Ten Great Points and how they hit home today!

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I loved your list, it was so well written and today, Number 2 hit home so

perfectly:

After 16 months of intense searching, 75 applications, 16 unsuccessful

interviews, son got hired at the new Volkswagen plant in their food service

dept. (He has vocational training for culinary!) My total excitement was

tempered with my " worry button " that clicked on immediately. How will he get up?

Will he understand what to do? and on and on...but I never could have

anticipated this one. Today, first day on new job, one hour into work, phone

rings and it is him. He whispers throatily in the phone, " Mom, I can't pee! I

can't do the drug screen. " Of all the stuff I worried about, somehow I missed

THIS ONE! I knew he was nervous because he takes meds for ADD but we had Dr.

name, presc. etc all written down. I told him to take a deep breath, run some

water, and yes he COULD do it!

We are just so grateful that he has been hired! It has truly been a nightmare.

He decided he did not want job coach so going it alone at least at first.

Sue in TN

> There are so many difficulties raising a child with Aspergers.

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> 1. Your friends don't understand your problems or stress....for instance...I

have a teenagers...and my friends always tell me ...oh he is just a typical

teenagers...we all have that problem....but they don't. I end up not talking to

them about it as they can never realize how much harder it is to raise a teen

with AS.

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> 2. Worry...the worry for your child...what does the future hold. Will he be

able to function and hold down a job and take care of himself.

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> 3. Pain...the pain you have knowing your child has no friends or loses friends

easily. The pain knowing your child feels different. The pain knowing your

child has been bullied or teased.

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> 4. Fustration because teachers don't understand your child and the way he

thinks.

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> 5. Frightened because your child is ANGRY! and won't talk to you...won't tell

you what is going on...

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> 6. Horrified that he/she may be misunderstood and end up in legal trouble.

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> 7. Tired...tired from all the battles...battles with the school, battles at

home doing homework....

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> 8. Depressed because I feel I can not help him. Depressed that he can not

enjoy the things others do such as going to a dance or joining the swim team.

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> 9. Sad because I love him so much and his life is hard and he is angry and

depressed.

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> 10. Hopeless at times until I connect with others on this site and know I am

not the only one feeling this way.

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> " In the Midst of Difficulty lies Opportunity " Albert Einstein

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> Success is not measured by one's position but by the obstacles one has

overcome to obtain that position

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> From: dani_gallagher83 <Dmgallagher83@...>

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> Sent: Sun, September 26, 2010 10:16:48 AM

> Subject: ( ) Re: Question for you all

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> The biggest challenges in regards to raising my son (7 y/o w/AS & ADHD) has

been actually getting people..... whether it be family members, school officials

or my friends to actually believe that my son has AS. They just don't 'see it'

so it can't be so. Another challenge is the stress. I have found that not many

of those around me can understand or relate to what I'm dealing with (as a

single mom, mother of AS child, full time student), so really talking to them

for stress relief is kind of pointless.

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> Congrats at school! Keep at it! I'm only 2 semesters from garduating with a

B.A. in Psych

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> > I am the parent of a 12yo son with AS. Currently, I am half-way through

getting my Bachelor's Degree

> in Psychology. For a paper I am writing currently, would any of you be

willing to share some of the major challenges you face raising a child with this

type of disorder. Challenges can be within your home and without (educational

settings, problems with doctors, taking them out in public, etc).

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> > I would truly appreciate any help that anyone is willing to offer. If you

would like to respond privately, please use my email address listed to do so.

Responses on the group site are fine with me as well, if allowed.

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> > Thanks again for the all help and advice you have provided to me since I

joined this group!

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> > Angi Clifton

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