Re: Long time no see.........

[Guest guest]

HI ,

My name is . I am on occasionally. More of a lurker sometimes,

because I only have time to read the emails, and not actually come

on and post:)

I understand what you say when you were told your child was 'too

smart' ( " Smart kids don't have special needs! " ) I have heard that

before!

I feel so bad for your little guy, the fact that he was hospitalized

(and due to stress!) Our little guys really seem to have to suffer

before anyone will listen!

For future reference, never think that your problems are minor:(

(compared to other people anyway) A lot of us just don't get to

really voice our issues, and ask for help. (Just don't have time!)

Sometimes, when someone else posts an issue, our own questions get

answered. Sometimes, No one has an answer (which means, they could

be going through the same issue, but don't know what to do either!)

I haven't been here that long, but I am sure sometimes posts aren't

replied to. I am also sure it isn't intentional:)

So here is a big " hug " from another mom!!! I can relate to your

frustrations.

I think I like the teacher that he has. I hope she continues to be a

good support for him. These other kids, you are right! They don't

get it. That is why, here in Maine, we are trying to get some

awareness to children in the schools. They need to understand that

all people, with disabilities that are visable, or not so visable,

or kids that are just different, need to be accepted. Sometimes it

is just the parents that teach these kids through what they do. (Not

always, of course!)

Keep posting, and keep your head high! You are the advocate for your

son, and the more you know, the more you can help others to

understand him:)

*smiles*

LIsa B

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What you've got is a basic " bright kid " problem, compounded by the fact

that he's got AS. When both my kids were little (through second grade

for one, and through third grade for the other), they went to

Montessori schools. This was great for them. They could work at their

own paces, and they found the work interesting. My son's last year at

Montessori, there was a teacher who couldn't keep order except by using

public school methods (traffic light -- flip a card from green to

yellow to red; bribing them with pizza parties, etc.) thrives

on a great deal of intellectual stimulation, followed by a great deal

of order, both of which a good Montessori class has, so I took him out

when the pizza party teacher came on board. His favorite teachers in

high school have been those who don't put up with any BS. " One minute

late -- down two points! Talking? Down five points! Teasing? Down ten

points! " With those teachers, he knows what to expect and he feels

safe. You're not alone with 's problems. Do they have a gifted and

talented program in your area?

Liz

On Dec 31, 2005, at 8:43 PM, Stack wrote:

> I have been amember of this group for a few years since my son was

> diagnosed at 4 1/2. He is now 7 and in mainstream first grade. When

> I first posted he couldn't get into the preschool disabled program

> because " smart kids don't have special needs. " has Asperger's

> but is also considered nuerologically impaired due to birth trama.

> He has low muscle tone and is delayed in all motor areas. He also

> has been diagosed with motor dispraxia. When he first started in

> special ed we were different because he was soooooo smart. Last year

> in K he had areally rough time and was hospitalized twice with

> gastroindecdinal problems due to stress. He has reflux & a hiatal

> hernia. When I first started in this group I thought our problems

> were minor and nobody could relate because nobody responded to my

> posts. Now that GW is getting older I see more similarities. He

> talks about how broing things are and he acts out. I have had 2

> caseworkers in the past year so it is hard to get any rythme going.

> is lucky because his K teacher decided he should stay with her

> when he moved to first. He thinks everything is " boring " and why

> can't these kids get it? He is teased and acting out. Fortunately he

> doesn't know when he is teased.

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[Guest guest]

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I guess we should consider ourselves lucky! My grandson is also 7.

He goes to a special education class in BOCES ( a New York state

thing, I think) They have had lots of help for him. He started out

there with melt downs every day but he is bright and they have worked

so well with him. He is doing at least 3rd grade level Math and

reading. They have put him in a mainstream 2nd grade math class to

let him see other kids are as capable as he is, becuase the other

kids in his class don't do the work he does. There is no one to

challange him. They wanted to put him in 3rd grade math, but it is

in a different school. Conner takes Respirdal, which I think has

really helped him to focus, although he still has had a few meltdowns

this year. Being in the same school as his math class, there is

always someone there to take control if he should have a melt down.

Our school district keeps wanting to get him back into our regular

elementary school, but they don't really have anything to offer him.

He would not be able to participate in a regular PE as it is too much

noise and he isn't that coordinated with his large or fine motor

skills. They just want him back in our school district because of

money, but we have found help with a parent advocate and ARC. We

will keep him where he is thriving as long as possible!

I hope you can find something better for your son. It seems at times

everyone is against you, but keep trying! You will get there. Keep

networking!

Grandma Anne

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> > I have been amember of this group for a few years since my son was

> > diagnosed at 4 1/2. He is now 7 and in mainstream first grade.

When

> > I first posted he couldn't get into the preschool disabled program

> > because " smart kids don't have special needs. " has Asperger's

> > but is also considered nuerologically impaired due to birth trama.

> > He has low muscle tone and is delayed in all motor areas. He also

> > has been diagosed with motor dispraxia. When he first started in

> > special ed we were different because he was soooooo smart. Last

year

> > in K he had areally rough time and was hospitalized twice with

> > gastroindecdinal problems due to stress. He has reflux & a hiatal

> > hernia. When I first started in this group I thought our problems

> > were minor and nobody could relate because nobody responded to my

> > posts. Now that GW is getting older I see more similarities. He

> > talks about how broing things are and he acts out. I have had 2

> > caseworkers in the past year so it is hard to get any rythme

going.

> > is lucky because his K teacher decided he should stay with

her

> > when he moved to first. He thinks everything is " boring " and why

> > can't these kids get it? He is teased and acting out. Fortunately

he

> > doesn't know when he is teased.

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