Re: Dislocation

[Guest guest]

because I was going to find a great doc in your area for you but you

seem so negitive I dont think I will waste my time sorry for trying

to help Dale we are are trying, but you argue about everything

I know your in pain but ths groups agenda is the help each other and

share information to be helful

tammy

> > > > well I had my two week post op thr and found out why I

have

> > had so

> > > > much pain I am dislocated,

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[Guest guest]

Hi Dale

You are obviously in a very difficult situation, suffering a

considerable amout of pain, and stuck between a rock and a hard

place. But is there any need to be so rude to Terry?

A large percentage of those of us in this group are younger than the

average for hip or knee replacements. And so almost all of us have

had to face loss of earnings, worry about money, or problems managing

a family through a period of difficult health. Right now, I'm unable

to work at all--I'm a contract worker and I only get paid when I go

to work--and it could be months before I can again. We're going to be

incredibly short of money, and, no, I'm not sure how we'll manage.

But we'll just have to. A lot of people here have been in this

situation, and understand this deep down panic.

Weeks off in pain is not an " option " for anyone: no one chooses weeks

of pain, and it's not laziness that puts anyone there. If anyone is

flat on their back for weeks, is because they have no choice at all.

It's because, however strong the spirit and the need, it's just not

possible to walk, stand, move, operate normally, or anything

approaching normally. Some people can't do their work when taking

strong pain medications, either and have to choose between working in

agony, or controlling some of their pain and watching their income

vanish. Neither of these is what any sane person would call a *choice*.

Most importantly, no doctor is going to give you a 100% guarantee of

no restrictions before he operates. None. There are no guarantees

with surgery. You probably will come out of sugery and recovery with

a pin free hip, and minimal restrictions, but there is no chance a

doc will sign a piece of paper saying that before he operates. How

can s/he? You might be the one in a hundred who has problems after.

You might take longer than 6 months to get back to full strength. Or,

your previous surgery and situation might have weakened your thigh

bone to the point where a sensible surgeon will say " go, be free, but

no running, no jumping, and no carrying weights greater than 50lbs at

a time " . There is *no* way of telling, ahead of time, and any doctor

that puts a signature to a piece of paper saying you'll be magically

perfect is a fool.

The human body does not come with any guarantees at all.

Your employers are obviously being deeply unrealistic, and unfair,

too. I'm assuming you've already discussed alternatives with them,

jobs that you could do which don't involve hard physical labour. Are

you in a position to consider looking for a different type of

employment after you've recovered? At least to *think* about

alternatives?

With my first replacement, I had to leave my job because it was too

physical--lots of lifting, and standing all day and I could barely

walk--but two months after surgery I was up and about enough to apply

for and start a new, entirely different job. Yes, I was lucky to find

one, but I had no choice. I had to earn money, and I was no longer

capable to do the previous job, So I spent half of my recovery time

filling in forms and applying for new jobs, and got myself to

interviews while still on my crutches. I'll have to do the same again

this time. I'm not happy about the interruption and the upheaval, all

over again, but so what? It has to be done.

I'm sorry this is so long, and so stroppy, but the people on this

board are incredibly kind and supportive, and their experience is

wide, and I don't like seeing people attacked or snapped at.

>

> Explain more than you did. What put you in bed for 7 weeks? What

did your doc do? And if I take one day off work I am paying for it by

playing " catch-up " with the bills. & weeks off and in bed is not an

option for me. So don't " dear Dale " me. Especially without explaining

your situation. I have a family to take care of with bills to pay.

Just leaving on account of pain is not an option I have, yet. If not

for my pain meds I would not make it. And I am building up such a

tolerance I am in an ever increasing danger of running out before I

can get anymore with every passing month.

>

>

> Dale

[Guest guest]

Thanks Tammy,

Dale,

you are at a crossroad in life that some of us have had to face. The choices

you need to make are not easy and for a while are only going to get tougher. You

have to wake up and realize that you have a disease that is going to force

major changes in your life. The disease is now part of your life and there is

no magic wand to make it go away. You need to adapt to it because it is not

going to adapt to you. Many people have been down this path before you and

every one of them has had to make huge sacrifices to keep going. You may need

to move to an area where the cost of living is lower or one that has a better

welfare program. You can get mad at me if you want but I had to give up my

career too. S.S. disability now pays me monthly what I used to make every week.

The bank has my house and they took the car two weeks ago. My brother is

financing this business to help give me a future, but I am alive and I still

have my family. Sure life sucks right now but we will make it through this mess

somehow.

Take

some of your pent up energy and use it to look into re-training programs, government

grants and state/federal aid because whether you like it or not your health

needs attention. If you wait too long things will get even worse!

[Guest guest]

Well said, . Terry has suffered at the hands of an incredibly bad doctor. She received no physical therapy until she found this page. Her recovery had been greatly set back. We hope not irreparably. You can find this all out by reading past threads. Meanwhile, she can't work and, has six teenagers at home -- biological and adopted -- some with special needs, which is also very expensive. I wish I had a tenth of her strength and compassion. I don't think Terry needs to explain herself to anyone. katie cooke <heyoka@...> wrote: Hi DaleYou are obviously in a very difficult situation, suffering a considerable amout of pain, and stuck between a rock and a hard place. But is there any need to be so rude to Terry?A large percentage of those of us in this group are younger than the average for hip or knee replacements. And so almost all of us have had to face loss of earnings, worry about money, or problems managing a family through a period of difficult health. Right now, I'm unable to work at all--I'm a contract worker and I only get paid when I go to work--and it could be months before I can again. We're going to be incredibly short of money, and, no, I'm not sure how we'll manage. But we'll just have to. A lot of people here have been in this situation, and

understand this deep down panic.Weeks off in pain is not an "option" for anyone: no one chooses weeks of pain, and it's not laziness that puts anyone there. If anyone is flat on their back for weeks, is because they have no choice at all. It's because, however strong the spirit and the need, it's just not possible to walk, stand, move, operate normally, or anything approaching normally. Some people can't do their work when taking strong pain medications, either and have to choose between working in agony, or controlling some of their pain and watching their income vanish. Neither of these is what any sane person would call a *choice*.Most importantly, no doctor is going to give you a 100% guarantee of no restrictions before he operates. None. There are no guarantees with surgery. You probably will come out of sugery and recovery with a pin free hip, and minimal restrictions, but there is no chance a doc will

sign a piece of paper saying that before he operates. How can s/he? You might be the one in a hundred who has problems after. You might take longer than 6 months to get back to full strength. Or, your previous surgery and situation might have weakened your thigh bone to the point where a sensible surgeon will say "go, be free, but no running, no jumping, and no carrying weights greater than 50lbs at a time". There is *no* way of telling, ahead of time, and any doctor that puts a signature to a piece of paper saying you'll be magically perfect is a fool.The human body does not come with any guarantees at all.Your employers are obviously being deeply unrealistic, and unfair, too. I'm assuming you've already discussed alternatives with them, jobs that you could do which don't involve hard physical labour. Are you in a position to consider looking for a different type of employment after you've recovered? At least

to *think* about alternatives?With my first replacement, I had to leave my job because it was too physical--lots of lifting, and standing all day and I could barely walk--but two months after surgery I was up and about enough to apply for and start a new, entirely different job. Yes, I was lucky to find one, but I had no choice. I had to earn money, and I was no longer capable to do the previous job, So I spent half of my recovery time filling in forms and applying for new jobs, and got myself to interviews while still on my crutches. I'll have to do the same again this time. I'm not happy about the interruption and the upheaval, all over again, but so what? It has to be done.I'm sorry this is so long, and so stroppy, but the people on this board are incredibly kind and supportive, and their experience is wide, and I don't like seeing people attacked or snapped at.>> Explain more than you did. What put you in bed for 7 weeks? What did your doc do? And if I take one day off work I am paying for it by playing "catch-up" with the bills. & weeks off and in bed is not an option for me. So don't "dear Dale" me. Especially without explaining your situation. I have a family to take care of with bills to pay. Just leaving on account of pain is not an option I have, yet. If not for my pain meds I would not make it. And I am building up such a tolerance I am in an ever increasing danger of running out before I can get anymore with every passing month.>>> Dale

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