Re: Parents, pills and paranoia---

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ANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN I dont know!!! I can handle it myself. Your father

sounds just like mine.I have a senile, very ill old father, almost

dead, and on top of THAT, he has a LOADED GUN!!!! the police had to

come last november. couldnt legally take the gun, altho they did

trick him out of some other guns that were in the closet. I cant

control him Ann. Ann he has a creepy friend, the guy has taken

EVERYTHING! thousands of dollars worth ann. This fellow cut down 30

cords of standing beautiful trees.about 200 trees, for firewood off

of our land.He has Dad brainwashed, and if I say anything, the old

guy goes for the gun. It has been a horrible nightmare. So even just

this week, we got a trigger lock for the thing. Every agency i call

shuffles us off to another. Now I am being told in order to stop the

theif, I have to get conservertorship. Its a big big mess. Yes he is

getting paranoid,weird,angry, hostile. I cant take much more of it. I

have no good advice.LOL. I was just googling kleptomaniac. To see if

that explains why a person would take everything, even things he

didnt need from a dying old man. Creepy stuff.one more thing, i lIVE

there, to take care of dad, and this is going on everytime I leave

the house. cindy

>

> Dear Cindi,

> Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a very

lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> A tyrant he is!

> My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help but the

CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these huge

plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine-- while

my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as for

pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too serious for

his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my poor

mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to make

a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy what

life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that stage of

care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not that

kind of support group but since you re care taking your father I

would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is paranoid

and a " pill " himself!

> love, Annie

> he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

>

>

> A poet is, after all, to see

>

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ANNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN I dont know!!! I can handle it myself. Your father

sounds just like mine.I have a senile, very ill old father, almost

dead, and on top of THAT, he has a LOADED GUN!!!! the police had to

come last november. couldnt legally take the gun, altho they did

trick him out of some other guns that were in the closet. I cant

control him Ann. Ann he has a creepy friend, the guy has taken

EVERYTHING! thousands of dollars worth ann. This fellow cut down 30

cords of standing beautiful trees.about 200 trees, for firewood off

of our land.He has Dad brainwashed, and if I say anything, the old

guy goes for the gun. It has been a horrible nightmare. So even just

this week, we got a trigger lock for the thing. Every agency i call

shuffles us off to another. Now I am being told in order to stop the

theif, I have to get conservertorship. Its a big big mess. Yes he is

getting paranoid,weird,angry, hostile. I cant take much more of it. I

have no good advice.LOL. I was just googling kleptomaniac. To see if

that explains why a person would take everything, even things he

didnt need from a dying old man. Creepy stuff.one more thing, i lIVE

there, to take care of dad, and this is going on everytime I leave

the house. cindy

>

> Dear Cindi,

> Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a very

lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> A tyrant he is!

> My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help but the

CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these huge

plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine-- while

my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as for

pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too serious for

his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my poor

mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to make

a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy what

life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that stage of

care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not that

kind of support group but since you re care taking your father I

would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is paranoid

and a " pill " himself!

> love, Annie

> he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

>

>

> A poet is, after all, to see

>

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[Guest guest]

....OMG!!!! I just can't believe that!!! Wow, I'm sorry that I

even complained...you're dealing with all this PLUS your own pain??

What a CREEP!!! (your dad's friend that is)...Senile And the Guns

too!?! That's a BAAD combo! Good Grief! Good Luck! You're a Saint!!!

Debbie

> >

> > Dear Cindi,

> > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a very

> lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > A tyrant he is!

> > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help but

the

> CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these huge

> plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine-- while

> my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as for

> pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too serious

for

> his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

poor

> mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

make

> a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

what

> life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that stage of

> care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

that

> kind of support group but since you re care taking your father I

> would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

paranoid

> and a " pill " himself!

> > love, Annie

> > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> >

> >

> > A poet is, after all, to see

> >

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Debbie, Well I hate to even tell people cause they will think I come

from a doozy of a family!!!but that really wasnt the case. Its really

shocking in a way to me. That this is all going on. My mother would

roll over in her grave. My father was always a problem, but somehow

my mother kept him in line. Then when she died all hell broke loose.

And the creep came out of the woodwork. I hadnt seen that fellow

since 1970. So he started to hang out as dads health failed. Just to

GET everything he could i guess. Its a real real mess. And i tell you

tho I wish. I just wish I felt better. NO MORE NECK STUFF. I guess

too, that is what senility does. Old foogies with guns, no no not

good! but you know? stress like deaths, illness, makes us feel worse

too.horrible cindy

> > >

> > > Dear Cindi,

> > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a very

> > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > A tyrant he is!

> > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help but

> the

> > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

huge

> > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

while

> > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as for

> > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too serious

> for

> > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> poor

> > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> make

> > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> what

> > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that stage

of

> > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> that

> > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father I

> > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> paranoid

> > and a " pill " himself!

> > > love, Annie

> > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > >

> > >

> > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Debbie, Well I hate to even tell people cause they will think I come

from a doozy of a family!!!but that really wasnt the case. Its really

shocking in a way to me. That this is all going on. My mother would

roll over in her grave. My father was always a problem, but somehow

my mother kept him in line. Then when she died all hell broke loose.

And the creep came out of the woodwork. I hadnt seen that fellow

since 1970. So he started to hang out as dads health failed. Just to

GET everything he could i guess. Its a real real mess. And i tell you

tho I wish. I just wish I felt better. NO MORE NECK STUFF. I guess

too, that is what senility does. Old foogies with guns, no no not

good! but you know? stress like deaths, illness, makes us feel worse

too.horrible cindy

> > >

> > > Dear Cindi,

> > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a very

> > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > A tyrant he is!

> > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help but

> the

> > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

huge

> > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

while

> > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as for

> > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too serious

> for

> > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> poor

> > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> make

> > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> what

> > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that stage

of

> > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> that

> > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father I

> > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> paranoid

> > and a " pill " himself!

> > > love, Annie

> > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > >

> > >

> > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > >

> > > ---------------------------------

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[Guest guest]

Hi , I hear ya! I understand what you're saying...it can be

really hard to grasp when you've got a parent with mental illness

on top of everything else. I feel for you!! Seems like your dads

friend is a vulture, scavanging everything he can...even trees?

I agree with Annie, was going to say the same thing. You'll need to

do it evenutally so you might as well start trying to get some

'Power of Attny' ppwk going...it's something you'll be needing in

the long run anyway when your dad will be needing you to make

decisions for him and sign things....if not already. But that'll

help give you a leg to stand on against this guy that crawled out

of the woodwork after all this time, just to see what he can get.

Hug!

Debbie

> > > >

> > > > Dear Cindi,

> > > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a

very

> > > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > > A tyrant he is!

> > > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help

but

> > the

> > > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

> huge

> > > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

> while

> > > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as

for

> > > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too

serious

> > for

> > > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> > poor

> > > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> > make

> > > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> > what

> > > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that

stage

> of

> > > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> > that

> > > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father

I

> > > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> > paranoid

> > > and a " pill " himself!

> > > > love, Annie

> > > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > > >

> > > > ---------------------------------

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> > > Search.

> > > >

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[Guest guest]

Hi , I hear ya! I understand what you're saying...it can be

really hard to grasp when you've got a parent with mental illness

on top of everything else. I feel for you!! Seems like your dads

friend is a vulture, scavanging everything he can...even trees?

I agree with Annie, was going to say the same thing. You'll need to

do it evenutally so you might as well start trying to get some

'Power of Attny' ppwk going...it's something you'll be needing in

the long run anyway when your dad will be needing you to make

decisions for him and sign things....if not already. But that'll

help give you a leg to stand on against this guy that crawled out

of the woodwork after all this time, just to see what he can get.

Hug!

Debbie

> > > >

> > > > Dear Cindi,

> > > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a

very

> > > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > > A tyrant he is!

> > > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help

but

> > the

> > > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

> huge

> > > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

> while

> > > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as

for

> > > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too

serious

> > for

> > > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> > poor

> > > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> > make

> > > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> > what

> > > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that

stage

> of

> > > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> > that

> > > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father

I

> > > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> > paranoid

> > > and a " pill " himself!

> > > > love, Annie

> > > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > > >

> > > > ---------------------------------

> > > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with

> >

> > > Search.

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Hi , I hear ya! I understand what you're saying...it can be

really hard to grasp when you've got a parent with mental illness

on top of everything else. I feel for you!! Seems like your dads

friend is a vulture, scavanging everything he can...even trees?

I agree with Annie, was going to say the same thing. You'll need to

do it evenutally so you might as well start trying to get some

'Power of Attny' ppwk going...it's something you'll be needing in

the long run anyway when your dad will be needing you to make

decisions for him and sign things....if not already. But that'll

help give you a leg to stand on against this guy that crawled out

of the woodwork after all this time, just to see what he can get.

Hug!

Debbie

> > > >

> > > > Dear Cindi,

> > > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a

very

> > > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > > A tyrant he is!

> > > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help

but

> > the

> > > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

> huge

> > > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

> while

> > > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as

for

> > > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too

serious

> > for

> > > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> > poor

> > > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> > make

> > > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> > what

> > > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that

stage

> of

> > > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> > that

> > > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father

I

> > > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> > paranoid

> > > and a " pill " himself!

> > > > love, Annie

> > > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > > >

> > > > ---------------------------------

> > > > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with

> >

> > > Search.

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

Hi , I hear ya! I understand what you're saying...it can be

really hard to grasp when you've got a parent with mental illness

on top of everything else. I feel for you!! Seems like your dads

friend is a vulture, scavanging everything he can...even trees?

I agree with Annie, was going to say the same thing. You'll need to

do it evenutally so you might as well start trying to get some

'Power of Attny' ppwk going...it's something you'll be needing in

the long run anyway when your dad will be needing you to make

decisions for him and sign things....if not already. But that'll

help give you a leg to stand on against this guy that crawled out

of the woodwork after all this time, just to see what he can get.

Hug!

Debbie

> > > >

> > > > Dear Cindi,

> > > > Your father is almost as old as mine--- 88 and after a

very

> > > lucrative law career has befallen into the state of wheel chair

> > > banishment-- and does not accept it gracefully at all.

> > > > A tyrant he is!

> > > > My mother who is 89 is care taking him with lots of help

but

> > the

> > > CNA's come and sit mostly all day drinking sodas out of these

> huge

> > > plastic gulp cups and reading their trashy People magazine--

> while

> > > my father barks commands at both my mother and them--- And as

for

> > > pills, my father is on at least 10 a day- - - nothing too

serious

> > for

> > > his facilities are in place but his personality is awful. O, my

> > poor

> > > mother--so how do you get a parent who still has life in her to

> > make

> > > a decision to get her mate into a nursing home so she can enjoy

> > what

> > > life she has left? The Dr agrees that he is ready for that

stage

> of

> > > care-- she won't make that decision. I realize that this is not

> > that

> > > kind of support group but since you re care taking your father

I

> > > would appreciate any advice as to how to handle a man who is

> > paranoid

> > > and a " pill " himself!

> > > > love, Annie

> > > > he always used to say,. " I will never be a burden

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > A poet is, after all, to see

> > > >

> > > > ---------------------------------

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