Re: sad,... but this is therapy for me!

[Guest guest]

Dear Joyce,

Sorry to hear about your Mom. it is only natural for you to be feeling so

sad. This will be difficult for a long time, and then creep back up at times

that were important to the two of you. I am glad you were able to spend time

with her in her last days, and be with her when she passed on. Please take

care, and write me privately or on list anytime. Love, Sue Ginley

[Guest guest]

Joyce,

I am so saddened by the news of your mother! I know that her illness was

something that you were aware of and that you were spending all of your time

with her and I am grateful for you that you had this opportunity. It's not

something anyone can fathom, as we do fear death, but the loving way that

you helped your mother pass is something that you all needed to do, and this

is part of the healing process for you as well. She passed surrounded by

family who loved her, who gave everything of themselves to her to make her

passing comfortable and loving. What a blessing Joyce, she is no longer in

pain and the angels on earth that you are helped guide her to the angels

above.

Peace be with you and your family at this time.

Jill

[Guest guest]

Hi Joyce,

Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers to you and your

family. I pray that your heart will be warmed and comforted by the

special memories of your mother you continue to treasure.

Prayers of peace,

Cameron

[Guest guest]

Hi Joyce,

I know exactly how you feel, as I lost my only sister a little over a year

ago to brain cancer. I was with our parents the last several weeks taking

care of her, and I understand what you mean by her giving YOU a gift. My sis

gave all of us one also. May time lesson your loneliness and sadness.

Love Lana

[Guest guest]

Joyce I am so sorry to hear about your Mom's passing. It was so wonderful

that she had such wonderful support and loved ones around her. This is a

sad time for you and any time you need some support remember we are always

here.

Hugs

Donna G

[Guest guest]

Joyce,

Sorry to hear of your Mothers passing...I know this is a very hard time

for you and your family...having you all there, giving her the love and

support that you did...was truly a gift that she will " always have " ...

You are in my thoughts and prayers...

Sending you warm, comforting " hugs "

Cheri

[Guest guest]

Joyce,

So sorry to hear of your mother's death. It's so nice to hear that

you made her last months so fulfilling for both of you. Of course death

is sad and you will miss her, but in the process of dying can also be

beatiful times and the memories of that will help you get through the

rough spots.

Take care,

Mel

" J. & R. " wrote:

>

> Hi all,

> This is my first time at the computer in two months. As some of you

> know,

> my mom had cancer now for about 3 years. Last year it spread into

> her bones,

> and for the last two months I have stayed at her home looking after

> her.

> It was

> a hard two months for her,...she was on a pain pump and oxygen. The

> last

> week

> was really hard for everyone,especially Mom, but all of us ( my two

> brothers and

> my sister,) were all with her when she died on May 28. The funeral was

> Wed,

> May

> 30. We had a lot of good memories over the 2 months, and some sad

> ones too.

> We played her favorites hymns for her, we prayed with her every day,

> we did

> her

> Bible readings, and we had some talks about old times. She enjoyed

> all this.

>

> It was a wonderful gift to give her, and an experience I will always

> treasure. I

> saw something in my Mom that I had never seen before, and in that she

> gave

> me a gift too.

>

> I am feeling very sad right now, so what better thing to do than to

> write

> to you

> guys who will I know understand. This is only my second night back

> home and

> it seems very strange to be here, and not be able to just phone Mom.

>

> I have missed 2 months of the list, so am really behind. I did see

> where

>

> Patton had serious surgery. I started corresponding with Beth even

> before

> the

> Ceda list existed. , you are in my heart and prayers.

>

> I will do my best to sift through the posts over the next while.

>

> I love you all....you have all been in my heart over the last two

> months.

>

> Love,

> Joyce

>

>

[Guest guest]

Welcome back JOyce.. Sorry to hear about your MOm... She is very lucky

to havehad you there with her, loving her, helping her in her last

months here with us... You are a wonderful and strong person to have

been there for her when you, yourself have issues to deal with with EDS.

God Bless and you will be in our prayers.

debby

[Guest guest]

everybody has already it so beautifully

all I can add is --I'm also sending you my prayers and support to get

through this.

I'm so glad to know that you've shared this beautiful connection with your

mom.

It may be hard to know that she's physically gone, but the love you've

shared is a blessing that will never leave you.

fond hugs

Louise

[Guest guest]

Oh Joyce,

I am sorry to hear of your mother's death, but at the same time I am glad

for you for the moments that you could share with her in the end. I know

your being there with her gave her much comfort in it will also comfort you

in the months to follow.

You know that I can relate to this as I too " took time out' to be with my mom

as much as possible before her death. There is a calm and a feeling of peace

knowing that you could do that and knowing how important your " sacrifice "

was for them.

I too still after more than a year find it hard to not get her phonecalls.

Whenever something incredibly good or incredibly bad happens, I have the

unconcious tendency to pick up the phone and share it with her.

I feel for you and I hope that God gives you peace and acceptance in this

sad time for you all.

You are in our prayers,

Hugs,

Donna

HEDS

Costa Rica