Son can't stop interrupting at school

[Guest guest]

How can the school help my son stop from not interrupting all the time?

He has been doing well with his daily behavior sheet that we

instituted to

get him to stop yelling at the teacher. Today he didn't get his

reward because

he is still interrupting. (Which is not on that sheet, btw.) After

he didn't get his reward,

he had a meltdown and wouldn't leave class.

We just upped his Tenex last night...

Grrrrrrr.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

You should sit in my reg. ed. classes. That is just part of it. I have a lot of

students that have that impulsivity. To me, that is them getting excited about

something they are learning. how awesome is that? I UNDERSTAND YOUR SON'E

TEACHER'S FRUSTRATION, BUT IT IS SOMETHING THAT CAN BE DWINDLED DOWN TO BE LESS,

IT MAY NEVER LEAVE ALL THE WAY. THIS IS SOMETHING THEY NEED TO BE TOLERANT OF.

GLENNA

Jackie Geipel <jackie@...> wrote:

How can the school help my son stop from not interrupting all the time?

He has been doing well with his daily behavior sheet that we

instituted to

get him to stop yelling at the teacher. Today he didn't get his

reward because

he is still interrupting. (Which is not on that sheet, btw.) After

he didn't get his reward,

he had a meltdown and wouldn't leave class.

We just upped his Tenex last night...

Grrrrrrr.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

I thought the point of our behavior plan was to catch him being

good. The first I heard of this interrupting was last Thursday, one

line on his behavior chart " we need to work on... " .

If by " work on " they mean, just keep telling him over and over not to

do it, well, I think they need to work harder. I know he has

interrupted before, afterall, he's ADHD, too.

But after saying that once, and me telling them just this morning we

are adding more meds to try to curb it....he gets rewards taken

away. According to my son, he didn't

know that was part of the plan. It's not part of his written

behavior plan. They have GOT to give me more detailed information

about this!

I understand their frustration, I really, really do. But if just

telling an ADHD kid not to blurt out answers would solve the problem,

the Rtialin makers would be out of business! LOL

Jackie

On Mar 16, 2006, at 4:29 PM, Glenna wrote:

> You should sit in my reg. ed. classes. That is just part of it. I

> have a lot of students that have that impulsivity. To me, that is

> them getting excited about something they are learning. how awesome

> is that? I UNDERSTAND YOUR SON'E TEACHER'S FRUSTRATION, BUT IT IS

> SOMETHING THAT CAN BE DWINDLED DOWN TO BE LESS, IT MAY NEVER LEAVE

> ALL THE WAY. THIS IS SOMETHING THEY NEED TO BE TOLERANT OF.

> GLENNA

[Guest guest]

Okay, yesterday, the comment on the sheet was " very talkative and

loud today. "

I email exchanged a bunch of times with the teacher for feedback

yesterday because we were

about out of Tenex and I was contemplating starting Concerta. But

the psych suggested just

upping the Tenex a bit. We upped it last night, and I emailed the

teachers and school nurse about it.

Until last year and speech therapy, my son was *always* loud. He

literally did not

know how to whisper until he was about 5. But yelling out of anger

and being excited

about work are such different creatures in my books. When we were

dropping the Abilify and

Strattera in January I told them: " he'll look hyper and he'll be

overly enthusiastic and happily loud.

To me, though, calming down an overly happy child is much more

tolerable than calming down an overly angry one. :-) "

Here is my child who is thrilled to be at school. An ADHD child who

loves to sit (and squirm and then pace)

and then do worksheets. The teacher has said several times how he

wishes everyone in his class were

this concerned about getting good grades and eager to learn.

Think positive. Think positive. Let's not kill his spirit.

Jackie

On Mar 16, 2006, at 4:41 PM, Jackie Geipel wrote:

> The first I heard of this interrupting was last Thursday, one

> line on his behavior chart " we need to work on... " .

>

>

[Guest guest]

They really need to turn it around and praise him when he isn't

interrupting. Pam

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/16/2006 8:32:06 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jackie@... writes:

I understand their frustration, I really, really do. But if just

telling an ADHD kid not to blurt out answers would solve the problem,

the Rtialin makers would be out of business! LOL

Jackie

They are required to provide a positive behavior plan, not a negative one.

And I would definitely have a meeting to find out what they think they are

doing to teach pro-social skills and not just nag him and punish him after the

fact. That is not an appropriate plan.

Roxanna ô¿ô

Don't take life too seriously; No one gets out alive.

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/16/2006 9:29:17 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jackie@... writes:

How can the school help my son stop from not interrupting all the time?

He has been doing well with his daily behavior sheet that we

instituted to

get him to stop yelling at the teacher. Today he didn't get his

reward because

he is still interrupting. (Which is not on that sheet, btw.) After

he didn't get his reward,

he had a meltdown and wouldn't leave class.

We just upped his Tenex last night...

Grrrrrrr.

Jackie

Well, doesn't sound the rules were very clear to him if they are making up

new things he must do after he hasn't done them. I'd probably yell too. It's

like getting to the finish line and finding out you lost after all. " Yes,

you've climbed Mt. Everest, swam the Nile and slain the dragon...but...you were

wearing the wrong color shirt so you don't get the princess after all...so

sorry...try again... "

Roxanna ô¿ö

Autism Happens

[Guest guest]

>

> I also must stress.. DO NOT let your child interrupt you at home...

If you

> can help it. Sometimes we are our own childs worst enemy and when

they want

> to speak we are more tolerant of their disruptions..

We always mention it when it happens. He gets very enthusiastic, and

it's an impulse thing. Whereas my other son interrupts because he

doesn't stop to realize if anyone else is talking. He starts a

totally different topic.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

My Hannah (7 yrs old) does this too. We will be sitting at the table talking

about something and she evidently has a completely different topic going on in

her head because she will interupt and talk about something complete off topic.

I will sometimes actually give her approapriate words to use if she is having

trouble coming up with something appr to say. Like I would say " Amber is

talking out 's new shoes. Hannah, ask Amber what color are her new

shoes. "

All 3 of my kids interupt especially when I'm on the phone. So we have a

rule that if you have something you have to say while I'm talking you need to

put your hand on my shoulder. That is our sign. When we first started doing

this I would answer give them my attention right away as a reinforcer for using

the sign. Then I gradually would make them wait longer. It is hard for our

kids to wait or be patient. I have found this works pretty well with Hannah.

( Mom of 7 yrs old triplets)

w6pbj <jackie@...> wrote:

>

> I also must stress.. DO NOT let your child interrupt you at home...

If you

> can help it. Sometimes we are our own childs worst enemy and when

they want

> to speak we are more tolerant of their disruptions..

We always mention it when it happens. He gets very enthusiastic, and

it's an impulse thing. Whereas my other son interrupts because he

doesn't stop to realize if anyone else is talking. He starts a

totally different topic.

Jackie

[Guest guest]

YES I have seen the " reward " idea work.. And fail... Maybe suggest to the

teacher that you are working on this at home... And that working on it at

school could perhaps... Involve an " ALMOST THERE " or " SO FAR SO GOOD "

reward... Kind of program. SO if your son makes it to the first recess

without interrupting.. Then he gets a sticker... Then to lunch.. A bigger

sticker.. Etc...

Sometimes time is a major issue for our kids and a reminder more frequently

of the rule can be a great help.

I also must stress.. DO NOT let your child interrupt you at home... If you

can help it. Sometimes we are our own childs worst enemy and when they want

to speak we are more tolerant of their disruptions.. Roll play at home with

dad or with a sibling.. Or just the two of you and a stuffed teddy bear...

Its repetition and reminder that works with all kids.

-- Re: ( ) Son can't stop interrupting at school

In a message dated 3/16/2006 9:29:17 PM Eastern Standard Time,

jackie@... writes:

How can the school help my son stop from not interrupting all the time?

He has been doing well with his daily behavior sheet that we

instituted to

get him to stop yelling at the teacher. Today he didn't get his

reward because

he is still interrupting. (Which is not on that sheet, btw.) After

he didn't get his reward,

he had a meltdown and wouldn't leave class.

We just upped his Tenex last night...

Grrrrrrr.

Jackie

Well, doesn't sound the rules were very clear to him if they are making up

new things he must do after he hasn't done them. I'd probably yell too. It

s

like getting to the finish line and finding out you lost after all. " Yes,

you've climbed Mt. Everest, swam the Nile and slain the dragon...but...you

were

wearing the wrong color shirt so you don't get the princess after all...so

sorry...try again... "

Roxanna ô¿ö

Autism Happens

[Guest guest]

Oh, for sure! It goes back to an old adage: " pick your fights

carefully. " The best example that pops into my head time and again

was an experience I witnessed back when my youngest was in

kindergarten: There was a little girl in the room (just watching I

knew probably had ADHD and other difficulties; which, was later

confirmed as I got to know the parents) who was sitting at the

teacher's legs during story time quietly twiddling a tiny ball in her

hands. Well, that teacher ripped it from her complaining that the

girl was not paying attention. UGH! Immediately, not only did she

send the child into a frenzy, the whole classroom was disrupted. WHAT

was she thinking!? This teacher would quote to others from her text

books what a " typical " child should be doing! ALL the children were

expected to remain silent when lined up (even outside!) My child who

loved to go off and play with anyone began to cry about tummy aches

in the morning and beg to stay home. SO many parents complained about

the teacher that year; it is a wonder she is still in the teaching

profession... what a sad introduction to the school system!

> Until last year and speech therapy, my son was *always* loud. He

> literally did not

> know how to whisper until he was about 5. But yelling out of

anger

> and being excited

> about work are such different creatures in my books. When we

were

> dropping the Abilify and

> Strattera in January I told them: " he'll look hyper and he'll be

> overly enthusiastic and happily loud.

> To me, though, calming down an overly happy child is much more

> tolerable than calming down an overly angry one. :-) "

>

> Here is my child who is thrilled to be at school. An ADHD child

who

> loves to sit (and squirm and then pace)

> and then do worksheets. The teacher has said several times how

he

> wishes everyone in his class were

> this concerned about getting good grades and eager to learn.

>

> Think positive. Think positive. Let's not kill his spirit.

>

> Jackie