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Hi Midge, I agree with you heartily!! Marge, expect the best!! It will be better than it is now!! Charl in CTmarge <palybami@...> wrote: I think my biggest fear is that I will go through this major surgery and not be better at all... Oh, dear. Please stop focusing on what might go wrong. Visualize yourself as well and not hurting. Think about that all the time. It may sound trite, but people tend to find what they are looking for, so be careful what you look for. If you watch all the time that you are healing for something to go wrong, what do you suppose will

happen? I wish for you [ like our Sassy always says ] well-walking! Hugs Midge

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I agree with Midge about thinking positively about matters... but I also know how much being "unprepared" for an unexpected out come can be too. At 35, healthy, well toned bla bla~ All I heard was the positive sides to it all prior to surgery. Mostly from older patients... so I went with the theory of "mines gotta be as good or BETTER" then what I'm hearing~ I'll have a "new pain-free life" (*what I always got told) plus I was so much younger/healthier then the others speaking. I didn't brace for an "unplanned out come" which was a huge set back for me. I spent nearly the first full year in total shock & disbelief~ depression ISN'T EVEN CLOSE to the word I was experiencing. My restrictions are for a life time... they won't release me to return to work so I'm back to drawing disablity and pain is in my everyday regardless of what I do~ Raising 2 kids being used to running in the yard with them, climbing banks to fish, painting my toe nails, traveling... I can name a thousand things I miss~ I can say... getting what I did give me a greater appreciation for the simplier things in life and taught me not to take ANYTHING for granted. I'm not saying all this to scare you nor to make you worry about what's ahead... because I do believe all things will happen as they are meant to for your case. I just want you to know BOTH SIDES of the issue... and understand that although we may want the perfect out come... there is no promise that we actually get it. Say your prayers and hope for the best~ just remember that good or bad THR... there is a life after. Even with a "not so terrific" out come... I can't say that I regret my decision in seeking a better life for myself~ my only regret is truly not looking honestly at both sides of the issue before hand. Had I been "braced" so to speak~ I don't think the blow would've been as hard on me to bounce back from. Best of luck 2 ya sweetie and well walking 2 ya~

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I work under the motto of "Be Prepared" - yep I have scouting connections >>> Me 2 on the scouting although I missed on the prepared for my THR... since my motto changed to "expect the worst and at least your never disappointed"~ I still think positively but I know how much heartache comes with pumping things up too much for the "greatest, fantastic, perfect" out come and ending with something far from your expectations! Always a spot in the back of my mind that weighs the good, bad & ugly of it ALL now before going into anything.

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It's interesting. I think it is horses for courses here.

No one can guarentee that your new hip is going to be perfect. Mine isn't.

Some of my clients seem to worry like mad before surgery, but then find

themselves (sometimes) more well prepared after the surgery for all

outcomes. Sometimes that worry prevents disasters by taking effective steps

early.

Others seem to take the " she'll be right attitude " and crumble after the

surgery when very small things go wrong.

Some never seem to worry about anything and seem able to cope with what ever

life throws at them.

It depends on you, how you operate, how you manage your life. Know

yourself.

You see the way I manage things in my life is to be prepared for disaster.

Well not quite, but I try to minimise the stress if disaster happens. I

work under the motto of " Be Prepared " - yep I have scouting connections.

Here's and example: I have a report due about a 6 month project that

finishes 27th Jan. The report is due 27 Feb. I did the report today. Sure

I'll do some adjustments before the end date, but if " I died " the report

could go as it is. I'm one of those people who always has reports in on

time - especially when it means money to the organisation I work for (a

charity). Some of the other managers actually start the day before the

deadline. They say they can't concentrate unless it is crunch time.

People handle things differently. Do what is right for you.

Aussie Margaret

Re: Re: Comment to Midge

> Hi Midge, I agree with you heartily!! Marge, expect the best!! It will

> be better than it is now!! Charl in CT

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Hi Sassy Lou,

You put it the way I was before I had my two operations I don't know to this day why I had the knee operation when the Hip one didn't turn out .

Well you take care.

Susie

-------------- Original message -------------- From: SassyLouYou@... I agree with Midge about thinking positively about matters... but I also know how much being "unprepared" for an unexpected out come can be too. At 35, healthy, well toned bla bla~ All I heard was the positive sides to it all prior to surgery. Mostly from older patients... so I went with the theory of "mines gotta be as good or BETTER" then what I'm hearing~ I'll have a "new pain-free life" (*what I always got told) plus I was so much younger/healthier then the others speaking. I didn't brace for an "unplanned out come" which was a huge set back for me. I spent nearly the first full year in total shock & disbelief~ depression ISN'T EVEN CLOSE to the word I was experiencing. My restrictions are for a life time... they won't release me to return to work so I'm back to drawing disablity and pain is in my everyday regardless of what I do~ Raising 2 kids being used to running in the yard with them, climbing banks to fish, painting my toe nails, traveling... I can name a thousand things I miss~ I can say... getting what I did give me a greater appreciation for the simplier things in life and taught me not to take ANYTHING for granted. I'm not saying all this to scare you nor to make you worry about what's ahead... because I do believe all things will happen as they are meant to for your case. I just want you to know BOTH SIDES of the issue... and understand that although we may want the perfect out come... there is no promise that we actually get it. Say your prayers and hope for the best~ just remember that good or bad THR... there is a life after. Even with a "not so terrific" out come... I can't say that I regret my decision in seeking a better life for myself~ my only regret is truly not looking honestly at both sides of the issue before hand. Had I been "braced" so to speak~ I don't think the blow would've been as hard on me to bounce back from. Best of luck 2 ya sweetie and well walking 2 ya~

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Hi Margaret,

You are so right I had my operations thinking everything going to be just fine and it didn't turn out that way .Well you take care .

Susie

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I don't know to this day why I had the knee operation when the Hip one didn't turn out >>> I think it's all about our efforts to make a better live for ourselves Susie. Although my first hip didn't go well... should the second need done or a knee/shoulder down the road~ I don't think I would hesitate. Putting things off can bring about additional damanage not to mention the time you loose in pain & limited mobility. When one weighs their need to enhance their quality of life verse being left in a painful one they know won't change without some sort of assistance. I think all options should be explored but in the end... that individual should question their needs for happiness and seek the choice that's right & fitting to them. You can't blame yourself for a bad out come... even though your permitting the operation had a part in it. Regardless of how rich you might be, how healthy, what doctor or the choice of implant/procedure done... there are going to be times when life just isn't about "what we'd like to see happen". It's more important how we choose to pick up the pieces & move forward from a challenging time then it is what the actual challenge was in the beginning.

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Hi Sassy Lou,

I think you are right but I think what went wrong for me after both operations I was put in a nursey home and they made you sit in a wheel Chair all the time the only time I walk with walker was like for not even a hour a day and the excises I learn when I got home for a PT I never went out for PT My Insurance didn't cover it so I have to be real bad to have my left knee done because I know the same thing Will happen . Well I hope you have a nice day.

Susie

-------------- Original message -------------- From: SassyLouYou@... I don't know to this day why I had the knee operation when the Hip one didn't turn out >>> I think it's all about our efforts to make a better live for ourselves Susie. Although my first hip didn't go well... should the second need done or a knee/shoulder down the road~ I don't think I would hesitate. Putting things off can bring about additional damanage not to mention the time you loose in pain & limited mobility. When one weighs their need to enhance their quality of life verse being left in a painful one they know won't change without some sort of assistance. I think all options should be explored but in the end... that individual should question their needs for happiness and seek the choice that's right & fitting to them. You can't blame yourself for a bad out come... even though your permitting the operation had a part in it. Regardless of how rich you might be, how healthy, what doctor or the choice of implant/procedure done... there are going to be times when life just isn't about "what we'd like to see happen". It's more important how we choose to pick up the pieces & move forward from a challenging time then it is what the actual challenge was in the beginning.