Re: Ideas on handling an angry 3 year old??

[Guest guest]

I'm not sure you can expect a 3-yr-old to have developed that kind of

compassion yet. They are still very self-centred at that age. Too

bad we don't have Dr. Rosemond visiting this site. He'd have a

comment or two on the topic!

[Guest guest]

Hi, !

I have a three-year old and a five-year old at home, and they were both

scared about what was happening to their Poppa. The whole situation was

complicated by also having a five-week old in the house! When I got home

from the hospital (just a three-day stay) I could sense that they were afraid of

my new hip and afraid of hurting me. So I invited them into my recuperation

bed and spent hours every day just holding them and reading to them. I even

let them " camp out " with me over night. It seemed to make an enormous

difference. Your little angel is probably very worried about you, and needs lots

of consolation and comfort...maybe even more than you do! I remember being

five and watching my mom go for an " emergency " tooth extraction. I was

terrified!

You might try cuddling with her, a lot (while diplomatically keeping her on the

" good " side!) and see if that doesn't help with her disposition. I also took my

little ones for long walks with me every day...but I had (am having) a

ridiculously easy recovery, and I could walk a mile or more as soon as I got

home. We just crawled along the sidewalks and talked, and I think it showed

them that I was OK and wasn't going to leave them. I think that's the real

fear...they think you're going to gone forever, and they can't articulate that.

Lotsa hugs are required, and maybe some chocolate milk to boot!

Good luck to you, and God bless your family!

Glenn

[Guest guest]

,

When I had mine done my baby girl was just

a couple months of age, well I am going into the hospital again to have a

second child in June or Early july and Liz is now 2 and a half. Could be just

a stage shes going through, I really don’t know how you could explain to

her just what happened. Unless you take her to a Dr’s visit and make her

feel involved in it. Tell her this is where I was during that time, and just

make sure she knows that you might leave like that in a great while, but always

your going to come back. Mine is going through the, hey moms away at the market

lets make dad insane and destroy the house, IE TV stand, getting into things

she shouldn’t lol.

I hope that helped in a small way

Tiff

From:

Chomiak [mailto:kasia672004@...]

Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2004 7:39

AM

Joint Replacement

Subject:

Ideas on handling an angry 3 year old??

Hello everyone, it's again. I am now 12 days post op and

each

day I feel different, one day stronger, the next

day tired and sore.

Anyway, I was greeted when I came home from the

hospital by my two

adoring children ages 7 and 3. My 7 year old

has been more helpful

and compassionate than I could have ever wished

for however, my

normally little angellic 3 year old daughter has

decided that she is

mad at me for leaving her and she is taking it out

on everyone. I

don't know if this is just her time to test her

boundaries but she is

talking back, picking on her brother, etc,

etc. I suppose I didn't

realize she would be so mad at me, and am

wondering how I can help a

3 year old understand that this was the best thing

for our whole

family. We have initiated imnmediate time

out chair for acting out,

any other ideas?? Did anyone else have young

children when they had

to be in the hospital for a few days??

Help?? Thanks I appreciate

it. - :-)

Be your own

advocate! The best patient is an informed patient!

[Guest guest]

Hi Tiffinee,

Thanks for the laugh. :-) I am hoping that it is just a stage with

my little one, anyway today was her first day back at school since I

went to the hospital; spring break is just too long. Hopefully being

back with her friends at school will help. Thanks! :-)

> ,

>

>

>

> When I had mine done my baby girl was just a couple months of age,

well I am

> going into the hospital again to have a second child in June or

Early july

> and Liz is now 2 and a half. Could be just a stage shes going

through, I

> really don't know how you could explain to her just what happened.

Unless

> you take her to a Dr's visit and make her feel involved in it. Tell

her this

> is where I was during that time, and just make sure she knows that

you might

> leave like that in a great while, but always your going to come

back. Mine

> is going through the, hey moms away at the market lets make dad

insane and

> destroy the house, IE TV stand, getting into things she shouldn't

lol.

>

>

>

> I hope that helped in a small way

>

> Tiff

>

>

>

> _____

>

> From: Chomiak [mailto:kasia672004@y...]

> Sent: Tuesday, April 13, 2004 7:39 AM

> Joint Replacement

> Subject: Ideas on handling an angry 3

year old??

>

>

>

> Hello everyone, it's again. I am now 12 days post op and

each

> day I feel different, one day stronger, the next day tired and

sore.

> Anyway, I was greeted when I came home from the hospital by my two

> adoring children ages 7 and 3. My 7 year old has been more helpful

> and compassionate than I could have ever wished for however, my

> normally little angellic 3 year old daughter has decided that she

is

> mad at me for leaving her and she is taking it out on everyone. I

> don't know if this is just her time to test her boundaries but she

is

> talking back, picking on her brother, etc, etc. I suppose I didn't

> realize she would be so mad at me, and am wondering how I can help

a

> 3 year old understand that this was the best thing for our whole

> family. We have initiated imnmediate time out chair for acting

out,

> any other ideas?? Did anyone else have young children when they had

> to be in the hospital for a few days?? Help?? Thanks I appreciate

> it. - :-)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Glenn,

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement and ideas. I do find

that whenever I go upstairs to ice my hip she likes to tag along and

snuggle up to me on the good side so we can rest, read stories, etc.

I am hoping that with time she will understand that mommy isn't going

anywhere and that my new hip will be great for our whole family. My

kids are calling my hip the " sonic " hip and my 7 yr old son says that

now I will probably be able to run as fast as sonic the hedgehog when

I recover. I don't know, but it's something to aspire to. :-)

Thanks again, and have a great day!

> Hi, !

>

> I have a three-year old and a five-year old at home, and they were

both

> scared about what was happening to their Poppa. The whole situation

was

> complicated by also having a five-week old in the house! When I got

home

> from the hospital (just a three-day stay) I could sense that they

were afraid of

> my new hip and afraid of hurting me. So I invited them into my

recuperation

> bed and spent hours every day just holding them and reading to

them. I even

> let them " camp out " with me over night. It seemed to make an

enormous

> difference. Your little angel is probably very worried about you,

and needs lots

> of consolation and comfort...maybe even more than you do! I

remember being

> five and watching my mom go for an " emergency " tooth extraction. I

was

> terrified!

>

> You might try cuddling with her, a lot (while diplomatically

keeping her on the

> " good " side!) and see if that doesn't help with her disposition. I

also took my

> little ones for long walks with me every day...but I had (am

having) a

> ridiculously easy recovery, and I could walk a mile or more as soon

as I got

> home. We just crawled along the sidewalks and talked, and I think

it showed

> them that I was OK and wasn't going to leave them. I think that's

the real

> fear...they think you're going to gone forever, and they can't

articulate that.

> Lotsa hugs are required, and maybe some chocolate milk to boot!

>

> Good luck to you, and God bless your family!

>

> Glenn