Re: Homework Help

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Marci,

My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if your

son has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (for

the most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end of

the day) that he spends with a para alone doing his homework.

Otherwise, when it came home the very " idea " of doing it (unless it was a

fun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal with

this last night. He " tried out " a swear that he heard in school, at school

for the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibility

room (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get his

homework done during that time at school. His case manager called me and

warned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be done

during lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting with

him and the idea of " no TV " until he made a decent effort, but we got most

of it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,

plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!

Good luck.

-Charlotte

Nothing seems to help. I would

love any suggestions. Friday we have a scheduled IEP.

I would also love suggestions in trying to help his

teachers understand that he may be " good " for them but

by the time he comes home he is spent and I get all of

the frustration of his day.

)O( Marci

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I'm in a predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always what he "refuses" to do at school. They end up sending it home with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of weeks.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:Marci,My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if yourson has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (forthe most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end ofthe day) that he spends with a para alone doing his homework.Otherwise, when it came home the very "idea" of doing it (unless it was afun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal withthis last night. He "tried out" a swear that he heard in school, at schoolfor the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibilityroom (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get hishomework done during that time at school. His case manager called me andwarned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be doneduring lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting withhim and the idea of "no TV" until he made a decent effort, but we got mostof it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!Good luck.

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Hi Marci,

We have it written in our IEP to limit the homework, due to the stress on Kenny, and us.....we live in GA, and the rule of thumb is 10 minutes per grade, i.e.., 5th grade, 50 minutes. Well, that's too long. We also have it written for him to do anything he can on the computer & print it out. Kenny also has Dysgraphia, so that was not too hard to get. As far as the teachers go, their day is done when yours begins for the second time. Depending on what state you live in will determine the result, and just warn them that when you have a solid dx, you will be requesting another IEP to get it all straight. In the meantime, keep educating yourself. Peek around on this site: http://www.iep4u.com/ and good luck, let us know how it goes!

~

Homework Help

Hi I am the Mom of a 10 year old with Asperger's. Heis not officially diagnosed yet but will be inDecember. It took a year to get an appointment with aqualified Neurologist. My son refuses to do homework.When I try to get him to do it we often end up in amelt down situation with lots of crying on both of ourparts. I have tried reward systems, letting theschool handle it with their consequences, and triedfollowing a schedule. Nothing seems to help. I wouldlove any suggestions. Friday we have a scheduled IEP.I would also love suggestions in trying to help histeachers understand that he may be "good" for them butby the time he comes home he is spent and I get all ofthe frustration of his day.)O( MarciNecessity is the mother of taking chances." - Mark Twain __________________________________ FareChase: Search multiple travel sites in one click.http://farechase.

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I have a 3 year old and a new husband who is a

truck driver and on the road 4 days out of the week.

I hate sitting in these meetings and looking like a

neglectful parent because my son does not do his

homework and I am often too tired to fight for hours

after working a full time day sometimes 9 hours and

can barely muster the energy to make dinner, get baths

done and get the little one to sleep. I am sorry but

by this time I want to plop in front of the TV with a

cup of tea and a cigarette and watch whatever mindless

humor I can find. I am interested to see what this

year's teacher is like. Last year the woman sighed

alot during the meetings and seemed disgusted to have

to deal with Ahren at all. She was a new Mom

returning from maternity leave. The last meeting of

the year I could hold my tongue no longer and said to

her " I hope you never have to know the challenge of

raising a child with a disability few are willing to

understand. "

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

__________________________________

- PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005

http://mail.

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Hi Marci

My Lucas is 9 and not officialy dx with aspegers but has many

learning dissabillities and adhd, odd. The school should understand

after being in school all day he doesn't want to do more homework

and I won't let it cause a meltdown.

Lucas' school has no incentives either. I talked to the SERT today

asking why their was no incentives for homework, let alone Lucas'

homework is not written down and often forgotten. I had him exempt

from french. I thought they were going to give me a hard time but

they are doing an assessment and realize (as I told them) he can not

say his abc's or tell you the days of the week. He can't sequence

or memorize. I know he falls in the spectrum but I question

aspegers because he is definately below grade level so I thought he

would be PdD nos but it doesn't really matter. We have no money for

an assessment and the screening was quite intensive.

I'm sorry I can't really give suggestions to help. We just hired a

behavior therapist and started tokens and they are working. I had

tried tokens and many other stuff before and it didn't work.

dandyliondawn

good luck

dandyliondawn

>

>

> Hi I am the Mom of a 10 year old with Asperger's. He

> is not officially diagnosed yet but will be in

> December. It took a year to get an appointment with a

> qualified Neurologist. My son refuses to do homework.

> When I try to get him to do it we often end up in a

> melt down situation with lots of crying on both of our

> parts. I have tried reward systems, letting the

> school handle it with their consequences, and tried

> following a schedule. Nothing seems to help. I would

> love any suggestions. Friday we have a scheduled IEP.

> I would also love suggestions in trying to help his

> teachers understand that he may be " good " for them but

> by the time he comes home he is spent and I get all of

> the frustration of his day.

>

> )O( Marci

> Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

>

> - Mark Twain

>

>

>

> __________________________________

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> http://farechase.

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Don't you just wish these educators can walk for a week in our shoes?!?!?!? I am sick of the daily battles of justifying our dx!!!!!!

RE: Homework Help

I'm in a predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always what he "refuses" to do at school. They end up sending it home with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of weeks.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:Marci,My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if yourson has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (forthe most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end ofthe day) that he spends with a para alone doing his homework.Otherwise, when it came home the very "idea" of doing it (unless it was afun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal withthis last night. He "tried out" a swear that he heard in school, at schoolfor the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibilityroom (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get hishomework done during that time at school. His case manager called me andwarned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be doneduring lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting withhim and the idea of "no TV" until he made a decent effort, but we got mostof it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!Good luck.

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Let them think what they want, a degree in sped doesn't warrant parenting advice of a special child.......just my 2 cents.

RE: Homework Help

I have a 3 year old and a new husband who is atruck driver and on the road 4 days out of the week. I hate sitting in these meetings and looking like aneglectful parent because my son does not do hishomework and I am often too tired to fight for hoursafter working a full time day sometimes 9 hours andcan barely muster the energy to make dinner, get bathsdone and get the little one to sleep. I am sorry butby this time I want to plop in front of the TV with acup of tea and a cigarette and watch whatever mindlesshumor I can find. I am interested to see what thisyear's teacher is like. Last year the woman sighedalot during the meetings and seemed disgusted to haveto deal with Ahren at all. She was a new Momreturning from maternity leave. The last meeting ofthe year I could hold my tongue no longer and said toher "I hope you never have to know the challenge ofraising a child with a disability few are willing tounderstand.")O( MarciNecessity is the mother of taking chances." - Mark Twain __________________________________ - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail.

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Marci,

You may want to have it written into his IEP that he not recieve homework. Some kids with AS just cannot handle it. Speak with his teachers and make sure you have exhausted all your resources on that matter first. No homework may be the way to go.... Good Luck!!!!

in Lancaster, CaMarci Troutman <jewiccan@...> wrote:

Hi I am the Mom of a 10 year old with Asperger's. Heis not officially diagnosed yet but will be inDecember. It took a year to get an appointment with aqualified Neurologist. My son refuses to do homework.When I try to get him to do it we often end up in amelt down situation with lots of crying on both of ourparts. I have tried reward systems, letting theschool handle it with their consequences, and triedfollowing a schedule. Nothing seems to help. I wouldlove any suggestions. Friday we have a scheduled IEP.I would also love suggestions in trying to help histeachers understand that he may be "good" for them butby the time he comes home he is spent and I get all ofthe frustration of his day.)O( MarciNecessity is the mother of taking chances." - Mark

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What state are you in? (dandyliondawn)

Re: Homework Help

Hi MarciMy Lucas is 9 and not officialy dx with aspegers but has many learning dissabillities and adhd, odd. The school should understand after being in school all day he doesn't want to do more homework and I won't let it cause a meltdown. Lucas' school has no incentives either. I talked to the SERT today asking why their was no incentives for homework, let alone Lucas' homework is not written down and often forgotten. I had him exempt from french. I thought they were going to give me a hard time but they are doing an assessment and realize (as I told them) he can not say his abc's or tell you the days of the week. He can't sequence or memorize. I know he falls in the spectrum but I question aspegers because he is definately below grade level so I thought he would be PdD nos but it doesn't really matter. We have no money for an assessment and the screening was quite intensive.I'm sorry I can't really give suggestions to help. We just hired a behavior therapist and started tokens and they are working. I had tried tokens and many other stuff before and it didn't work.dandyliondawngood luckdandyliondawn>> > Hi I am the Mom of a 10 year old with Asperger's. He> is not officially diagnosed yet but will be in> December. It took a year to get an appointment with a> qualified Neurologist. My son refuses to do homework.> When I try to get him to do it we often end up in a> melt down situation with lots of crying on both of our> parts. I have tried reward systems, letting the> school handle it with their consequences, and tried> following a schedule. Nothing seems to help. I would> love any suggestions. Friday we have a scheduled IEP.> I would also love suggestions in trying to help his> teachers understand that he may be "good" for them but> by the time he comes home he is spent and I get all of> the frustration of his day.> > )O( Marci> Necessity is the mother of taking chances." > > - Mark Twain> > > > __________________________________ > FareChase: Search multiple travel sites in one click.> http://farechase.>

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You can request a psyco educational evaluation. The

school has to administer this test at no cost to you.

They have 30 days to do it. Threated to get an

advocate it will get them moving quickly. I would

also contact your local Intermediate Unit for further

assistance.

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

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I think the most frustrating of all of this is my son

gets " detention " every week for not completion of

homework assignments. At first he liked it because it

meant he got to stay in while the other kids were at

the playground for an extra recess which he hated.

Once they realized this was no punishment they added a

writing assignment to the detention where he has to

write a 250 word essay each detention. He hates

writing and it is a constant source of frustration for

him. He still writes like a preschooler penmanship

wise. As far as his vocabulary and spelling he is off

the charts!

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

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My son too has an ADHD dx. Only because I told a

quack Neurologist what he wanted to hear to get a dx

to work with the schools. At the time I did not know

you couldn't get and IEP with ADHD. I had to go for

the Psycho-Ed Eval. Other testing following showed

the learning disabilities in processing.

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

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Look up "dysgraphia", a writing disorder, often associated w/Aspies.

Re: Homework Help

I think the most frustrating of all of this is my songets "detention" every week for not completion ofhomework assignments. At first he liked it because itmeant he got to stay in while the other kids were atthe playground for an extra recess which he hated. Once they realized this was no punishment they added awriting assignment to the detention where he has towrite a 250 word essay each detention. He hateswriting and it is a constant source of frustration forhim. He still writes like a preschooler penmanshipwise. As far as his vocabulary and spelling he is offthe charts!)O( MarciNecessity is the mother of taking chances." - Mark Twain __________________________________ - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail.

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When my son started with work refusal at

school I created a behavior contract at home. It clearly states that to

earn any TV time at home in the evening that a reasonable effort shall be made

and no work he is asked to do may be refused. Since the creation of the

contract 3 weeks ago, he has not refused to do anything.

-Charlotte

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Sent: Tuesday, November 08, 2005

10:26 AM

Autism and Aspergers Treatment

Subject: RE:

Homework Help

I'm in a

predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always

what he " refuses " to do at school. They end up sending it home

with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying

to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do

laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my

aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school

to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't

know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of

weeks.

a - Peoria IL

-- " Charlotte " <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

Marci,

My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same

thing. I don't know if your

son has an IEP but I had it written into my sons

IEP that his homework (for

the most part) is to be done at school. He

has an hour a day (at the end of

the day) that he spends with a para alone doing

his homework.

Otherwise, when it came home the very

" idea " of doing it (unless it was a

fun project) sent him into a total meltdown.

I actually had to deal with

this last night. He " tried out " a

swear that he heard in school, at school

for the first time yesterday and as a result had

to go to the responsibility

room (after it was explained why). Because

of this he did not get his

homework done during that time at school.

His case manager called me and

warned me but said whatever we could not get done

at home would be done

during lunchtime today. It took a tantrum

and 2 hours of me sitting with

him and the idea of " no TV " until he

made a decent effort, but we got most

of it done. But I don't have the energy or

stamina to do that every night,

plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter

too!!

Good luck.

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I considered this too. How old is your son? Mine is 9-1/2. So far, I've told him no Riverplex party for his May birthday if this behavior continues. He has to earn this party or no party....just a stay at home relative party.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

When my son started with work refusal at school I created a behavior contract at home. It clearly states that to earn any TV time at home in the evening that a reasonable effort shall be made and no work he is asked to do may be refused. Since the creation of the contract 3 weeks ago, he has not refused to do anything.

-Charlotte

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Charlotte, Can you send me a copy of your home behavior contract? Although I don't have to deal with the Homework issue - It's in my 12 yr old son's IEP that he never have any homework - I do have many other issues that your contract might be able to help me with. You can email me directly at vrappold@... Thanks so much, .

RE: Homework Help

When my son started with work refusal at school I created a behavior contract at home. It clearly states that to earn any TV time at home in the evening that a reasonable effort shall be made and no work he is asked to do may be refused. Since the creation of the contract 3 weeks ago, he has not refused to do anything.

-Charlotte

From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of pjand3kidsSent: Tuesday, November 08, 2005 10:26 AMAutism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: RE: Homework Help

I'm in a predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always what he "refuses" to do at school. They end up sending it home with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of weeks.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:Marci,My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if yourson has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (forthe most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end ofthe day) that he spends with a para alone doing his homework.Otherwise, when it came home the very "idea" of doing it (unless it was afun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal withthis last night. He "tried out" a swear that he heard in school, at schoolfor the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibilityroom (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get hishomework done during that time at school. His case manager called me andwarned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be doneduring lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting withhim and the idea of "no TV" until he made a decent effort, but we got mostof it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!Good luck.

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I would also request that he get an evaluation done by an occupational therapist. If after the evaluation they find that he does have issues with his small motor functions that are needed for writing, they will definitely ease off on the writing issue and hopefully get him some help in that area so that he doesn't have to deal with that frustration anymore.

Re: Homework Help

I think the most frustrating of all of this is my songets "detention" every week for not completion ofhomework assignments. At first he liked it because itmeant he got to stay in while the other kids were atthe playground for an extra recess which he hated. Once they realized this was no punishment they added awriting assignment to the detention where he has towrite a 250 word essay each detention. He hateswriting and it is a constant source of frustration forhim. He still writes like a preschooler penmanshipwise. As far as his vocabulary and spelling he is offthe charts!)O( MarciNecessity is the mother of taking chances." - Mark Twain __________________________________ - PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005 http://mail.

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IM right there with ya

Marci.

RE:

Homework Help

I have a 3 year old and a new husband who

is a

truck driver and on the road 4 days out of the

week.

I hate sitting in these meetings and looking like

a

neglectful parent because my son does not do his

homework and I am often too tired to fight for

hours

after working a full time day sometimes 9 hours

and

can barely muster the energy to make dinner, get

baths

done and get the little one to sleep. I am

sorry but

by this time I want to plop in front of the TV

with a

cup of tea and a cigarette and watch whatever

mindless

humor I can find. I am interested to see

what this

year's teacher is like. Last year the woman

sighed

alot during the meetings and seemed disgusted to

have

to deal with Ahren at all. She was a new Mom

returning from maternity leave. The last

meeting of

the year I could hold my tongue no longer and said

to

her " I hope you never have to know the

challenge of

raising a child with a disability few are willing

to

understand. "

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

__________________________________

- PC Magazine Editors' Choice 2005

http://mail.

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Have them set aside time at school for him to do homework or have it written into his IEP that there is to be no homework sent home for him as it is overwhelming him. I know its a huge struggle with these kids to do homework....

in Lancaster, Capjand3kids <pjand3kids@...> wrote:

I'm in a predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always what he "refuses" to do at school. They end up sending it home with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of weeks.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:Marci,My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if yourson has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (forthe most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end ofthe day) that he spends with a para alone doing his homework.Otherwise, when it came home the very "idea" of doing it (unless it was afun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal withthis last night. He "tried out" a swear that he heard in school, at schoolfor the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibilityroom (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get hishomework done during that time at school. His case manager called me andwarned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be doneduring

lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting withhim and the idea of "no TV" until he made a decent effort, but we got mostof it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!Good luck.

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Charlotte,

LOL!!! Isnt it funny how the kids do that when threatened with no TV????? My son would take TV through an I.V bag if he could....LOL..... I have done the same thing..... If he refuses, no playstation, no tv...... If he completes his homework all week he gets a small reward..... It has worked like a charm......

in Lancaster, CaCharlotte <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

When my son started with work refusal at school I created a behavior contract at home. It clearly states that to earn any TV time at home in the evening that a reasonable effort shall be made and no work he is asked to do may be refused. Since the creation of the contract 3 weeks ago, he has not refused to do anything.

-Charlotte

From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of pjand3kidsSent: Tuesday, November 08, 2005 10:26 AMAutism and Aspergers Treatment Subject: RE: Homework Help

I'm in a predicament with my son and homework. Only, my son's homework is always what he "refuses" to do at school. They end up sending it home with me, and I spend hours fighting his attention issues, and attitude trying to get it done. I'm a single parent with 2 other kids, and I have to do laundry, cook, clean, more homework with them, and I just can't deal with my aspie son and this issue. I don't know how to get him motivated at school to do his work! He is so bright, but attention is huge! I don't know what to do. We are meeting for an IEP over this in a couple of weeks.

a - Peoria IL-- "Charlotte" <scottdesigns@...> wrote:Marci,My son is 12 and AS and I deal with the same thing. I don't know if yourson has an IEP but I had it written into my sons IEP that his homework (forthe most part) is to be done at school. He has an hour a day (at the end ofthe day) that he spends with

a para alone doing his homework.Otherwise, when it came home the very "idea" of doing it (unless it was afun project) sent him into a total meltdown. I actually had to deal withthis last night. He "tried out" a swear that he heard in school, at schoolfor the first time yesterday and as a result had to go to the responsibilityroom (after it was explained why). Because of this he did not get hishomework done during that time at school. His case manager called me andwarned me but said whatever we could not get done at home would be doneduring lunchtime today. It took a tantrum and 2 hours of me sitting

withhim and the idea of "no TV" until he made a decent effort, but we got mostof it done. But I don't have the energy or stamina to do that every night,plus I have a rather energetic 4 y/o nt daughter too!!Good luck.

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Hi a,

>>I considered this too. How old is your son? Mine is 9-1/2. So far, I've

>>told him no Riverplex party for his May birthday if this behavior

>>continues. He has to earn this party or no party....just a stay at home

>>relative party.<<

I would suggest that this is too far away and is just too big a thing to

depend on 'good behaviour'. How are you going to measure it? Does he lose

the party for just one lapse?

Rewards have got to be small and immediate. What you are doing is much too

abstract for someone with ASD.

And never, ever give a reward and then take it away. That will remove all

incentive to ever even try to do things which he doesn't understand the

reason for (ie anything which has a social goal).

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He just turned 12 and I think having

something in writing like the contract has made a huge difference.

-Charlotte

From: Autism and Aspergers Treatment [mailto:Autism and Aspergers Treatment ] On Behalf Of pjand3kids

Sent: Wednesday, November 09, 2005

9:05 AM

Autism and Aspergers Treatment

Subject: RE:

Homework Help

I

considered this too. How old is your son? Mine is 9-1/2. So

far, I've told him no Riverplex party for his May birthday if this behavior

continues. He has to earn this party or no party....just a stay at home

relative party.

a - Peoria IL

-- " Charlotte " <scottdesigns@...> wrote:

When my son started with work refusal at

school I created a behavior contract at home. It clearly states that to

earn any TV time at home in the evening that a reasonable effort shall be made

and no work he is asked to do may be refused. Since the creation of the

contract 3 weeks ago, he has not refused to do anything.

-Charlotte

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Marci,

Our contract is for work refusal at school, If they sent his homework home

often I don't imagine it work as well here since he hates homework about as

much as he loves the TV!

-Charlotte

RE: Homework Help

I have tried contracts with Ahren. They work for a

few weeks then he just doesn't care any more. I have

used bribery by having him earn a coveted toy. I have

used one on one days with either his step father or

myself. To do a day trip just for him of his choice.

In all cases it lasts a little bit then he quits.

Nothing is worth the torture of having to sit and do

homework.

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

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We actually took the TV out of Ahren's room he only

got PBS in there. We took away his computer and all of

his toys. We allowed him to pick one thing to play

with if he did at least a sample of homework from each

subject. He didn't care he has such a vivid

imagination he just played with his socks.

)O( Marci

Necessity is the mother of taking chances. "

- Mark Twain

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