Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 I was told to expect 20 pounds a month for the first 6 months. Your ten pounds ahead for the second month! Try to look at it that way......Your body will stop and take a breather once and a while, and then it will start to lose again. On the hot blonde at work......Its not her fault that the people at work are so shallow. I wouldnt hold it against her, but take a look at the others at work, your " friends " that only want to be friends with the skinny people. Its them that has the problem, not the blonde chick. Rethink the friends you want to keep, is my way of looking at it. I may be way off, but its just my two cents worth...... Congrats on the 30 pounds by the way, it sure feels good dont it! Take care..... Mike T Frustrated >I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing > weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the > weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are > drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also > hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I > know that is why I have not lost more weight. > I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure > if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. > I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people > for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. > They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. > They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and > Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost > 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. > I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 > lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to > breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some > much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I > am more the happy to take them. > > Selina > 282/250/150 > > > > > > > We are a very active support group. > If the email becomes overwhelming, > please change your setting to NO EMAIL! > Please contact Group Creator > Robyn@... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 they are just human > > I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing > weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the > weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are > drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also > hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I > know that is why I have not lost more weight. > I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure > if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. > I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people > for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. > They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. > They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and > Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost > 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. > I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 > lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to > breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some > much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I > am more the happy to take them. > > Selina > 282/250/150 > Dear Selina,they are all just human . " Blonde,Big boobs,and Skinny " women have just as many problems and insecurities as the rest of us! Especially around MEN.lol live your life and be happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 they are just human > > I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing > weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the > weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are > drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also > hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I > know that is why I have not lost more weight. > I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure > if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. > I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people > for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. > They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. > They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and > Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost > 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. > I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 > lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to > breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some > much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I > am more the happy to take them. > > Selina > 282/250/150 > Dear Selina,they are all just human . " Blonde,Big boobs,and Skinny " women have just as many problems and insecurities as the rest of us! Especially around MEN.lol live your life and be happy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 Selina, Isn't it great to have clothes falling off of you?! I am being told by my husband and co-workers that it is time for me to buy some smaller clothes. The pics I took today and posted on the group website were some of my smaller clothes and even they look big. I can also relate to the hurt back. My body is adjusting to the weight loss and lately I have been extremely clumsy. Just Tuesday night I tripped with a basket of clothes going up my steps. As a result, I hurt my back. I tend to agree with Mike about the blonde not being at fault for looking good and people paying her more attention. Now if she acted as if she were better than you, then you would be justified in not liking her. My best friend is very attractive and when we first met, I thought of her as being stuck up and assumed she would not befriend me. However, I couldn't have been more wring. She has been extremely supportive of me and she had her own issues to deal with, such as feeling like her breasts were too small and extreme jealousy of any women who talked to her husband. Even attractive women have insecurities. in Virginia 299/239/150 Lap RNY: 5/3/06 Frustrated I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I know that is why I have not lost more weight. I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I am more the happy to take them. Selina 282/250/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 Selina, I feel the same way. When I was 60 pounds heavier I would not get a second look from guys but now that I am 60 pounds lighter I get looks. I think to myself why do they pay me attention now? That really pisses me off and makes me angry too. But hey it does not mean we have to talk to them. Australia 321/261/176 Frustrated I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I know that is why I have not lost more weight. I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I am more the happy to take them. Selina 282/250/150 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2006 Report Share Posted August 10, 2006 I was an 11lb baby!!!!!! I always tell my mom, " it's all your fault I'm fat because you ate too much when you were pregnant. " I am playing thought but it is funny to pick on her. My boyfriend is constantly telling me that he is going to have to walk with me everywhere before guys attack me after the surgery. He is so cute and I guess it makes me feel good. Random lil thought to ur post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 I was a 10lb 12 ounces baby. Australia 321/261/176 Re: Frustrated I was an 11lb baby!!!!!! I always tell my mom, " it's all your fault I'm fat because you ate too much when you were pregnant. " I am playing thought but it is funny to pick on her. My boyfriend is constantly telling me that he is going to have to walk with me everywhere before guys attack me after the surgery. He is so cute and I guess it makes me feel good. Random lil thought to ur post Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 Hi Selina, This is a battling subject for many of us. Dealing with the anger of how others have treated us and seperating that after the weight loss. Now this is a personal thing I have come to terms with for myself. This may not apply to you. But, there was something i had to understand because this was one of my biggest fears with the weight loss. How do I know people are accepting me for me and not becuase I am thinning. Well, when I was as heavy as I was, I was miserable to be around, snappy, and every skinny person reminded me of what I wasn't and couldn't do. I would walk down the street and instantly scan for people who were starring at me. The truth of the matter is, I was more prejudice of myself then they were. To them I was probably seen as this miserable person I was and I wouldn't blame anyone for not wanting to be around me. To me, I was just FAT and that was the reason. I finally started to understand that it was how I acted that lead them away from me. Not so much my weight. My sister helped me realize that and she doesn't even know it and I need her to let her know how sorry I am so, after this post, I need to call her in the morning nad tell her because I was a straight up miserable B**ch to her and snappy with my kids. I notcied she would stay away from me. Now that I am happier with my life, she comes around A LOT more and I am MORE happier to be with her. Infact, tonight she came over and we had a BLAST dancing around to my new dance workout I got. We were laughing and carring on like never before. I have changed with the weight and THAT is the difference, in my opinion. I mean yes, there are ignorant people out there that have fobias about heavy people, but they are not in everyone I thought. What I am finding now is that I am fun now, happy, and outgoing again. THAT!! is what attracks people. Selina, now that your weight is coming off, you are feeling better about yourself and it shows. You do not hold back and are not drowned in the thoughts of others on your weight and in constant thought of how miserable you are because of that. You are now moving out the old stuff and moving in the new you stuff. Forget those guys at work, just keep doing what your doing. Take it as it comes and feel good that you are feeling attracted by people, MOST improtantly to YOURSELF!!!! We want other people to adjust to us, the truth is, we need to also learn to adjust to other people too. One more thing and I will get off of this hahaha, but, my girlfriend and I were talking the other day. I told her I am afraid to date. Afraid that a guy will not love me for me but because I am thinner... I had to replay in my head all that I have said above, but she also told me that people are not going to know about my miserable old self... they are going to see who I am now. I realized that very second that I have to let people in. I derserve it!!! I hope this helps some! I wish you the best! Shauna > > I am one month today out of surgery. I feel like I just stopped losing > weight. I have lost 30 pounds a week ago. I know I am losing the > weight because my dear hubby keeps telling me that my clothes are > drowning me. He has to be nice to me I am his wife! HAHAHA. I also > hurt my back last week. So now I cannot walk. Back on pain pills. I > know that is why I have not lost more weight. > I am finding what foods I can eat and what food make me sick. Not sure > if it is because I eat to fast or if it is because they do not go down. > I went back to the office one week ago. I was afraid to face people > for the simple reason that I work with men that are very self center. > They did not talk to me to begin with when I was at my heaviest 282. > They talk all day to one co worker that is Blonde, Big boobs, and > Skinny. All the traits that I personally dislike. Now that I hae lost > 30 pounds they started talking to me more. Like I am now a human being. > I have been over weight all my life. Since birth, I had weighted 10 > lbs.So girls like that always made me feel like I had no right to > breath the same air they do. I am not sure how to stop feeling some > much anger for people like that. If anyone can give me some pointer I > am more the happy to take them. > > Selina > 282/250/150 > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 Shauna, Thank you for your comments about others. Although I am just starting this portion of my weight loss journey (WLS), I am becoming more aware of my own perception of myself. I thought other people were looking down on me because of my wt, reality is, it is me projecting that to other people. I say this because although I have not lost a pound, I feel better about myself already. People are complimenting me a lot more, about my hair, the way I dress etc. I'm sure it is my attitude that is causing this. Maybe I am walking a little taller or something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 Okay, now I feel better if it was 20 lbs. a month... I have been worried that I have not lost a pound a day! I went to the SSF support group last Tuesday, and Gity said I am doing just fine. Still hard to not get frustrated! I want it to happen fast, and I know this takes time. Dana In a message dated 8/10/2006 4:00:35 PM Pacific Standard Time, tune1552@... writes: I was told to expect 20 pounds a month for the first 6 months. Your ten pounds ahead for the second month! Try to look at it that way......Your body will stop and take a breather once and a while, and then it will start to lose again. On the hot blonde at work......Its not her fault that the people at work are so shallow. I wouldnt hold it against her, but take a look at the others at work, your " friends " that only want to be friends with the skinny people. Its them that has the problem, not the blonde chick. Rethink the friends you want to keep, is my way of looking at it. I may be way off, but its just my two cents worth...... Congrats on the 30 pounds by the way, it sure feels good dont it! Take care..... Mike T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 11, 2006 Report Share Posted August 11, 2006 Funny, I'm being told the same thing ! LOL! 2 women at work brought me 3 bags full of clothes. :-) I also went to Lane today & bought 4 bras. Everyone was telling me I was sagging. LOL! So, now I'm not! :-) W 380/327/160 R.D. Abernathy wrote: > Selina, > > Isn't it great to have clothes falling off of you?! I am being told by my husband and co-workers that it is time for me to buy some smaller clothes. The pics I took today and posted on the group website were some of my smaller clothes and even they look big. I can also relate to the hurt back. My body is adjusting to the weight loss and lately I have been extremely clumsy. Just Tuesday night I tripped with a basket of clothes going up my steps. As a result, I hurt my back. > > I tend to agree with Mike about the blonde not being at fault for looking good and people paying her more attention. Now if she acted as if she were better than you, then you would be justified in not liking her. My best friend is very attractive and when we first met, I thought of her as being stuck up and assumed she would not befriend me. However, I couldn't have been more wring. She has been extremely supportive of me and she had her own issues to deal with, such as feeling like her breasts were too small and extreme jealousy of any women who talked to her husband. Even attractive women have insecurities. > > in Virginia > 299/239/150 > Lap RNY: 5/3/06 > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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