Help please, gagging/attention?

[Guest guest]

My dd is 11, aspie/RAD.

We bought a lake home this past spring so her summer routine is not as "set" as she would like it. With alot of company and our coming and going from the Lake, she has not been able to get in her routine.

Her routine would consist of getting out of the same side of the bed every morning, coming to kitchen and with the same tone of voice, using the same words and same expression, ask for breakfast,then go back to her room and exactly fifteen minutes later come and ask if she could go outside,,,using the same words each day, same facial expression etc............you get the pic. None of that has really gotten to happen.

About 3 weeks ago she developed a dry cough, with no other symptoms of a cold coming on etc...after about a week of having this cough she started doing a "gagging thing",,it does not matter if she is eating or drinking something, talking, singing or just standing still, she will all of a sudden turn red in the face and it almost seems like she has thrown up in her mouth and she will retch and cover her mouth like it is all going to come out.

As a parent I was concerned about pleum and her not spitting it out (although her cough had not sounded productive), also concerned of a chest cold etc........nothing ever transpired in regards to other symptoms. The constant coughing disappeared, but she still will do the gagging thing. We can be in a store, restraunt, around friends and she will do this. As soon as I tell her to leave the store, or where ever we are, and I can go with her, it stops,,,therefore my gut and brain is telling me it is for attention.

For my own sanity I consulted with her therapist and she told me to take her to a medical doc to rule any medical issue out. Internally I was angry,,I did speak to my dh about my feelings. I HATE second guessing myself,,,,,,,,,,,,will I ever be spot on with this little girl????????? I set up an appointment with my girls doctor and he set up an upper GI to be on the safe side.

Right now I feel angry because if this is all for attention or her way to control her day to day what will come next????? How can I stop it??? I know, get into routine,,,,,,,,,,I don't like this!!!! I hate feeling angry over something she cannot control, why does my baby have to go through this???

Sorry I just needed to whine to people who get what we are going through.

Hope you all have a wonderful/normal day!

Lynne Bankswww.americanadoptioncongress.orgSouth Dakota State Representative

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[Guest guest]

You might want to consult with a therapist that treats kids

with autism or obsessive compulsive disorders. Some kids

do a type of self stimulation as a way of calming.

If going places is causing these throat noises and she does

not do it at home watching TV you can rule out a medical

problem.

If you ask a medical doctor these days about symptoms

they most likely will want to protect themselves and

order tests. We have to be so knowledgeable about what

specialist to see.

If she feels that she has to have a set routine or something

bad will happen or she will have a bad day this is either

a very ridgid way of thinking or obessive compulsive way

of thinking. In either case the treatment is very similar

it is helping them make small changes systematically.

You can try a behavior therapy, to desensitize her in stores, by having her walk

up to a store and come up without noise and reward that. If she can do that

without stress, you can increase the

exposure to a 5 min store visit and leave with no noises.

Have her keep practicing at the same store until

that is boring than increase it a little longer.

It is hard to find a good therapist really hard I have found.

My 16 year old niece has anxiety and was sick every morning

prior to school. Her doctor ordered a GI exam but she was

too scared to go through with the scan. Then she refused

to go to school at all and the stomach aches went away.

Now she is in therapy and on medication (zoloft) and working

on getting back to school step at a time.

Good luck in sorting this out.

Pam

ks W

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> My dd is 11, aspie/RAD.

> We bought a lake home this past spring so her summer routine is not as " set "

as she would like it. With alot of company and our coming and going from the

Lake, she has not been able to get in her routine.

> Her routine would consist of getting out of the same side of the bed every

morning, coming to kitchen and with the same tone of voice, using the same words

and same expression, ask for breakfast,then go back to her room and exactly

fifteen minutes later come and ask if she could go outside,,,using the same

words each day, same facial expression etc............you get the pic. None of

that has really gotten to happen.

> About 3 weeks ago she developed a dry cough, with no other symptoms of a cold

coming on etc...after about a week of having this cough she started doing a

" gagging thing " ,,it does not matter if she is eating or drinking something,

talking, singing or just standing still, she will all of a sudden turn red in

the face and it almost seems like she has thrown up in her mouth and she will

retch and cover her mouth like it is all going to come out.

> As a parent I was concerned about pleum and her not spitting it out (although

her cough had not sounded productive), also concerned of a chest cold

etc........nothing ever transpired in regards to other symptoms. The constant

coughing disappeared, but she still will do the gagging thing. We can be in a

store, restraunt, around friends and she will do this. As soon as I tell her to

leave the store, or where ever we are, and I can go with her, it

stops,,,therefore my gut and brain is telling me it is for attention.

>

> For my own sanity I consulted with her therapist and she told me to take her

to a medical doc to rule any medical issue out. Internally I was angry,,I did

speak to my dh about my feelings. I HATE second guessing myself,,,,,,,,,,,,will

I ever be spot on with this little girl????????? I set up an appointment with

my girls doctor and he set up an upper GI to be on the safe side.

>

> Right now I feel angry because if this is all for attention or her way to

control her day to day what will come next????? How can I stop it??? I know, get

into routine,,,,,,,,,,I don't like this!!!! I hate feeling angry over something

she cannot control, why does my baby have to go through this???

>

> Sorry I just needed to whine to people who get what we are going through.

>

> Hope you all have a wonderful/normal day!

>

> Lynne Banks

> www.americanadoptioncongress.org

> South Dakota State Representative

>

> www.adoptionscams.net

> Ask me how to protect yourself from being scammed in adoption!

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Lynne,

It might be a tic – have you heard about motor tics

and verbal tics? My son used to have a motor tic of jerking his arms

around and making loud, animal-like noises (sort of like barks?) at the same

time. The tics mostly subsided after he started taking a very small daily

dose (20 mg) of imipramine, one of the older anti-depressants which is seldom

prescribed these days.

He is now 24 years old, and hardly ever displays this tic any more. But

it was quite frequent and annoying when he was in his early teens.

If there are no medical explanations for her gagging, maybe

you could read up on tics and see if you think that could be what’s

happening.

Good luck!

Jill