Need some advice please band locker

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Hi Lynne,

Wish I had magic dust to sprinkle on the

kids that would let me read their minds.

It certainly sounds like you and your

husband have gone through all of the paces that I would suggest as a seventh

grade teacher.

I do know that the classes that just

meet twice a week are hard on the students who love daily structure; I suspect

if she had to go to her band locker every day, it would be part of the routine.

I also know that the flute students in

my building don’t all feel the compulsion to use the first floor band

locker as do those with larger instruments.

Sometimes they are embarrassed to have

the large locker for such a puny little case.

There are urban legends about kids being

locked in their band lockers since they are so large.

In fact, at 6th grade

orientation to the new 7th grade building, I show pictures of

students trying to fit into the lockers and only a few can. Yet the myth

persists.

I am assuming that you asked her, and

she isn’t responding? Maybe you are focusing on the morning ritual

of going to the band locker but it is the few minutes before band class that

she doesn’t like the crowds at the band lockers. Does she know her

band locker combination well?

Is she concerned about opening this different

locker from her base locker and getting to band class on time?

It sounds like she brings it to class

and isn’t missing preparation points by doing it her way. Does her

band teacher care?

Wish I had that magic dust to help you.

Also thank you, Roxanna, Sandee, and

for you kinds words about my book on bullying.

E.C. Bernard

www.ecbernard.org

My 11 yr old dd has started middle school. Along with

Aspergers she has attachment issues,RAD. One of the rules at school is

they can get in their lockers at certain times of the day, therefore instead

of carrying their music instrument from class to class they also are

assigned a locker in the band room where they can take the instrument before

the class day starts. We are in the second week of school and she has had band

4 times and each time she is sticking her flute in her hall locker and not taking

it to the band room. My dh, myself and her first period teacher have all

told her how this can be done without the worry of being late for her first

class. In fact it has been discribed to her in great detail after the first two

times of failing to do so. We have done everything under the sun other

then going to school and helping her do it.

I know this seems like such a trivial thing, but what I

would like advice on is, am I missing something? Are we not saying something

right when we are trying to find why she is not wanting to do it the way

the teachers are requesting her to do it? We are just trying to figure

out if she is fearing something, doesn't understand something, or does she just

simply like to have her flute with her?

L

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