Guest guest Posted April 14, 2006 Report Share Posted April 14, 2006 , I'll certainly keep you all in my prayers. I hope your wife gets proper treatment and relief so she can come home soon and that you can hold up until then. It sounds like you are the only advocate she has so do speak up to this first Dr who apparently is now on the right track. Got to keep him moving along to help him do a good job helping her. Hang in there, Leena On 4/13/06, Gehle <robgehle@...> wrote: My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has spinalmenegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at the er diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct scan, bloodwork etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no painmedicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed out from the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er waiting room.she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that thehospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she even rolled over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they assured herwas her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares whose needleit was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or something. i could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i know we'veall had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like every badexperience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that she couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry that was atangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the first doctoreven though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and stopped her treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. she wassupposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt showed up. shewas supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks is the wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent showed upeither. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, cussedeveryone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no idea how long she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be appreciated. Godis already watching over us though because without him there is no way icould have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the trips to the hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for listening.robNo greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares orunderstands._________________________________________________________________ Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search!http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2006 Report Share Posted April 14, 2006 Tob so sorry to hear about your wife. I will put her in my prayers.. Hugs and Prayers, Babs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 14, 2006 Report Share Posted April 14, 2006 thank you babs, it has been very frustrating; i can barely see my kids over the laundry and dishes. both of which are usuallly my responsibility - but my wife, no matter what condition she may come home in will try to clean the house if i dont beat her to it! it was hectic at first, but we've gotten into a routine i guess; at least the oldest is going to school on time now. take care rob No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " Babs " <barbnal@...> >Reply-neck pain ><neck pain > >Subject: Re: hospitalized >Date: Fri, 14 Apr 2006 05:03:15 -0400 > >Tob so sorry to hear about your wife. I will put her in my prayers.. >Hugs and Prayers, Babs _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 15, 2006 Report Share Posted April 15, 2006 Oh Rob does it ever end for you? Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect no matter what their situatation is. It is very WRONG that she is being treated this way. Can the doctor, that has a clue, transfer her to a different hospital. If not take it to Administration. You would think that it would concern them. Every time I have left a hospital after a stay they have called me asking about my care or the care of one of my kids. Surely they could do something. You would think. Squeaky wheel gets the oil. Make a stink about it till she is getting the proper treatment. These nurses, especially, should have much more compassion. That is what nurses do. Right? How is she now? Is there any improvement? Is the 'good ' Doc still the treating doctor? I wish I were closer to where you are I could try to help. If there is something I can do let me know. And please keep us posted on how you and your family are doing. Your family is in my prayers. Take care, Katrina > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has spinal > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at the er > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct scan, blood > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no pain > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed out from > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er waiting room. > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that the > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she even rolled > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they assured her > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares whose needle > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or something. i > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i know we've > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like every bad > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that she > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry that was a > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the first doctor > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and stopped her > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. she was > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt showed up. she > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks is the > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent showed up > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, cussed > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no idea how long > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be appreciated. God > is already watching over us though because without him there is no way i > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the trips to the > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for listening. > > rob > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or > understands. > > _________________________________________________________________ > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 16, 2006 Report Share Posted April 16, 2006 Wow, I will definitely keep you, your wife and your family in my prayvers. I hope everything gets better. > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has spinal > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at the er > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct scan, blood > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no pain > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed out from > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er waiting room. > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that the > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she even rolled > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they assured her > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares whose needle > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or something. i > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i know we've > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like every bad > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that she > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry that was a > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the first doctor > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and stopped her > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. she was > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt showed up. she > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks is the > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent showed up > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, cussed > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no idea how long > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be appreciated. God > is already watching over us though because without him there is no way i > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the trips to the > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for listening. > > rob > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or > understands. > > _________________________________________________________________ > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2006 Report Share Posted April 18, 2006 hey kat, sometimes i do wish it would end for me. i know that's not too funny. sigh No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " Katrina " <sweettoobeme@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: hospitalized >Date: Sat, 15 Apr 2006 17:07:40 -0000 > >Oh Rob does it ever end for you? >Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect no matter >what their situatation is. It is very WRONG that she is being treated >this way. Can the doctor, that has a clue, transfer her to a >different hospital. you would not believe how far the hospital will go to support their workers. they would not admit to anything that went wrong, and lied about several points out right. this includes the administration. the only thing i got from them theat helped a little was a voucher to take to the pharmacy worth 100$ (it did not cover all of the meds though) If not take it to Administration. You would think >that it would concern them. Every time I have left a hospital after a >stay they have called me asking about my care or the care of one of >my kids. Surely they could do something. You would think. Squeaky >wheel gets the oil. Make a stink about it till she is getting the >proper treatment. she cried literally the whole time she was there. and begged for meds that would work, and even told them to stop some of them (vicoden) because she knew it would not work at that dosage and did not want to increase her already high tolerance. they would not stop or alter anything. she made it out. and went to another hosp the next day, because her pain became severe again. this was saturday before easter. they gave her a shot and her pain went away; it was non narcotic, but it was a hospital brew and could not be prescribed. they were able to get the tests results from the other hospital and found that she has some " disease " in her discs mid-way up her spine. we now have to see a nuero surgeon so i don't know exactly whats going on. we are working on getting her an appt right now. her parents drove half way and met up with us to take the kids for a week; it's my oldest's spring break. thank you so much for being there for me/for us. it really means alot, and helps to keep me going when all i want to do is sit in a corner and cry. thank you again. i will keep you posted. rob >These nurses, especially, should have much more compassion. That is >what nurses do. Right? >How is she now? Is there any improvement? Is the 'good ' Doc still >the treating doctor? >I wish I were closer to where you are I could try to help. If there >is something I can do let me know. And please keep us posted on how >you and your family are doing. >Your family is in my prayers. >Take care, >Katrina > > > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has >spinal > > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at >the er > > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct >scan, blood > > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no >pain > > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed >out from > > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er >waiting room. > > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that >the > > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she >even rolled > > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they >assured her > > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares >whose needle > > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or >something. i > > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i >know we've > > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like >every bad > > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that >she > > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry >that was a > > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the first >doctor > > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and >stopped her > > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. >she was > > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt showed >up. she > > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks is >the > > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent >showed up > > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, >cussed > > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no idea >how long > > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be >appreciated. God > > is already watching over us though because without him there is no >way i > > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the >trips to the > > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for >listening. > > > > rob > > > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one >cares or > > understands. > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2006 Report Share Posted April 18, 2006 thank you dani No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " Just call me Dani...... " <missdanigyrl@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: hospitalized >Date: Sun, 16 Apr 2006 19:31:45 -0000 > >Wow, I will definitely keep you, your wife and your family in my >prayvers. I hope everything gets better. > > > > > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has >spinal > > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at >the er > > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct >scan, blood > > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no >pain > > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed >out from > > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er >waiting room. > > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that >the > > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she >even rolled > > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they >assured her > > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares >whose needle > > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or >something. i > > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i >know we've > > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like >every bad > > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that >she > > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry >that was a > > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the >first doctor > > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and >stopped her > > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. >she was > > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt >showed up. she > > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks >is the > > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent >showed up > > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, >cussed > > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no >idea how long > > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be >appreciated. God > > is already watching over us though because without him there is no >way i > > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the >trips to the > > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for >listening. > > > > rob > > > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no >one cares or > > understands. > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Is your PC infected? Get a FREE online computer virus scan from McAfee® Security. http://clinic.mcafee.com/clinic/ibuy/campaign.asp?cid=3963 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 18, 2006 Report Share Posted April 18, 2006 Rob It's hard to read your post. I don't understand why people get kicked while they are already down. Sometimes I just figure in a previous life I must have been a Bas & *%d. I've got such great karma. Is your wife still hospitalized ? Has her care gotten any better ? Sometimes you need to grit your teeth or curse and no that " This too shall pass " Rent or borrow the movie " the 5 people you meet when you get to heaven " It's recent. Gives some perspective on why things happen. Dave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 hey dave i just added the movie to my netflix. is it from around 2004, and is it about an old man and some other stuff? if not im about to watch a something else. thanks for the post and the idea, im getting it together slowly. she is not in the hospital anymore. we are still waiting for a neuro appt to see what is wrong. she got a job walking from door to door yesterday at 9$ an hour for 41/2 hours a day 6 days a week. hopefully the way she feels now will stay with her. we wait to see..... thanks again rob No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: RE: Re: hospitalized >Date: Tue, 18 Apr 2006 19:19:22 -0400 > >Rob It's hard to read your post. I don't understand why people get kicked >while they are already down. Sometimes I just figure in a previous life I >must have been a Bas & *%d. I've got such great karma. Is your wife still >hospitalized ? Has her care gotten any better ? Sometimes you need to >grit your teeth or curse and no that " This too shall pass " Rent or borrow >the movie " >the 5 people you meet when you get to heaven " It's recent. Gives some >perspective on why things happen. Dave > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 Rob, Please don't think that way. If it is how it sounds, that is. Even though life is so very difficult right now you have so much. You have a wife and two little boys who would never be the same if you were gone. Better to have you as you are than not at all! So glad to hear that your wife is out of the hospital. I hope she is ok. Keep us posted, ok? Your friend, Katrina :-) > > hey kat, > > sometimes i do wish it would end for me. i know that's not too funny. > sigh > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or > understands. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 19, 2006 Report Share Posted April 19, 2006 Hi Rob! I am new to this group.. but not new to being an advocate for myself in situations such as yours. I had a horrible experience at a hospital getting an MRI done. I ended up having to come back the next day. Before I would let them do anything, my husband and I got a Quality Assurance (I think that is what it was called) person from Administration to come down and monitor everything. That man ended up offering us a " settlement " but I just wanted to never go back. I've also been in the ER several times with migraines just to have some of the staff thinking I was " med seeking " or faking. You have to be an advocate and stand up for yourself or your spouse. If you see something going on that is wrong or something that ISN'T going on, Speak UP! Get an Administrator.. make noise! I hope things get better. I feel horrible for you and your wife and hope she gets to feeling better real soon! Pamala >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: RE: Re: hospitalized >Date: Tue, 18 Apr 2006 19:19:22 -0400 > >Rob It's hard to read your post. I don't understand why people get kicked >while they are already down. Sometimes I just figure in a previous life I >must have been a Bas & *%d. I've got such great karma. Is your wife still >hospitalized ? Has her care gotten any better ? Sometimes you need to >grit your teeth or curse and no that " This too shall pass " Rent or borrow >the movie " >the 5 people you meet when you get to heaven " It's recent. Gives some >perspective on why things happen. Dave > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 20, 2006 Report Share Posted April 20, 2006 yeah, it was a half joke. the thought has crossed my mind on many occassions in the past few months. it is not something that i feel i would ever do. something would have to totally snap and i mean like super crazy snap. i love my family too much no matter how far i may think ive fallen, i know that one day im going to be better for myself and for them. nobody else is raising my kids!!! No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " Katrina " <sweettoobeme@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: hospitalized >Date: Wed, 19 Apr 2006 20:18:00 -0000 > >Rob, >Please don't think that way. If it is how it sounds, that is. Even >though life is so very difficult right now you have so much. You have a >wife and two little boys who would never be the same if you were gone. >Better to have you as you are than not at all! >So glad to hear that your wife is out of the hospital. I hope she is ok. >Keep us posted, ok? >Your friend, >Katrina :-) > > > > hey kat, > > > > sometimes i do wish it would end for me. i know that's not too >funny. > > sigh > > > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one >cares or > > understands. > > > > > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Express yourself instantly with MSN Messenger! Download today - it's FREE! http://messenger.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200471ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 21, 2006 Report Share Posted April 21, 2006 HI Rob hope your wife is doing better now. If I were you I'd complain to the hospital administator about the treatment she got.I doubt he will see you but I'd sure sit down and write the guy a nice letter and tell him his staff sucks as far as patient treatment. Also if you remember the peoples names mention them in the note too. Its sad how badly some hospitals treat people. My father in law would have died in the hospital if family memebers hadn't been there to watch over him, the nursing staff was horrible there. Luckily my sister had great nurses when she was in the hospital. But I know one close by that I wouldn't go too if I was dying in pain, I'd rather sit in a car an hour and go to a GOOD hospital than go there cause I swear they'd let you die in the ER there!!!!!!!I hope you and your family are doing better by now and that your wife will be well and home soon. Best wishes Sharon Group Owner > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has spinal > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at the er > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct scan, blood > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no pain > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed out from > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er waiting room. > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that the > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she even rolled > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they assured her > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares whose needle > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or something. i > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i know we've > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like every bad > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that she > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry that was a > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the first doctor > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and stopped her > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. she was > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt showed up. she > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks is the > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent showed up > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, cussed > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no idea how long > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be appreciated. God > is already watching over us though because without him there is no way i > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the trips to the > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for listening. > > rob > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or > understands. > > _________________________________________________________________ > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2006 Report Share Posted April 25, 2006 thank you pamala, actually by the time we got to an administrator it seemed as if the nurses had too. they knew they messed up but treated us no better. we are actually (with the help of my father in law) i believe going to file a law suit. not sure yet still waiting to hear from the lawyer. thank you again. rob ps they actually called security on me because of the uproar i was in. she is now hospitalized 45 minutes away in another city and so far has been receiving excellant care. No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " Pamala Litvin " <pamalalit@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: RE: Re: hospitalized >Date: Wed, 19 Apr 2006 20:48:43 +0000 > >Hi Rob! > >I am new to this group.. but not new to being an advocate for myself in >situations such as yours. I had a horrible experience at a hospital getting >an MRI done. I ended up having to come back the next day. Before I would >let >them do anything, my husband and I got a Quality Assurance (I think that is >what it was called) person from Administration to come down and monitor >everything. That man ended up offering us a " settlement " but I just wanted >to never go back. > >I've also been in the ER several times with migraines just to have some of >the staff thinking I was " med seeking " or faking. > >You have to be an advocate and stand up for yourself or your spouse. If you >see something going on that is wrong or something that ISN'T going on, >Speak >UP! Get an Administrator.. make noise! > >I hope things get better. I feel horrible for you and your wife and hope >she >gets to feeling better real soon! > >Pamala > > > >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> > >Reply-neck pain > >neck pain > >Subject: RE: Re: hospitalized > >Date: Tue, 18 Apr 2006 19:19:22 -0400 > > > >Rob It's hard to read your post. I don't understand why people get >kicked > >while they are already down. Sometimes I just figure in a previous life >I > >must have been a Bas & *%d. I've got such great karma. Is your wife still > >hospitalized ? Has her care gotten any better ? Sometimes you need to > >grit your teeth or curse and no that " This too shall pass " Rent or >borrow > >the movie " > >the 5 people you meet when you get to heaven " It's recent. Gives some > >perspective on why things happen. Dave > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2006 Report Share Posted April 26, 2006 thank you sharon, they have ruled out medical issues i guess and are putting it down to panic/anxiety attacks. they are keeping her overnite again and trying some new stuff, i thought i was having problems dealing with my back and loss of job; seems it might be hurting her more then me. last night was her first bad experience with them and i had to drive out there at 1a to calm her and to get them to put her back on her valium. they took her off without warning and shes been on it for a couple of weeks now from her psychiatrist; and this is after she had a full day of testing. more mri, another spinal tap and so forth.. her pain was out of control-they did not give her the adavan they said they would before doing that to her back and then cut her off her meds simply because they did not pass on the right info from one doctor to the next. but after talking to the floor nurse and then the head nurse i got everything fixed back, but man this stuff is exhausting. her father came down because i called and told him she was back in the hospital and i broke down and started crying on the phone it was a little too much for me. i dont know if youve watched some one have a seizure but it is very scary and when i was holding her to keep her from hurting herself i screwed my back up. and im trying to check her in and hold the kids and not fall over myself. he was kind enough to drive back from washington dc to pick the baby back up, and take him for two weeks. we are filing a lawsuit against the other hospital; well her father is getting in touch with his lawyer to see about it anyways who knows. each time i go to see her its a minimum of 1 1/2 hours in the car and ive already spent a hundred dollars in two days time on gas. its getting pretty crazy around here. i was telling jeannie that im going to be able to write a novel when its all aver with. im glad you got to enjoy your trip, and that guy who bumped into you would have needed your cane after i got done with him if i had been there; screw that. rude ass people. take care rob No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or understands. >From: " darkstarzz1019 " <darkstarzz1019@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: hospitalized >Date: Fri, 21 Apr 2006 13:19:18 -0000 > >HI Rob hope your wife is doing better now. If I were you I'd >complain to the hospital administator about the treatment she got.I >doubt he will see you but I'd sure sit down and write the guy a nice >letter and tell him his staff sucks as far as patient treatment. >Also if you remember the peoples names mention them in the note too. >Its sad how badly some hospitals treat people. My father in law >would have died in the hospital if family memebers hadn't been there >to watch over him, the nursing staff was horrible there. Luckily my >sister had great nurses when she was in the hospital. But I know one >close by that I wouldn't go too if I was dying in pain, I'd rather >sit in a car an hour and go to a GOOD hospital than go there cause I >swear they'd let you die in the ER there!!!!!!!I hope you and your >family are doing better by now and that your wife will be well and >home soon. Best wishes Sharon Group Owner > > > > > > > My wife has been in the hospital for the past 3 days. She has >spinal > > menegitious (?) am i even saying that right? the first docto at >the er > > diagnosed her with it and admitted her. they performed mri ct >scan, blood > > work etc. she went to the hosp at 330p she was admitted at 1a no >pain > > medicine was given to her, even though she had previuosly passed >out from > > the pain once at home( i had to carry her) and once in the er >waiting room. > > she also had what looked like little mini seizures. to say that >the > > hospital treated her poorly would be a huge understatement. she >even rolled > > over in her bed and was stuck with a dirty needle; which they >assured her > > was her needle and not someone else's.... WTF (sorry) who cares >whose needle > > it was. They didnt even clean the wound or test the needle or >something. i > > could write a book about every thing they did or didn;t do and i >know we've > > all had bad experiences in the hospital, but i swear this was like >every bad > > experience rolled into one. her nurse this morning told her that >she > > couldnt handle her crying for another day and to buck up. sorry >that was a > > tangent. the doctor the following morning disagreed with the >first doctor > > even though it was a positive result for the spinal test, and >stopped her > > treatment and lowered her pain meds which already wren't working. >she was > > supposed to see a neuro surgeon yesterday and he still hasnt >showed up. she > > was supposed to get counseling for her anxiety attacks ( attacks >is the > > wrong word since it hasnt stopped) yesterday, and they havent >showed up > > either. on the positive side the first doctor showed up tonight, >cussed > > everyone out and started to take/treat her seriously. have no >idea how long > > she is going to be in the hospital and prayers would be >appreciated. God > > is already watching over us though because without him there is no >way i > > could have possibly taken care of the kids, her and all of the >trips to the > > hospital, and other errands etc with my back. thank you for >listening. > > > > rob > > > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no >one cares or > > understands. > > > > _________________________________________________________________ > > Don't just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! > > http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ > > > > > > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2006 Report Share Posted April 27, 2006 --Hi Rob I hope your wife is doing a little better now back on her meds. I am sorry to hear that she has been doing so badly. -And I know all the driving back and forth and taking care of the kids has had to been hard on you. I think the saying is " god doesn't give us more than we can handle " well at times like this I wonder. Cause it sure seems he has given your family way too many problems lately. Hopefully with the right meds and some rest she will be fine soon, I sure pray so. Sorry to hear your back is doing bad again too I know that will make it all tougher on you too. Hope you can find sometime in there somewhere to get off your feet for a bit and rest it some. It makes me so angry when I find people like that guy now, I never realized before how rude people were to people with canes, walkers and wheelchairs till I started using my cane. I've always opened doors or helped handicapped people just because I felt it was the right thing to do. I would NEVER do to anyone some of the things I've had done to me.One of these days the paper will read " Crazy lady goes bezerk with her cane " !!!!!!!!!!!!!! There are many times I wish I was a great big huge person instead of being so little, I think just one ugly look from someone large would send those people packing lol. Oh well I guess I'll keep opening doors for little old ladies i wheelchairs and glare at idiots like them for now.Thanks for the thoughts I appreciate it. hang in there I'll keep you and your family in my prayers for a speedy recovery for all.Sharon Group Owner neck pain , " Gehle " <robgehle@...> wrote: > > thank you sharon, > > they have ruled out medical issues i guess and are putting it down to > panic/anxiety attacks. they are keeping her overnite again and trying some > new stuff, i thought i was having problems dealing with my back and loss of > job; seems it might be hurting her more then me. last night was her first > bad experience with them and i had to drive out there at 1a to calm her and > to get them to put her back on her valium. they took her off Andwithout > warning and shes been on it for a couple of weeks now from her psychiatrist; > and this is after she had a full day of testing. more mri, another spinal > tap and so forth.. her pain was out of control-they did not give her the > adavan they said they would before doing that to her back and then cut her > off her meds simply because they did not pass on the right info from one > doctor to the next. but after talking to the floor nurse and then the head > nurse i got everything fixed back, but man this stuff is exhausting. > her father came down because i called and told him she was back in the > hospital and i broke down and started crying on the phone it was a little > too much for me. i dont know if youve watched some one have a seizure but > it is very scary and when i was holding her to keep her from hurting herself > i screwed my back up. and im trying to check her in and hold the kids and > not fall over myself. he was kind enough to drive back from washington dc > to pick the baby back up, and take him for two weeks. we are filing a > lawsuit against the other hospital; well her father is getting in touch with > his lawyer to see about it anyways who knows. each time i go to see her its > a minimum of 1 1/2 hours in the car and ive already spent a hundred dollars > in two days time on gas. its getting pretty crazy around here. i was > telling jeannie that im going to be able to write a novel when its all aver > with. im glad you got to enjoy your trip, and that guy who bumped into you > would have needed your cane after i got done with him if i had been there; > screw that. rude ass people. take care > > rob > > No greater burden can be borne by an individual than to know no one cares or > understands. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2006 Report Share Posted June 1, 2006 When I joined this group just a month or so ago, I couldn't imagine how hard it would be for a child to be in a psychiatric hospital and how parents would cope. Now I know first hand - I have no choice but to deal with it in order to get my son (10 years old) the best treatment. If I allowed myself to become parallized by depression I would be no help to him. I can't believe how quickly he has gone downhill. He went from having bad thoughts about dying and having things happen to himself and his mom and dad to being terribly depressed, agitated and unable to cope. 10 days ago, when he started talking about wanting to kill himself, we took him to the ER and they put him in a partial day program. It got to the point where he felt so unsafe that we couldn't let him out of our sight at night because he felt the impulse to jump out the 2nd floor windows. On the way to the program yesterday, he felt the impulse to get out of the car and run. The doors were locked with child safety locks, so he tried first to open his window then he tried cllimbing into the front seat to open the door. When we arrived, he bolted from me and ran across the parking lot into a thicket. It took 15-20 minutes and the help of a policeman to get him out. There's a hospital facility right there at the day program, so we were able to check him in there. While waiting for check-in, I had to hold his arm tightly because he kept trying to run. They had to put us in an office where I could sit in a chair blocking the door. Even then he tried opening the windows until someone came to sit with us. His behavior now and for the past couple of days has been so strange. A couple of nights ago he told me he wanted to confess something - that he's been making up this whole ocd thing just to stay home from school and to get attention. Then he had the impulse to jump out a window. He keeps alternating between saying he doesn't have ocd or that he greatly exagerates it to saying that he can't take it and that he wants to kill himself. He also alternates between saying that he would never hurt himself because the idea makes him really sad for us or that he would never run away to talking about different ways he can kill himself and how he wants to run away. I won't go into how heartwrenching it was to leave him there or how hard it is to see him for just 1 hour a night and talk to him for 10 minutes a day in the afternoon. I want to have faith in the hospital but I'm worried because yesterday he had no case worker or psychiatrist assigned to him yet and this morning his case worker was very rushed and somewhat abrupt on the phone and she didn't say much or ask anything about him. All she said was that he's doing fine and that he was participating in their school and that she'll talk to me tomorrow when she and the psychiatrist meet with us for the first time. Has anyone had positive experiences with hospitalization? Has anyone had their child there until their meds started working?/How long did it take? How did you cope? There is one very good thing that has happened. A doctor at the MGH ocd clinic has agreed to treat my son - starting in a mere 3 weeks! This is despite having no referral from an MGH affiliated doctor and despite the fact that I was told they were not accepting new ocd patients. Plus, they will take our insurance. I see a light at the end of the tunnel but the trip there is so long and scarey. Sorry for this very long e-mail. I don't know when and how often I'll be able to check e-mail over the next few days, so if I don't reply to responses, its not because I don't appreciate the advice/suggestions. Thanks for listening. Tamara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2006 Report Share Posted June 1, 2006 Oh Tamra, lots of ((((hugs)))) for you!!!! Like you, before, I can only imagine the anguish of how hard this must be, like that terrible feeling in my chest if I think of ever having to go. And, like you, I would be wondering about care. Just keep your eyes open but trust that he's in a good place for him right now (no jumping out or running away here). And so GREAT that the OCD doctor will treat him so soon!! So that light IS ahead, it's just distressing going through so much now! I do know they shouldn't release your son until he's stable, not a threat to himself or in danger of running off, etc. So I imagine the meds will have to kick in somewhat or he will just calm down on his own. And hard as it is, take this time for yourself to sleep, relax, run all those errands you've missed, socialize or whatever. And then you'll be refreshed and ready for him when he gets home! When you can, let us know how you and he are! > > When I joined this group just a month or so ago, I couldn't imagine how hard > it would be for a child to be in a psychiatric hospital and how parents > would cope. Now I know first hand - I have no choice but to deal with it > in order to get my son (10 years old) the best treatment. If I allowed Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2006 Report Share Posted June 1, 2006 Tamara--I feel for you! My daughter was hospitalized when she was 8 for 1 week with a feeding tube and then she went to day treatment from 8-6:00 for 3 weeks. It was so hard! We were able to stay with her during the 1 week in hospital and it was still torturous to realize that my child couldn't function anymore. She has had some great years after that, but we are in a tough spot again with her OCD. What helps me is to know that with the right medication and/or therapy, they can do great! How are his friends taking this? Have you told anyone what's going on and what is their reaction? That was a hard part for our daughter because it was hard to explain to friends. I hope things turn around soon for you. Dina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 1, 2006 Report Share Posted June 1, 2006 In a message dated 6/1/2006 12:57:40 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, writes: Has anyone had positive experiences with hospitalization? Has anyone had their child there until their meds started working?/How long did it take? How did you cope? **** Hi -- I can definitely feel for you, having been in a position similar to yours. Of course the worst part was following the ambulance to the hospital, over 70 minutes away from where we live (the nearest facility for kids under 13). For me, I took great comfort in finally realizing (the God voice!) that I was following an ambulance and not a hearse -- she was finally getting help. My daughter was 10 then, and celebrated her 11th birthday on her 2nd day in the hospital. She hated the first day or two there. However, by Day 3, having started medications, she said -- " mom, I'm having normal thoughts, like 'I wonder what is for lunch' " . She started to ENJOY being in the hospital. She finally felt like she wasn't so alone in her mental struggles. She stayed 6 days the first time. A month later she went back -- this time for 14 days. They did a number of med adjustments while she was there. She especially enjoyed the group therapy time, when the kids shared with one another. Two weeks later, she went back one more time -- this time for only 2 nights. So.... all in all.... in started out horrible, but ended up being a positive experience in a few ways. 1. She got great psychological testing while there 2. they could work with meds in a contained environment 3. She didn't feel so " wierd " since she finally met other kids with issues It seems like it did take a day or two to get things really lined up -- I don't think I got any info for a day or so. The case worker gave me a call for some permissions, and the hospital needed to get in touch with 's normal therapist. Dr. visits were pretty short - I never did meet her, though I spoke on the phone once or twice. Most interaction was with the case manager. Good luck to you, and hang in there! It will get easier. Oh, another thing I did was to let about 50 of our closest family, friends, and church members know (via email and phone) what was going on. They prayed for , offered babysitting for little sister, brought food -- very supportive. I was in such a fog during that time -- the support of family and friends was wonderful. We asked them to keep it to themselves and not share with their kids, in order to protect 's privacy. was fine with this, and appreciated the prayer support. is now nearly 14 -- she still goes up and down, but is much better than 3 years ago!!!! She hasn't been back to the hospital in almost 3 years now! Suzanne in CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 In a message dated 6/2/2006 12:57:39 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, suzstone@... writes: is now nearly 14 -- she still goes up and down, but is much better than 3 years ago!!!! She hasn't been back to the hospital in almost 3 years now! Suzanne - That's a great story about your daughter -- made me feel good. LT Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 Tamara, I'm so sorry to hear about your son! If you need to talk, I'm here. While your son is hospitalized try to do things for yourself and other family members. I know how hard it is, but you have to realize you did the right thing! It's not your fault. I'm sure your feeling guilty for putting him in, but if he's trying to get out of the car, you had absolutely no choice. I've had to hospitalize my daughter 2x and I know how heart wrenching it is! Usually they wil try to diagnose and stabilize your child before they discharge. My daughter's first one was 30 days and her 2nd was only 8 days. Hang in there and take care of yourself (((HUGS))))) Judy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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