a heart-felt apology......

[Guest guest]

DL,

You are very correct that things can easily get

misconstrued on the internet due to lack of verbal

cues and I truly appreciate the apology! What threw

me off was the " supermommy " stuff as I felt that

because that was my online name that you were directly

reffering to it as a negitive toward me. It is

because of this group that I am able to now be so

positive about the disease or whatever it is being

called these days. I have had and do have horrible

days, but everyone here has helped me view my life as

what it is now and what I can make of it, and if you

give this group a shot it is really an uplifting

group! Thank you for your apologies and if I can help

with anything, I am here!

Deb R

--- dl wrote:

> To Deb/ " supermommy " and / " unicorn Vicki " in

> particular, but also to the group as a whole.......

>

> I can't tell you how heartbroken I've been that I

> upset you, and anyone else. My intention certainly

> was not to convey criticism of you in any way - I

> was rather, talking about my own struggles to come

> to terms with the fact that I'm no longer a

> " supermommy " .

>

> I'm terribly sorry that my attempts at

> communicating have caused so many hurt feelings.

> Deb, I responded to your post precisely *because* I

> was moved by it, and in great admiration of you.

>

> I do believe I thanked you for what you wrote, and

> how I admired you for your wonderful attitude and

> the creative energy you put towards parenting. I in

> no way meant to judge or criticize - any negative

> words I used were in reference to myself, and about

> my frustration with myself in not yet being able to

> be more like you and others on the list who handle

> so many difficult circumstances while still

> remaining wonderful parents and people in general.

>

> As for 's (I hope I have your name

> correct, sorry if not) poem - again, I'm very sorry.

> I can see how you thought I was criticizing your

> poetry, and I'm very sorry for my poorly chosen

> words. The poem *is* beautiful, and speaks of the

> beauty inside of you. When I said that I couldn't

> read it, it was not because of you or of the poem,

> it was because of *me*, and the trouble I'm having

> feeling that my kids do think less of me because of

> my not being able to do things with them. I'm sorry

> my words made you think I was criticizing your poem

> or anything else you said.

>

> I appreciate the offers of encouragement, and am

> sorry you thought I was " bashing " you. Although I

> take responsibility for my poor communication and my

> " woe is me " attitude, I know communication via

> internet is apt to lead to misunderstanding due to

> lack of non-verbal cues, intonation, etc.

> Because I've caused such upset here, I will

> refrain from further posting.

>

> I just wanted you to know that I meant no harm,

> and I'm terribly sorry that I hurt your feelings

> when you were trying to encourage me. (And really,

> though I didn't state it clearly, your words did

> help me and I will think of them often when I'm

> feeling guilty about being a " less than super "

> mother.)

>

> Respectfully,

> DL

>

> P.S. I'm sorry for the delayed reply. I glanced

> through some of the posts quickly very early this

> morning, and wrote to Kristy in a hurry, asking her

> to send my apologies, as I'm in the midst of a

> family crisis and didn't have time to respond

> directly to you this morning. I'm worried that with

> my lack of sleep, I'm still not conveying accurately

> my sincerest regrets, but I assure you, I am very

> sorry.

>

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>

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[Guest guest]

Debbie and everyone,

If there's anything I can do to help you in the way of support

pls let me know as well.

I don't always post to the list as I am in the background making

sure that nothing goes wrong.

But pls know I'm here for you if I can be of assistance.

Kristy

Co-Owner

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[Guest guest]

THANK YOU KRISTY!!! HOPE ALL IS WELL!!!

--- Kristy Sokoloski wrote:

> Debbie and everyone,

>

> If there's anything I can do to help you in the way

> of support

> pls let me know as well.

>

> I don't always post to the list as I am in the

> background making

> sure that nothing goes wrong.

>

> But pls know I'm here for you if I can be of

> assistance.

>

> Kristy

> Co-Owner

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