Coping with food envy?

[Guest guest]

Seriously, how do we manage it?! I can't expect my family

(specifically my parents) to eat what I eat, because despite them

being very helpful with doing my shopping and helping out with cash

when I need it for special things, they just don't have much

interest in all this. Well, not as it applies to them (they're both

candida-y but it doesn't really affect them in the same ways it does

me - they're both happy, functioning members of society and quite

content to put up with a few aches and pains and things).

And they keep eating things I love and can't have! Today it was

spaghetti Bolognese (and the sauce was made with smoked bacon so it

smelled WONDERFUL), served with various cheeses, and with

strawberries, mangoes, and cream for dessert. The other day they had

chocolate fudge cake. They don't rub it in or anything, they always

wait until I've had my meals before they start cooking theirs, but

it's just so difficult to deal with, knowing there's all this lovely

food in the house! There is a tub of toffee ice-cream in the freezer

downstairs. Does anyone have any tips for coping? I'm certain that

I'm not going to break down and have something verboten, because I

just can't imagine having to start all over again from scratch, but

I need some ways of helping handle the envy. CHOCOLATE!

As well as desserts, I'm really missing potatoes *sniff* and nutty,

creamy curries. This is going to sound crazy, but I found myself in

a daydream the other day that I had an inoperable brain tumour and

only had two months to live - so I could stuff my face with whatever

I liked without having to think about the consequences!

But I have just today discovered the joys of anchovies, so it's not

all bad.

[Guest guest]

My husband eats all sorts of things in front of me

that I don't have. In fact my freezer is often filled

with junk food just for him.

I manage it by keeping my body well fueled at all

times. That means adequate calories so that I don't

feel hunger.

That also means avoiding butter and stevia (except for

very occassionally) because they provoke cravings for

me, even though they may not feed candida.

That means eating at regular intervals and drinking

plenty of water so that I'm full. At this point in

the program very little tempts me, but it took a while

to get to that point.

There are a few smells that get to me and I do try to

leave the room in those cases. So don't worry about

what others are eating.. you only have to make sure

*you* are eating well.

Do you envy them their health problems, cravings,

obesity, what have you? Be proud of yourself that you

are mature enough to take responsibility for what goes

into your body.. your maturity is surpassing your

parents'.

Luv,

Debby

San , CA

--- lizzie_libertine <ginger_liz@...> wrote:

> Seriously, how do we manage it?! I can't expect my

> family

> (specifically my parents) to eat what I eat, because

> despite them

> being very helpful with doing my shopping and

> helping out with cash

> when I need it for special things, they just don't

> have much

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[Guest guest]

Lizzie,

Remember, it's not forever!! You're young, and as long as you do this

right, I believe there will be a time and place to relax and indulge in

moderation. Until that day, be strong! Think about the health of your

future babies, or your brain cells, or whatever. Even if all you eat is

salad and hamburgers (with fat of course) for a week straight, try different

spices in the burger every day. And know that you are more fortunate and

better off than like 90% of people in the world. I watched my boyfriend and

my entire family eat baked ziti and homemade apricot/blueberry pie tonight,

so i know how you feel. Also my boyfriend works as a beer brewer at a craft

microbrewery and brings home new delights every night. So i know how you

feel! We are all surrounded by the surplus of tempting crap. Just make your

choice and Keep up the good work!!! We gotta eat to live, not live to eat.

[Guest guest]

>

> Lizzie,

> Remember, it's not forever!! You're young, and as long as you do

this

> right, I believe there will be a time and place to relax and

indulge in

> moderation. Until that day, be strong! Think about the health of

your

> future babies, or your brain cells, or whatever. Even if all you

eat is

> salad and hamburgers (with fat of course) for a week straight, try

different

> spices in the burger every day. And know that you are more

fortunate and

> better off than like 90% of people in the world. I watched my

boyfriend and

> my entire family eat baked ziti and homemade apricot/blueberry pie

tonight,

> so i know how you feel. Also my boyfriend works as a beer brewer

at a craft

> microbrewery and brings home new delights every night. So i know

how you

> feel! We are all surrounded by the surplus of tempting crap. Just

make your

> choice and Keep up the good work!!! We gotta eat to live, not

live to eat.

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

You know, I already drink plenty of water, but for the last couple of

days I've tried drinking more, especially around my family's mealtime

(not around mine: digestive juices and all that) and it has actually

helped a bit! Thank you for that tip.

Does it get to you that your loved ones are basically poisoning

themselves with junk food? Because it's hard for me to watch, knowing

the biochemistry behind what they're doing to themselves. I do my

hardest not to nag, because I know that will be counterproductive and

will just push them away from the idea of eating healthier. But I have

got my dad taking a multivitamin every day, so that's a start!

[Guest guest]

Argh, sorry, forgot to snip!

[Guest guest]

Lizzie wrote: " And it really helps knowing I'm not the only one! "

-------------------------

Hi Lizzie,

No, you are not alone! I bet if we were to take a survey of this

group, there would be many who have been or still are in your spot.

I for one am in that spot a lot, especially with my family, and with

friends. I have a large, tight-knit French-Canadian family who likes

to get together, often at the last minute, around a meal at the

kitchen table or in the backyard in the summer.

These meals are usually potlucks... here come the white bread, cold

meat, cheese, liver patés, good wine and desserts... You get the

picture... :- )

Then, there are the restaurant temptations... Montréal, where my

family lives and where I visit once a month, has so many excellent

ones... :- )

Here are things that have helped me:

(1) Eating tons of good fat (ghee & coconut oil), as is and drizzled

on my food, relieved the cravings, made me feel satiated.

(2) Rewarding myself financially for each day I don't cheat. Then, I

can buy fun, non-food items with this $$ (book, lamp, clothes, movie,

concert, etc.; spa, facials, massages, a day or week-end

holiday/trip, etc., would be good ones too).

* I calculated that cheating could cost me anywhere from over $1 to

$10 a time (it's surprisingly expensive when you actually calculate

it)

* So I counted an average of $2.50 to $5 reward daily, which I put

in a clear glass jar where my eyes catch it throughout the day (top

of computer, kitchen table, etc.).

* A friend of mine suggested this idea (what it does is reward the

part of the brain that is not rational, that works on tangibles,

emotions, rewards, survival, etc.).

* I found it to be a powerful incentive! It's very exciting to see

the $$ go up quite fast! Unfortunately, this month, I couldn't do

that because my budget did not allow it. :- (

* I'll do it for sure again from September on.

(3) Another idea from my friend: For each day not cheating, stick a

big, bright star on your calendar, like is done in elementary

school...

The principle is the same as above. This one worked for me at the

beginning. However, the one I found that worked the best was the

financial reward. I got myself various little items with the $$, that

I would not have purchased otherwise.

(4) Gardening in the spring/summer/beginning of fall: I find that if

I can get myself working in the garden and in the yard as soon as the

cravings hit, I focus on something else, something beautiful and

involved, it works.

(5) Getting engrossed in a really good book (library or purchased)

when cravings happen gets me into the story of the book and makes me

forget the rest (of course, one has to have the time to do that).

Hope some of this helps.

Fran

[Guest guest]

Heh, time isn't really an issue for me, as I'm on incapacity

benefit! And I do love reading; I should really try and do more of

that. Although I find that recently I've been leaning away from

fiction as reading material, which I've loved since I was a tot, and

more towards books about nutrition and evolutionary biology, or

doing research on the internet. Money is my real problem - I

realised today that I was overdrawn, in fact, which will make things

a bit tight for the next ten days! Next time I have a bit of spare

cash, though, I will buy a little piggy bank for my change, and

maybe I'll be able to get an extra organic chicken or something at

the end of every week.

I'm actually making a note of that now: last week I bought a little

book to go in my purse, in which to write myself reminders. I find

that now my head's clearing, I'd like to become more organised,

whereas the last ten years I've been quite content to lose

things/forget things/walk around in a muddle! I've even managed to

hang on to the same set of keys for four months. (That is a really

big deal, and all my friends have commented on it!) So I know that

all this is good for me. That's keeping me going as well!

My mum and dad are keen gardeners; perhaps I ought to get out there

with them this weekend. A new hobby will probably help, that's a

good idea and I can't believe no-one has suggested it to me before!

Thank you.

[Guest guest]

It is hard in the beginning but the strictest part of the diet doesnt

last forever. Bee says that you can count on one month for every year

you've been sick. Wow! When you think about it, that's not that long.

In the meantime, Eat to live. Get up from the table, do the dishes

from the meal you made from scrath and spend your day serving others.

You know, if your like me, you can spend so much of your time

thinking about your health and ways to get better, it's really rather

self-centered (I'm speaking strictly from my own experience).

Sometimes, I'd get so self-absorbed in my thinking that I couldnt love

the daughter and husband I have. It took my husband telling me that

he didnt want anymore children if it meant losing his wife, for me to

snap out of it and look outwards at the blessings around me.

Something that might help that I have recently started doing is to

think about the fruits of every situation. Any decision we make has

fruits, wether they be bad fruits or good fruits. Everyone in this

forum has the choice to either go on this strict diet for a time to

heal or continue the eating lifestyle we've maintained up to this

point. We all know the fruits of the SAD diet, that's why were here;

theyre bad, rotten fruit. But being on this diet we can learn so much

about fortitude, temperance, patience, thankfulness; it will

strentghen our wills, it will strengthen our bodies. We can be a

model to others in our healing if we can practice virtues while we

were in the healing process. And after our bodies have healed we need

to use our health to serve others.

Surround yourself with things that are good, beautiful and true. Read

inspirational stories of people who have overcome adversity (start

with Bee's candida story in the files). A few recent titles I saw

that looked good are:

A Test of Will (the story of a thrill-seeker who nearly loses his life

but ends up being the first double amputee to climb Mt. Kilaminjaro sp?)

In Front of the Class (The story of a man with Turret Syndrome (sp?)

who becomes teacher of the year)

With a Little Faith (the story of a two-legged dog named Faith)

From a Christian standpoint, read Scripture with uplifting commentaries.

We can spend so much time trying to better our health but we need to

better our spiritual well-being. Read books that will help you become

a better daughter, son, mother, student, teacher, Dr, husband, wife,

friend, employee.

Develop a personal mission statement. If you have a family, develop a

family mission statement. Read Covey's books on how to do

that. It will be life-changing, I assure you.

Learn something new. I've decided that much of my life needs to be

spent learning new things to pass down to my daughter, skills that

will enrich her life. Traditional cooking is one, but I've also

picked up embroidery and crochet and I hope to start quilting once

I've mastered the basics on those. What would you like to learn and

pass down to future generations? Car mechanics? woodworking? Pilates?

basket weaving? Tennis?

(Think embroidery is lame? Get the Stitch It Kit by Hart or

visit her website on sublimestich.com)

I guess my point is to focus on the good that will come out of this,

if you let it.

When you've been eating this way for awhile, you will not want to go

back to your old eating habits. Anyone who has followed Weston

Price's dietary principles for long enough will vouch for me on this.

Those times when youre forced to eat a SAD meal, you will find

yourself wishing you hadnt, as your symptoms will appear half-way

through the meal. Maybe someday I'll tell the story of going to a

Chinese restaurant after a year of eating better...long story short,

my Mom thought I was having a stroke at the age of 26.

Many blessings to all,

>

> Seriously, how do we manage it?! I can't expect my family

> (specifically my parents) to eat what I eat, because despite them

> being very helpful with doing my shopping and helping out with cash

> when I need it for special things, they just don't have much

> interest in all this. Well, not as it applies to them (they're both

> candida-y but it doesn't really affect them in the same ways it does

> me - they're both happy, functioning members of society and quite

> content to put up with a few aches and pains and things).

>

> And they keep eating things I love and can't have! Today it was

> spaghetti Bolognese (and the sauce was made with smoked bacon so it

> smelled WONDERFUL), served with various cheeses, and with

> strawberries, mangoes, and cream for dessert. The other day they had

> chocolate fudge cake. They don't rub it in or anything, they always

> wait until I've had my meals before they start cooking theirs, but

> it's just so difficult to deal with, knowing there's all this lovely

> food in the house! There is a tub of toffee ice-cream in the freezer

> downstairs. Does anyone have any tips for coping? I'm certain that

> I'm not going to break down and have something verboten, because I

> just can't imagine having to start all over again from scratch, but

> I need some ways of helping handle the envy. CHOCOLATE!

>

> As well as desserts, I'm really missing potatoes *sniff* and nutty,

> creamy curries. This is going to sound crazy, but I found myself in

> a daydream the other day that I had an inoperable brain tumour and

> only had two months to live - so I could stuff my face with whatever

> I liked without having to think about the consequences!

>

> But I have just today discovered the joys of anchovies, so it's not

> all bad.

>