Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 , can you keep repeating that part about how employment doesn't define who we are... over and over again. I think that's part of the reason I'm so depressed. I was at my job... and I have to say MY job because I was the only one there... for over 10 years. I was just talking to my ex boss via instant messenger.... she's an idiot. She just doesn't understand why no one can help me with my pain, fatigue and diarrhea issues. Gee, I must not be looking hard enough... if that sounded like sarcasm it was. This is a woman who could buy the whole state of Rhode Island, never mind have a company in it. Sorry, rambling. It just makes me so angry that I've lost everything (in my opinion) because of her inaccurate view of the world around her. (Whew, was wondering how to put that nicely.) Basically, she's and ass. Tigger -----Original Message-----From: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group [mailto:Fibromyalgia_Support_Group ]On Behalf Of Llisa@...Sent: Tuesday, June 14, 2005 10:19 PMTo: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group Subject: Big Hugs to Amy and Dear FMS Buddies, Good evening all. This is . I am sorry that I haven't posted much, but I was reading as many posts as I could through the weekend and up until today. I got online today and I just couldn't believe what hard times people seem to going through. It saddened me so. I was so saddened to hear that Amy and have lost their positions. It appears that Amy's boss is on to find the next disease she thinks she has, and 's boss has sent in Hitler's troops to fire all of the disabled. To both of you I am so sorry that you have been treated so unfairly. I fight every day almost to get up in the morning to earn a living to keep my apartment and medical benefits. My hearts goes out to both of for how badly you were treated by employers. I feel that others here have offered good advise to use this time to rest, cooperate and relax. Stress causes flares. Please try to minimize it so you don't go into a bad flare. I know that about 4 years ago right before I got my official diagnosis I was terminated from my job. I worked for a small business and just as Tigger I treated the business as if it was my own. Working overtime, weekends, etc. And in addition I worked a part-time job to keep better medical benefits than this small business could provide me. I was devastated when I lost that job. Before I was terminated I had thought about leaving because I felt like I was underpaid and that this small company wasn't going to be able to offer me the career path I needed. But as anyone would want to I wanted to leave on my own terms. So of course as and Amy are feeling right now I was devastated from being rejected and turned out on the streets like I was a nothing. In addition, he had the nerve to ask me for a resignation letter after he fired me out of fear he would have to pay unemployment. Which I refused to provide him. I was fortunate because I had that part-time job to save me with my benefits and they gave me more hours until I found my current job. But on to my babbling point. Although I didn't realize it at the time, being terminated from the job was the best thing that ever happened to me, because I found a job making a lot more money with better benefits, and that enabled to quit that part-time job so I didn't need to work two jobs. But if someone had told me that at the time, I would have told them to go pound sand and that things were never going to get better, because I sank into a deep depression and pain. Employment does not define who a person is. People define who they are. Many doctors don't under FMS or even want to believe that it is a true illness or disease. If doctors don't believe, then why should lay people and employers understand? I know that my termination scenario may not happen to everyone, but I think that it may be so hard to see the bright side right now, but later down the road we may be able to see why these devastating events happened to us. I am keeping you both in my heart and wishing you both luck. Hugs, 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general.2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better.Have a nice day everyone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2005 Report Share Posted June 15, 2005 , thanks so much for your very kind and thoughtful words. You perfectly summarized how I feel. I am doing my best to take care of myself right now and prevent a flare. I will use whatever time I am unemployed to really focus on my health and well-being. I apppreciate your encouragement. --- Llisa@... wrote: > > I know that my termination scenario may not happen > to everyone, but I think > that it may be so hard to see the bright side right > now, but later down the > road we may be able to see why these devastating > events happened to us. > > I am keeping you both in my heart and wishing you > both luck. Amy Swinderman Live aloha! __________________________________ Discover Yahoo! Find restaurants, movies, travel and more fun for the weekend. Check it out! http://discover.yahoo.com/weekend.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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