Re: AS man / LP woman (follow-up)

[Guest guest]

My thanks to the *many* kind people who sent me thoughtful, friendly

responses. Here's some answers to the most commonly asked questions:

I'm 50+, she's 35+, so we're both grownups (more-or-less).

I'm a " Sensitive New Age Guy " who's been educated by many ladies in

the past, so I know how not to be sexist -- the hard part is figuring

out when the ladies *do* want you to behave that way! <G>

Our friendship is based on shared religious views and " bad attitudes "

about mainstream society and culture. I'm not pursuing her because

she's short, though I've always been attracted to petite ladies, but

because she's a friend (a category I'm pretty selective about) and

most of my female friends have also been lovers. We're both single

and neither of us is the least bit interested in marriage. I live

northwest of NYC and she lives 300 miles away, so we can't see each

other very often.

So I'm hoping to establish a more-than-casual but less-than-marriage

relationship here, and she knows that (we've talked a *lot*). Some of

the older members of this list may understand, that at some stages of

life having a friend you can cuddle with at night now-and-then is

better than having a spouse. Others will find the idea shocking and

may feel more comfortable moving on to the next post.

My major concerns with taking this relationship to the next step have

been those of not violating " dwarf etiquette " (several good tips on

this were sent -- thanks!) and making sure that I do not accidently

hurt her physically or emotionally -- just as it was when I had a

blind girlfriend or would be if I ever have a deaf one. (And how long

*does* it take to recover from hip replacement surgery?) I know that

dwarfism is only a " handicap " sometimes, but ignorance always is.

Here's another question: like many of the LP ladies I've met in RL

and online, she works hard to show a tough image to the world, though

she's really a softie inside. I would never blow her cover in public,

but how long should I pretend to believe it when we're in private?

I've been warned to expect hostility from within the LP community for

having this relationship, but I think I'll handle it the same way I

handled Black hostility when I had an African American fiancee -- one

critic at a time. Real love *does* show and decent folks will back

off when they see it.

As for creeps, like the *one* person who sent me an obscene, hostile

email about this thread, they show up in all shapes, colors, and yes,

sizes. <G>

Happy New Year everyone,

Isaac

--

*************************************************************************

Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That

way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

*************************************************************************