Guest guest Posted January 4, 2001 Report Share Posted January 4, 2001 Thanks Susie.......a hug for you too!!! Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2001 Report Share Posted January 4, 2001 i have never seen this post before, sometimes i really don't know what to say either. but no one has annoyed me at all. i think there must be something wrong with the system here. kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 jeanette Please don't feel that you are annoying anyone, least of all me. I tend to think that I am a better listener and therefore I don't post often. I also don't feel all that qualified to answer questions when there are so many more knowledgable (sp) people on this board. So I listen, post a bit & listen more. if one of us is annoying, we are all annoying. See so you have great company !!!!! LOL. hang in there, the board was a little quiet today. I for one went back to work for the first time full time days in six months & am very overwhelmed. I told my husband that I think we are at a fork in the road, he says that all I need to do is get back to work & see how wonderful it is to be with people. He doesn't see that this board is " people " . My back and my knee, post tkr hematoma were so painful to the point of being nauseated. I don't think this is the meaning of gainful employment. I think he feels that if I go out on disability, it is admitting that I truly am sick. He knows that I am sick, but with a little medicine, surgery, voo doo & whatever else he reads or hears about, the disease will go away.. NOT.................... Have a peaceful, painfree night & I look forward to hearing from you again. Gentle angel hugs, Debs in freezing FL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Hey Debs: So many husbands are in such denial. They think it is like having a cold. You just take two aspirin and lots of fluids and sleep and all will be well in the a.m. Going on disability was the best thing for me. I had worked my entire adult life and the stress of my work was making me sicker and sicker. It took 1 year to get disability and we had to tighten our belts during that year, but it was worth the wait. Now in March I will be getting Medicare so if my husband should decide to work free lance again or moves onto another job, I am covered. You take care and pay no attention to your husband's feelings about this disease. He obviously has not educated himself enough to understand and seeing you in pain doesn't do it either. Ask him how he would feel if the shoe were on the other foot and you minimized his pain and suffering. Well actually, are most men capable of even putting the shoe on the other foot? I am lucky, I have a very understanding husband. We just got married in 1997 and I did not get sick until after we were married. I developed severe asthma just prior to the wedding and had a small amount of joint pain but the worse came later. He just rolled with it. He is amazing. I often thought it would be a good thing to have a support group for our husbands. They could help eachother deal with our health issues. Take care in the sunshine state and keep those oranges coming. I eat 2-3 every day. Love and Peace, Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Jeanette I just think you and I leave people speachless! I generally just post a few. Then lay low. Too sick or tired to even peck a note. And at times, just understand so well someone elses feelings, that there is no comfort I could give, as I don't even know how to comfort myself. You annoy no one. You are a sweetheart. I wish I could hug you right now and hold you close. Susie ednettieolson@... wrote: > Are some of you people annoyed with me? I hear very little response > to my > posts that I am thinking I have annoyed people. I am sorry if I > have. I > would like to engage in some conversations too. I respond to others > posts > but I get no response back. I thought I had things to offer but maybe > I > don't. > > Jeannette > > eGroups Sponsor [Wireless web technology from Motorola] > > Our websites: http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Jeannette, I'm not annoyed with you at all. I'm just going through a lot right now. I have a lot of emotions running through my head. And to top it off I've got a terrible cold. I enjoy reading your post so keep posting. Tery - (in freezing FL with Debs) P.S. Good luck with , let us know how you are doing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 hey deb, i sometimes feel i am letting myself down or something for being out on disibility. i sometimes feel like i gave up. my friends ask me, can't you just go back to work? i was doing so well in november. i felt great!! my rheumi got so excited. she said in 7 years i have never heard you say anything like this!!! i made it to dec 14 and have been home ever since. my cough is comming back strong again. one of my friends that i walk dogs with has been dx with pneumonia. i have only deen her twice last month. we were both too sick to walk. i hope i don't have that now too. anyway i guess my point is no one knows what you are going thru besides you. do what you need to do for yourself. kathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Thanks Rhoda! Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 : I hope you are feeling better soon. You have been feeling lousy for so long. Rest alot and then rest some more. It is the best remedy of all. Take care and you are in my prayers. Lovingly, Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Thanks . I have been feeling lonely and kind of left out. I feel reassured now with everybody responding. I appreciate everybody who took the time. Thank you all. Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 i don't get all of the messages either i usually have nno clue who everyone is hugging... so (((HUG))) rhoda --- kringlemom@... wrote: > i have never seen this post before, sometimes i > really don't know what to say > either. but no one has annoyed me at all. i think > there must be something > wrong with the system here. kathy > > Our websites: > http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: > > _______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Jeannett, I know no one is annoyed with anyone. You also have so much to contribute and you offer so much help. Are you sure you are getting all the messages? In the last few days I know some people have been complaining about not getting their e-mails or getting them days late. I think someone said it is an aol problem. I don't know how you could check but I'm sure someone here will be able to help. We use to have a chat room, I'm not sure we still do. I today is a good one for you, Me Mom ---------- > From: ednettieolson@... > egroups > Subject: [ ] Are people annoyed? > Date: Thursday, January 04, 2001 10:53 PM > > Are some of you people annoyed with me? I hear very little response to my > posts that I am thinking I have annoyed people. I am sorry if I have. I > would like to engage in some conversations too. I respond to others posts > but I get no response back. I thought I had things to offer but maybe I > don't. > > Jeannette > > Our websites: http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 never annoyed jeanette you just say things better than some of us. i can barely comfort a sick child let alone an adult. guess it comes down to people skills. you have them i don't. we all love your posts. rhoda --- ednettieolson@... wrote: > Are some of you people annoyed with me? I hear very > little response to my > posts that I am thinking I have annoyed people. I > am sorry if I have. I > would like to engage in some conversations too. I > respond to others posts > but I get no response back. I thought I had things > to offer but maybe I > don't. > > Jeannette > > Our websites: > http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: > > _______________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Jeannette- I am always pleased to see your posts. Can't always answer each individually - not enough time in the day. I am back to work and the antibiotic for the bladder infection is doing battle with the arthritis meds. My stomach and joints are junky and I am crabby. Some days I think it is better if I am quiet- I'm easier to get along with LOL. Big hugs, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Please don't believe that if you aren't getting quick responses, or any at all, that people are annoyed, Jeannette. I hope nobody else believes that either. We have nearly 200 members now and the mail load can be staggering at times. Sometimes people are too sick or busy to post. Reading the posts is one thing, but finding the time to respond to them all is quite another. Also, as others have said, sometimes people aren't sure what to say to some posts. Some questions are very difficult and are beyond the reader's knowledge or experience. Or people hesitate to give advice for fear of offending someone or making the situation worse. At times, so much time has passed since the original post, people are shy about answering late (but shouldn't be - we understand). And don't forget the Dalai Lama's: " Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer " rule! I do read ALL posts eventually as I know many members do. And as much as I would like to answer them all promptly and completely, I can't. Be assured though that there is much quiet understanding and community at work here. People are interested in what others have to say and what they are going through in their lives. We can't always write about it, but we remember. We build a mental profile of our friends here and try to help them when they really need us (and did you notice how many people answered this post?). If we can't find the time or energy or words we need to post, we hope others will understand. And I believe most people do. Hope you are feeling reassured, ----- Original Message ----- From: <ednettieolson@...> < egroups> Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 9:53 PM Subject: [ ] Are people annoyed? > Are some of you people annoyed with me? I hear very little response to my > posts that I am thinking I have annoyed people. I am sorry if I have. I > would like to engage in some conversations too. I respond to others posts > but I get no response back. I thought I had things to offer but maybe I > don't. > > Jeannette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Jeanette, I have felt funny about jumping in on this because you people don't know me well at all but I will anyway. I'm not annoyed and I can't even figure out what I'm suppose to be annoyed about! Temple Kuddle Kritters Farm 3 Fox Haven Way Chelmsford, MA 01824 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2001 Report Share Posted January 7, 2001 Kathy, I've felt like I let myself down to because I am on disability. It wasn't in my plans. I had a good job and enjoyed working. Every time I have good days, I think of going back to work, but then comes a bad day I am quickly reminded why I am on disability. I hope you feel better soon. a ----- Original Message ----- From: <kringlemom@...> < egroups> Sent: Friday, January 05, 2001 9:03 AM Subject: Re: [ ] Are people annoyed? > hey deb, i sometimes feel i am letting myself down or something for being out > on disibility. i sometimes feel like i gave up. my friends ask me, can't you > just go back to work? i was doing so well in november. i felt great!! my > rheumi got so excited. she said in 7 years i have never heard you say > anything like this!!! i made it to dec 14 and have been home ever since. my > cough is comming back strong again. one of my friends that i walk dogs with > has been dx with pneumonia. i have only deen her twice last month. we were > both too sick to walk. i hope i don't have that now too. anyway i guess my > point is no one knows what you are going thru besides you. do what you need > to do for yourself. kathy > > Our websites: http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2001 Report Share Posted January 7, 2001 i was surprised, i thought my parents were gonna have a stroke!! but they were very cool about it. they hope i can go back for the social part. but i wasn't even that social. pretty much stayed to myself. people there got tired of me complaining about being dizzy all the time. one of my good friends told me. so i stopped talking. considering most of the time i'm by myself, and at work they don't want you to talk because it'll slow down your production. i hardly ever talk at all, except to the dog and my son. my fingers have been doing alot of walking though!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2001 Report Share Posted January 7, 2001 Hi Everyone: Just to keep the record clear, I want everyone to know that I am not annoyed with anyone. I figured since everyone responded to this post I should do so too. I couldn't get annoyed with any of you. I love you all and appreciate any help or conversation you bring my way. You are all a terrific group of people. Sometimes people don't always respond to me, but I know lots of people lead busy lives. Especially, those that work. I know that when you can write you usually do. I know some of you don't like to give advice too. Some of you have questions. I always try to help anyone the best that I can. Good Health to you all. Thanks Everyone Sincerely, Colletti Anjillah@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2001 Report Share Posted January 9, 2001 Kathy, I'm glad your fingers are doing lots of walking. We never get tired of hearing anyone complain here. I'm glad you found us. We all understand how you feel. a ----- Original Message ----- From: <kringlemom@...> < egroups> Sent: Sunday, January 07, 2001 9:17 AM Subject: Re: [ ] Are people annoyed? > i was surprised, i thought my parents were gonna have a stroke!! but they > were very cool about it. they hope i can go back for the social part. but i > wasn't even that social. pretty much stayed to myself. people there got tired > of me complaining about being dizzy all the time. one of my good friends told > me. so i stopped talking. considering most of the time i'm by myself, and at > work they don't want you to talk because it'll slow down your production. i > hardly ever talk at all, except to the dog and my son. my fingers have been > doing alot of walking though!! > > Chat room: chat/ > Web pages for our group: http://rheumatoid.arthritis.freehosting.net/ > http://www.rasupport.webprovider.com/ > Change subscription options: > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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