Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 There is nothing I can say, other than that I can feel the pain in your posting. My Daughter graduated as an emt and just started working full time in august. She calls me when she has a particularly tough case, usually the very young, or someone near her age, 20 passing. One thing we instilled in her growing up is Life is not fair. The good die young, kind people are hurt, while people who are users and abusers seem to get away with it, here on Earth. I do believe that when we go to meet our maker, it all makes sense, we here on Earth just can't see it from our perspective. As for your eviction. We were there more than once. Our Church put us in touch with a community chest kind of organization. They paid a full months rent for us to give us some breathing space. Also I know it's different from state to state but if your in need you can get food stamps and cash assistance. We swallowed our pride long ago and went that route. When I feel bad about it, I am reminded that I paid in for over 25 years, and that's what it is there for. I know locally if your really hard up, they will fast track it, and you can have your food stamps and assistance in about 48 hours. I'm grateful for this community that allows you a place to vent. Sorry for your loss. Dave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 There is nothing I can say, other than that I can feel the pain in your posting. My Daughter graduated as an emt and just started working full time in august. She calls me when she has a particularly tough case, usually the very young, or someone near her age, 20 passing. One thing we instilled in her growing up is Life is not fair. The good die young, kind people are hurt, while people who are users and abusers seem to get away with it, here on Earth. I do believe that when we go to meet our maker, it all makes sense, we here on Earth just can't see it from our perspective. As for your eviction. We were there more than once. Our Church put us in touch with a community chest kind of organization. They paid a full months rent for us to give us some breathing space. Also I know it's different from state to state but if your in need you can get food stamps and cash assistance. We swallowed our pride long ago and went that route. When I feel bad about it, I am reminded that I paid in for over 25 years, and that's what it is there for. I know locally if your really hard up, they will fast track it, and you can have your food stamps and assistance in about 48 hours. I'm grateful for this community that allows you a place to vent. Sorry for your loss. Dave Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 Oh Rob I am so sorry. This all so heartbreaking. I wish I knew something that I could say or do that could help to make things a little better. I can't believe this could happened so quickly. My prayers are with this family. And with you. It always seems it rains when it pours. Is that the saying? Is there somewhere you can turn for help with the rent? I know there is state programs or church or other options? Have you filed for disability? I went along time telling myself I don't need to. There are other people who need it more than I. And I didn't do it until a couple months ago. I don't look at myself as being disbled. I keep thinking I will get better. But I am not. I understand that you can have a temporary or permanent disability. I hope I am not mistaken on this. So even if you are only in your situation of chronic pain temporarily maybe you would qualify. I think you should ramble away. This is what this group is for even for the non-pain things going on in our lives. We have a great group of caring people here and we all want to be helpful and supportive of of each other with the things that are going on in our lives. Keep us posted on how you are doing and I will be praying that your Landlady will be having some compassion and working with you on this. I hope my words are of some help to you Rob. I know that right now that not much will help because it just isn't making sense. Take care, Katrina :-) > > My best friend died Tuesday. He worked with me, and actually we were the > last two original people in the company. When I left work (early as usual) > on Tuesday he was fine. He didnt come in wednesday, I was told he had a 200 > degree temp, which i laughed about, because people at work are stupid and i > knew he didnt really have that high a temp. I was right, later that day i > found out that it was 102. I called him and left a message joking about > the whole temperature thing and told him to call me. I got a call thursday > morning on my way into work from another co-worker saying he was dead and i > told him that shit wasnt funny and to stop f-ing with me. i hung up called > my friends house. his fiance answered the phone and i asked for shawn, and > she didnt answer and i knew it was true.... > Last week everyone in the wedding was fitted for tuxedos. its not right. > He had viral pneumonia and it got in his blood. he argued all night with > his girl about not needing to go to the hospital, when she finally got him > to go it was already in his brain. So just a warning about severe hot and > cold flashes. he wasnt in pain, and didnt think anything was wrong until he > felt to weak to stand and then essentially it was too late. though im told > the hospital all but ignored him, and when they realized something was way > wrong and started to listen, they still didnt know what to do and were more > concerned with asking him his ss# while he was foaming at the mouth and > losing control of his own body. His fiance is being ignored, by work, by > the doctors, by everyone and all because they wern't married yet. Our > company is huge and worth millions and we have one of the top five > retirements in the state, but they wont help her either, she has rent and > two small boys to take care of now by herself, and now im just rambling > sorry. the whole thing is messed up and its just so not right. which goes > well with the news that I'm broke and being evicted by the end of feb. we > have a meeting today with our land lady but..... sorry to dump all this non > group related stuff on you guys but i could really use some kind words right > now because everything is falling apart. > > rob > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 thanks dave, you know, i miss my friend, and the situation with them about to get married is so tragic; the real kicker is how she is being treated by his mom. i had to tell her that work is paying out insurance to her mom. the lady had the nerve to try and make it seem like she had the policy and was paying into it. sorry - it just keeps getting better. i cant even help myself and i want to save her. yeah, we have food stamps and we've done the charity thing - calling organizations for help and such. not to proud to beg. thanks for listening and for the kind words. take care and all that good stuff. rob >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: 29 yrs old >Date: Sat, 28 Jan 2006 09:52:43 -0500 > >There is nothing I can say, other than that I can feel the pain in your >posting. My Daughter graduated as an emt and just started working full >time in august. She calls me when she has a particularly tough case, >usually the very young, or someone near her age, 20 passing. One thing we >instilled in her growing up is Life is not fair. The good die young, kind >people are hurt, while people who are users and abusers seem to get away >with it, here on Earth. I do believe that when we go to meet our maker, it >all makes sense, we here on Earth just can't see it from our perspective. > > As for your eviction. We were there more than once. Our Church put us in >touch with a community chest kind of organization. They paid a full months >rent for us to give us some breathing space. Also I know it's different >from state to state but if your in need you can get food stamps and cash >assistance. We swallowed our pride long ago and went that route. When I >feel bad about it, I am reminded that I paid in for over 25 years, and >that's what it is there for. I know locally if your really hard up, they >will fast track it, and you can have your food stamps and assistance in >about 48 hours. > > I'm grateful for this community that allows you a place to vent. Sorry >for your loss. Dave > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 thanks dave, you know, i miss my friend, and the situation with them about to get married is so tragic; the real kicker is how she is being treated by his mom. i had to tell her that work is paying out insurance to her mom. the lady had the nerve to try and make it seem like she had the policy and was paying into it. sorry - it just keeps getting better. i cant even help myself and i want to save her. yeah, we have food stamps and we've done the charity thing - calling organizations for help and such. not to proud to beg. thanks for listening and for the kind words. take care and all that good stuff. rob >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: 29 yrs old >Date: Sat, 28 Jan 2006 09:52:43 -0500 > >There is nothing I can say, other than that I can feel the pain in your >posting. My Daughter graduated as an emt and just started working full >time in august. She calls me when she has a particularly tough case, >usually the very young, or someone near her age, 20 passing. One thing we >instilled in her growing up is Life is not fair. The good die young, kind >people are hurt, while people who are users and abusers seem to get away >with it, here on Earth. I do believe that when we go to meet our maker, it >all makes sense, we here on Earth just can't see it from our perspective. > > As for your eviction. We were there more than once. Our Church put us in >touch with a community chest kind of organization. They paid a full months >rent for us to give us some breathing space. Also I know it's different >from state to state but if your in need you can get food stamps and cash >assistance. We swallowed our pride long ago and went that route. When I >feel bad about it, I am reminded that I paid in for over 25 years, and >that's what it is there for. I know locally if your really hard up, they >will fast track it, and you can have your food stamps and assistance in >about 48 hours. > > I'm grateful for this community that allows you a place to vent. Sorry >for your loss. Dave > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 thanks dave, you know, i miss my friend, and the situation with them about to get married is so tragic; the real kicker is how she is being treated by his mom. i had to tell her that work is paying out insurance to her mom. the lady had the nerve to try and make it seem like she had the policy and was paying into it. sorry - it just keeps getting better. i cant even help myself and i want to save her. yeah, we have food stamps and we've done the charity thing - calling organizations for help and such. not to proud to beg. thanks for listening and for the kind words. take care and all that good stuff. rob >From: Cruikshank <d.cruikshank@...> >Reply-neck pain >neck pain >Subject: Re: 29 yrs old >Date: Sat, 28 Jan 2006 09:52:43 -0500 > >There is nothing I can say, other than that I can feel the pain in your >posting. My Daughter graduated as an emt and just started working full >time in august. She calls me when she has a particularly tough case, >usually the very young, or someone near her age, 20 passing. One thing we >instilled in her growing up is Life is not fair. The good die young, kind >people are hurt, while people who are users and abusers seem to get away >with it, here on Earth. I do believe that when we go to meet our maker, it >all makes sense, we here on Earth just can't see it from our perspective. > > As for your eviction. We were there more than once. Our Church put us in >touch with a community chest kind of organization. They paid a full months >rent for us to give us some breathing space. Also I know it's different >from state to state but if your in need you can get food stamps and cash >assistance. We swallowed our pride long ago and went that route. When I >feel bad about it, I am reminded that I paid in for over 25 years, and >that's what it is there for. I know locally if your really hard up, they >will fast track it, and you can have your food stamps and assistance in >about 48 hours. > > I'm grateful for this community that allows you a place to vent. Sorry >for your loss. Dave > _________________________________________________________________ Don’t just search. Find. Check out the new MSN Search! http://search.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200636ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2006 Report Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hi Rob I am so sorry to hear about your friend. ITs unfair when things like that happen. And there is no reason for it. Sometimes I wonder why it is so many wonderful people have bad things happen to them while horrible people never have bad luck. I know this all hits you really hard and since he was your best friend even worse. All I can say is remember the good things you shared and even though his time in this world was too short, you still have the good things to remember. One thing I can say about his g/f is my heart goes out to her how horrible to have this happen to someone with so many wonderful plans for the future. I am not sure how long they lived together but IF it has been a certain amount of years they are considered legally married and she could go that route finding help. She should get in touch with her church and maybe you could start a fund for her and spread the word so she could have some help I am sure many people would gladly help her out, if they knew how too. Thats one thing you could do to help her out. I know life isn't fair believe me I watched my own sister slowly die and now my sister in law gets weaker and closer to death every day. Both wonderful people and believe me there have been many times I have asked WHY did it have to happen to them???? It really shook my faith when my sister passed away. In the last 2 yrs I have lost two wonderful people in my life and another will not be here long. My father in law another wonderful person died too. Is life fair??? I have to say no although seeing so many people who suffer so much here I know its not fair. But to have someone so young taken out of this world seems so so unfair. My heart goes out to you and his g/f I will keep you both in my prayers. I am so sorry. Sharon Group Owner -- In neck pain , " Gehle " <robgehle@h...> wrote: > > My best friend died Tuesday. He worked with me, and actually we were the > last two original people in the company. When I left work (early as usual) > on Tuesday he was fine. He didnt come in wednesday, I was told he had a 200 > degree temp, which i laughed about, because people at work are stupid and i > knew he didnt really have that high a temp. I was right, later that day i > found out that it was 102. I called him and left a message joking about > the whole temperature thing and told him to call me. I got a call thursday > morning on my way into work from another co-worker saying he was dead and i > told him that shit wasnt funny and to stop f-ing with me. i hung up called > my friends house. his fiance answered the phone and i asked for shawn, and > she didnt answer and i knew it was true.... > Last week everyone in the wedding was fitted for tuxedos. its not right. > He had viral pneumonia and it got in his blood. he argued all night with > his girl about not needing to go to the hospital, when she finally got him > to go it was already in his brain. So just a warning about severe hot and > cold flashes. he wasnt in pain, and didnt think anything was wrong until he > felt to weak to stand and then essentially it was too late. though im told > the hospital all but ignored him, and when they realized something was way > wrong and started to listen, they still didnt know what to do and were more > concerned with asking him his ss# while he was foaming at the mouth and > losing control of his own body. His fiance is being ignored, by work, by > the doctors, by everyone and all because they wern't married yet. Our > company is huge and worth millions and we have one of the top five > retirements in the state, but they wont help her either, she has rent and > two small boys to take care of now by herself, and now im just rambling > sorry. the whole thing is messed up and its just so not right. which goes > well with the news that I'm broke and being evicted by the end of feb. we > have a meeting today with our land lady but..... sorry to dump all this non > group related stuff on you guys but i could really use some kind words right > now because everything is falling apart. > > rob > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2006 Report Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hi Rob I am so sorry to hear about your friend. ITs unfair when things like that happen. And there is no reason for it. Sometimes I wonder why it is so many wonderful people have bad things happen to them while horrible people never have bad luck. I know this all hits you really hard and since he was your best friend even worse. All I can say is remember the good things you shared and even though his time in this world was too short, you still have the good things to remember. One thing I can say about his g/f is my heart goes out to her how horrible to have this happen to someone with so many wonderful plans for the future. I am not sure how long they lived together but IF it has been a certain amount of years they are considered legally married and she could go that route finding help. She should get in touch with her church and maybe you could start a fund for her and spread the word so she could have some help I am sure many people would gladly help her out, if they knew how too. Thats one thing you could do to help her out. I know life isn't fair believe me I watched my own sister slowly die and now my sister in law gets weaker and closer to death every day. Both wonderful people and believe me there have been many times I have asked WHY did it have to happen to them???? It really shook my faith when my sister passed away. In the last 2 yrs I have lost two wonderful people in my life and another will not be here long. My father in law another wonderful person died too. Is life fair??? I have to say no although seeing so many people who suffer so much here I know its not fair. But to have someone so young taken out of this world seems so so unfair. My heart goes out to you and his g/f I will keep you both in my prayers. I am so sorry. Sharon Group Owner -- In neck pain , " Gehle " <robgehle@h...> wrote: > > My best friend died Tuesday. He worked with me, and actually we were the > last two original people in the company. When I left work (early as usual) > on Tuesday he was fine. He didnt come in wednesday, I was told he had a 200 > degree temp, which i laughed about, because people at work are stupid and i > knew he didnt really have that high a temp. I was right, later that day i > found out that it was 102. I called him and left a message joking about > the whole temperature thing and told him to call me. I got a call thursday > morning on my way into work from another co-worker saying he was dead and i > told him that shit wasnt funny and to stop f-ing with me. i hung up called > my friends house. his fiance answered the phone and i asked for shawn, and > she didnt answer and i knew it was true.... > Last week everyone in the wedding was fitted for tuxedos. its not right. > He had viral pneumonia and it got in his blood. he argued all night with > his girl about not needing to go to the hospital, when she finally got him > to go it was already in his brain. So just a warning about severe hot and > cold flashes. he wasnt in pain, and didnt think anything was wrong until he > felt to weak to stand and then essentially it was too late. though im told > the hospital all but ignored him, and when they realized something was way > wrong and started to listen, they still didnt know what to do and were more > concerned with asking him his ss# while he was foaming at the mouth and > losing control of his own body. His fiance is being ignored, by work, by > the doctors, by everyone and all because they wern't married yet. Our > company is huge and worth millions and we have one of the top five > retirements in the state, but they wont help her either, she has rent and > two small boys to take care of now by herself, and now im just rambling > sorry. the whole thing is messed up and its just so not right. which goes > well with the news that I'm broke and being evicted by the end of feb. we > have a meeting today with our land lady but..... sorry to dump all this non > group related stuff on you guys but i could really use some kind words right > now because everything is falling apart. > > rob > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 29, 2006 Report Share Posted January 29, 2006 Hi Rob I am so sorry to hear about your friend. ITs unfair when things like that happen. And there is no reason for it. Sometimes I wonder why it is so many wonderful people have bad things happen to them while horrible people never have bad luck. I know this all hits you really hard and since he was your best friend even worse. All I can say is remember the good things you shared and even though his time in this world was too short, you still have the good things to remember. One thing I can say about his g/f is my heart goes out to her how horrible to have this happen to someone with so many wonderful plans for the future. I am not sure how long they lived together but IF it has been a certain amount of years they are considered legally married and she could go that route finding help. She should get in touch with her church and maybe you could start a fund for her and spread the word so she could have some help I am sure many people would gladly help her out, if they knew how too. Thats one thing you could do to help her out. I know life isn't fair believe me I watched my own sister slowly die and now my sister in law gets weaker and closer to death every day. Both wonderful people and believe me there have been many times I have asked WHY did it have to happen to them???? It really shook my faith when my sister passed away. In the last 2 yrs I have lost two wonderful people in my life and another will not be here long. My father in law another wonderful person died too. Is life fair??? I have to say no although seeing so many people who suffer so much here I know its not fair. But to have someone so young taken out of this world seems so so unfair. My heart goes out to you and his g/f I will keep you both in my prayers. I am so sorry. Sharon Group Owner -- In neck pain , " Gehle " <robgehle@h...> wrote: > > My best friend died Tuesday. He worked with me, and actually we were the > last two original people in the company. When I left work (early as usual) > on Tuesday he was fine. He didnt come in wednesday, I was told he had a 200 > degree temp, which i laughed about, because people at work are stupid and i > knew he didnt really have that high a temp. I was right, later that day i > found out that it was 102. I called him and left a message joking about > the whole temperature thing and told him to call me. I got a call thursday > morning on my way into work from another co-worker saying he was dead and i > told him that shit wasnt funny and to stop f-ing with me. i hung up called > my friends house. his fiance answered the phone and i asked for shawn, and > she didnt answer and i knew it was true.... > Last week everyone in the wedding was fitted for tuxedos. its not right. > He had viral pneumonia and it got in his blood. he argued all night with > his girl about not needing to go to the hospital, when she finally got him > to go it was already in his brain. So just a warning about severe hot and > cold flashes. he wasnt in pain, and didnt think anything was wrong until he > felt to weak to stand and then essentially it was too late. though im told > the hospital all but ignored him, and when they realized something was way > wrong and started to listen, they still didnt know what to do and were more > concerned with asking him his ss# while he was foaming at the mouth and > losing control of his own body. His fiance is being ignored, by work, by > the doctors, by everyone and all because they wern't married yet. Our > company is huge and worth millions and we have one of the top five > retirements in the state, but they wont help her either, she has rent and > two small boys to take care of now by herself, and now im just rambling > sorry. the whole thing is messed up and its just so not right. which goes > well with the news that I'm broke and being evicted by the end of feb. we > have a meeting today with our land lady but..... sorry to dump all this non > group related stuff on you guys but i could really use some kind words right > now because everything is falling apart. > > rob > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2006 Report Share Posted February 6, 2006 Rob I am so sorry to hear about your Friend. I am sorry I am so late with this. I Have been a bouncing around. I have been gone from home alot trying to get things ready for my hearing. > > My best friend died Tuesday. He worked with me, and actually we were the > last two original people in the company. When I left work (early as usual) > on Tuesday he was fine. He didnt come in wednesday, I was told he had a 200 > degree temp, which i laughed about, because people at work are stupid and i > knew he didnt really have that high a temp. I was right, later that day i > found out that it was 102. I called him and left a message joking about > the whole temperature thing and told him to call me. I got a call thursday > morning on my way into work from another co-worker saying he was dead and i > told him that shit wasnt funny and to stop f-ing with me. i hung up called > my friends house. his fiance answered the phone and i asked for shawn, and > she didnt answer and i knew it was true.... > Last week everyone in the wedding was fitted for tuxedos. its not right. > He had viral pneumonia and it got in his blood. he argued all night with > his girl about not needing to go to the hospital, when she finally got him > to go it was already in his brain. So just a warning about severe hot and > cold flashes. he wasnt in pain, and didnt think anything was wrong until he > felt to weak to stand and then essentially it was too late. though im told > the hospital all but ignored him, and when they realized something was way > wrong and started to listen, they still didnt know what to do and were more > concerned with asking him his ss# while he was foaming at the mouth and > losing control of his own body. His fiance is being ignored, by work, by > the doctors, by everyone and all because they wern't married yet. Our > company is huge and worth millions and we have one of the top five > retirements in the state, but they wont help her either, she has rent and > two small boys to take care of now by herself, and now im just rambling > sorry. the whole thing is messed up and its just so not right. which goes > well with the news that I'm broke and being evicted by the end of feb. we > have a meeting today with our land lady but..... sorry to dump all this non > group related stuff on you guys but i could really use some kind words right > now because everything is falling apart. > > rob > > _________________________________________________________________ > FREE pop-up blocking with the new MSN Toolbar – get it now! > http://toolbar.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200415ave/direct/01/ > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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