Need a boost

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Phyllis, I saw your name!!!! When Ernesto picked me up. I was really a bit nervous, but as soon as I arrived in Mexico I suddenly had a calm feeling that was strange........Maybe it was Yolanda. She is an angel. Everything went fine for me and I am sure it will for you! Virginia DOB 3-13-06 198.8/192.4/135Phyllis Drummond <tobygirl5@...> wrote: Hi, All. I'm preparing for my trip to SD-Mexicali. I leave Friday and will work Mon-Thur, so need to get ready now. I'm not having second thoughts, but I'm feeling strangley overwhelmed today. I have spent about a half hour just now with your photo albums. I already know you are beautiful people from your emails/postings, but it was very moving to see before and "during"

and after photos. You are truly a beautiful bunch of people!I guess I need to write all of these feelings in a journal and not take up posting space so will do that, and share later if I think someone could benefit from my notes.I will be a "bandster" by this time next week. I am 56 and feel as though I have my whole life ahead of me. Other times, I feel like I am going to get some of my "old life" back. I expect to be really busy this week so may be out of touch until after surgery. I'll let you know how it goes. Thanks for all of the past, present and future support. Phyllis Virginia

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I think I need a little boost or kick in the tush or something b/c I have been

having a hard time lately. I think I've cheated something like 5 times in the

past 2 weeks or so. I'm not sure how it all started, but I have a lack of

desire to get back where I was. It seems that my strong will is broken. I am

the only person in my house on the diet and the only cook. I feel like I put

tons of effort into planning and cooking meals, and I'm honestly just tired of

thinking so hard about something that is so simple...eating! Maybe some words

of wisdom? Or someone who can relate?

Thanks,

Dawn

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> I think I need a little boost or kick in the tush or something b/c I have been

having a hard time lately. I think I've cheated something like 5 times in the

past 2 weeks or so.

> Thanks,

> Dawn

Hi Dawn, here is a kick in the tush. Welcome to fighting an addiction. It's hard

when you are the only cook and maybe better that way because you can be your

best friend and cook what you need not what you think you want. When I

introduced this food to my daughters 11 and 14 I got plenty of guff and I stuck

with it and have seen big improvements in myself and especially one of my girls.

There are many things you can do to minimized the craving and reread that part

and welcome to the best fight of your life and may the best Dawn win.

Neal

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Dear Dawn,

It gets really hard sometimes! I'm very sorry that your husband is

unsupportive. The way that I keep from giving in ( " just a bite, " etc.) is to

ask myself, Do I want that pizza or do I want to get well? Make a list of the

things you want to do and can't right now because you are ill. Read over the

list of symptoms of candida in the main article again, and notice how many you

have, and ask yourself if having these is worth eating off diet.!

When I hear, " my husband is so unsupportive, " that speaks to me about other

issues in a marriage-- not just about the diet. Regardless of whether your

husband agrees with what you are doing for yourself, he should not be telling

you to quit. If he expressed his concern once in a while, that would be

different. And if he is needling your daughter to try to feed you carbs (you

didn't say this is so, but where did she get the idea?) that is damaging to the

child--it teaches her to disrespect you.

Can you sit down with him and try saying, " I know that you disagree with what I

am doing. I am tired of being ill, and I would think that you would be tired of

it, too. I want to be able to be the best wife and mother I can be, and from my

research, this is the best chance I've had in a long time to achieve that. So I

would appreciate it if you would stop telling me to quit, because I am not going

to for at least a year, and maybe beyond that, because this type of healing

takes a long time, but it's worth the effort. You don't have to agree with me,

but I do not want you to discourage me. And I don't want our daughter to be put

in the middle of our disagreement, either. " Something like that. Put the

emphasis on what you feel and what you are going to do, and then do it, so he

knows that it's futile to push at you.

I know you didn't ask for this advice, but if that doesn't work, it sounds like

you and your husband would benefit from some marriage counselling, either from

your pastor, rabbi, etc or a professional. If he won't go with you, go by

yourself. If you can't afford it, let the counsellor know--they all have

sliding fee scales.

As far as his pushing carbs, you might get the book, " Life Without Bread, " by

Christian Allan and Wolfgang Lutz. I think it is listed in Bee's Amazon

recommendations. While it doesn't really push no bread in our lives, it does

speak about the dangers of high-carb (the standard American diet) diets, and

this might help your husband get better on board with what you are doing. I

find that if I can give people solid research, they are less apt to belittle my

choices.

Life w/out Bread is an easy read and a great starter book, to get people

thinking.

You can have your daughter on the diet as much as possible--if he's not there

for breakfast or lunch, you can wean her into Bee's diet if you think she needs

it. You certainly can limit the kind of carbs she gets and make sure she's only

getting whole, organic foods for most of her intake. You can make your dinners

as Bee-friendly as possible, adding in non-diet vegetables for them, and

introduce them whole grains, like brown rice, quinoa and millet if he insists on

grain starches (see Nourishing Traditions by Sally Fallon, also a " Bee book. " )

I can't speak to the die-off question--I get confused about all that!

I'm sorry this got very long. HANG IN THERE!! You can do this!

hugs,

Rhe

> Thanks Neal. The thing is that I'm not having cravings, but rather just being

with my family. My husband is very unsupportive with the diet and tells me to

quit it at least a couple times of week AND he loves to eat out. On top of

that, he doesn't want my daughter on the diet, so she is always trying to feed

me carbs (which is very sweet) by jamming her food in my mouth. I feel doomed

for failure at this point, but I'm trying to hang in there. None of my cheats

have been horrible or anything, but I feel like I'm going backwards rather than

forwards.

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> Quick question...should I be still getting those horrible die-off reactions

when I eat off the diet? B/c I haven't had any bloating these past 2 weeks and

it's starting to freak me out a little. Anyway, thanks again for the kick!! I

will try harder.

> Dawn

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Rhe,

I read this post tonight and am gonna use it to refer back to. Those are the

same things I experience everyday with the mental challenges of battling this.

Sometimes I feel sorry for myself and think I'm the only one which i know isn't

healthy thinking. Sometimes I feel that it's easier for other people following

this diet and wonder why am I having such a hard time with it. Because

ultimately, I know I have to do it to get better and I have to say it is

extremely hard for me.

When you talked about the lack of support, I thought it was perfect advice

because altough I don't have a husband or wife, but have felt those same things

from having lack of support. I was impressed with how good of a healthy thinker

you are seemingly incredible person.

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> > Thanks Neal. The thing is that I'm not having cravings, but rather just

being with my family. My husband is very unsupportive with the diet and tells

me to quit it at least a couple times of week AND he loves to eat out. On top

of that, he doesn't want my daughter on the diet, so she is always trying to

feed me carbs (which is very sweet) by jamming her food in my mouth. I feel

doomed for failure at this point, but I'm trying to hang in there. None of my

cheats have been horrible or anything, but I feel like I'm going backwards

rather than forwards.

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> > Quick question...should I be still getting those horrible die-off reactions

when I eat off the diet? B/c I haven't had any bloating these past 2 weeks and

it's starting to freak me out a little. Anyway, thanks again for the kick!! I

will try harder.

> > Dawn

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Dear ,

Thanks for your kind words. I think I am " becoming " a healthy thinker! I'm 51

and still have lots to figure out.

The sticking-to-diet challenge was fresh in my mind yesterday. I had taken my

nine year-old nephew to his school Spring Fair. We were there longer than I

expected, I had no emergency rations in my purse, and there was a pizza truck!

(I LOVE pizza, not to mention all the cakes on the Cake Walk table!) I could

taste it! I found myself thinking, well, I might just have a piece " went down

to, " if Greg gets a piece, I'll just have a bite. " Then, " Do I want pizza or to

get well?!? " kicked in.

I did manage to talk myself out of it. But I was surprised at how easy it

seemed for my thinking to drift to the Dark Side (haha) because I was surrounded

by food that was not nourishing. I hadn't thought about/desired pizza or cake

in months. Says a lot for eating at home and having at least a few supportive

people in our lives. If not your spouse, find someone who can be your

cheerleader.

I ache for all you folks whose spouses are not supportive, and some of you have

downright cruel barbs to deal with. My dear husband has been so supportive, so

I guess I know what it should look like when I hear others' stories. We can get

stuck in things seeming normal, if we don't know what normal is.

Here's to all of us! We can do this!

--Rhe

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> > (Bee, this got very long. Please let me know if I should not post things

like this)

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> > Dear Dawn,

> > It gets really hard sometimes! I'm very sorry that your husband is

unsupportive. The way that I keep from giving in ( " just a bite, " etc.) is to

ask myself, Do I want that pizza or do I want to get well? Make a list of the

things you want to do and can't right now because you are ill. Read over the

list of symptoms of candida in the main article again, and notice how many you

have, and ask yourself if having these is worth eating off diet.!

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