Don't know how to diffuse my responses

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when dealing with my narcissistic siblings. I can't stand them. But, have to

deal with them because of our BPD mother. I couldn't stand to see anymore abuse

of her. So, here I am taking care of her. Though, I am the last person who

should be doing this to myself. I've been her care taker my entire life. I'm

sick of it. But, I really don't believe that her intelligence/mental digit

spans ever developed past that of about a nine year old. I'm wondering if that

is what BPD is...an underdeveloped intelligence.

But, back to the subject at hand. My narc relatives set off my emotions and I

revert to old patterns in dealing with them ...patterns that are destructive to

my handling of the situations they throw me into all the time. I want to remain

the stoic, uncaring, dismissing person that I need to be with them.

What do you all do?