I hope its ok for me to post here.... (m)

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My name is Kris and I am in MN. I am not a LP, but my brother in law

is. His name is and is a great guy, so generous, loving, out-

going. He is Chinese and his family moved to the U.S in 1979. He

has been raised here and is very American. The problem is that my

MIL was very protective of all her children, not just . They

couldn't go to friends houses for birthday parties, stay after school

for activities, etc. Therefore the older children didn't have that

many friends growing up. My husband is the youngest and the only

child born in the US. He is VERY Americanized and his mother was

much more lenient with him than the others, therefore he has a lot of

friends and social involvement. , on the other hand, never had

the chance to get out and have fun with others.

Now, that I have explained all this..... here are my concerns.....

recently graduated from college and got his first job in the

computer industry. He bought a house and my MIL and niece live with

him. However, he is very bitter. He wants his independence, and

wellfully so, I would too. But his mom is so protective of him, and

he feels very obligated to her. This is just background info for

you. No one ever talks about his dwarfism, no one ever supported him

growing up, never introduced him to other LP. When my husband and I

bring it up just to see if he wants to talk about his feelings or

whatever (oh, forgot to mention that my husband and are very

close) he always changes the subject. I really want to introduce him

to other LP. I don't know, obviously, the challenges or feelings

that go along with being a LP, but I think that he could use someone

to relate to. In my experience..... I am a stay at home mom. I am

23 years old and have a 18 month old and a baby on the way. I

recently graduated and decided that I didn't want to work in the

corporate world, but rather raise my children. All my friends are

single, childless, and working. I feel totally out of place, odd,

lonely etc. I had to get out of the house and meet other people like

me. To be able to relate, talk about my experiences, frustrations,

feelings etc. I feel that needs people that he can relate to to

talk to too. Am I wrong?? But when I bring up this to him he says

NO. I recently told him that the LPA convention was in MN and that

he could meet some people there he wouldn't think of it.

I guess I am just asking what you all think. I just want him to be

happy and he is NOT. He is SO depressed and I know he has mentioned

suicide before. My husband, me, and SIL are so supportive to him and

are always including him in everything. We don't treat him like he

is not normal, like others do. He is a WONDERFUL guy, he just needs

more social interaction in my opinion.

Thanks for letting me post!

Kris