Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Beth -- My question to these fellow employees would be: what are they going to do with any information you research, that " may indicate " he has a personality disorder or mental illness??? All that would do is validate their on-going discussion about his behaviors. In addition, none are qualified to determine that from " some research " . Nor are they qualified to confront him or provide an appropriate medical work-up including a complete physical exam to rule out possible hidden food allergies, possibly a serious metabolism problem, possibly a severe vitamin/mineral deficiency, heavy metal toxicity, IBS, and a host of other possibilities. Since everyone is in agreement with observing the behaviors you mentioned, why doesn't " everyone " keep a log of what they observe including date, time and description of the incidences ... then collaboratively present them to your Human Resource Department. They would then have enough " documented information " to refer him for a physical. Just like they would with a " suspected " alcoholic, drug addict, etc. He could also be having severe side-effect reactions to SSRI's or other prescription drugs, since approximately 50% of our population is taking some kind of medications. I can certainly appreciate everyone's concern about how he is impacting other employees and clients ... however what are they going to do with any information that may confirm their suspicions??? Just my thoughts...... Jan =========================================== On Tue, 8 Mar 2005 11:37:21 -0800 (PST) BETH DBROWSKI <bdbrowski@...> writes: Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth ======== ======== .. .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Thank you, but he is the big boss, ie., the owner. There is no HR group here. He and his wife are the head honchos. creativesources@... wrote:Beth -- My question to these fellow employees would be: what are they going to do with any information you research, that " may indicate " he has a personality disorder or mental illness??? All that would do is validate their on-going discussion about his behaviors. In addition, none are qualified to determine that from " some research " . Nor are they qualified to confront him or provide an appropriate medical work-up including a complete physical exam to rule out possible hidden food allergies, possibly a serious metabolism problem, possibly a severe vitamin/mineral deficiency, heavy metal toxicity, IBS, and a host of other possibilities. Since everyone is in agreement with observing the behaviors you mentioned, why doesn't " everyone " keep a log of what they observe including date, time and description of the incidences ... then collaboratively present them to your Human Resource Department. They would then have enough " documented information " to refer him for a physical. Just like they would with a " suspected " alcoholic, drug addict, etc. He could also be having severe side-effect reactions to SSRI's or other prescription drugs, since approximately 50% of our population is taking some kind of medications. I can certainly appreciate everyone's concern about how he is impacting other employees and clients ... however what are they going to do with any information that may confirm their suspicions??? Just my thoughts...... Jan =========================================== On Tue, 8 Mar 2005 11:37:21 -0800 (PST) BETH DBROWSKI <bdbrowski@...> writes: Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth ======== ======== .. .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Thank you, but he is the big boss, ie., the owner. There is no HR group here. He and his wife are the head honchos. creativesources@... wrote:Beth -- My question to these fellow employees would be: what are they going to do with any information you research, that " may indicate " he has a personality disorder or mental illness??? All that would do is validate their on-going discussion about his behaviors. In addition, none are qualified to determine that from " some research " . Nor are they qualified to confront him or provide an appropriate medical work-up including a complete physical exam to rule out possible hidden food allergies, possibly a serious metabolism problem, possibly a severe vitamin/mineral deficiency, heavy metal toxicity, IBS, and a host of other possibilities. Since everyone is in agreement with observing the behaviors you mentioned, why doesn't " everyone " keep a log of what they observe including date, time and description of the incidences ... then collaboratively present them to your Human Resource Department. They would then have enough " documented information " to refer him for a physical. Just like they would with a " suspected " alcoholic, drug addict, etc. He could also be having severe side-effect reactions to SSRI's or other prescription drugs, since approximately 50% of our population is taking some kind of medications. I can certainly appreciate everyone's concern about how he is impacting other employees and clients ... however what are they going to do with any information that may confirm their suspicions??? Just my thoughts...... Jan =========================================== On Tue, 8 Mar 2005 11:37:21 -0800 (PST) BETH DBROWSKI <bdbrowski@...> writes: Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth ======== ======== .. .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Dear Beth, Sounds like he's just an asshole. I know that's a label too but I think it has as much scientific validity as anything out of the DSM-IV. I have known people like that and besides the fact that I really didn't like them I would not want them diagnosed because I would not want them to get worse. I usually don't try to save everyone but if I actually wanted to do something for the guy I might gently get him to take a vacation or start working out to blow off steam. He really sounds like trouble from your well worded description so probably I would simply avoid him for my own well being and get on with my life. If he behaves like you say then he is a criminal and not to be trusted or really be around for long periods of time. I would be upset around someone like that on a regular basis so I would be figuring out how to get away from him but I would not send him to the wolves, even assholes have inalienable human rights. Best, Jim Dear Jim, I know you don't believe in the DSM and psych labels but a group of my fellow employees are convinced that our boss has a serious personality disorder or mental illness.We are not joking and complaining about a bad boss, which we have all dealt with; rather, we are all well-educated, ethical, compassionate, religious, responsible professionals -lawyers, accountants, actuaries, insurance agents- with extensive work experience who have never encountered his kind of bizarre, erratic, contentious, self-destructive, abusive, irrational, lying, rationalizing, illegal, paranoid, behavior before. He has basically chased every client and employee away at some point or another. My co-workers want me to do research on whether he fits any profile of a personality disorder or mental illness. How would you approach this? -Beth __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Lol, now that's funny Jim. Let's see, what have we in the ol DSM...ah yes....'Asshole', ..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 Lol, now that's funny Jim. Let's see, what have we in the ol DSM...ah yes....'Asshole', ..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 8, 2005 Report Share Posted March 8, 2005 What do you do when your boss is crazy? There's no easy solution that's for sure. I can say that i've worked for my fair share. If he or she is not overtly violent or abusive then it is difficult to do anything. If society made it easier for people to seek out and receive adequate and humane psychological treatments then i'm sure that this problem wouldn't fall on the shoulders of everyone who works under him or her. But even then, there would be those who didn't think they had a problem. This is a very difficult subject with no easy solution. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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