Re: Still living with BPD parent

April 12, 2010

My " parents " decided to take a place in another town. I was not invited. But I

was asked to move them, because Nada just couldn't handle it and I am ever so

much stronger than her.

At the time she was moving out of my stepfather's mothers house. This woman was

willing to allow me to stay till I figured something out. But Nada had crafted

quite an interesting little fight yet to come. In her NEED for me to move her,

she also pivoted me in a position of moving a piece of furniture that she had

apparently given to the Mother in Law. I was told it was Nada's. MIL said it

was not.

Tired, and quite thoroughly irritated with the whole thing (this game had been

going on since I was 12) both women were nuts. I pointedly asked MIL why she was

being a bitch about this. It is of course a disrespectful thing to say...in a

normal house, but I had been dealing with Nada, a psychotic pedophilic

step-father, a step grandmother in law that had some wacko incestuous

relationship with her son...anyway, I lived in crazyville.

Step-MIL of course threw me out. Probably orchestrated by Nada. I had been

packed since I was 15, I called a friend, she picked me up and I did the

bouncing from place to place till I ended up at the boyfriends where I ended up

married to what I found out was my stalker and eventually the FADA of my

children.

Short version. I married my mother, and the psychosis continued till he walked

out and I was finally free....at 30.

What would be REALLY REALLY nice...is if kids who were going through this, had

somewhere safe to go. I know one who is 21 in a couple of days and he is

constantly having the rug pulled out from under him by his NADA and finding it

damned near impossible to get a decent start. If he was girl...my guess is he

would be married by now.

Never a good answer.

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> Who here is an " adult " (18 or more) who still lives with the parent or who has

moved back in with the parent?

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> What do you do when you still haven't grown up in many ways because you are

still under the control of all of this, both physically and emotionally?

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> If anyone was still young when you got out of the house or finally got out of

the house--at least physically, if not mentally-how did you do it?

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