Re: Re: SassyLou

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Awww ty ty Susie I do speak rather "bluntly" on occasion. But for some... that's exactly what's best~ if not... they fail to actually see BOTH SIDES of an issue before making choices... and that can be a very dangerous! I don't set out to hurt feelings nor tick someones turd~ my intentions are merely to help another. When I once upon a time found the boards all you heard was the "happy-go-lucky" life is so peachy after THR... it'll be better then ever or the one I hated the VERY MOST~ your young... BLA BLA BLA! I don't make my story known to scare others nor detour them from making choices... my intent is SOLELY to make others THINK THROUGH their decisions... and truly weigh the odds of best verse worst / what can or can't I live with etc. Some merely jump into their choices because "doc suggested it"... never paying mind to the details or statics of what's what.... and the only thoughts given to "complications" are when it's said & done and they have regrets trying to figure out a way to deal with living beyond THR with a worse situation then they started with. I suppose if my mouth & way of "tellin it like it is" helps another to avoid heartache in the shocking aftermath of what some of us get... and least KNOW both sides going in... then I'm okay with whatever people think! I know I've done my best to help...

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I don't know if you read the posts, but I finally had my right hip done. It isn't doing too well, because my left hip is as bad as the right one was. Going to have that one done in January. >>> Hey Arianne... <smile> can't forget you... your one of the members that has such a beautiful name. It is hard remembering details of who's case has what though.... because I post & keep up with more then a few message boards & it's been a lil while since I've last posted. I really hate 2 hear that your surgery hasn't gone so grand. I never say "sorry"... because in my view~ all things happen for a reason & have purpose... it's a bigger plan then our own that matters most and sometimes that plan just don't include a "pain-less perfect" walk for some of us. I sure hope that time will heal ya to the point that you at least have less pain then you once experienced~ really stinks going through the whole process of worry, surgery, recovery etc. only to end up "not so fixed" as a result. Hey though.... look at that bright side~ if it's hurting... least you know it's still attatched! And hugest benefit to yours going "not so grand" is your voice & experience becomes support, encouragement and understanding for another that will one day unfortuniately wear the same shoes in a "not so grand replacment issues". It's nice to have a place 2 lean during your time of need... but it's so much nicer being the leaning post that helps another pick their head up and move forward. Very rewarding knowing you inspire hope in another that's lost sight of their faith etc. So even with your "not so perfect out come"... take the time to count your blesssings because somewhere someone would consider your hugest mess... a gift to treasure compaired to their own problems.

Arianne~ in your case... you very well might take to a different recovery and do better after your second hip is replaced. It's really hard to exercise when you have a body hurting & are limited on your mobility to actually DO~ MAYBE... your having such a time with your first surgery not going so grand~ because you've not yet had the chance to truly focus on your recovery like you need to ? Anythings possible.... so don't give up hope for what might be~ granded... if it were me~ I'd hope for the best and brace for the worst~ just to be prepared.... but honestly that might very well be part of the issue for your first surgery not going so well. What has your doctor mentioned on your follow-up appointments ?

I hope one of those doctors can come up with something to ease your pain. I certainly can relate to that. >>> Boy that would be nice~ but I'm not holding my breath anytime soon. LOL I figure Lord can't make us all perfect.... and some that have a lil more tolerance, understanding & compassion towards others are giving health issues because we rebound better then "the majority" without troubles. We don't whine daily "why ME LORD" rather ask "why not". Some just can't deal with change, disappointment or pain for that matter~ Lord chooses those who will suffer wisely! And in my view... there has to be some of us "inflicted" in order to show the world " life is still good when things go bad~ it's all in how you choose to deal with it". It's basically to pass our faith along & give hope to those whom have lost it. It shouldn't be "what I GET" rather... "what I can give". And in getting a bad THR experience... you ultimately have a greater story to give & more tips to pass then anyone who's had the "average" experience. You don't know just a "perfect out come and life goes on".... you know the worries of "what's the right decision" etc. same details of another that's had the "grand out come". But more importantly... you know the personal side to receiving WAY LESS then you expected. You know how to relate to that heartache and can pick anothers spirits up when things seem less then grim. It's like being a CEO or a preacher~ some just aren't cut out for a job... while others will excell at it. Lord knows what he's doing when he picks the people to play what positions they will in this life~ so next time your hurting you remember not all are blessed with that calling nor qualified for the position~ Slap on your smile and be proud someone has more faith in your potential then you.

Wise man once said: "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort & convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge & controversy."

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You go girl, tell it like it is, I also get ticked off at people who write and say they were walking in 3 -4 weeks and they are out of pain this is no big deal. Where did they come from...Mars? >>> Giggling welp jrshoffner.... you have 2 remember~ for some it is much easier then for others. I know some that's actually returned to driving within 4 wks., full-time work at 8 wks. and never had the first problem since. Some that's not even took meds after surgery (I was one~ for last 2 operations) 1.) because they have a pretty high tolerance for pain but 2.) because the pain after surgery was a relief compaired to the pain endured prior to surgery. It's most certainly a CASE BY CASE issue. Others are on the total opposite end of things... and spend months & yrs. trying 2 recover and suffer greater AFTER surgery then they did before. For me... I had sever muscle spasms approximately 9 months after my THR due to my leg discrepancy being corrected during the operation. Fact is no 2 do it alike and some are being sincere when they voice their experiences~ Granted there are the "internet entertainers" that like to play online... making things up just to get a response~ those aren't hard to catch though!

I am post op 11 weeks and I have been through hell during recovery. I am at the stage right now where I can walk some without the cane but not full time because after a few hours my leg is very stiff and sore. >>> That's still pretty earily yet... and depending upon your procedure restrictions etc. and how well your doing your exercises... it could be a longer haul yet ahead of ya. Hopefully that's not the case and soon your feeling better then ever! Push yourself to excell yes... but know your limitations and don't get frustrated... trauma takes time to heal~ patiences is about the best thing you can have and knowing not to compair yourself to anothers situation. Think positive and make the most of your day.

This group shold be telling new members what it was really like in those early weeks. That is what they sign on to find out. To get answers. >>> Thats the thing... this group can only speak of their experience as an individual. Even members being in the very same hospital, with the same doctor, procedure etc. will not have the very same experience(s). Yes there are basics that are common~ you'll have an IV for surgery etc. but fact of the matter is... the members body that's been "whacked" on WILL NOT be on the "newbies" operating table. There are so many complicating factors that will change details of a surgery; NO ONE including your doctor can speak with "certainy" on what's gonna be in your case. And if they try to... those are the people you shouldn't EVEN bother trying to listen to! Shoot I bleed pretty freely... last operation I had 4 units of blood.... should I have mentioned to newbies your gonna have to have 4 units of blood~ when the majority of patients don't even have to have it ? I didn't have to have any during my THR... but revision replacing my socket~ needed 4. That's a huge difference and it was the SAME BODY~ just different surgeries! I think what one should do is... merely present their experience~ but just because I had it happen or you... is no sign that " & Pete" will have either issue... and it's likely~ they'll ADD THEIR OWN happenings to the mix. To imply THIS, THIS & THIS is gonna happen to you... is just wrong in my view. And worst of all... it sets expectations that are "implied". Meaning specifically like with my case. When I hit the boards everyone was much older, less active and in way worst shape health wise then I.... I heard case by case just "how terrific" things would be... what they do for this and that would happen. Naturally being way younger, more active and in good health... I go thinking hummmmm "mines gotta go "AS GOOD" if not better then what I'm hearing". I couldn't have been further from the truth!!! And everything that I was told & I'd "come 2 expect~ being "prepared" by others that had experienced it"... was like white... when my actual THR experience was BLACK! I say voice your experience, insight, helpful tips and view on issues... but when it comes down to it.... anyone stating "THIS THIS & THIS IS... or will be for you" is as full as sh** as the sewer lines.

This group is not a chat room it is suppose to be for helping each and every person with a problem. Stick to the subject and help one another >>> These board members become almost like family in time... and everyday isn't "just about the hip issue"... it's caring about anothers well being~ or yelling just to say "hey" because this board is a means of communication. It's not a chat room... but it is a place for understanding, encouragement, educational information, helpful tips, voiced views and hearing anothers experiences.... which ALL boil down to being helpful. Maybe not all specifically needed by you... but their none the less for all whom might need the assistance, shoulder to lean upon or have a question to be answered. Sometimes it's nice to actually get to think about something else other then a "bad body issue". Least I think so

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I have been very honest as to my recoveries from tkrs I must be

different because I did not have a bad time either time. Some people

do recover without problems and are just as truthful as those that have

problems.

On Oct 13, 2006, at 10:02 AM, james_shoffner wrote:

> --You go girl, tell it like it is, I also get ticked off at people

> who write and say they were walking in 3 -4 weeks and they are out

> of pain this is no big deal. Where did they come from...Mars?

> Recovery from THP is no fun. It is depressing and it hurts.I am post

> op 11 weeks and I have been through hell during recovery. I am at

> the stage right now where I can walk some without the cane but not

> full time because after a few hours my leg is very stiff and sore.

> This group shold be telling new members what it was really like in

> those early weeks. That is what they sign on to find out. To get

> answers. and another thing, Some of you get stuck on stupid toppiks

> for days and don't even see other people's questions. This group is

> not a chat room it is suppose to be for helping each and every

> person with a problem. Stick to the subject and help one another.

> Some of of are serious and are searching for answers.

>

> - In Joint Replacement , SassyLouYou@... wrote:

> >

> > Awww ty ty Susie I do speak rather " bluntly " on occasion.

> But for

> > some... that's exactly what's best~ if not... they fail to

> actually see BOTH SIDES

> > of an issue before making choices... and that can be a very

> dangerous! I

> > don't set out to hurt feelings nor tick someones turd~ my

> intentions are merely

> > to help another. When I once upon a time found the boards all you

> heard was

> > the " happy-go-lucky " life is so peachy after THR... it'll be

> better then ever or

> > the one I hated the VERY MOST~ your young... BLA BLA BLA! I don't

> make my

> > story known to scare others nor detour them from making choices...

> my intent is

> > SOLELY to make others THINK THROUGH their decisions... and truly

> weigh the

> > odds of best verse worst / what can or can't I live with etc.

> Some merely jump

> > into their choices because " doc suggested it " ... never paying mind

> to the

> > details or statics of what's what.... and the only thoughts given

> to

> > " complications " are when it's said & done and they have regrets

> trying to figure out a way

> > to deal with living beyond THR with a worse situation then they

> started with.

> > I suppose if my mouth & way of " tellin it like it is " helps

> another to avoid

> > heartache in the shocking aftermath of what some of us get... and

> least KNOW

> > both sides going in... then I'm okay with whatever people think!

> I know I've

> > done my best to help...

> >

>

>

The Will of God will never take you to where the Grace

of God will not protect you.

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I agree Elaine,

We do want the good stories, and the middle and the bad.

I guess I am a middle story. On 2nd November we might find out why it is

not good.

Be well everyone

Aussie Margaret

RTHR 1990 revised 2004

Re: Re: SassyLou

I have been very honest as to my recoveries from tkrs I must be

different because I did not have a bad time either time. Some people

do recover without problems and are just as truthful as those that have

problems.

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I hope you don't get bad news. I would be very discouraged if mine

were having problems.

On Oct 13, 2006, at 3:36 PM, Margaret wrote:

> I agree Elaine,

>

> We do want the good stories, and the middle and the bad.

>

> I guess I am a middle story. On 2nd November we might find out why it

> is

> not good.

>

> Be well everyone

>

> Aussie Margaret

> RTHR 1990 revised 2004

>

> Re: Re: SassyLou

>

>

> I have been very honest as to my recoveries from tkrs I must be

> different because I did not have a bad time either time. Some people

> do recover without problems and are just as truthful as those that have

> problems.

>

> Send instant messages to your online friends

> http://au.messenger.

>

>

>

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I guess I have to tell you that some of us are just very lucky. I

truly think some of it is just pure chance, but I was back to work in

2 weeks and 6 days post op from both my initial right hip surgery and

my revision two years later to change out the acetabular cup

component that did not adhere to my bone.

I am now 6 months post op revision of my right total hip and have

absolutely no problems. Maybe I'm just a poster child for how it is

supposed to go (Maybe not.....After all I did need a revision in just

two years :-( )

I used a walker for two week, a cane for the next four weeks and

only needed pain meds for the first two weeks.

I can truly tell you I hurt more the day before surgery than I did

the day after surgery.

So it can happen and I'm not from Mars...Just Hannibal Missouri.

Larry

At 12:02 PM 10/13/2006, you wrote:

>--You go girl, tell it like it is, I also get ticked off at people

>who write and say they were walking in 3 -4 weeks and they are out

>of pain this is no big deal. Where did they come from...Mars?

>Recovery from THP is no fun. It is depressing and it hurts.I am post

>op 11 weeks and I have been through hell during recovery. I am at

>the stage right now where I can walk some without the cane but not

>full time because after a few hours my leg is very stiff and sore.

>This group shold be telling new members what it was really like in

>those early weeks. That is what they sign on to find out. To get

>answers. and another thing, Some of you get stuck on stupid toppiks

>for days and don't even see other people's questions. This group is

>not a chat room it is suppose to be for helping each and every

>person with a problem. Stick to the subject and help one another.

>Some of of are serious and are searching for answers.

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Oh Jim,

To be able to walk two miles without a stick would be heaven.

I couldn't do it with a stick. and I'm 2 years post op.

Aussie Margaret

RTHR 1990 revised 2004

Re: SassyLou

| Thanks Larry, I guess I was just frustrated when I said some people

| must be from Mars. I was having a bad day. I have just started to

| walk...11 weeks (post op) and I am having my good days and bad days

| with it. Today I walked over 2 miles with no cane but right now my

| leg is hurting a little in the thigh section. i had core

| decompression surgery last year to see if it made a difference and

| to prolong THP BUT THE SURGERY DID NOT HELP ME. THERE IS ONLY A 50%

| CHANCE IT WOULD ANYWAY.I was back to work in 3 weeks myself that go

| round.Guess you are one lucky person. " hats off to you " ... Jim

|

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True, but don't think for a moment that I was with out pain. and I did have

my cane in my hand just in case I needed it. Today Oct. 13, was my first

time doing that. Right now I have 3 ice packs on my leg because it

hurts...mainly in the thigh. My wife was encouraging me on. She was even

taking pictures. Tomorrow I probably want be able to walk much at all but

Monday I will try again. Got to keep those wheels moving. Right now it feels

like one of them has a slow leak and will be flat by morning.

Re: SassyLou

>

>

> | Thanks Larry, I guess I was just frustrated when I said some people

> | must be from Mars. I was having a bad day. I have just started to

> | walk...11 weeks (post op) and I am having my good days and bad days

> | with it. Today I walked over 2 miles with no cane but right now my

> | leg is hurting a little in the thigh section. i had core

> | decompression surgery last year to see if it made a difference and

> | to prolong THP BUT THE SURGERY DID NOT HELP ME. THERE IS ONLY A 50%

> | CHANCE IT WOULD ANYWAY.I was back to work in 3 weeks myself that go

> | round.Guess you are one lucky person. " hats off to you " ... Jim

> |

>

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>

>

>

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Hi SassyLou :-) I meant that in a good way Well I started my new medicine I seem to be ok but I still don't feel the differants maybe after the first week well you take care and have a nice day:-) SusieSassyLouYou@... wrote:

Awww ty ty Susie I do speak rather "bluntly" on occasion. But for some... that's exactly what's best~ if not... they fail to actually see BOTH SIDES of an issue before making choices... and that can be a very dangerous! I don't set out to hurt feelings nor tick someones turd~ my intentions are merely to help another. When I once upon a time found the boards all you heard was the "happy-go-lucky" life is so peachy after THR... it'll be better then ever or the one I hated the VERY MOST~ your young... BLA BLA BLA! I don't make my story known to scare others nor detour them from making choices... my intent is SOLELY to make others THINK THROUGH their decisions... and truly weigh the odds of best verse worst / what can or can't I live with etc. Some merely jump into their choices because "doc suggested it"... never paying mind to the details or statics of what's what.... and the only thoughts given to

"complications" are when it's said & done and they have regrets trying to figure out a way to deal with living beyond THR with a worse situation then they started with. I suppose if my mouth & way of "tellin it like it is" helps another to avoid heartache in the shocking aftermath of what some of us get... and least KNOW both sides going in... then I'm okay with whatever people think! I know I've done my best to help...