Re: Nominee for Ex Husband

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Why don't we just nominate and leave it at that.

This is getting to be very depressing.

Sissi

[Guest guest]

UGH!

That is all that I can say. I am speechless.

I just don't know how some people can do things like that to themselves

(doing drugs to the point of disabling yourself like that).

I am glad that you finally left him. That is horrible to live through.

There was a lot of domestic violence in my house when I was growing up and I

couldn't live with it then, I still don't understand how anyone can go

through that and be sane.

Georga

Re: Nominee for Ex Husband

> Met Russ in Drug and Alcohol treatment when we were both 16...ha that

> should have been my first clue huh.

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> Dated about a year while he and I both were being played in the State

> foster care system. Broke up.

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> Met again at 19..I had been going to school, had a daughter, and was

> doing pretty well. He had just gotten out of prison for the second

> time for burgulary. That should have been my second clue.

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> Charmed his way into my apartment and life. Insisted that he wanted

> to change his life and that I was the person who could help him. He

> was drinking moderately at the time, but afterall, he had just gotten

> out of prison.

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> Managed to convince me that he loved me, that if I dropped out of

> school and supported him while he attended school, he'd support me

> when I went back. He made it sound like he never knew love and just

> needed someone who'd love him back fully...and I was the only person

> who could do it.

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> Russ had a very long history. He was adopted at birth, but his

> parents told me later that they knew something was very wrong with

> him. Apparently his birth mother was addicted to drugs. He was

> extremely violent as young as 3. At age 8, he burned down his church

> by playing with matches. It was his first out of home placement. At

> 9, he held a gun to the babysitter. 14, threw a maltov coctail

> through a neighbor's picture window. In and out of institutions,

> myriad diagnosis, nothing helped. His parents BTW are some of the

> most wonderful people.

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> Less than a week after we were married, I received my first beating.

> It was the worst physical attack on me during the whole marriage. I

> threw him out, but of course, he weaseled back in. I went to the ER

> three times in a year. He twisted my foot backwards and I though the

> had broken it, so he drove me DRUNK to the ER...sat there digging his

> knuckles into my ribs until I yelled while the nurse had her back

> turned, then would say " would you hurry up can't you see how much

> pain she's in "

> After I left him, he got mad when I had come back over to the house

> to pick up some of my stuff, and he had made a turkey, and I took a

> piece off of it. He said I was not entitled to anything of his, and

> he took off after me and I ran trying to get out the back door, he

> caught me and shoved me right through the door, had glass sticking

> out of my arm. He grabbed it and twisted the glass in my arm. That

> was on my birthday.

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> On an anniversary, he began stealing tips off the waitresses tables,

> I got mad, he took off. As I was walking home, he pulled up behind

> me hitting me with the car, grabbed my hair, pulled me into the

> car...drove thru the garage door at the house and still having me by

> the hair, threw me down on the ground and kicked me with his steel

> toed boots until he sprained his ankle. Then he wanted me to help

> him! We lived in four different houses during that year, and we had

> to replace the door on every one of them from him kicking it in.

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> He began calling the police on himself for a domestic when there was

> no domestic going on. The cops would show up, then he'd blame me.

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> I could go on and on and on about the mental stuff he did to me. Of

> course, all of it was my fault for not loving, trusting, blah blah

> blah enough. Every time he'd swear he'd quit drinking.

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> He started a fire in the apartment next door, he vandalized,

> bugularized, played real life bumper cars damaging 20 cars in one

> night (that got his friend sent back to prison). Oddly enough, we

> lived by the AMTRAK station, and he, too, stole baggage from the

> train.

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> He's now permanently disabled from shooting heroin after we

> divorced. He got endocarditis which ruined his valves in his heart.

> I saw him about a year ago, looks like hell. I'm certain he's still

> on drugs. I don't know what is in his head, but I truly pity him,

> and am very very very glad I'm not the one trying to rescue him

> anymore.

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[Guest guest]

No Salli, don't do that.

Remember, all these guys are ex's for a reason and we don't take them

back!!!

Georga

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> > Lou almost sounds good after some of these guys.

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> He does! Almost had me reconsidering the divorce for a minute (NOT!)

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[Guest guest]

I am not sure what my problem was. LOL!

My ex was my first real boyfriend. The thing is, when my friend Steve met

him Steve told me he was an asshole. The one and only time I didn't listen

to Steve (hmmm....wonder if I was still mad at him over the crisco

incident?? LOL!).

Thinking back on it now, I realize that I had several " offers " during those

seven years that would have resulted in much better boyfriends, better

treatment, ect...even after the embarassing pea incident. You find out who

your real friends are after doing something stupid like that. LOL! At any

rate I guess that I am blindly devoted or something because I refused to

dump this idiot for something better. I kick myself for this now, but the

thing is, if things had turned out differently I may not be married to Chris

now...and I happen to really like my husband :0).

Georga

Re: Nominee for Ex Husband

> Sad thing about that is...I can actually top Russ.

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> Although he was not that bad to me during our 5 month relationship,

> Alyx's real father is in prison for 45 years for raping his other 8

> year old daughter. I think that qualifies him as being the worst

> person ever.

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> What kind of loser was I!!!

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> I think we all had such low self esteem and lived on the idea that if

> you suffered for your man, you'd eventually be rewarded. We told

> ourselves that it really wasn't that bad as it was happening. The

> emotional scars for all of us, regardless of severity, will be

> forever. Time makes them lighter, but they never fully go away. I

> had to examine really hard what it was about me that got me into

> these relationships and I took a good long break from dating after my

> divorce. I'm just glad I could put myself in a healthier state of

> mind in order to have a healthy relationship.

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[Guest guest]

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> > Lou almost sounds good after some of these guys.

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> He does! Almost had me reconsidering the divorce for a minute

> (NOT!) >>

LOL...Salli, Salli, Salli....

If that thought ever crosses your mind again, write us...we can make

you a BIG list of reasons why you should get a dog instead...

Raena

[Guest guest]

>>-Why don't we just nominate and leave it at that.

This is getting to be very depressing---- <<

I agree

[Guest guest]

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So far I think you get my vote for worst ex-husband.

Glad you got smart/strong and got away from him!

Sue

[Guest guest]

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So far I think you get my vote for worst ex-husband.

Glad you got smart/strong and got away from him!

Sue

[Guest guest]

Eegads Leggs!

Glad you got rid of that ... I don't even know what to

call him.

Tuna

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, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

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- Whoopi Goldberg

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Here's your winner.

Glad you got out, .

Holy crap.

Tuna

>>>>>>>>>>

Less than a week after we were married, I received my

first beating.

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

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, 4, NT

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>

Oh wow! My Dh is looking better with every email.

> I don't know what is in his head, but I truly pity him,

> and am very very very glad I'm not the one trying to rescue him

> anymore.

I think this is the reason a lot of women find themselves with

manipulative men. They want to " save " them, and the men do an

excellent job of playing on that need to nurture. My sister's ex was

very good at verbal manipulation and control. He had her so beat down

she didn't think she could exist without him. He also gave her vd

from sleeping around so much.

Tina

[Guest guest]

OK, now that I've finally read all the ex stories, I

have a suggestion. Instead of giving an award to one

of these lunatics, how about giving awards to the

women who got out and built new lives for themselves

and their children?

Ladies, I salute you all.

Tuna

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, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

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[Guest guest]

OK, now that I've finally read all the ex stories, I

have a suggestion. Instead of giving an award to one

of these lunatics, how about giving awards to the

women who got out and built new lives for themselves

and their children?

Ladies, I salute you all.

Tuna

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mom to:

, 8, ASD

, 4, NT

Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

- Whoopi Goldberg

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[Guest guest]

> OK, now that I've finally read all the ex stories, I

> have a suggestion. Instead of giving an award to one

> of these lunatics, how about giving awards to the

> women who got out and built new lives for themselves

> and their children?

>

> Ladies, I salute you all.

>

> Tuna

I'm with Tuna! You guys did what you needed to do and got strong enough to

get away from those a$$holes before they killed you. You're all wonderful!

Sue

[Guest guest]

> OK, now that I've finally read all the ex stories, I

> have a suggestion. Instead of giving an award to one

> of these lunatics, how about giving awards to the

> women who got out and built new lives for themselves

> and their children?

>

> Ladies, I salute you all.

>

> Tuna

I'm with Tuna! You guys did what you needed to do and got strong enough to

get away from those a$$holes before they killed you. You're all wonderful!

Sue

[Guest guest]

> OK, now that I've finally read all the ex stories, I

> have a suggestion. Instead of giving an award to one

> of these lunatics, how about giving awards to the

> women who got out and built new lives for themselves

> and their children?

>

> Ladies, I salute you all.

>

> Tuna

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> =====

> mom to:

> , 8, ASD

> , 4, NT

>

> Normal is just a setting on the washing machine.

> - Whoopi Goldberg

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