Guest guest Posted June 15, 2006 Report Share Posted June 15, 2006 My son has alot of issues around bedtime and sleep. He has a routine that he has to follow (very OCD). He has to say " Good night " amongst other things and I have to respond just as he dictates. Pam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2006 Report Share Posted June 15, 2006 Does he end up in his bed sleeping? Just curious. I have to say, perhaps it is easier for him to go through the process like that. Bed time is hard for two of my boys. Maybe you can tell him he has a certain amount of Goodnights he can use, and then he won't get a response. Do it in a nice way (if you decided to even do it at all) But give him a good number so he can still get what he needs. Maybe so many for the stairs, so many in your room, so many in his room. Then just say we can't respond any more. If that helps a little, just take time to reinforce it in a positive way. Perhaps he gets extra reading or t.v. time or something when he stays in his limit of Good nights? I do think it is adorable. Probably because I don't have to hear it. hehehehe. *smiles* B > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down-right > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2006 Report Share Posted June 15, 2006 LOL (And, good advice, thanks). > > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come > and > > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues > each > > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- right > > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2006 Report Share Posted June 16, 2006 I think all young kids struggle with bed time. This is an issue not only with our HFA son but also our NT daughter. LOL My son always calls out " I sleeping, mum happy! " about a million times before he goes off to sleep. Beck ( ) Bed-time Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down-right annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2006 Report Share Posted June 16, 2006 ---That is too cute Beck! I sleeping, mum happy! This mum is happy when mine sleep too!! Toni In , " Mark son " <thejacobsons@...> wrote: > > I think all young kids struggle with bed time. This is an issue not only with our HFA son but also our NT daughter. LOL My son always calls out " I sleeping, mum happy! " about a million times before he goes off to sleep. > Beck > ( ) Bed-time > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- right > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2006 Report Share Posted June 19, 2006 Sometimes I wish i had that problem. My son will not say it and he is 12. I will put hime to bed and say good night i love you and get nothing but silence. If I keep repeating it he will finally say goodnight I love you too but i think he is just saying that to get me to shut up. I was wondering if any one else had this problem and should i not force him to say it. He has always been like this. I have been trying to encourage him to hug us or even touch us but he will not do it spontaneously and he freaks out if strangers try to touch him. Does anyone have any suggestions on this? tsbthatsme <kbtoni@...> wrote: ---That is too cute Beck! I sleeping, mum happy! This mum is happy when mine sleep too!! Toni In , " Mark son " <thejacobsons@...> wrote: > > I think all young kids struggle with bed time. This is an issue not only with our HFA son but also our NT daughter. LOL My son always calls out " I sleeping, mum happy! " about a million times before he goes off to sleep. > Beck > ( ) Bed-time > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- right > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2006 Report Share Posted June 19, 2006 I have worked with my five year old on saying that he loves me but it hasn't been easy. I did it with social stories and role playing and now when I say I love you he says " I love you, mummys happy! " It is forced and said with all the enthusiasm of someone talking about the breeding habits of a squirrel, lol. But I think that is the best that he can give me. He wants me to be happy because he knows that " mummy happy " is a good thing. As far as him actually meaning that he loves me I don't think the word love means anything to him but I know that he loves me because he wants to make me happy. So in a round about way he is saying he really loves me. Beck ( ) Bed-time > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- right > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2006 Report Share Posted June 20, 2006 My son and I use sign language to say I love you, whenever he doesn't want to be expressive. We use the single gesture, where only the middle and ring finger are folded down, but the index, pinky and thumb are extended. This has come in very handy in a lot of ways for us. If I see him struggling with a group, I can flash him the " ILY " sign, and he will usually flash it back, and seems to appreciate someone reaching out to him, however subtle (*especially subtle). I have also made the sign in the palm of his hand when it is dark and he can't see, or if he is feeling very overwhelmed and can't even look at me. He will close his hand over mine, and sometimes squeezes my hand or just hangs on to one of my fingers. It's those times when I know he needs the message, even if he has trouble speaking the words. There have been times when it isn't " cool " for Mom to hug or kiss you publicly, like when he is at school, and the kids might make fun of him. The hand gesture works well for both of us then, too. Kids are more tolerant of a hand gesture than the spoken words, and have never yet given any flack for using it. And sometimes he will just *refuse* to hug or kiss or say I Love You to us, but he rarely rejects the hand gesture. ...· ´¨¨)) -:¦:- ¸.·´ .·´¨¨)) ((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Mystic -:¦:- -:¦:- ((¸¸.·´* ( ) Bed-time > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will come and > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - as he > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from his > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have talked > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues each > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- right > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2006 Report Share Posted June 20, 2006 My Son (now 11) will sometimes respond " love you too " but only after I have said " I love you " first. He has only started this in the last couple of years. Before that he would get VERY angry when I told him I loved him. Finally he said " Why do you always tell me that. I know that already " Since he alredy knew that he didn't see the need for me to say it anymore. I explained to him that most people like to say it and to hear it said back to them because it makes them feel happy. He doesn't initiate it and I don't ALWAYS get a repsonse but at least I don't get a meltdown anymore. > > > > I think all young kids struggle with bed time. This is an issue > not only with our HFA son but also our NT daughter. LOL My son > always calls out " I sleeping, mum happy! " about a million times > before he goes off to sleep. > > Beck > > ( ) Bed-time > > > > > > Question: Does anyone's child seem to have difficulty at bedtime > > saying, " Good-night " ? The reason I ask, is that our son will > come and > > hug us good-night, give kisses, and then call out repeatedly - > as he > > goes up the stairs, from the bathroom, from the hall-way, from > his > > bedroom - ONE MILLION times it seems - " Good-night " . We have > talked > > with him over and again about the repetiveness, but it continues > each > > evening and at times we are finding that we are becoming down- > right > > annoyed! (It just gets to be too much). > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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