Re: puberty and behavioral problems

November 13, 2006

Hello,

I'm not a regular poster here, but I can hear your frustration and couldn't

pass up responding. I want to offer you support, some kind of reminder that

you are a good parent, that your hair will re-grow. (sorry, sick attempt at

humor)

I don't know much about autism yet. My daughter's not yet 5, and her issues

are mostly centered around communication. I have never (yet) had to deal

with behavior issues.

What I have read is that a lot of behaviors are sensory related. Can you

look into more of a sensory diet at school? Bear hug vest? Therapeutic

listening? More vestibular movement? An old wading pool filled with beans

or corn to submerge her skin in? Swimming? (heavy work, physical work to

wear her out?) Any clue what is sparking the outbursts? A child, a color,

a new teacher?

Could the writing on the walls be a sign of frustration at her communication

level? Could a dry-erase board help? Or line a wall of her room with a

used school-style chalkboard? Does she need more artistic outlets?

How is she sleeping?

I know others here have a lot more experience and great ideas. I just read

the pain in your words and wanted to let you know I was thinking of you.

Doreen

puberty and behavioral problems

Hi...I'm new here...this is my first post...I felt driven to write this

as I sit here tearing my hair out for the upmteenth time...I have a

beautiful 11-1/2 year old daughter, Lily, who is, for the most part,

very sweet, very verbal and very autistic. She is going through some

very difficult times...she has been hitting at school, other kids,

teachers, aides...she doesn't hit me or my husband and we don't hit

her....at home her behavior is horrible...writing on the walls with

chalk, pencils, non-removable marker, smearing toothpaste everywhere,

making the most noise possible...our ABA therapy doesn't seem to be

doing the trick...I'm thinking about medication but I hesitate to do

that...I would prefer not to use medication....but I am at my

wit's...all we do is fight lately, I find myself pushing her away

because she is stressing me beyond belief...I try to supervise her but

the 2 minutes I take to use the bathroom or change a load of laundry

gives her ample opportunity to turn the house upside down...I love her

but right now I'd thinking foster home (just kidding)...any ideas?

Anything at all....thanks.

November 13, 2006

this to sounds much like of me as a y ounger girl and yes because

lacked how to play or what things to do to entertain of self that was

of typical i tooften found my own sort of play and things I to loved.

it often led of me to troubles and yet had no cognitions to

understand why my play kept upsetting those around me. it sounds like

she may have interest to art, drawing, cloloring and or marking to

have a cause and effect real of actions. it also sounds like this

with the toothpaste too (cause and effect) I to do this and this

consistenly happens such if i to squeeze the toothpaste out comes

this paste of fun and it can be to make art and it is of ever so fun

and I to might like the smell and taste and such. it is of consistent

because verytime I to do it is of the same results.

same way with coloring and markers etc.... I to do this with the tool

and out comes this mark which I to created and it is of so

interesting how this tool works and so now I to want to experiement

each time I to see of this tool to see what color or texture will

come out because part of it is consistent but part is not and so

stuck there trying to find out the causes and effect in wonder what

color or texture will come out of this pen, marker crayon ect...

It might be of good to give her things of cause in effect in a

structured setting as her down time play. set rules coloring is only

on paper, or dry erase or whatever you chose...... give her finger

pints in tubes and such so she can squeeze to get of the same feel of

toothpaste( which is toxic and can cause mental retardations of

consumed) which makes no sense why it is to go into the mouth if it

is not a good choice to swollow it as how many children understand of

that..... but anyways the other things is to be to have of the

exposure to her seeking things into a structured set time each day

for her to safely explore. but place all the explored things into a

out of sight place and or locked up to prevent chaos.

If she is not one to climb over baby gates.. then make os sure her

room is of baby proofed and when you need to clean of the house or go

to a place where she will be unsupervised then place her to her room

for safety not punishment for a short brief time to assure her

safety. place new alteranting toys of interest in there so it can be

a fun break away such as wooden inset puzzels and then next time

maybe a sound effect book or somethings of interest to her that is of

a safe outlet for her to do. When taking her to her room tell her it

is her down time to play and you break time. set of the timer and

when it goes off make sure to go and get of her and praise of her for

her having a good down time to her self.

Sondra

In Autism_in_Girls , " scaboobady "

wrote:

>

> Hi...I'm new here...this is my first post...I felt driven to write

this

> as I sit here tearing my hair out for the upmteenth time...I have a

> beautiful 11-1/2 year old daughter, Lily, who is, for the most

part,

> very sweet, very verbal and very autistic. She is going through

some

> very difficult times...she has been hitting at school, other kids,

> teachers, aides...she doesn't hit me or my husband and we don't hit

> her....at home her behavior is horrible...writing on the walls with

> chalk, pencils, non-removable marker, smearing toothpaste

everywhere,

> making the most noise possible...our ABA therapy doesn't seem to be

> doing the trick...I'm thinking about medication but I hesitate to

do

> that...I would prefer not to use medication....but I am at my

> wit's...all we do is fight lately, I find myself pushing her away

> because she is stressing me beyond belief...I try to supervise her

but

> the 2 minutes I take to use the bathroom or change a load of

laundry

> gives her ample opportunity to turn the house upside down...I love

her

> but right now I'd thinking foster home (just kidding)...any ideas?

> Anything at all....thanks.

>

November 13, 2006

Hi There,

My daughter is going to be 11 next month and perhaps we can put the two in a

group home together. (also just kidding). Last night she had an hour long

tantrum for just about nothing. She said reading is stupid and of course I am

evil and was making her read. What the heck was I thinking. Do you think that

the raging hormones are doing her in? I think that is what is happening to my

daughter. She is fine one minute and a lunatic the next. She too is sweet.

She too writes on everything. She shares a room with her older sister and she

is always writing on everything of hers. She will write messages to her sister

in sharpie on her posters. I thought they were going to kill eachother last

week when the older sister decided to retaliate and write " Giana is a loser " on

her Hannah Montana poster. Seriously I thought I was going to have to put my

older one in a witness protection program for her own safety. Luckily I was

able to find a replacement poster before there was any blood shed. I did

however have to sleep in their room that night because I was afraid to leave

them alone. They both had evil in their eyes.

I have also been thinking of medication (for myself) nah just kidding. I just

think their bodies and minds are changing so much right now that medication for

my daughter anyway is not a good choice for now. You should talk to the doctor

some more and see if it will help Lily. My daughter hit a lot, but she just

hits me no one else. Isn't that interesting? She never hits at school or any

other times...just me. Music is very calming for my daughter. Does your

daughter listen to anything in particular that you can use as a reward. For

instance you can listen to this CD while I take a shower and if you behave you

can listen to it again tomorrow while I do laundry.

I guess I don't have any real advice, just wanted you to know that I feel your

pain.

Terri