RE: Fw: : help me sisters

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I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do.

Help me sisters.

ren

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I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do.

I am sorry for your loss, Dear Ren.

Our battle is like any war...when our comrades fall and we are left standing we must continue the fight...

Go to the funeral and mourn your loss. Feel your cousin's presence and peace.

You are fighting for you and your cousin now.

Andree

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Ren, I am sorry to hear about your cousin. I know what you mean about wondering why not us instead of them. I lost 3 friends close together a few years ago leaving 9 children between them. I thought then how unfair it was for those poor children to be left motherless and mine were already grown and married. Although I am glad I am still here it makes me feel guilty. You and your family are in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Fw: : help me sisters

I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do. Help me sisters. ren

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I am so sorry for your loss ren. Was you very close to your cousin? It might help you with your feelings if you went , might bring you some answers you are searching for. You are in my prayers.

Hugs,

Carol in michigan

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I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do. Help me sisters. ren

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Go Bless, Ren. I believe we are all put here for a predetermined

time. Your time is not up. Your cousin did his work, yours is not yet

finished. Please remember, your not going to his funeral doesn't mean

you love him any less. My mother will probably not last out the day

and to be very honest being 3 weeks post op with the complications I

suffered, I'm not sure about visiting hours and the funeral. I may be

able to do one but not both.

Ruth

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> I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died

yesterday

> morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks

ago and he

> was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we

don't do any

> of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you

ask God

> what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to

Louisville

> KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do.

>

> Help me sisters.

>

> ren

>

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Ruth,

I am sorry to hear about your Mom. You are both in my prayers.

Hugs

nne

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Re: Fw: : help me sisters

Go Bless, Ren. I believe we are all put here for a predeterminedtime. Your time is not up. Your cousin did his work, yours is not yetfinished. Please remember, your not going to his funeral doesn't meanyou love him any less. My mother will probably not last out the dayand to be very honest being 3 weeks post op with the complications Isuffered, I'm not sure about visiting hours and the funeral. I may beable to do one but not both.Ruth >> I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) diedyesterday > morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeksago and he > was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and wedon't do any > of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do youask God > what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip toLouisville > KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do.> > Help me sisters.> > ren>

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Dear ren, that is so sad. I'm sorry you lost someone close.

If you don't want to go to his funeral, then don't go. But think first, will you regret it later? You are the one you'll have to live with afterwards. If you decide not to go, then that's fine, so make sure you allow yourself to believe it's fine.

You can grieve, and say goodbye to him, from your own home or church just as well as if you went to KY. After all, funerals are for those left behind, not for those who have gone. You could send a card, or call, to the rest of the family, to explain your not going. And if he knows anything, he will know you are saying goodbye in your own way. And he knows that you are the one who understood when he talked about cancer

I hope this helps, my sister,

Love,

Margery.

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From: breastcancer2 [mailto:breastcancer2 ] On Behalf Of rendurall@...Sent: 17 April 2006 14:59To: breastcancer2 Subject: Re: Fw: : help me sisters

I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do. Help me sisters. ren

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Ren - I wish I were close so I could give you a hug in person. I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. Sue

Re: Fw: : help me sisters

I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do. Help me sisters. ren

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Ren, I think what your feeling is completely natural. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. Many hugs coming your way.

Patti

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Ren....

I'm so sorry. And yes I've asked myself that question many times in the years since I was dx. Especially after Donna died in December. I still have no answers.

SharonB rendurall@... wrote:

I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do. Help me sisters. ren

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My cousin died last October of ovarian cancer probably in her early 40's..was not real close to her and had not seen her in years...Could not go to the funeral one reason it was in Florida and only been to Florida once in the early 70's to Miami and she lived on the cost...Did not know how to get to where she lived from North Carolina and it was in the middle of a Hurricane. that was in the area...My sister is in Delaware where I used to live she could not come either...We sent some flowers and they understood..It was short notice because I did not know she was so sick... If you can make it to the funeral you should go ...But if you think you can not make it send some flowers and send a card, They will understand... Went to the funeral of my boyfriends Dad this

past March...Military Funeral and boyfriend was oldest child of 7 and he got the flag...What an honor... Betsy(NC) Note: forwarded message attached.

Ren.... I'm so sorry. And yes I've asked myself that question many times in the years since I was dx. Especially after Donna died in December. I still have no answers. SharonB rendurall@... wrote: I found out yesterday that my cousin (whom I am close to) died yesterday morning. He had rectal cancer and he and I talked a couple of weeks ago and he was going to be fine. Now he died, not me. When those die and we don't do any of you every wonder why they went and you are still here? Do you ask God what your puporse is now? I am not sure I want to make the trip to Louisville KY for the funeral. I don't know what to do.

Help me sisters. ren