Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 First off, I'm hopeful Connie will pull through this. That's probably unrealistic, but she hasn't passed yet. In the event she does pass, I doubt she'd care what happens to her body. I may be wrong. I think she'd much rather there continue to be positive thoughts and prayers about her spirit and who she was while she had her body. My wife's mother lived with us for fourteen years and passed away in November. We had her body cremated and the ashes taken to South Korea. It cost $5,000. No insurance. In order to come up with that much money for Connie, 250 - 500 of us would have to contribute $10 - $20. I don't think that's going to happen. If Scarlet is the daughter who sometimes mistreated Connie (if I understood Connie's posts correctly), I have no interest in making her more comfortable. My thoughts are strictly with Connie. No amount of financial aid will help her once she's gone. Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good feeling about the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post about her taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. Your friend, Gene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 First off, I'm hopeful Connie will pull through this. That's probably unrealistic, but she hasn't passed yet. In the event she does pass, I doubt she'd care what happens to her body. I may be wrong. I think she'd much rather there continue to be positive thoughts and prayers about her spirit and who she was while she had her body. My wife's mother lived with us for fourteen years and passed away in November. We had her body cremated and the ashes taken to South Korea. It cost $5,000. No insurance. In order to come up with that much money for Connie, 250 - 500 of us would have to contribute $10 - $20. I don't think that's going to happen. If Scarlet is the daughter who sometimes mistreated Connie (if I understood Connie's posts correctly), I have no interest in making her more comfortable. My thoughts are strictly with Connie. No amount of financial aid will help her once she's gone. Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good feeling about the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post about her taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. Your friend, Gene Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 Tatezi, If everyone in this group pitched in 10 or 20 dollars I doubt it would make a dent in what a burial costs. I have known people who died with no family, no money, no previously arranged funeral plans. In these cases the state will often pay for it. Scarlett should contact the social worker at the hospital about this. (In fact I suggested it to her already but got no response from her.) Since they are Jewish, their best bet may be to contact a local Jewish community center or a synagogue for advice/help. While I wouldn't mind donating something if needed, I absolutely cannot be responsible for it - I have way too much going on right now and barely have time to read my email and reply! Claudine --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > I'm copying Connie's significant other's response to me regarding > the Connie's hospital address, etc. > > Houston Medical Center > 1601 Boulevard > Warner Robins, Georgia 31093 > (478)-922-4281 > > Connie has no insurance nor any burial arrangements. Her daughter > has a lot on her as it is, > without the burial costs worrying her. I am not telling you that > Connie will not pull thru > but reality is to prepare for that contengiency. > > I know her daugher would not ask so I will. IF anyone can spare a > little to help it would be appreicated. > > Thanks > Dblee > > I know that Scarlett wrote requesting assistance and I also know > how many of us are struggling. Apparently it is very important to > Scarlett that there be some type of burial. If someone wants to set > up a central collection fund for donations to be sent to Scarlett, > I can afford to pitch in $10, maybe even $20 if I can eek it out of > my pay. But if we do this, I think one person should be sent all > donations (Claudine???) and send them in the name of the group. > > Blessings > Tatezi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 Tatezi, If everyone in this group pitched in 10 or 20 dollars I doubt it would make a dent in what a burial costs. I have known people who died with no family, no money, no previously arranged funeral plans. In these cases the state will often pay for it. Scarlett should contact the social worker at the hospital about this. (In fact I suggested it to her already but got no response from her.) Since they are Jewish, their best bet may be to contact a local Jewish community center or a synagogue for advice/help. While I wouldn't mind donating something if needed, I absolutely cannot be responsible for it - I have way too much going on right now and barely have time to read my email and reply! Claudine --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > I'm copying Connie's significant other's response to me regarding > the Connie's hospital address, etc. > > Houston Medical Center > 1601 Boulevard > Warner Robins, Georgia 31093 > (478)-922-4281 > > Connie has no insurance nor any burial arrangements. Her daughter > has a lot on her as it is, > without the burial costs worrying her. I am not telling you that > Connie will not pull thru > but reality is to prepare for that contengiency. > > I know her daugher would not ask so I will. IF anyone can spare a > little to help it would be appreicated. > > Thanks > Dblee > > I know that Scarlett wrote requesting assistance and I also know > how many of us are struggling. Apparently it is very important to > Scarlett that there be some type of burial. If someone wants to set > up a central collection fund for donations to be sent to Scarlett, > I can afford to pitch in $10, maybe even $20 if I can eek it out of > my pay. But if we do this, I think one person should be sent all > donations (Claudine???) and send them in the name of the group. > > Blessings > Tatezi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 I agree with you Claudine...I don't think any money we could come up with would help. I suggested to Scarlett that she contact the religious leader of whatever faith they followed (I didn't know they were jewish) and also suggested she swallow her pride and let Connie have a pauper cremation and then do a small gathering of close friends for a memorial. Like you, I got no response. Personally once my spirit leaves this shell that has carried it for this earthwalk, I don't care what happens to that shell...and have specified in my living will that there be no embalming, no wake/funeral services and cremation in a cardboard box. I hate to sound crass, but once the spirit is gone I truly believe there is no reason to be concerned about spending money and making rich people richer to do something with that empty shell. Tatezi Re: Info on Connie Tatezi, If everyone in this group pitched in 10 or 20 dollars I doubt it would make a dent in what a burial costs. I have known people who died with no family, no money, no previously arranged funeral plans. In these cases the state will often pay for it. Scarlett should contact the social worker at the hospital about this. (In fact I suggested it to her already but got no response from her.) Since they are Jewish, their best bet may be to contact a local Jewish community center or a synagogue for advice/help. While I wouldn't mind donating something if needed, I absolutely cannot be responsible for it - I have way too much going on right now and barely have time to read my email and reply! Claudine --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > I'm copying Connie's significant other's response to me regarding > the Connie's hospital address, etc. > > Houston Medical Center > 1601 Boulevard > Warner Robins, Georgia 31093 > (478)-922-4281 > > Connie has no insurance nor any burial arrangements. Her daughter > has a lot on her as it is, > without the burial costs worrying her. I am not telling you that > Connie will not pull thru > but reality is to prepare for that contengiency. > > I know her daugher would not ask so I will. IF anyone can spare a > little to help it would be appreicated. > > Thanks > Dblee > > I know that Scarlett wrote requesting assistance and I also know > how many of us are struggling. Apparently it is very important to > Scarlett that there be some type of burial. If someone wants to set > up a central collection fund for donations to be sent to Scarlett, > I can afford to pitch in $10, maybe even $20 if I can eek it out of > my pay. But if we do this, I think one person should be sent all > donations (Claudine???) and send them in the name of the group. > > Blessings > Tatezi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 I agree with you Claudine...I don't think any money we could come up with would help. I suggested to Scarlett that she contact the religious leader of whatever faith they followed (I didn't know they were jewish) and also suggested she swallow her pride and let Connie have a pauper cremation and then do a small gathering of close friends for a memorial. Like you, I got no response. Personally once my spirit leaves this shell that has carried it for this earthwalk, I don't care what happens to that shell...and have specified in my living will that there be no embalming, no wake/funeral services and cremation in a cardboard box. I hate to sound crass, but once the spirit is gone I truly believe there is no reason to be concerned about spending money and making rich people richer to do something with that empty shell. Tatezi Re: Info on Connie Tatezi, If everyone in this group pitched in 10 or 20 dollars I doubt it would make a dent in what a burial costs. I have known people who died with no family, no money, no previously arranged funeral plans. In these cases the state will often pay for it. Scarlett should contact the social worker at the hospital about this. (In fact I suggested it to her already but got no response from her.) Since they are Jewish, their best bet may be to contact a local Jewish community center or a synagogue for advice/help. While I wouldn't mind donating something if needed, I absolutely cannot be responsible for it - I have way too much going on right now and barely have time to read my email and reply! Claudine --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > I'm copying Connie's significant other's response to me regarding > the Connie's hospital address, etc. > > Houston Medical Center > 1601 Boulevard > Warner Robins, Georgia 31093 > (478)-922-4281 > > Connie has no insurance nor any burial arrangements. Her daughter > has a lot on her as it is, > without the burial costs worrying her. I am not telling you that > Connie will not pull thru > but reality is to prepare for that contengiency. > > I know her daugher would not ask so I will. IF anyone can spare a > little to help it would be appreicated. > > Thanks > Dblee > > I know that Scarlett wrote requesting assistance and I also know > how many of us are struggling. Apparently it is very important to > Scarlett that there be some type of burial. If someone wants to set > up a central collection fund for donations to be sent to Scarlett, > I can afford to pitch in $10, maybe even $20 if I can eek it out of > my pay. But if we do this, I think one person should be sent all > donations (Claudine???) and send them in the name of the group. > > Blessings > Tatezi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > Personally once my spirit leaves this shell that has carried it for > this earthwalk, I don't care what happens to that shell...and have > specified in my living will that there be no embalming, no > wake/funeral services and cremation in a cardboard box. I hate to > sound crass, but once the spirit is gone I truly believe there is > no reason to be concerned about spending money and making rich > people richer to do something with that empty shell. I agree. My grandmother has signed papers donating her body to science - to the medical school here. She figures she won't need her body anymore, maybe someone will get some use out of it! We will just have a memorial service for friends and family. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 --- Tatezi <tatezi@...> wrote: > Personally once my spirit leaves this shell that has carried it for > this earthwalk, I don't care what happens to that shell...and have > specified in my living will that there be no embalming, no > wake/funeral services and cremation in a cardboard box. I hate to > sound crass, but once the spirit is gone I truly believe there is > no reason to be concerned about spending money and making rich > people richer to do something with that empty shell. I agree. My grandmother has signed papers donating her body to science - to the medical school here. She figures she won't need her body anymore, maybe someone will get some use out of it! We will just have a memorial service for friends and family. __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 There is a Hebrew Free Burial society here in NY. Unfortunately, my brother-in-law (who is a funeral director) isn't sure about Florida. He suggests that Scarlett or Eddie call 1-800-2SHALOM. That's the Levitt-Weinstein funeral home in Hollywood, FL. They would know which organization down in FL would be able to help. Peace, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 There is a Hebrew Free Burial society here in NY. Unfortunately, my brother-in-law (who is a funeral director) isn't sure about Florida. He suggests that Scarlett or Eddie call 1-800-2SHALOM. That's the Levitt-Weinstein funeral home in Hollywood, FL. They would know which organization down in FL would be able to help. Peace, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 There is a Hebrew Free Burial society here in NY. Unfortunately, my brother-in-law (who is a funeral director) isn't sure about Florida. He suggests that Scarlett or Eddie call 1-800-2SHALOM. That's the Levitt-Weinstein funeral home in Hollywood, FL. They would know which organization down in FL would be able to help. Peace, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 There is a Hebrew Free Burial society here in NY. Unfortunately, my brother-in-law (who is a funeral director) isn't sure about Florida. He suggests that Scarlett or Eddie call 1-800-2SHALOM. That's the Levitt-Weinstein funeral home in Hollywood, FL. They would know which organization down in FL would be able to help. Peace, Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 > > Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good > feeling about > the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post > about her > taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? > > My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. > > Your friend, > Gene Yes, that is true. But Scarlett is not much more than a kid, she is young, and the young are usually self-centered. I know Connie complained, but she was just letting off steam. She loves Scarlett, has sent me pictures of her - she is actually very proud of her. Parents and children rarely get along all the time. That doesn't mean they don't care. I think very few young people truly understand the reality of mortality. I'd bet she never REALLY thought her mother was this sick. She probably assumed she would always be around. Anything else is unimaginable to most kids. However, I'm not giving up on Connie either yet. She is a fighter, and she has already lasted longer than they gave her. I'm looking for a miracle still! Claudine __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 > > Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good > feeling about > the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post > about her > taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? > > My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. > > Your friend, > Gene Yes, that is true. But Scarlett is not much more than a kid, she is young, and the young are usually self-centered. I know Connie complained, but she was just letting off steam. She loves Scarlett, has sent me pictures of her - she is actually very proud of her. Parents and children rarely get along all the time. That doesn't mean they don't care. I think very few young people truly understand the reality of mortality. I'd bet she never REALLY thought her mother was this sick. She probably assumed she would always be around. Anything else is unimaginable to most kids. However, I'm not giving up on Connie either yet. She is a fighter, and she has already lasted longer than they gave her. I'm looking for a miracle still! Claudine __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 > > Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good > feeling about > the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post > about her > taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? > > My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. > > Your friend, > Gene Yes, that is true. But Scarlett is not much more than a kid, she is young, and the young are usually self-centered. I know Connie complained, but she was just letting off steam. She loves Scarlett, has sent me pictures of her - she is actually very proud of her. Parents and children rarely get along all the time. That doesn't mean they don't care. I think very few young people truly understand the reality of mortality. I'd bet she never REALLY thought her mother was this sick. She probably assumed she would always be around. Anything else is unimaginable to most kids. However, I'm not giving up on Connie either yet. She is a fighter, and she has already lasted longer than they gave her. I'm looking for a miracle still! Claudine __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2002 Report Share Posted September 6, 2002 > > Hope this doesn't sound too harsh, but I've never had a good > feeling about > the way Connie's daughter treated her. Do you remember the post > about her > taking Connie's last $5 and not even saying thanks? > > My most loving thoughts and concerns are with Connie. > > Your friend, > Gene Yes, that is true. But Scarlett is not much more than a kid, she is young, and the young are usually self-centered. I know Connie complained, but she was just letting off steam. She loves Scarlett, has sent me pictures of her - she is actually very proud of her. Parents and children rarely get along all the time. That doesn't mean they don't care. I think very few young people truly understand the reality of mortality. I'd bet she never REALLY thought her mother was this sick. She probably assumed she would always be around. Anything else is unimaginable to most kids. However, I'm not giving up on Connie either yet. She is a fighter, and she has already lasted longer than they gave her. I'm looking for a miracle still! Claudine __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 Thanks for the Hospital info, Tat. luv, gee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 Gene, I absolutely agree and wish that people in her life had given her the love and care she needed while at home. My heart is with Connie also. gee Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 Constance Dickson ...should do it. Dr Sharat Misra MD,DM,FACG Re: Info on Connie It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 Constance Dickson ...should do it. Dr Sharat Misra MD,DM,FACG Re: Info on Connie It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 7, 2002 Report Share Posted September 7, 2002 Her name is Connie Dickson..... Re: Info on Connie It is terrible what Connie has gone through. Thank you Claudine for her updates. I have the hospital address, but will she get a card if I simply address it to " Connie " ? Do we have a last name we can add? Thank you so much. I'm praying that Connie remains strong and painless. Lora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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