Re: when does it stop....

November 27, 2007

Donna,

I know what your going through on the deaths so close together and part's

of a child's life is asking questions about this topic. My Son went through

similar situations. He has lost many friends to Violence and wondered WHY?

When he was in school. Most of his friends situations were either on the News

or in the paper. Telling what happened. He keeps in contact with 3 high

school friends now. Once out of High School he became buddies with a guy his age

and where you seen one you would see the other. My Son was told this buddy had

a Kidney Disease and would not live to be a certain age. My no fault of his

buddies. He would go to the Dialysas with him each time and this one time he

didn't go something happened to that machine which the lights went off at the

place and when they came back on the machine went in reverse and the boy

died. My son was blaming his self that he was not there to help. Not long after

that my Mom passed away and he said Ma I can not handle no more death around

me. Everyone I cared for has passed away and it was not their time to go.

This was when talked with him. Now remember there's 10 yrs between my

kids. told him look we can not predict when we will lose someone we

love. This is why we have to enjoy the time we have with them. We do not need

to dwell on thing's we can not change. But we need to remember the good times

we had with them. This is where memories come from and why God gives us

Memories. She said God takes from us to help us understand theres life and we

sometimes have to lose someone to understand the meaning of life.

was singing in the School Chorus at this time and was doing the

song Circle of Life. So she remembered that song and told him to listen to

it. also said look even though we have lost people close to us. They

would not want us sad for life. They would want us to enjoy life best we can.

told him Grandma and Grandpa are in a better life now Uncle's and

Aunts are in a better life and those friends you have lost are in a better

life.

We will miss them and we have those memories to help us through it.

got to talking with him and asking about funny things they did.

together and he started laughing. He took that and since he can draw he drew

pictures of those he had lost. Making it a beautiful picture. To this Day

and my son have always gotten tighter when times were trying. It's a

bond

that no one can touch between them. But one thing my son will not do is go

to a Funeral. He said he does not want to view the body either as he wants to

remember the person as he last seen them. SO I have to go with that.

He always does a picture of the one that he lost. In Memory of them

Tell Matt we are thinking about him. We are sorry for his Loss. But always

remember they are watching over us.

Robbin and

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November 27, 2007

thank you Robbin...maybe should call Matt. His reactions are of a

physical nature. he now has a fist hole in his door and a sore hand.....Hugs!

Donna