Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 My brother called me today and said Laurie ya know what Im thinking about I asked what he says a safe room for Mic to spend his time. I was shocked and I cried hes right. He says make a safe room for Mic what about the windows Laurie.He was here playing with Mic last week and he must have been thinking about it. I have not. I should be.I said to him oh God wink hes only five.He says Laurie something bad is gonna happen whats your alternative, hes right. Do any of you have these it just breaks my heart hes only 5 I figured maybe 8 or 10 not 5 and by then wed have a behaviorists in the house and we wouldnt have to do that only for night time.He says Laurie you cant make the whole house a safe house you just cant.Hes right. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 Laurie, Jake's room has very little in it. A safe bed, blankets, a toy box that he likes to play inside, soft toys, a few jeep toys, and a few other toys that he cannot hurt himself with. He has no drawers or anything. We used those plastic shelf units for a long time. His bedroom has one window. We have the door knob turned backwards so that the lock is from the outside of the room. (This was at the direction of our pediatrician and other families). Jake's window has an alarm on it in case he tries to open it. Believe it or not, when he gets overwhelmed, he goes into his room, locks the door, and then shuts it. That is his way of telling us that he has had enough. When he is turning chairs over, slamming cabinets, etc. we take him to his room with his quiet toys and he has calming down time. He might throw some toys in his room but then again, they are all non breakable. We were told that his bed room should be his safe place, a calm place, and a place where he can retreat. We have a play room that is always a disaster. Our doors all have double locks on them. Our daughters room has a high lock so that he cannot get into her room. Our laundry room is locked and our pantry is locked. Jake is a little Houdini so locks are not easy to find that he cannot open. but, at least at night and when we need a break, we know he has a safe place to be in his room. We never use his room as punishment. That is important also. Hope this helps. Holly a safe room My brother called me today and said Laurie ya know what Im thinking about I asked what he says a safe room for Mic to spend his time. I was shocked and I cried hes right. He says make a safe room for Mic what about the windows Laurie.He was here playing with Mic last week and he must have been thinking about it. I have not. I should be.I said to him oh God wink hes only five.He says Laurie something bad is gonna happen whats your alternative, hes right. Do any of you have these it just breaks my heart hes only 5 I figured maybe 8 or 10 not 5 and by then wed have a behaviorists in the house and we wouldnt have to do that only for night time.He says Laurie you cant make the whole house a safe house you just cant.Hes right. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 19, 2006 Report Share Posted May 19, 2006 Laurie, Our house sounds a lot like Holly's. Locks and more locks. I had a fence with a safely lock gate put across the kitchen opening. Em's room can be locked from the outside. I put a peep hole in the door so I can check on her. Her clothes are on shelves in the hall outside her room - I got sick of picking them up when she had a throwing frenzy. She has only coloring pencils/book, a music toy and some books. Her bed has a plasic sheet, regular sheet and a doona that can be washed easily and go in the dryer. The floor is vinal that can be cleaned and doesnt hold dust. I never want to move as it has taken so long to get everything right!! Kids need time alone in a unstimulating environment to calm down - it seems to work for Em (sometimes!) And I can have a shower and not worry what she is up to if I lock her in. Regards, Annette (aussie mum to Emma-Jay 8yrs, ds/pdd/adhd) Holly Giglio wrote: Laurie, Jake's room has very little in it. A safe bed, blankets, a toy box that he likes to play inside, soft toys, a few jeep toys, and a few other toys that he cannot hurt himself with. He has no drawers or anything. We used those plastic shelf units for a long time. His bedroom has one window. We have the door knob turned backwards so that the lock is from the outside of the room. (This was at the direction of our pediatrician and other families). Jake's window has an alarm on it in case he tries to open it. Believe it or not, when he gets overwhelmed, he goes into his room, locks the door, and then shuts it. That is his way of telling us that he has had enough. When he is turning chairs over, slamming cabinets, etc. we take him to his room with his quiet toys and he has calming down time. He might throw some toys in his room but then again, they are all non breakable. We were told that his bed room should be his safe place, a calm place, and a place where he can retreat. We have a play room that is always a disaster. Our doors all have double locks on them. Our daughters room has a high lock so that he cannot get into her room. Our laundry room is locked and our pantry is locked. Jake is a little Houdini so locks are not easy to find that he cannot open. but, at least at night and when we need a break, we know he has a safe place to be in his room. We never use his room as punishment. That is important also. Hope this helps. Holly a safe room My brother called me today and said Laurie ya know what Im thinking about I asked what he says a safe room for Mic to spend his time. I was shocked and I cried hes right. He says make a safe room for Mic what about the windows Laurie.He was here playing with Mic last week and he must have been thinking about it. I have not. I should be.I said to him oh God wink hes only five.He says Laurie something bad is gonna happen whats your alternative, hes right. Do any of you have these it just breaks my heart hes only 5 I figured maybe 8 or 10 not 5 and by then wed have a behaviorists in the house and we wouldnt have to do that only for night time.He says Laurie you cant make the whole house a safe house you just cant.Hes right. Laurie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 20, 2006 Report Share Posted May 20, 2006 Laurie, We put a half door on 's room with the lock on the outside. The door is like a daycare door. has ripped his shade, put dents in the walls,and furniture from throwing movies and toys. We now have limited his toys in his room. like the others will go to his room when he has had enough and he slams the door behind him. used to go to his room everyday after school but after his heart surgery 3 yrs ago he started staying downstairs with me after school. He became more social. We have a 2 story has and that is why I put the half door on his room so at night I could sleep knowing he was safe in his room. We also put a fence around the back yard because a couple of years ago he opened the screen door and got out. I was frantic and I called the police. I was scared they might think I did something to him because he is disable. But thankfully a neighbor child found him standing in the drive way next to our house.This was a neighbors house we never going to so I did not even look there.They say alot of children that vanish is because of a parent and with the rise of parents killing children I was a nervous reck. I thought I might have a heart attack. Thank goodness everything was okay. No one knows what our lives our like and the stress we deal with day in and day out. It is like having a toddler for the rest of your life because we really have to make sure they are secure in many areas of their life. Have a great day. Cyndi > > Laurie, > > Our house sounds a lot like Holly's. Locks and more locks. I had a fence with a safely lock gate put across the kitchen opening. Em's room can be locked from the outside. I put a peep hole in the door so I can check on her. Her clothes are on shelves in the hall outside her room - I got sick of picking them up when she had a throwing frenzy. She has only coloring pencils/book, a music toy and some books. Her bed has a plasic sheet, regular sheet and a doona that can be washed easily and go in the dryer. The floor is vinal that can be cleaned and doesnt hold dust. > I never want to move as it has taken so long to get everything right!! > Kids need time alone in a unstimulating environment to calm down - it seems to work for Em (sometimes!) And I can have a shower and not worry what she is up to if I lock her in. > > Regards, > Annette (aussie mum to Emma-Jay 8yrs, ds/pdd/adhd) > > > Holly Giglio wrote: > Laurie, > Jake's room has very little in it. A safe bed, blankets, a toy box that he likes to play inside, soft toys, a few jeep toys, and a few other toys that he cannot hurt himself with. He has no drawers or anything. We used those plastic shelf units for a long time. His bedroom has one window. We have the door knob turned backwards so that the lock is from the outside of the room. (This was at the direction of our pediatrician and other families). Jake's window has an alarm on it in case he tries to open it. > > Believe it or not, when he gets overwhelmed, he goes into his room, locks the door, and then shuts it. That is his way of telling us that he has had enough. > > When he is turning chairs over, slamming cabinets, etc. we take him to his room with his quiet toys and he has calming down time. He might throw some toys in his room but then again, they are all non breakable. We were told that his bed room should be his safe place, a calm place, and a place where he can retreat. We have a play room that is always a disaster. Our doors all have double locks on them. Our daughters room has a high lock so that he cannot get into her room. Our laundry room is locked and our pantry is locked. Jake is a little Houdini so locks are not easy to find that he cannot open. but, at least at night and when we need a break, we know he has a safe place to be in his room. We never use his room as punishment. That is important also. > > Hope this helps. > Holly > a safe room > > > My brother called me today and said Laurie ya know what Im thinking about I asked what he says a safe room for Mic to spend his time. I was shocked and I cried hes right. He says make a safe room for Mic what about the windows Laurie.He was here playing with Mic last week and he must have been thinking about it. I have not. I should be.I said to him oh God wink hes only five.He says Laurie something bad is gonna happen whats your alternative, hes right. Do any of you have these it just breaks my heart hes only 5 I figured maybe 8 or 10 not 5 and by then wed have a behaviorists in the house and we wouldnt have to do that only for night time.He says Laurie you cant make the whole house a safe house you just cant.Hes right. Laurie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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