Re: help with teenager w/Asperger's, she is in need of more resources.

[Guest guest]

Re: ( ) help with teenager w/Asperger's, she is in need

of more resources.

Hi,

I had the same problem with my daugther over the summer, so I suggested the

doctor to hospitalized her. It hurts to hospitalized somebody you love, but it

is the best choice you ever can do.

There doctors will find the right medication for her, they will teach her how to

manage stress and other things.

My girl did not want to take  her medication neither, now she takes it without

complaint.

The hospital set up us up with an in home therapist and a nurse that came very

day to make sure she takes her medicine.

Also they should evaluate her to make sure that her problems are not caused by a

neurological illness.

The medicines that you girl is taking are not working for her.

It looks to me that you girl has not been properlty treated.

In the hospital my daugther got OT evaluation and Services. The therapist also

works on her sensorial issues.

Yes, my girl was also allucinating,  and having crazy dreams, they increased the

dosis of seroquel and now she do

[Guest guest]

Hi,

I had the same problem with my daugther over the summer, so I suggested the doctor to hospitalized her. It hurts to hospitalized somebody you love, but it is the best choice you ever can do.

There doctors will find the right medication for her, they will teach her how to manage stress and other things.

My girl did not want to take her medication neither, now she takes it without complaint.

The hospital set up us up with an in home therapist and a nurse that came very day to make sure she takes her medicine.

Also they should evaluate her to make sure that her problems are not caused by a neurological illness.

The medicines that you girl is taking are not working for her.

It looks to me that you girl has not been properlty treated.

In the hospital my daugther got OT evaluation and Services. The therapist also works on her sensorial issues.

Yes, my girl was also allucinating, and having crazy dreams, they increased the dosis of seroquel and now she does not allucinate anymore.

In my daugther situation the fights was caused because she could not express her feelings, this is still a problem but the therapist is treating her very well.

I will pray for you....I know it is very hard but with the right services she will be fine..

( ) help with teenager w/Asperger'sMy 16 yr old stepdaughter recently moved in with my husband and I because her mother ,, with whom she has spent the last 15 1/2 years cannot handle her anymore. We have no other children. We were in the process of adopting, but since Robyn moved in, we have put that on indefinite hold. Everything is so much more difficult now and I do not see an end in sight. There are daily outbursts, hourly, really. Gigantic fights over the smallest daily tasks. The latest major event is that she tries to refuse to take her medications because she cannot "feel her feelings" anymore. She stands in the kitchen and screams at the top of her lungs "NO, NO, NO I WILL NOT TAKE THIS MEDICATION BECAUSE I CAN'T FEEL MY FEELINGS" over and over again. Then she collapses into a heap on the floor sobbing. I keep my bedroom door locked at night unless my husband is there, because I am afraid that she will come into my room and try to hurt me or my two dogs. I don't think she would intentionally do anything, but she is often saying that she has "evil thoughts" and that she wants to hurt people. She also describes a recurrent dream that she has in which someone is trying to kill her, so she has to kill them first. She has a psychiatrist and weekly individual therapy. She is on multiple medications for depression, mood stabilization, and anxiety. My husband and I never have a moment alone, even to just talk. She is ever-present and our house is very small. Last week, on my one day off during the week, my husband decided to stay home from work because he had a really bad cold. Even though he was sick, I found myself really looking forward to spending the day making him soup, watching tv, just being together for a few hours. By 9:00 am Robyn was calling home from school ( as she does at least twice a week) that she was too nervous to stay and needed to be picked up immediately. Calling her bluff and making her stay is not an option, because when we say that it is not possible to leave work at that moment, can't she hang on until lunchtime, etc....the school nurse or special ed teacher calls back and tells us that they need for her to leave the school ASAP.I feel very guilty that it seems so hard for me to muster up compassion sometimes. I know she has a problem and I also know that I have zero grasp on the depth and meaning of her condition. I also feel that my once peaceful, happy, safe home has been invaded by a master manipulator and I am miserable. She screams at me and calls me a murderer for pulling up weeds in my beloved vegetable garden. The weeds have a right to live as much as I do, says she. She physically attacks her father for cleaning the mold off the windowsill outside because the mold is a living organism too. This from a girl who can eat a pound of bacon in a single sitting and who sees nothing wrong in going deer hunting and fishing with her dad.We took her to a fall festival in the mountains and she became at once catatonic, staring into space, then wildly dashing about as if trying to escape some invisible force. When we were able to subdue her, she said that there were too many people wearing clothing with buttons on it all around her and she thought they were trying to hurt her and that the buttons on their shirts and jackets were trying to drive her crazy. The buttons, of course, I should have known. Please, somebody respond. Even if it is to tell me that I am a jackass for complaining. I am just new to this, I guess.Thanks for listening

[Guest guest]

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What are your step-daughter's diagnosis?

I think an in-patient stay might be a good idea for your step-daughter. It

sounds to me like the meds are not addressing the issues. Hallucinations that

severe, and your worry that she might hurt you or your animals (intentionally or

otherwise) need to be dealt with quickly. What do her doctors say about these

things? Is this why her mother can't handle her anymore? Hospitalizing our

kids is a very difficult decision to make, but in this case I think it might be

for the best. I don't know about facilities in your area, but I know the ones

where we live usually take patients in for up to 2 weeks at a time. On top of

the staff being able to adjust her meds to something that may work better, you

and your hubby would have a chance to step back and find resources to help you

deal with her at the same time. We had to hospitalize our 12 yo son a couple of

months ago. During a rage, he became convinced that I was a spy and was out to

hurt his 2 yo sister and wouldn't let me near here. If there had been an

emergency, all three of us could have been hurt if I couldn't get to her. He

spent the next 14 days in a hospital here in town. With the med adjustments

they made there, he has been much calmer and more compliant. The doctors did

change one of his accompanying diagnosis while he was in the hospital as well.

My son was diagnosed with Mood Disorder - NOS. Basically he had a mood disorder,

they just didn't know which one. Now he has a working diagnosis of Bi-Polar,

Mania with Psychotic Features.

Our son does have the same complaints with his meds from time to time. He will

tell us that he doesn't need them, and they make him 'worse' but we tell him

that if he doesn't take them, he will have to go back to the hospital again.

Usually this works to persuade him to comply. Additionally, we have what is

called a " PRN " or 'emergency' med. This is a med we can give to him when he

becomes agitated so that he won't escalate into violence at home.

My son was diagnosed almost 10 years ago, so we had time to adjust to the

'quirks' of these disorders as he grew up. My heart goes out to you, having all

of this come on all at once like this. Hang in there and keep your head up.

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> Hi,

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> I had the same problem with my daugther over the summer, so I suggested the

doctor to hospitalized her. It hurts to hospitalized somebody you love, but it

is the best choice you ever can do.

>

>

>

> There doctors will find the right medication for her, they will teach her how

to manage stress and other things.

>

> My girl did not want to take  her medication neither, now she takes it

without complaint.

>

> The hospital set up us up with an in home therapist and a nurse that came very

day to make sure she takes her medicine.

>

>

>

> Also they should evaluate her to make sure that her problems are not caused by

a neurological illness.

>

> The medicines that you girl is taking are not working for her.

>

> It looks to me that you girl has not been properlty treated.

>

>

>

> In the hospital my daugther got OT evaluation and Services. The therapist also

works on her sensorial issues.

>

> Yes, my girl was also allucinating,  and having crazy dreams, they increased

the dosis of seroquel and now she does not allucinate anymore.

>

> In my daugther situation the fights was caused because she could not express

her feelings, this is still a problem but the therapist is treating her very

well.

>

> I will pray for you....I know it is very  hard but with the right services

she will be fine..

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

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> ( ) help with teenager w/Asperger's

>

> My 16 yr old stepdaughter recently moved in with my husband and I because her

mother ,, with whom she has spent the last 15 1/2 years cannot handle her

anymore.  We have no other children.  We were in the process of adopting, but

since Robyn moved in, we have put that on indefinite hold.  Everything is so

much more difficult now and I do not see an end in sight.  

>

> There are daily outbursts, hourly, really.   Gigantic fights over the

smallest daily tasks.  The latest major event is that she tries to refuse to

take her medications because she cannot " feel her feelings " anymore.  She

stands in the kitchen and screams at the top of her lungs " NO, NO, NO I WILL NOT

TAKE THIS MEDICATION BECAUSE I CAN'T FEEL MY FEELINGS " over and over again.

 Then she collapses into a heap on the floor sobbing.  

>

> I keep my bedroom door locked at night unless my husband is there, because I

am afraid that she will come into my room and try to hurt me or my two dogs.  I

don't think she would intentionally do anything, but she is often saying that

she has " evil thoughts " and that she wants to hurt people.  She also describes

a recurrent dream that she has in which someone is trying to kill her, so she

has to kill them first.  

>

> She has a psychiatrist and weekly individual therapy.  She is on multiple

medications for depression, mood stabilization, and anxiety.  

>

> My husband and I never have a moment alone, even to just talk.  She is

ever-present and our house is very small.  Last week, on my one day off during

the week, my husband decided to stay home from work because he had a really bad

cold.  Even though he was sick, I found myself really looking forward to

spending the day making him soup, watching tv, just being together for a few

hours.  By 9:00 am Robyn was calling home from school ( as she does at least

twice a week) that she was too nervous to stay and needed to be picked up

immediately.  Calling her bluff and making her stay is not an option, because

when we say that it is not possible to leave work at that moment, can't she hang

on until lunchtime, etc....the school nurse or special ed teacher calls back and

tells us that they need for her to leave the school ASAP.

>

> I feel very guilty that it seems so hard for me to muster up compassion

sometimes.  I know she has a problem and I also know that I have zero grasp on

the depth and meaning of her condition.  I also feel that my once peaceful,

happy, safe home has been invaded by a master manipulator and I am miserable.

 She screams at me and calls me a murderer for pulling up weeds in my beloved

vegetable garden.  The weeds have a right to live as much as I do, says she.

 She physically attacks her father for cleaning the mold off the windowsill

outside because the mold is a living organism too.  This from a girl who can

eat a pound of bacon in a single sitting and who sees nothing wrong in going

deer hunting and fishing with her dad.

>

> We took her to a fall festival in the mountains and she became at once

catatonic, staring into space, then wildly dashing about as if trying to escape

some invisible force.  When we were able to subdue her, she said that there

were too many people wearing clothing with buttons on it all around her and she

thought they were trying to hurt her and that the buttons on their shirts and

jackets were trying to drive her crazy.  The buttons, of course, I should have

known.  

>

> Please, somebody respond.  Even if it is to tell me that I am a jackass for

complaining.  I am just new to this, I guess.

>

> Thanks for listening

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