Re: need an opinion......

[Guest guest]

I, Eileen, would have said " well no I'm not a midget but I want to ask you lady,

would you be offended if I came up to you just now and said are you a " n " word

or Milato? I mean even if she asked her and didn't mean any harm..... why ask?

what was the difference if your friend was a midget or not? would it effect the

other lady one way or another? NO! So why ask the question? Not you, the lady

asking the shorter gal that. See how well I worded that?!?! Its so dumb to

me!!! I don't go up to ladies at random and ask " hey are you on your period or

are you kinda stupid? " WHO CARES....

Thanks for the question.... there is MY answer! And yes I really would say

that! You should know me by now! haha

Sorry if nobody agrees with ME or your friend but thats what we will do what

will you guys do??? I so want to hear!!!

" Craig M. Hennon " <ch1974us@...> wrote:

Hey everyone!

I need an opinion. Last night I was talking to a friend of mine. She is also a

little person. She was telling me a story about an event that took place

earlier this week with her. She was at a dollar store and was approached by a

black woman. This woman asked my friend if she was a " midget " ? My friend

responded by saying she was a dwarf, and calling her a midget was offensive.

She then went on by telling this woman the word midget is like calling her a

" ni%%#r " . She said this to her directly. The woman wasn't upset by her remark,

she actually understood.

Could anyone have said what my friend said? My opinion was...many adults don't

understand the difference between a dwarf and a midget, so it's ok to ask. If

the word was used as a negative remark towards me, then I can understand why she

said that. Then again, I couldn't say " ni%%#r " regardless if I was pissed or

not...it's just me. What do you all think?

Peace.

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[Guest guest]

The thing I don't get is, what gave this woman the God Given Assumed Right,

to approach your friend in the first place AND ask such a personal question?

My favourite way of solving problems like this is to reverse it. Especially

when it is directly related to something which has happened because of my

size.

i.e. Would your friend have gone up to this woman, out of the blue, and

said " Excuse me, are you a Nigger? "

Answer - NO!

So, I repeat, what gives the average member of society the God Given Assumed

Right, to approach ANY of us, in relation to our size?

Ah, I feel better for that:-)

Fred on his high horse

need an opinion......

> Hey everyone!

>

> I need an opinion. Last night I was talking to a friend of mine. She is

also a little person. She was telling me a story about an event that took

place earlier this week with her. She was at a dollar store and was

approached by a black woman. This woman asked my friend if she was a

" midget " ? My friend responded by saying she was a dwarf, and calling her a

midget was offensive. She then went on by telling this woman the word

midget is like calling her a " ni%%#r " . She said this to her directly. The

woman wasn't upset by her remark, she actually understood.

>

> Could anyone have said what my friend said? My opinion was...many adults

don't understand the difference between a dwarf and a midget, so it's ok to

ask. If the word was used as a negative remark towards me, then I can

understand why she said that. Then again, I couldn't say " ni%%#r "

regardless if I was pissed or not...it's just me. What do you all think?

>

> Peace.

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

Craig..

" The Times They are a Changin' "

Do any Short-Stature People NEED to be refered to as,

" Midgets? " (Derogatory or NOT!).....

....My stand on this is NO!

Every little bit does make a difference along the

way....what Craig's friend said was excellent.....

We should be educators.......in that someone came away

knowing a little more about OUR human-condition.

I'm noticing more and more children getting their

parents attention while blurting out..... " Look at the

'Little Person! " ....

This doesn't happen ALL the time but it NEVER happened

20 years ago.....it was always " Look at the

'Midget!!! "

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Presently I'm working on an Animated Feature Film.

After reading the script...the dreaded 'm...' word was

used, and was definitely used as a Derogatory term.

The movie takes place in the 1930's....the 'M....' and

'N...' words were far more prevalent then....

In one sequence the protagonist (a little 9 yr old,

caucasian boy from the Bronx) meets up with an

African-American boy and his friends and family.....no

reference whatsoever to the " N.... " word.

Yet, later in another entirely different

sequence...the Antagonist (the Rich 'Evil' Guy!)

shouts out to his cronies,

" get that midget outta there! " (referring to the

little protagonist)

This didn't make me angry...its not worth it....

But i did ask, was this really necessary?......NO!

I talked to my producer about this....Her answer

was.....She will have the writer and the

powers-that-be.....replace " midget, " ...immediately!

Thank you

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Other instances.....

Some AP adults would strike up a conversation with me

figuring that size and affability go hand in hand.....

(if I had a bad day....they were soon to find out how

wrong they were! LOL)

Some of these AP adults would take it upon themselves

to become Resident experts in the field of " Short

statured people " ...this always amused me.

In a nutshell, their conclusion was: " Dwarfs are

disproportionate...and Midgets are Proportionate, like

miniature adults. " ....

First response after a short pause...which made the AP

realize..OH HECK!....this LP can THINK?

(In showbiz.... " Timing is everything!)

My answer was kept simple and straight (if I had a

good day and felt a little generous with my time)...My

reply was, The term " Little People " is a very widely

accepted term......To many " Little People " the word

midget is viewed as a derogatory and offensive

slang-term, whether those people are porportionate or

disproportionate....

We are all people of Short-stature....There shouldn't

be a " Mason-Dixon " -line seperating Midgets from

Dwarves.

The people would walk away at least more aware how

sensitive the word " midget " is to US....and a little

more aware of OUR Condition.

.....or they'd run because I was boring them to

death.LOL

Then it made me wonder

Do " proportionate " LPs (non-genetic condition LPs)

like being referred to as midgets any more than anyone

else of short-stature?

By the way....The word midget is listed in the

" Library of Congress " We should all look it up.....Arm

ourselves with knowledge.

Didn't mean to drag on, Craig

Kudos to your friend

Cheers,

--- " Craig M. Hennon " <ch1974us@...> wrote:

> Hey everyone!

>

> I need an opinion. Last night I was talking to a

> friend of mine. She is also a little person. She

> was telling me a story about an event that took

> place earlier this week with her. She was at a

> dollar store and was approached by a black woman.

> This woman asked my friend if she was a " midget " ?

> My friend responded by saying she was a dwarf, and

> calling her a midget was offensive. She then went

> on by telling this woman the word midget is like

> calling her a " ni%%#r " . She said this to her

> directly. The woman wasn't upset by her remark, she

> actually understood.

>

> Could anyone have said what my friend said? My

> opinion was...many adults don't understand the

> difference between a dwarf and a midget, so it's ok

> to ask. If the word was used as a negative remark

> towards me, then I can understand why she said that.

> Then again, I couldn't say " ni%%#r " regardless if I

> was pissed or not...it's just me. What do you all

> think?

>

> Peace.

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

I agree, I can't count how many times ppl ask me personal stuff, they

think they have the right bc I am different, and they are online,

like i am some dang open book lol. How many times have I been

asked 'Can u have sex " bla bla bla what the heck! A- it aint no ones

biz and B- I aint gonna be having sex with u so why ask! LOL

Bon

> The thing I don't get is, what gave this woman the God Given

Assumed Right,

> to approach your friend in the first place AND ask such a personal

question?

>

> My favourite way of solving problems like this is to reverse it.

Especially

> when it is directly related to something which has happened because

of my

> size.

>

> i.e. Would your friend have gone up to this woman, out of the

blue, and

> said " Excuse me, are you a Nigger? "

>

> Answer - NO!

>

> So, I repeat, what gives the average member of society the God

Given Assumed

> Right, to approach ANY of us, in relation to our size?

>

> Ah, I feel better for that:-)

> Fred on his high horse

>

> need an opinion......

>

>

> > Hey everyone!

> >

> > I need an opinion. Last night I was talking to a friend of

mine. She is

> also a little person. She was telling me a story about an event

that took

> place earlier this week with her. She was at a dollar store and was

> approached by a black woman. This woman asked my friend if she was

a

> " midget " ? My friend responded by saying she was a dwarf, and

calling her a

> midget was offensive. She then went on by telling this woman the

word

> midget is like calling her a " ni%%#r " . She said this to her

directly. The

> woman wasn't upset by her remark, she actually understood.

> >

> > Could anyone have said what my friend said? My opinion

was...many adults

> don't understand the difference between a dwarf and a midget, so

it's ok to

> ask. If the word was used as a negative remark towards me, then I

can

> understand why she said that. Then again, I couldn't say " ni%%#r "

> regardless if I was pissed or not...it's just me. What do you all

think?

> >

> > Peace.

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

lol, that was funny dude.

> > The thing I don't get is, what gave this woman the God Given

> Assumed Right,

> > to approach your friend in the first place AND ask such a

personal

> question?

> >

> > My favourite way of solving problems like this is to reverse it.

> Especially

> > when it is directly related to something which has happened

because

> of my

> > size.

> >

> > i.e. Would your friend have gone up to this woman, out of the

> blue, and

> > said " Excuse me, are you a Nigger? "

> >

> > Answer - NO!

> >

> > So, I repeat, what gives the average member of society the God

> Given Assumed

> > Right, to approach ANY of us, in relation to our size?

> >

> > Ah, I feel better for that:-)

> > Fred on his high horse

> >

> > need an opinion......

> >

> >

> > > Hey everyone!

> > >

> > > I need an opinion. Last night I was talking to a friend of

> mine. She is

> > also a little person. She was telling me a story about an event

> that took

> > place earlier this week with her. She was at a dollar store and

was

> > approached by a black woman. This woman asked my friend if she

was

> a

> > " midget " ? My friend responded by saying she was a dwarf, and

> calling her a

> > midget was offensive. She then went on by telling this woman

the

> word

> > midget is like calling her a " ni%%#r " . She said this to her

> directly. The

> > woman wasn't upset by her remark, she actually understood.

> > >

> > > Could anyone have said what my friend said? My opinion

> was...many adults

> > don't understand the difference between a dwarf and a midget, so

> it's ok to

> > ask. If the word was used as a negative remark towards me, then

I

> can

> > understand why she said that. Then again, I couldn't say " ni%%

#r "

> > regardless if I was pissed or not...it's just me. What do you

all

> think?

> > >

> > > Peace.

> > >

> > >

> > > __________________________________________________

> > >