Re: Mic encouragement needed

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In a message dated 9/24/2006 8:56:56 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mick8_7@... writes:

Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid and damn

it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please God do not let

this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM

scared. Hes my only kid and damn it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone

anymore

why please God do not let this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!<WBR>!!!!!! my baby

my world

Oh Laurie,

I wish I could give you hug right now. So many times, I've felt the same

way and so many times I've cried. I'm sure we all have. I think crying is

good. It's like a cleansing for our bodies and minds and souls that we need

every once and awhile. It catches up with us and we need to release -- have a

good cry and then " get on with things " . That's what I do. All I can tell you

is that I don't even know Mic but I think I love him. I love hearing " Mic

stories " -- I even forward them to my mom sometimes. He reminds me of my

and he sounds so loving and charming and all on his own terms. Focus

on

the wonderful, sweet, happy, funny qualities about him. Tag team with your

husband. He sounds like a great guy and you are lucky to have him ( mine died

five years ago, and I often think if only he was here to share all of THIS

with it wouldn't be so bad.....but that's my story). Hang in there -- you are

a great mom and there will be days like this. But there will be good ones

too.

If you ever want to meet me half way for lunch or whatever -- I live in

Syracuse and I think you said you are in Albany. Maybe we can do that some

day.

Do something good for your self this week!

hugs, patty

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In a message dated 9/24/2006 8:56:56 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

mick8_7@... writes:

Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid and damn

it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please God do not let

this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM

scared. Hes my only kid and damn it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone

anymore

why please God do not let this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!<WBR>!!!!!! my baby

my world

Oh Laurie,

I wish I could give you hug right now. So many times, I've felt the same

way and so many times I've cried. I'm sure we all have. I think crying is

good. It's like a cleansing for our bodies and minds and souls that we need

every once and awhile. It catches up with us and we need to release -- have a

good cry and then " get on with things " . That's what I do. All I can tell you

is that I don't even know Mic but I think I love him. I love hearing " Mic

stories " -- I even forward them to my mom sometimes. He reminds me of my

and he sounds so loving and charming and all on his own terms. Focus

on

the wonderful, sweet, happy, funny qualities about him. Tag team with your

husband. He sounds like a great guy and you are lucky to have him ( mine died

five years ago, and I often think if only he was here to share all of THIS

with it wouldn't be so bad.....but that's my story). Hang in there -- you are

a great mom and there will be days like this. But there will be good ones

too.

If you ever want to meet me half way for lunch or whatever -- I live in

Syracuse and I think you said you are in Albany. Maybe we can do that some

day.

Do something good for your self this week!

hugs, patty

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Believe me I understand the physical difficulty of dealing with a

tantrumming kid who is sooooo strong. Life will get better and he will get

better control of his behavior!

Take some time for you. See what things you MUST have from Mic and what

things you WANT from him. I know this is hard, but try to simplify. If

only someone had told me that when I was in daily or more battles with Elie.

Try to decide what is necessary for safety and health and what is to make

other people happy. I think of the days I spent battling him into clean

clothes when he could have been left alone.

Sara - Choose to make lemonade, not complain about the lemons.

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>Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid and damn

>it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please God do not let

>this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my baby my world my purpose. venting

>Laurie what comes next I am in tears and feel like I am doig the best thing

>I can do and still failing. I saw this coming and need somebody to tell me

>its gonna be OK.

>

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Laurie, I hope that it helps to know I have felt like you especially

with my husband working so much. I am raising our child like I am an

only parent really. MY husband has had to work for the past 5 weeks

without a day off and leaving early and coming home late.The company

he works for has fired 5 managers and taken 2 of his to use

elsewhere. has hit myself, the bath aid, his sister,etc.His

behavior changed this summer when he got bit on the head and he has

been horriable at times. We recently increased his meds after having

him on zoloft. The zoloft made the behaviors worst.The Phys said it

has that affect on some people and it takes 3 weeks to leave the

body.Laurie forgive me I cannot remember does he take meds? Sometimes

peoples meds stop and have to be changed and also sometimes it means

it is time to increase the dosage. I have not seen the behaviors

has in over 2 yr since going on the risperadal. You are a good mother

and I know you are trying but it is frustrating when our lives are out

of control or out of our hands.Maybe he is sick and this is the only

way to let you know? Let his Dr. know just do not give up, and I know

you won't.Ya know the person that said " God never gives us more than

we can handle " , this person did not have a child like this or even

know someone with a child like this. I believe in God. Cyndi

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> Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid

and damn it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please

God do not let this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my baby my world

my purpose. venting Laurie what comes next I am in tears and feel like

I am doig the best thing I can do and still failing. I saw this coming

and need somebody to tell me its gonna be OK.

>

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[Guest guest]

<<God never gives us more than

we can handle " , this person did not have a child like this or even

know someone with a child like this. I believe in God. Cyndi>>

You've hit the proverbial nail on the head Cyndi. I've always thought this

saying should be that " God never gives us more than we can handle WITH HIS

HELP " . Because I've watched people who have no faith or belief system be

overcome by the burdens they have been handed.

Laurie I know you get tons of encouragement from the members of this list but

somewhere in my speedreading I have missed the specifics of what exactly the

problem is with Mic? Can you be more specific?

Sherry

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Hi Laurie,

Cyber hugs your way.

I remember 7 years ago when I went through this when was 12 y/o,

boy did I want to throw in the towel as I was unable to handle him

anymore. Getting older, stronger & taller, hard to handle.

I was reading how much everyone has been posting on the issues they are

dealing with, boy what memories that I too had traveled in those

similar shoes once upon a time as I found some

solutions,strategies,etc..working around the dental visit, doc visits,

hair cut, eating or going out, the feeding issues, health issues,

toilet training issues, running/escape issues, the aggressive behavior,

meltdowns, Holidays,etc..

Only because I had a wake up call that I had to search for answers,

well the rest is history once the Disability Solutions Newsletter

crossed my path, open alot of doors for me to research which I have

found throughout this journey for me not to give up as it gave me hope

once applied with trials and errors. The strength was due to the fact

of losing one of my dear nephews at 10 y/o, when I would visit one of

my BIL and his wife. My mind had realized that if they were in my shoes

they would of prefer dealing with what I had to than not having their

son at all. My tears & energy are no longer wasted. I've empowered

myself educating myself as much as I could thanks to the great wealth

of info everyone shares that I was on the right path and it was such a

relief, not 100% but at this point anything can happen if you hang in

there and believe on how much you have come along way since you have

joined. I know I'm referring only to knowing you through the list and

not actually in person but I know you can continue dealing with

whatever challenges you have to go through.

Hopefully its just a seasonal issue going on for now with Mic. Great

big hugs to Mic and may he surprise you on how much he has learn for

the good and will have a turn over to at least some relief of comfort

to be a son. Sometimes you have to step back and just focus on being

you allowing Mic to be a kid without any self-injury to himself or

others.

Take it one day at a time, remember our kids need & live on

PREDICTABILITY, like always show him what is next? Continue using

visual cues, visual schedules, visual activities, the first & then,

having a bag of tricks with some strong reinforcement you know he will

work for or praised for. Just like if you were employed looking forward

receiving a paycheck, find Mic's groove.

Last resort, If Mic needs a vacation send him my way or he could become

a Texan. ; )

The other night at one of the meetings I had attended I actually ran

into a mom with 6 y/o twins with DS, you got it one of them is dx'd

with DS & AU, you can imagine when she had met as he was with

me. It is rough but we are here for you even through cyberland.

Irma,18,DS/ASD

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> Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid

and damn it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please

God do not let this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my baby my world

my purpose. venting Laurie what comes next I am in tears and feel like

I am doig the best thing I can do and still failing. I saw this coming

and need somebody to tell me its gonna be OK.

>

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[Guest guest]

I am new here and don't really know you all yet BUT your post stood out

to me and just wanted to say HUGS from me in New Jersey and I can

relate and I am here to tell you it will be OK

One day at a time and on a bad day maybe as I due, an hour at a time ;-

) Then the sun comes out on the next day and after a good night sleep I

am ready to start all over :-D

Christie ~

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> Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid

and damn it . Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please

God do not let this happen hes my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my baby my world

my purpose. venting Laurie what comes next I am in tears and feel like

I am doig the best thing I can do and still failing. I saw this coming

and need somebody to tell me its gonna be OK.

>

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[Guest guest]

Laurie: I feel the same way with Tori at times. Please know that you are not

alone in this. You are doing your best-just like we all are.

BIG CYBER SQUEEZES coming your way!

Liz

Mic encouragement needed

Mic is getting to big for me to handle. IM scared. Hes my only kid and damn it

.. Hes winning I cant handle him alone anymore why please God do not let this

happen hes my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!! my baby my world my purpose. venting Laurie

what comes next I am in tears and feel like I am doig the best thing I can do

and still failing. I saw this coming and need somebody to tell me its gonna be

OK.

[Guest guest]

many hugs and prayers!!! shawna