Guest guest Posted April 23, 2002 Report Share Posted April 23, 2002 Well, my sweet child got hit by zero tolerance a few times. When she was pre-21, she had a fascination with forbidden alcohol. She once put a few airline bottles and a long unopened ceramic bottle of saki into her backpack. At lunchtime in the cafeteria, she set them out in a row in front of her and opened a little bottle of gin. Well the freaked. Anyone with alcohol in the high school got a week's suspension (never mind that kids arrived drunk and had beers out the backdoor) ... so she was suspended for a week. Well it was really only a day because the next week was winter break. We thought she had learned the lesson and perhaps she did. BUT .. when her younger brother was to go on a two day college visit trip, she wanted to stay home. We set up to have a nice neighbor across the street keep an eye on her (and invite her over for supper). She was left at the front door at about nine, expecting that she would to go bed. Well 'Party Hearty' was on Jan's mind and so far as I know, she put a big glass in front of her with whiskey in it. I'm sure she didn't drink much because it tastes awful. In the end it went down the drain. Anyway, the following morning with great ds logic, she decided that Dad would notice that something was missing from the bottle so she put it in her pack and took it to school. A kid reported her emptying it into her locker and ....another full week suspension. No one identified that this was different than the kids who missed one class to go have a beer. We tolerated it because it helped teach Jan. OK there were one or two in-school suspension days for other things. When she turned 21, we went out to a restaurant (with her ID) and let her order alcohol (wine) for dinner. To this day it is all over. She'd rather have a soft drink, but she still insists on a glass of wine if her parents are having that with dinner. She has a sip and that's all. She's shown her entitlement. Now, I do sometimes worry about her meeting a young man who will ply her with sloe gin and coke. In our efforts for inclusion and regular treatment, people sometimes miss that our particular kids are special. Rick Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2002 Report Share Posted April 23, 2002 That is an amazing story about Jan. I would have never imagined her doing that, based on other stories. I have often wondered about our kids and alcohol. My children see my husband and I drink wine with dinner several times a week. knows it's wine, but it has never gone further than that. One time we asked if he wanted a sip, after his younger brothers wanted a sip and he emphatically said NO! LOL. (the other two didn't like it one bit either). Your stories about Jan continue to amaze me. Jackie, Mom to 14ds, 11, and Bradley 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2002 Report Share Posted April 23, 2002 re: zero tolerance Well 'Party Hearty' was on Jan's mind and so far as I know, she > put a big glass in front of her with whiskey in it. I'm sure she didn't > drink much because it tastes awful. In the end it went down the drain. This is too funny! Our kids are not so different. (who was a party animal in high school) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2002 Report Share Posted April 23, 2002 , My best friend in HS had a sister who was MR and in the same grade we were in. Their parents insisted we take with us on some of our evening outings. wanted beer like we had and would act like she was drunk. The truth was that would pour the beer out when she thought no one was looking, just to fit in with the " in " party crowd. We have teens in our house so there is not much room for alcohol. Tim and I aren't drinkers anyway.....Tim probably drinks no more than half a six pack a year. I drink less than a bottle of wine a year, a few wine coolers and margarettas if eating out. Our children (except ) have always been allowed a small glass of wine during Christmas celebrations. We are Catholic and that is a tradition for many families for religious celebrations. We've really downplayed drinking here. My college student has done her fair share but has tapered down. Rick talked about entitlement. just sent me pictures of her 21st birthday that included one of her drinking a corona. If I know my daughter, drinking will lose it's appeal since she is now 21 zero tolerance Hi, Locally, we have a schoolwide-club called " Look Before You Leap. " Our two oldest kids, , 12, and Kristi, 11, belong to it. The club meets once a month and talks about the dangers of alcohol, drugs, tobacco, etc. Someone said it was silly to have our kids in the club because " Kids with Down syndrome never get exposed to anything like this. " I disagreed because I feel any kid can be exposed to anything at school or in society in general. Now that I've read some of the kids on the group have at least experimented with alcohol, I feel having and Kristi go to Look Before You Leap has been beneficial, even though they are still young and live in an alcohol-free, smoke-free, drug-free home. Husband to C. Father to , Kristi, (all three Ds) and (Cri du chat) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2002 Report Share Posted April 24, 2002 , Do you only drink the blenders full of pina coladas and margaritas in Lancaster or WV??????? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 If one death is directly connected to a drug, then it should be pulled off the market. john Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 If one death is directly connected to a drug, then it should be pulled off the market. john Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 If one death is directly connected to a drug, then it should be pulled off the market. john Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 14, 2005 Report Share Posted July 14, 2005 If one death is directly connected to a drug, then it should be pulled off the market. john Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2007 Report Share Posted April 1, 2007 All around this area of Florida are a number of back-woods towns sporting " This is a Zero Tolerance Community " signs on their city limits. I always thought this was an unfortunate phrase, considering that in one of these towns the white inhabitants killed or ran off all its African American citizens, and burned their houses to the ground in one of the twentieth century's most notorious hate crimes. Am I the only one who thinks " Zero Tolerance " sounds too much like " Intolerance " for comfort? > Sorry gang, I have nothing of real import to offer here; the phrase > " zero tolerance " caught my eye and off I went. > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~Keep the Faith~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Eva > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 1, 2007 Report Share Posted April 1, 2007 Believe me, you are among friends here---all our stories are similar; bottom line, no drinking but + EtG's. Insane is too tame a word for it. Marshagtcook242 <gtcook242@...> wrote: It really is sad - I dont know the details of anyone else's situationbut I got sober July 2005, and have worked VERY hard to stay that way.I have avoided old friends, places and situations. I have not had adrink for 20 months and then I get a low level positive. It feels likeeverything came crashing down when that happened. Now I live like abasket case - reading every lable and am afraid to eat out because Icannot control the contents of the food. This is just insane.Greg TV dinner still cooling?Check out "Tonight's Picks" on TV. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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