Guest guest Posted February 14, 2010 Report Share Posted February 14, 2010 Oh, I love that, " rainbows " ! You tell 'em!!! I liked what your wife commented too. Well heck, I thought everything said by you & wife was great. It was often after those meetings that hours later I would think of what I *should* have said, etc. > > then i made a comment that will forever now become my description of my daughter when other think she is DIFFERENT. I dont know if i ever heard it somewhere, or out of the situation i found a moment of clarity (so i cant take credit for making it up) but i said " We are forced all of our lives to be taught through your flatline teaching, to think in BLACK and WHITE. But my daughter can think in RAINBOWS. " > And they had no idea what i was talking about. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 I've been going through 'team meetings' lately too and they were trying to tell me that my daughter's behaviors were typical for kids her age. Um... she's diagnosed with Asperger's and your standardized test evaluations say she can't have a conversation with other kids or adults. I had the CSW call me a couple months ago saying she needed 1:1 meetings with her and we should put it in her IEP. She said she didn't know what I was talking about! Basically, Aspies are at the high rung of a disability... and for the most part it is an invisible disorder (many diseases use 'invisible illness.'s) These are the kids who have it the worst... And the parents. Good for you for sticking up for your child. Your wife hit the nail on the head exactly. This is a HANDICAP whether or not they want to view it as such. The LAW states that it is a disability. THE LAW. Discrimination violates the ADA as a result. Jen Emery 5 Aspie/possible adhd/K in the fall wrote: > > now the schools are calling our IEPs for my 8 year old daughter " team > meetings " . > this way here, everytime we catch them with a change or " mistake " on > her IEP they can chalk it up to a " typo by mistake " when they get caught. > anyway, > they actaully made the comment " we would like to see your daughter > start to think like the other children in her class " . > My wife (who is usually quiet and lets me do all of the talking) piped > up and said " can you make a blind person see yellow ? " . > then i lost it. > i said " what? do we live in communist russia?! think like everyone > else?! thank God no one ever told Einstein that or we wouldnt have thw > theory of relativity " . > then i made a comment that will forever now become my description of > my daughter when other think she is DIFFERENT. I dont know if i ever > heard it somewhere, or out of the situation i found a moment of > clarity (so i cant take credit for making it up) but i said " We are > forced all of our lives to be taught through your flatline teaching, > to think in BLACK and WHITE. But my daughter can think in RAINBOWS. " > And they had no idea what i was talking about. > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG - www.avg.com > Version: 8.5.435 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/2689 - Release Date: 02/15/10 07:35:00 > > No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG - www.avg.com Version: 8.5.435 / Virus Database: 271.1.1/2693 - Release Date: 02/17/10 07:35:00 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2010 Report Share Posted February 17, 2010 They often call IEP meetings, "team meetings" or some will say, "IEP Team Meetings." So that is probably not designed to upset you or get out of something. Changing things on the IEP or making "typo's" is a nasty habit some schools have to delay or deny services. I have seen it in action personally. lol. So the only recourse you have is to take great notes and go over everything carefully. You will have to be on watch with staff who pull this particular tactic. But you cannot be in their face about it either because you want to build some level of cooperation so you can work with these people over the long term. I don't see their comment about "thinking like other children in her class" as so bad. I mean, they obviously are tactless but I think they probably mean that they want to help her learn like others can learn so that it is not as difficult for her and so that she can do the work like her peers. Really, we all want that. I wasn't at your meeting, so there may be a long history of bad blood between you and the school staff or a conversation before that that explains more to the story. I've seen some of your posts to that effect before. But try hard to keep it steady. I know, it can make a person crazy dealing with it all! We have sure been through a lot of crap ourselves. If we fly off the handle, it never gets better vs. we can make our points and still maintain communication if we say things in ways that are not directly slapping them in the faces. It's an art form really. I am not so great at it but my dh is a master at it. So often, at meetings, I would tell him what I wanted to say and he would say it. Weird but true. lol. He just said it nicer and I had no tact when it came to telling people they were incompetent. lol. That never goes over well, trust me. <g> When my dh flipped out, you knew they had really screwed up past redemption because he is fairly calm. lol. Anyway, sounds like you had a stressful one. But pace yourself! And hope it gets better for you! Roxanna "The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." E. Burke ( ) recent "team meeting" now the schools are calling our IEPs for my 8 year old daughter "team meetings". this way here, everytime we catch them with a change or "mistake" on her IEP they can chalk it up to a "typo by mistake" when they get caught. anyway, they actaully made the comment "we would like to see your daughter start to think like the other children in her class". My wife (who is usually quiet and lets me do all of the talking) piped up and said "can you make a blind person see yellow ?". then i lost it. i said "what? do we live in communist russia?! think like everyone else?! thank God no one ever told Einstein that or we wouldnt have thw theory of relativity". then i made a comment that will forever now become my description of my daughter when other think she is DIFFERENT. I dont know if i ever heard it somewhere, or out of the situation i found a moment of clarity (so i cant take credit for making it up) but i said "We are forced all of our lives to be taught through your flatline teaching, to think in BLACK and WHITE. But my daughter can think in RAINBOWS." And they had no idea what i was talking about. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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