Re: Need guidance from an IE veteran

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Does it work at all to visualize how you will feel after you eat until you are overly stuffed? And to want to avoid that feeling? That is what I do, but hey, not like I don't still sometimes eat til' I'm stuffed. I just find that if I focus on how I am going to feel if I don't eat in a way that makes me feel happy , I end up sad.

Not sure if that helps you at all.

I am about to post about my 'issue' and see if anyone has any solutions.

Okay... I'm struggling, frustrated... impatient.I know in my mind that I need to get to a place of complete self-acceptance... and self-love to be able to move forward. I also know that I have to let go of the need to lose weight to truly accept myself... THIS IS HARD!!!! In the back of my mind there's this tug-of-war that's going on... okay, just accept yourself so you can lose weight... So I need to continue to work on my thinking... but how do I do this? I am developing a much kinder and loving voice when speaking to myself... and I'm trying to remind myself that I'm " enough " just as I am... While I've had some success in eating to satiety and cutting down my portion sizes I've also eaten to where I'm stuffed numerous times this past week -- which I hadn't done in a while. Everything seems so passive, so random. I understand it all in my head... but to get it to integrate into my belief system is a major challenge. I feel like I'm all over the place and not making a focused effort -- I think that's the project manager in me (my career).

Does anyone have any tips? Am I just trying to rush things? What have some of you found success with when trying to change your thinking?Thanks for all the great love and support...

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Thanks ... this does help... I'm just so scatter brained... I can't seem to do anything consistently....okay, I prefer to become more consistent. wrote: , Does it work at all to visualize how you will feel after you eat until you are overly stuffed? And to want to avoid that feeling? That is what I do, but hey, not like I don't still sometimes eat til' I'm stuffed. I just find that if I focus on how I am going to feel if I don't eat in a way that makes me feel

happy , I end up sad. Not sure if that helps you at all. I am about to post about my 'issue' and see if anyone has any solutions. Okay... I'm struggling, frustrated... impatient.I know in my mind that I need to get to a place of complete self-acceptance... and self-love to be able to move forward. I also know that I have to let go of the need to lose weight to truly accept myself... THIS IS HARD!!!! In the back of my mind there's this tug-of-war that's going on... okay, just accept yourself so you can lose weight... __________________________________________________

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Thanks ... this does help... I'm just so scatter brained... I can't seem to do anything consistently....okay, I prefer to become more consistent. wrote: , Does it work at all to visualize how you will feel after you eat until you are overly stuffed? And to want to avoid that feeling? That is what I do, but hey, not like I don't still sometimes eat til' I'm stuffed. I just find that if I focus on how I am going to feel if I don't eat in a way that makes me feel

happy , I end up sad. Not sure if that helps you at all. I am about to post about my 'issue' and see if anyone has any solutions. Okay... I'm struggling, frustrated... impatient.I know in my mind that I need to get to a place of complete self-acceptance... and self-love to be able to move forward. I also know that I have to let go of the need to lose weight to truly accept myself... THIS IS HARD!!!! In the back of my mind there's this tug-of-war that's going on... okay, just accept yourself so you can lose weight... __________________________________________________

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>Does anyone have any tips? Am I just trying to rush things? What have

>some of you found success with when trying to change your thinking?

I think every person's journey is totally different, but it is not usually

something people just " get " right away. I've been really working on it for

almost a year now and I'm just getting to the point where I eat mindfully

about 75% of the time. I had a class on cognitive behavioral therapy that

really helped with my thinking. If you could read or listen to some stuff on

CBT, it might help.

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You know sometimes we look for something so hard that our mind is

consumed with the belief and thought that we can not see what we are

looking for and what we need. Often when it is in front of our faces

and is easier then we could ever imagine.

We analyze to the point of confusion.

We think we need to find the " thing " outside of ourselves that

will " fix " us.

We are not broken.

That we need to " practice " a behaviour and that we already believe

it is a struggle and deep down already believe we will fail.

The one thing that i have learned in my 3-4 years of IE is that when

it comes is not when I am looking so hard for it.

It comes when I let go and release it to something bigger and more

loving of me then I am of myself

..

Not to get too religious or anyting but I really think that for me

and many people the struggle with eating and weight has never really

been about eating and weight, it has been about me learning to let

go and trust. To not try and build my own house.

Trust in the wisdom of who created your body.

And I really think that the more we let go the more we are behaving

like a person with out a weight/eating proublem.

They do not try to have a certain behaviour, they just accept what

is natural.

The struggle is never really in work that must be done by us, it is

in letting the work be done by more capable hands (Bodys inner

wisdom/God)

Hope everyones had a good weekend.

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... WOW.... this really hit home. I've been feeling like I just want to let go of it all... as I've gotten older I've learned that my attempts to force things usually causing more frustration... and often defeat. It's when I stop and let things come to me... that abundance is overflowing. I've been feeling this nudge (I believe from God) to just let go of the all the effort to MAKE myself into this IE person. ...He has heard my prayers and is trying to reach me... I've just been too stubborn to listen. But your message has helped... I think this ties in with what Moran on dietsurvivors has been trying to tell me as well.Thank you SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much!!!! Saunders wrote: You know sometimes we look for something so hard that our mind is consumed with the belief and thought that we can not see what we are looking for and what we need. Often when it is in front of our faces and is easier then we could ever imagine. We analyze to the point of confusion. We think we need to find the "thing" outside of ourselves that will "fix" us. We are not broken. That we need to "practice" a behaviour and that we already believe it is a struggle and deep down already believe we will fail. The one thing that i have learned in my 3-4 years of IE is that when it comes is not when I am looking so hard for it. It comes when I let go

and release it to something bigger and more loving of me then I am of myself ..

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[Guest guest]

OK, Ms. Project Manager, what do you do you do to accomplish a HUGE

task?? How about breaking in up into smaller tasks? For example,

may you can pick one of the IE principals to focus on each week or

month. Review that principal frequently, try to live that one

principal as best you can.

I personally find it hard to be successful at everything at once

since I'm new to it. IE is a huge, long-term project...anyone that

says something different is full of it. So, progress for the end

goal will be slow. That is why I think it helps to have smaller

more reasonable goals.

BTW, I am not a veteran at all. I couldn't resist responding

though. I really hope you find something that works for you.

Amy

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> Okay... I'm struggling, frustrated... impatient.

>

> I know in my mind that I need to get to a place of complete self-

acceptance... and self-love to be able to move forward. I also know

that I have to let go of the need to lose weight to truly accept

myself... THIS IS HARD!!!! In the back of my mind there's this tug-

of-war that's going on... okay, just accept yourself so you can lose

weight...

>

> So I need to continue to work on my thinking... but how do I do

this? I am developing a much kinder and loving voice when speaking

to myself... and I'm trying to remind myself that I'm " enough " just

as I am... While I've had some success in eating to satiety and

cutting down my portion sizes I've also eaten to where I'm stuffed

numerous times this past week -- which I hadn't done in a while.

Everything seems so passive, so random. I understand it all in my

head... but to get it to integrate into my belief system is a major

challenge. I feel like I'm all over the place and not making a

focused effort -- I think that's the project manager in me (my

career).

>

> Does anyone have any tips? Am I just trying to rush things?

What have some of you found success with when trying to change your

thinking?

>

> Thanks for all the great love and support...

>

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Thanks Amy.... you're right... eat the elephant one bite at a time!!! I guess I'm being very impatient!!! I really think about how I keep trying to push this thing... like a project... like it should just be a task by task process... but I don't know that this is that way?!?! I think there is a lot more flexibility, softness, forgiveness in this process than I've been allowing myself.I think instead of trying to change who I am -- task by task... I just to need to be more aware... Moran with dietsurvivors yahoogroup really made a huge impact on me today along with Ashlee here in IE... about not trying so hard, letting go and just being more aware... to let go of controlling it all... which is what I think I was trying to do... Plus... there is a huge God element for me. He is trying to teach me but I haven't been letting Him.But I think your point is worthy too... but just integrated in a way where I'm

not so regimented... thank you!!!Everyone is so awesome... I really appreciate the input!!!Thanks again Amy!amytherrien wrote: OK, Ms. Project Manager, what do you do you do to accomplish a HUGE task?? How about breaking in up into smaller tasks? For example, may you can pick one of the IE principals to focus on each week or month. Review that principal frequently, try to live that one principal as best you can.

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

You've had lots of great responses so this may be helpful or

not.

Everytime you have a thought (including not being able to accept yourself

the way you are), it leads to a result. The brain always want to be

right, so every thought you have you mind works hard to make sure it

happens, whether you want it our not. I realize that it can be difficult

to change negative thoughts to positive, but if you can become more aware

of any negative thoughts, you can replace them as you go. There has been

recent research that shows women with a positive self image are more

likely to weigh less and not diet, so it's proven by actual

science!

Even though I have been coaching clients on Intuitive Eating for a few

years now, I was struggling with the self-acceptance part for some time.

I really wanted to, but for some reason I just couldn't. I discussed this

with my mentor and she suggested that I go get clothes that fit me now

that I look good in and am comfortable in. Normally I would have bought

baggy clothes to try to hide what I thought were " problems " but

I had been reading info on how women with my body type should dress. So I

experimented and tried on clothes I wouldn't dream of wearing (low rise

jeans, fitted tops, etc.) It turns out that these clothes do look good on

me and my husband said I look way better than I ever did in the baggy

clothes. This made it so much easier to accept myself and it has been

such a relief for me! While I have been doing IE for many years myself,

it has been a journey and a process.

As far as the overeating that you are doing, can you look at it as a

learning experience? Everytime you don't eat intuitively, you can always

learn something. It might be that you didn't eat enough earlier, or a

certain food doesn't satisfy you, etc.

Have you been successful at something in your life that you thought was a

huge challenge that you may not get past? If so, hold on to the fact that

you can be successful and consistent and you will get there!

Thanks!

Gillian

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At 07:05 PM 11/11/2006, you wrote:

Okay... I'm struggling,

frustrated... impatient.

I know in my mind that I need to get to a place of complete

self-acceptance... and self-love to be able to move forward. I also

know that I have to let go of the need to lose weight to truly accept

myself... THIS IS HARD!!!! In the back of my mind there's this

tug-of-war that's going on... okay, just accept yourself so you can lose

weight...

So I need to continue to work on my thinking... but how do I do

this? I am developing a much kinder and loving voice when speaking

to myself... and I'm trying to remind myself that I'm " enough "

just as I am... While I've had some success in eating to satiety and

cutting down my portion sizes I've also eaten to where I'm stuffed

numerous times this past week -- which I hadn't done in a while.

Everything seems so passive, so random. I understand it all in my

head... but to get it to integrate into my belief system is a major

challenge. I feel like I'm all over the place and not making

a focused effort -- I think that's the project manager in me (my

career).

Does anyone have any tips? Am I just trying to rush

things? What have some of you found success with when trying

to change your thinking?

Thanks for all the great love and support...

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Thanks!

Gillian

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