Re: Adopting an Lp child

[Guest guest]

hey, all!

aren't you suppose to adopt a child, when you have the wish to give your love

and caring to some small human being who hasn't had that luck to have a family

right from the start or has perhaps lost it in some tragical circumstances? and

not because a four year old thinks adoption is great? And when doing that, isn't

it really strange to be interested in financial costs in the first place instead

of everything else?

I'm sorry if I got you wrong and misjudged your words...

By the way, thanks again to everybody that has responded to me asking for help

in our research. if you still want to help, there's plenty of space... all you

need to do is write to me

Katarina

emquilting <emquilting@...> wrote:

Is it expensive to adopt an Lp child. My husband and I have one son

and I am considering adoption at a later point. It depends on Finances

and my husband ect ect. Other than all the medical expences Is the

adoption its self really expensive?

I am considering adoption because of my son who is four now. He saw

the news where some one through a baby out in a dumpster. Since then

he has begged me to go get that baby. I have told him about adoption

and what that means it costs a lot of money. He thinks adoption is the

greatest thing in the world. We know no one that was formally adopted.

In our area adoption is when a family member or friend gets sick dies

or is always working you take in there kids. I would like to know

whats all involved before I decide weather or not to bring this up to

my husband. Thank you em

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[Guest guest]

Let's see; you join the group to 'use' us for a study. It takes

multiple postings to make you (and your cohorts) understand why

several thought your study was questionable and now you stay to judge

the merits and faults of others' posts? Interesting.

I realize this is a 'discussion' group, but after watching the traffic

go back and forth regarding your 'study' this just totally rubbed me

wrong. Maybe it's the weather.

I'm sure Em can answer you, if she chooses to and perhaps it is a

misunderstanding. In the meantime a little bit of information; in

America adoption can be an expensive process. Adopting children from

other countries is beyond the reach for some. Not all famililies can

venture where they'd like to go. Not only is the process expensive,

but so is the lifelong committment of taking on a child who may have

physical issues (whether they are dwarfs or not). In addition to the

financial committment that goes along with 'just' bringing up an

individual, we do not have socialized medical care, we actually have

what for some can be a nightmare of a system. No one should go into

the adoption process without assessing the cost factor and the impact

that this will have on their lives, even if their heart (and their

desire to help) is the size of Texas.

It is commendable that individuals and families want to take on the

care of those who others cannot care for. I was touched that a four

year old had enough awareness to express his desire to help and I

doubt very much that Em's family would take this path 'just' to

fulfill his desire.

Perhaps this is only the way I think, and I appear as selfish. So it's

just my 2 cents.

M..........

aren't you suppose to adopt a child, when you have the wish to give

your love and caring to some small human being who hasn't had that

luck to have a family right from the start or has perhaps lost it in

some tragical circumstances? and not because a four year old thinks

adoption is great? And when doing that, isn't it really strange to be

interested in financial costs in the first place instead of everything

else?

[Guest guest]

" As the adoptive parent of five, count 'em, all of whom are special

needs (one Lp) and all of whom are international, "

I'm always amazed when I read your posts and I have to applaud your life.

" International adoption generally costs less than private domestic.... "

Interesting, I would have thought it was just the opposite.

Anywho, have a great day.