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Lori,

You have been through an alot and I am sorry for your loss. I am glad your dr

was on top of things though. I had an ep in Dec. 00 and lost my rt tube and it

is a very hard thing to get over. Many, including our dh don't understand what

an emotional toll it takes on us. I hope you will be ok and that you get that

little miracle with your next IVF. I do think that even though. It sounds like

you have really been on an emotional rollercoaster lately and I hope it ends

soon. It just doesn't seem fair. I am glad you found this group. Everyone here

is so supportive. I hope you will continue to post. I am very sorry for your

loss and all you have been through. Take care.

smom andrewsmomma@...> wrote: Hi, I'm Lori. I have 19 yo &

17 yo sons from my first marriage. After my second son was born I developed

endometriosis which, after several failed surgeries, blocked my tubes. I got

remarried six years ago. We have a three year old son born through IVF & never

suspected we could get pregnant on our own.

We were mid-way through another IVF cycle, I'd just finished the lupron, when we

found out two weeks ago that some miraculously we had conceived on our own. We

were astounded, especially as I just had a bout of pneumonia in August & was

really sick for several weeks.

My doctor told me the odds for ectopic were high, due to the history of my

tubes. My first beta, at about 14 dpo, was 92 and the second two days later was

232. I was feeling really fantastic, too, and optimistic. I went in for an

ultrasound on Monday, the tech couldn't see anything in my uterus but told me

maybe it was just a little too early. They drew another beta, it had been 8

days since my previous beta. The doctor called me Monday afternoon and told me

my beta was 6500, he was positive the pregnancy was tubal. We were offered the

choice of methotrexate or surgery, he recommended the surgery because he wanted

to see the status of the tube. The surgery was scheduled for Friday.

I woke up Thursday morning in a great deal of pain, it was the first discomfort

of any sort I had experienced. We called the doctor & he told us to go right to

the ER. He met us there & did my surgery. My left tube was removed. He said

we can start trying again in about a month, we'll go ahead with another IVF.

This is my last try. I'm 38 and I can't keep doing this. The emotional aspects

of the IF treatments are worse to me than the physical parts. We did a FET this

April that failed, that was incredibly upsetting for me. Even during our

successful IVF pregnancy, I worried constantly that something would go wrong.

It was a long nine months filled with stress. My husband doesn't understand how

hard it is, and how disappointed and angry I feel when things don't work.

I'm feeling okay now, mostly sore, but my heart is empty. I thank God every day

for my three boys, but I desperately wanted this baby and I miss her all the

time. I know she was my girl.

hugs, lori

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Lori,

I am so sorry for your loss, but glad that you found us. You will find

unconditional love and support and mostly understanding here. I have found

that unless people have been through what we have, they can't really

understand our pain and emptiness.

I am almost 33 and have no children yet but with the support of this group

I am healing and living my life again.

Share whatever you need to...

lisa r

[Guest guest]

Hi Lori. Wanted to welcome you to the group. I'm so sorry for your pain

and your loss. Many husbands don't seem to grasp the enormous sense of loss

we feel from this experience. But, as has been discussed here, they do

grieve in their own way.

I wish you a speedy recovery, both physically and mentally, and am hoping

for success in your next attempt at IVF. If there's one thing I've learned

from this group, it's to never give up hope. The fear of a repeat ep will

probably always be there (for me at least) but as has been pointed out here

many times, if you don't try, you don't have the chance to hold a precious

new life in your arms.

~Kim

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[Guest guest]

Hi Lori,

I am so sorry for your loss. I am glad you found us, though sorry you

needed to. I am 37 with no kids yet. My ectopic was treated

successfully with methotrexate July 31st. I was about 8 1/2 weeks

along.

I don't have personal experience with IVF or similar, but I imagine

an unsuccessful try might well feel like a pregnancy loss. You have

so much invested in it, financially of course, but mostly

emotionally. And since much of the emotional pain of an ectopic is

because it is so early that many people discount the loss, I would

expect that in some ways IVF losses would be at least as hard. So I

am really sorry for those losses, too.

I'm not sure a husband or partner who is not going through the

physical changes of pregnancy and feeling the baby inside their body

can ever really understand. My husband has been incredibly kind and

supportive through this whole thing, and he and I have gotten closer.

But he does not feel a loss of a baby or anything beyond mild

disappointment. And that is still a little hard for me, but we've

really talked it out and understand at least in our minds that we are

just dealing with this differently and that is okay.

Know that we are here for you.

Love and hugs,

[Guest guest]

Hi everyone.....I've been lurking for about a week. I thought I'd take the time

to introduce myself.

My name is Becki, I've been married 12 yrs and we have 4 kiddos....2 boys

and 2 girls I work with my hubby in our Chiropractic

office.

I've been on WW for 8 weeks and I've lost 10 1/2 lbs. It's been about a

consistant pound a week....I'm pre diabetic so I knew the weight loss would be

slow....plus, I only want to lose 25lbs. My goal is to have it all off by early

summer.

I wish I had some grand wisdom to post but I don't. LOL

I'd say PLANNING/ATTITUDE is the key! Have the food on hand...ALWAYS...research

the points and read about what others who have been sussessful have done.

I signed up for etools from WW and that has helped me alot with calculating

points and reading their message boards. I also am thankful for every single

point off or everyday I've been " good " .

You can only eat an elephant one bite at a time! LOL

I'm looking forward to being apart of this group. I've enjoyed your posts and

knowledge.

BTW....I make huge batches of the zero point soup from WW....it's WONDERFUL. I

cheat alittle and add some chicken for flavor and protein....but it can't be

more than 1 pt per serving even with the chicken. PLUS...it freezes very well.

Have a great day.

Becki~

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 5/10/2006 6:28:16 A.M. Central Standard Time,

JillcWood@... writes:

The aids are the same here, it's the hair that's different. Ian has gone

from the buzz-cut look to the mass of floppy messy hair look that

occasionally

stands up in a thousand different directions

Hmmm, so Ian is 's twin? Suddenly, the 70's look is back!

Putz

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JillcWood@... wrote: I am wondering how the aids could possibly be

working under

that mop, but he says they're fine. According to him, the trouble is he gets

hair under his ear molds in the morning if he's not careful. (shrug)

LOL....I had to chuckle at that. is constantly getting her hair stuck

under the mold. It doesn't bother her, but it's hard when I'm combing her hair

and the hair is stuck inbetween the mold and ear. She just hits her hand to her

head and says " Ooops! I got hair stuck again " .

Debbie

Some men see things as they are and ask why. Others dream things that never were

and ask why not. G.B Shaw

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Add Tom to that number!

Parentsofdeafhoh@... wrote:

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> In a message dated 5/10/2006 6:28:16 A.M. Central Standard Time,

> JillcWood@... writes:

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> The aids are the same here, it's the hair that's different. Ian has gone

> from the buzz-cut look to the mass of floppy messy hair look that

> occasionally

> stands up in a thousand different directions

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> Hmmm, so Ian is 's twin? Suddenly, the 70's look is back!

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> Putz

> Illinois Families for Hands & Voices

> _www.handsandvoices.org_ (http://www.handsandvoices.org/)

> _www.ilhandsandvoices.org_ (http://www.ilhandsandvoices.org/)

> Email: support@...

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[Guest guest]

In GA the boys let their hair grow out, but they comb the bangs forward so they

halfway hang in their eyes and then flip up. Kind of 70's with a flip! The

girls are all so polished looking with straightened hair and the boys wear baggy

clothes and moppy hair! They look like two different species.

[Guest guest]

As long as my son doesn't want a mullet, we're okay!

pcknott@... wrote:

> In GA the boys let their hair grow out, but they comb the bangs forward so

they halfway hang in their eyes and then flip up. Kind of 70's with a flip!

The girls are all so polished looking with straightened hair and the boys wear

baggy clothes and moppy hair! They look like two different species.

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