Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 > I thought of suggesting that...but I wonder if Lou wouldn't use that as an > excuse to himself to behave more abominably? She's being abused. Mentally. He has no right to do that to her. She can get a restraining order and make arrangements for him to see the children with a drop off point. She would never have to deal with him. And if he don't like it and decides to try to use the kids against her, the courts could eliminate his visitation completely. And he'd still have to pay child support. This has happened with a person I know. It makes me furious to see he still tries to manipulate her. I feel abused all over again, even if it's her it's happening to. THOSE HEAD GAMES AUGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 > I thought of suggesting that...but I wonder if Lou wouldn't use that as an > excuse to himself to behave more abominably? She's being abused. Mentally. He has no right to do that to her. She can get a restraining order and make arrangements for him to see the children with a drop off point. She would never have to deal with him. And if he don't like it and decides to try to use the kids against her, the courts could eliminate his visitation completely. And he'd still have to pay child support. This has happened with a person I know. It makes me furious to see he still tries to manipulate her. I feel abused all over again, even if it's her it's happening to. THOSE HEAD GAMES AUGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 > I thought of suggesting that...but I wonder if Lou wouldn't use that as an > excuse to himself to behave more abominably? She's being abused. Mentally. He has no right to do that to her. She can get a restraining order and make arrangements for him to see the children with a drop off point. She would never have to deal with him. And if he don't like it and decides to try to use the kids against her, the courts could eliminate his visitation completely. And he'd still have to pay child support. This has happened with a person I know. It makes me furious to see he still tries to manipulate her. I feel abused all over again, even if it's her it's happening to. THOSE HEAD GAMES AUGH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 2003 Report Share Posted April 30, 2003 Salli. I am so sorry. That is awful. And it won't end. He obviously has an agenda. And it's not in your favor. I hope and pray that your lawyer is able to do something to stop him. Tamara mom to Ebony, 5 years old, asd, adhd, bipolar and , 2, polish (lol) wife to Terry > >Reply-To: parenting_autism >To: parenting_autism > >Subject: Tortured >Date: Tue, 29 Apr 2003 22:24:01 -0400 > >Tonight was just awful. > >Bear with me. > >Sophie had a softball game. Last week Sophie's softball team had their >pictures taken; they got their uniforms the same day. When Sophie arrived >home, she did not have a hat. I wondered about it. > >I didn't know that Sophie had a softball game until this morning. >Apparently the coach gave all the game details to Lou who did not bother to >let me know about it. When I objected, he said that I never told him >anything unless he asked. I have been calling him every morning to let him >know what is going on but apparently that is not enough. I do not think >that most divorced or nearly divorced parents do this; I shall stop doing >it in the future for apparently it is not appreciated. > >No hat ever materialized. Lou told me to please look for it. But I did >not think it had ever come into the house for I had never seen it. However >I looked for it in all the places that it might be without ever finding it. > >Lou was furious about this. And then we had the discussion about the >soccer pictures. He took Sophie to her softball game and he took Robbie >and Putter. He told me that he would bring Robbie and Putter home in the >middle of the game so that he could watch Sophie play. > >As he drove off, Sophie later told me that he said that I was too lazy to >bother looking for the hat. > >Her game started at 6 pm. I expected Robbie and Putter around 6:30. They >did not arrive. I figured that he was keeping them throughout the game, but >we had parted on such very hostile terms that I worried. Thoughts of >kidnapping entered my head. I didn't really believe them, but I could not >relax. > >They were not home at 8 p.m. I called Lou's apartment and got his >answering machine. They were not home at 9 p.m. All I could do was pace >the floors and wonder what I should do. I called Sophie's coach and found >that Sophie was at the game and that it had ended at 8:20. That was not >too long ago. But by 9:15, I was really frightened and worried. > >I told Enrique and to call me if the three younger kids ever got >home. I got in my car and I drove to Lou's apartment. On the way, at >every light, I called on my cell phone. No answering machine picked up; >the phone just rang and rang. His answering machine always picks up.. So I >knew he was there. > >I pulled into his driveway, and knocked loudly on the door. I had my cell >phone set at 911 in case he turned violent. I told him I wanted the kids >now and why hadn't he informed me that he was taking them to his place. > " Well, " he said, nastily, " I don't have a cell phone. " > >But they had been at his place for over an hour, Sophie later confirmed. >He did it to torture me. That is the only explanation. > >I told him that I was taking the kids home now. He said that they were >taking a bath. I started to go and get them but he told me that I was not >welcome. So I waited. > >They all came down and I drove off with them. Sophie said that Lou had >told them that they would come over to his house to watch a movie and take >a bath. She had no idea that I did not konw. > >I have them all safe at home again, but I wonder just how long he had >planned to keep them at his apartment, torturing me as I paced the floors >at home and waited. > >I call my lawyer tomorrow. If I am not welcome in his apartment, I assure >you all that he is not welcome in my house. > >Salli > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 >>>>>>>> I call my lawyer tomorrow. If I am not welcome in his apartment, I assure you all that he is not welcome in my house. Salli <<<<<<<< I certainly hope that this is the case. Enough is enough. He's acting worse than a 2 year old and should not be allowed to be with his children until he learns how to behave. Unfortunately, Salli, by reading this it's VERY obvious that he is bringing Sophie into the middle of this. This is going to be very detrimental to her, especially as she moves into adolescence. I hope you and your lawyer can figure out a way to stop this. Poor Sophie...the emotional toll is going to be devistating. I'm sorry to be so blunt, but this man is not worthy of his children. Penny :/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 DITTO. Penny - still angry...... Re: Tortured YOU are not welcome in HIS apartment? After HE sat strumming his guitar and having his FEET WASHED in your dining room during Lent? YOU are not welcome in HIS apartment when HE comes into your home and STEALS FOOD? You allow him broad and unlimited extremely generous time with his children, and he keeps them late without a word to torture you? Do call your lawyer. It is time to stop this man. Granted, he may be aspie and unaware of social crap, but not all aspies are mean spirited, vindictive, and spiteful. Aspies can be good or bad people just like any one else. You can't let it influence your view of him any longer. He's just plain an evil person. (((hugs))) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 Sounds like he is really getting worse instead of getting any message from being in jail. Maybe he needs to visit it again! What an absolute jerk! Maybe you need some very clearly defined visitation schedule that you can use against him to make him follow set times? By the way, whatever happened to your taxes? Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 >>>>>>> Sounds like he realized his little manipulation game was about to backfire and decided to weasel back into good (or acceptable) graces. And I know you know him better than I do Salli, but if you give him an inch, he's gonna run a mile. <<<<<<<< I so totally agree. :-( Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2003 Report Share Posted May 1, 2003 It sounds promising, but it still doesn't explain why he lied about bringing the little ones home at 1/2 time! Sue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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