Guest guest Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 But as a woman, can you (blush) spread your legs apart? Eleanor -----Original Message----- From: Carole fishing [mailto:lady_luvs_fishing@...] Sent: 01 March 2005 02:42 To: Joint Replacement Subject: Re: sensitive topic hehehe When I was in the hospital they gave me a list of things to do and not to do and for how long. One of the things not to do was to have sex for 3 months and then only at the 90 degree angle. I said what the heck is that a new position hehehe so it became a joke while I was there. I said I would ask the doctor for a personal demonstration. All the nurses said they wanted to be there when I asked the doctor cause he was a shy man. I never did get to ask him about this so called not more than 90 degree angle as he was in trauma surgery both days. When I left a few of the nurses came to my room with this booklet called " Back to love " Sex after hip replacement. It should be available at your hospital least it was at mine. Again from what I read in this booklet it comes down to common sense. Says on the one page To avoid dislocating your hip during the first three months (hmm they told me no sex for 3 months) after the surgery, follow these rules: avoid bending your new hip more tha 90 degrees don't let your affected leg turn inward -- keep your knees about shoulder width apart don't cross your legs don't twist your body Hope this helps!! Carole (47) SUE VOGEL <suevogel@...> wrote: I have a very sensitive question... are there special instructions for resuming sexual relations..after the THR I posed the question to my Dr....and he said he has a book.. which he is presently out of... Does anyone out there recommend a book or web site....with information. Sue · from this group, send an email to: Joint Replacement-unsubscribe · Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 1, 2005 Report Share Posted March 1, 2005 Hi Eleanor, I couldn't have. That is why I used the method I did. Aussie Margaret RE: sensitive topic > But as a woman, can you (blush) spread your legs apart? > Eleanor > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2005 Report Share Posted March 3, 2005 thank you for this informationjimmajones <jimmajones@...> wrote: > > I have a very sensitive question...> > > > are there special instructions for resuming sexual relations..after > the THR > > I posed the question to my Dr....and he said he has a book.. which > he is presently out of... Does anyone out there recommend a book or > web site....with information.> > > > Sue> > > > > > > > from this group, send an email to:> > Joint Replacement-unsubscribe > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2005 Report Share Posted March 3, 2005 Hi Eleanor/ everyone We are all adults here and sex is a part of life so lets learn more about it, as the booklet says "Back to love after hip replacement" I received an instruction sheet which was supposed to have been made up by my doctor and handed out to all his patients. Now on this sheet, it says no sex for 3 months. It also said no driving for 3 months and no baths ever. Well I have driven before 4 weeks was up, I have taken several baths and my surgery was Jan 13th. Unfortunately I don't have a partner right now to try out these position in the book :-) but I plan to change that soon "wink" Now I will write you a few things mentioned in the booket: THAT LOVING FEELING Once you feel interested in having sex, you want to know when you can get started. Many people return to sex 6-8 weeks after surgery. For others, this is not nearly long enough. Everyone's time frame is different. It depends on: - your age - your overal health (physical and mental) - how well you are healing from the surgery. You'll know when you feel ready to take the next step. If you are still in pain or are not comfortable with the thought of having sex, don't. If you think you are ready talk to your doctor to make sure its safe for you to start having sex again. DISLOCATION For the first 3 months after surgery, your new hip is still healing. This puts you at risk for dislocating your hip. Dislocation occurs when the ball of your new hip joint comes out of the socket. After your surgery, the muscles around your hip are weak and have not completely healed. As a result you should avoid certain positions with your affected leg. Now to answer your question about spreading your legs.......... quote PATIENT ON BOTTOM/PARTNER ON TOP This position works well for both male and female patients. This is usually the most comfortable position to use right after surgery. When using this position, make sure to: -avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees -keep your affected leg out to the side -Make sure your toes don't point inward -place a pillow under the thingh of your affected leg (if it makes you feel more comfortable) -try to move your afected leg as little as possible my interpretation of the picture that is with this statement: female is on the bottom, legs spread not wide wide but... enough that the male has one leg between hers and the other leg is on the outside of the good leg. There are also pictures and different positions shown... kinda long to write all this so.. - Sitting position : this position works with the male on bottom and the female on top. - Side lying position : this position works well for male and femal patients - Standing position: This positionworks well for male and female patients POSITION YOUR YOURSELF FOR LOVE To avoid dislocating your hip during the first three months after surgery, follow these rules: - avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees - don't let your affected leg turn inward - keep your knees about shoulder= width apart - don't cross your legs - don't twist your body To the fella who doesn't have the urge... the following is in the booklet: MEDICINE SIDE EFFECTS Some medicines you take after hip surgery (like pain pills and cortisone) may cause: - decreased desire - trouble getting and erection - vaginal dryness - delayed orgasm Talk with your doctor about the medicines you're taking. Ask if any of them can cause some of these effects. CAUTION: Never stop taking any medicine unless your doctor tells you to. Don't know if this affecting you but.. for your knowledge. Hope this helps answer some of your questions Carole (47) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2005 Report Share Posted March 4, 2005 Dear Carol, Many thanks for taking the trouble to send this out to us. Just hope you get a chance to put it into practice before too long. Eleanor -----Original Message----- From: Carole fishing [mailto:lady_luvs_fishing@...] Sent: 04 March 2005 03:40 To: Joint Replacement Subject: RE: sensitive topic Hi Eleanor/ everyone We are all adults here and sex is a part of life so lets learn more about it, as the booklet says " Back to love after hip replacement " I received an instruction sheet which was supposed to have been made up by my doctor and handed out to all his patients. Now on this sheet, it says no sex for 3 months. It also said no driving for 3 months and no baths ever. Well I have driven before 4 weeks was up, I have taken several baths and my surgery was Jan 13th. Unfortunately I don't have a partner right now to try out these position in the book :-) but I plan to change that soon " wink " Now I will write you a few things mentioned in the booket: THAT LOVING FEELING Once you feel interested in having sex, you want to know when you can get started. Many people return to sex 6-8 weeks after surgery. For others, this is not nearly long enough. Everyone's time frame is different. It depends on: - your age - your overal health (physical and mental) - how well you are healing from the surgery. You'll know when you feel ready to take the next step. If you are still in pain or are not comfortable with the thought of having sex, don't. If you think you are ready talk to your doctor to make sure its safe for you to start having sex again. DISLOCATION For the first 3 months after surgery, your new hip is still healing. This puts you at risk for dislocating your hip. Dislocation occurs when the ball of your new hip joint comes out of the socket. After your surgery, the muscles around your hip are weak and have not completely healed. As a result you should avoid certain positions with your affected leg. Now to answer your question about spreading your legs.......... quote PATIENT ON BOTTOM/PARTNER ON TOP This position works well for both male and female patients. This is usually the most comfortable position to use right after surgery. When using this position, make sure to: -avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees -keep your affected leg out to the side -Make sure your toes don't point inward -place a pillow under the thingh of your affected leg (if it makes you feel more comfortable) -try to move your afected leg as little as possible my interpretation of the picture that is with this statement: female is on the bottom, legs spread not wide wide but... enough that the male has one leg between hers and the other leg is on the outside of the good leg. There are also pictures and different positions shown... kinda long to write all this so.. - Sitting position : this position works with the male on bottom and the female on top. - Side lying position : this position works well for male and femal patients - Standing position: This positionworks well for male and female patients POSITION YOUR YOURSELF FOR LOVE To avoid dislocating your hip during the first three months after surgery, follow these rules: - avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees - don't let your affected leg turn inward - keep your knees about shoulder= width apart - don't cross your legs - don't twist your body To the fella who doesn't have the urge... the following is in the booklet: MEDICINE SIDE EFFECTS Some medicines you take after hip surgery (like pain pills and cortisone) may cause: - decreased desire - trouble getting and erection - vaginal dryness - delayed orgasm Talk with your doctor about the medicines you're taking. Ask if any of them can cause some of these effects. CAUTION: Never stop taking any medicine unless your doctor tells you to. Don't know if this affecting you but.. for your knowledge. Hope this helps answer some of your questions Carole (47) Be your own advocate! The best patient is an informed patient! Celebrate 's 10th Birthday! Netrospective: 100 Moments of the Web Be your own advocate! The best patient is an informed patient! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2005 Report Share Posted March 4, 2005 Thanks!! So does this mean that after 3 months you can pretty much do any position??? RE: sensitive topic Hi Eleanor/ everyone We are all adults here and sex is a part of life so lets learn more about it, as the booklet says " Back to love after hip replacement " I received an instruction sheet which was supposed to have been made up by my doctor and handed out to all his patients. Now on this sheet, it says no sex for 3 months. It also said no driving for 3 months and no baths ever. Well I have driven before 4 weeks was up, I have taken several baths and my surgery was Jan 13th. Unfortunately I don't have a partner right now to try out these position in the book :-) but I plan to change that soon " wink " Now I will write you a few things mentioned in the booket: THAT LOVING FEELING Once you feel interested in having sex, you want to know when you can get started. Many people return to sex 6-8 weeks after surgery. For others, this is not nearly long enough. Everyone's time frame is different. It depends on: - your age - your overal health (physical and mental) - how well you are healing from the surgery. You'll know when you feel ready to take the next step. If you are still in pain or are not comfortable with the thought of having sex, don't. If you think you are ready talk to your doctor to make sure its safe for you to start having sex again. DISLOCATION For the first 3 months after surgery, your new hip is still healing. This puts you at risk for dislocating your hip. Dislocation occurs when the ball of your new hip joint comes out of the socket. After your surgery, the muscles around your hip are weak and have not completely healed. As a result you should avoid certain positions with your affected leg. Now to answer your question about spreading your legs.......... quote PATIENT ON BOTTOM/PARTNER ON TOP This position works well for both male and female patients. This is usually the most comfortable position to use right after surgery. When using this position, make sure to: -avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees -keep your affected leg out to the side -Make sure your toes don't point inward -place a pillow under the thingh of your affected leg (if it makes you feel more comfortable) -try to move your afected leg as little as possible my interpretation of the picture that is with this statement: female is on the bottom, legs spread not wide wide but... enough that the male has one leg between hers and the other leg is on the outside of the good leg. There are also pictures and different positions shown... kinda long to write all this so.. - Sitting position : this position works with the male on bottom and the female on top. - Side lying position : this position works well for male and femal patients - Standing position: This positionworks well for male and female patients POSITION YOUR YOURSELF FOR LOVE To avoid dislocating your hip during the first three months after surgery, follow these rules: - avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees - don't let your affected leg turn inward - keep your knees about shoulder= width apart - don't cross your legs - don't twist your body To the fella who doesn't have the urge... the following is in the booklet: MEDICINE SIDE EFFECTS Some medicines you take after hip surgery (like pain pills and cortisone) may cause: - decreased desire - trouble getting and erection - vaginal dryness - delayed orgasm Talk with your doctor about the medicines you're taking. Ask if any of them can cause some of these effects. CAUTION: Never stop taking any medicine unless your doctor tells you to. Don't know if this affecting you but.. for your knowledge. Hope this helps answer some of your questions Carole (47) Be your own advocate! The best patient is an informed patient! Celebrate 's 10th Birthday! Netrospective: 100 Moments of the Web Be your own advocate! The best patient is an informed patient! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 4, 2005 Report Share Posted March 4, 2005 My best advice for sex after THR is this... make sure you partner is understanding and is willing to stop when you say stop. I really missed the affection from my partner after my surgery. He was very gentle and kept asking if I was alright. When I told him I couldn't take anymore, he stopped. Gradually things got better. Even 4 years later, I still have pain during intercourse and he is sensitive to my pain and is very gentle. Make your pain known before, during and after sex and your partner will understand. Dani RE: sensitive topic > > Hi Eleanor/ everyone > > We are all adults here and sex is a part of life so lets learn more > about it, as the booklet says " Back to love after hip replacement " > > I received an instruction sheet which was supposed to have been made up > by my doctor and handed out to all his patients. Now on this sheet, it > says no sex for 3 months. It also said no driving for 3 months and no > baths ever. Well I have driven before 4 weeks was up, I have taken > several baths and my surgery was Jan 13th. Unfortunately I don't have a > partner right now to try out these position in the book :-) but I plan > to change that soon " wink " > > Now I will write you a few things mentioned in the booket: > > THAT LOVING FEELING > > Once you feel interested in having sex, you want to know when you can > get started. Many people return to sex 6-8 weeks after surgery. For > others, this is not nearly long enough. Everyone's time frame is > different. It depends on: > > - your age > - your overal health (physical and mental) > - how well you are healing from the surgery. > > You'll know when you feel ready to take the next step. If you are still > in pain or are not comfortable with the thought of having sex, don't. > If you think you are ready talk to your doctor to make sure its safe for > you to start having sex again. > > DISLOCATION > For the first 3 months after surgery, your new hip is still healing. > This puts you at risk for dislocating your hip. Dislocation occurs when > the ball of your new hip joint comes out of the socket. After your > surgery, the muscles around your hip are weak and have not completely > healed. As a result you should avoid certain positions with your > affected leg. > > Now to answer your question about spreading your legs.......... > > quote > PATIENT ON BOTTOM/PARTNER ON TOP > This position works well for both male and female patients. This is > usually the most comfortable position to use right after surgery. When > using this position, make sure to: > > -avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees > -keep your affected leg out to the side > -Make sure your toes don't point inward > -place a pillow under the thingh of your affected leg (if it makes you > feel more comfortable) > -try to move your afected leg as little as possible > > my interpretation of the picture that is with this statement: > > female is on the bottom, legs spread not wide wide but... enough that > the male has one leg between hers and the other leg is on the outside of > the good leg. > > There are also pictures and different positions shown... kinda long to > write all this so.. > > - Sitting position : this position works with the male on bottom and the > female on top. > - Side lying position : this position works well for male and femal > patients > - Standing position: This positionworks well for male and female > patients > > > POSITION YOUR YOURSELF FOR LOVE > > To avoid dislocating your hip during the first three months after > surgery, follow these rules: > > - avoid bending your new hip more than 90 degrees > - don't let your affected leg turn inward - keep your knees about > shoulder= width apart > - don't cross your legs > - don't twist your body > > > > > To the fella who doesn't have the urge... the following is in the > booklet: > > MEDICINE SIDE EFFECTS > > Some medicines you take after hip surgery (like pain pills and > cortisone) may cause: > > - decreased desire > - trouble getting and erection > - vaginal dryness > - delayed orgasm > > Talk with your doctor about the medicines you're taking. Ask if any of > them can cause some of these effects. > CAUTION: Never stop taking any medicine unless your doctor tells you to. > > Don't know if this affecting you but.. for your knowledge. > > > Hope this helps answer some of your questions > > Carole (47) > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Deb Drakeley wrote: > Thanks!! So does this mean that after 3 months you can pretty much do > any position??? As with everything, your mileage might vary. take your doctor's advice, and most importantly, listen carefully to the messages your body is sending you. For some people, particular angles are painful, or bearing their partner's weight in some ways. And sometimes you might find that, even if if normally goes that way, right then, at that really bad timing moment, your hip might not co-operate. An understanding partner, who can listen to a " uh, got to move right NOW " without panic or crossness is a vital part of that equation. p.s. and, just for the record, knees up against your chest are =not= a smart idea. Ow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2005 Report Share Posted March 5, 2005 Well Deb, Although at times I feel I could put my legs over my hubby's shoulders I have been told it is not a good idea. And I have no burning desire to do it (more than to just show off that I can). What is important to you, what makes you feel whole. That is what I take as my guideline. Aussie Margaret RE: sensitive topic > Thanks!! So does this mean that after 3 months you can pretty much do > any position??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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