an 8 year old should

point

> and yell " Look at the midget! " , its called teaching manners. Kids

> these days barely have any, god forbid a child says please or

thank

> you anymore.

>

> Kurt and I make sure my 4 year old soon-to-be-step-son uses

manners

> while he visits us, kids are kids, but they are not stupid and can

be

> taught manners. Its amazing the differnece of how he acts around

me

> and Kurt (pretty much a well behaved polite sweet little boy) and

as

> soon he's in mommy's care hes a raging screaming bratty

> uncontrollable child. I can hear when she calls for him to talk to

> Kurt, in the other oom, his screaming his head off and say NO!.

> My god, my mother would have slapped me a good one if i ever said

no

> to her in that tone. He doesnt do that crap here, he knows no TV

and

> a time out for not listening.

>

> Too many ppl want to use the cop out " Oh hes only 4 years, he's

only

> a child, he doesn't understand " , yea well thats a load of donkey

doo.

> LOL. No he gets it, he's just taking mommy for a ride and in the

> end it will bite her in the butt, when he's a teen and out of

> control. She'll be asking " Why is he like this? " Well duhhh.

>

> My mom has a friend who totally spoiled her duaghter growing up,

gave

> her everything . let her walk allover her and now she's like 16

and

> the mom doesnt understand why her daughter hardly has any friends

or

> is a brat. Well if you don't demand respect, you'll never get

it,and

> buying your kids off only makes it worse.

>

> So you're right, they need to be taught manners and respect from

> early on. And it should be in schools too. Hardly ever see books

on

> handi-caps, but mostly ethnic and religious differences.

>

> Good post hun.

>

> Bon

>