Guest guest Posted July 10, 2006 Report Share Posted July 10, 2006 Welcome GC. Absolutely welcome! But I almost hate you, because you live in my beloved Florida. Daddy was raised in New Smyrna Beach. Back in 1906 onward. Enjoy the place with all your heart---for me. Then I won't hate you, (Grin) We'll help all we can. When you come across something holler, or just holler if you need to. We take care of anything here. With a lot of love and kindness, and some teasing once in awhile, a great while. Imogene Caregiver for my True Texas Gentleman husband of 35 years. He has LBD with Parkinsonism. In a message dated 7/10/2006 8:20:27 PM Central Daylight Time, affiliated4you@... writes: Hi! I'm the brother of , and one of Dad's 4 sons. I joined your group a week ago. It is my town (Daytona Beach, FL) that Dad will be moving to shortly, to try living with me. He will have me, my son ,and caretakers in the house. And a 3rd son living 3 miles away! The 4th son is in NC. Any experiences you nice folks can share, living with your own LBD LO, would be GREAT! Thanks, GC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 I don't know what help you can get in Florida, but I have a niece taking care of my sister in Ocala. I will write to her, and see what advise she has. She always refers to Counsel on aging, and Dept. of Elder affairs. I have taken advise from Geri Hall, PhD. on the Alzheimer's list to which I belong. She told me if my loved one was fighting his hallucinations, that I should get rid of all guns, and put special locks on drawers with knives, In fact get rid of all I don't use, but the rest put in a locked drawer. Some LBD patients see reflections in mirrors, or pictures, and have trouble with them. If your home isn't kept locked that he can't get out, then that is a must. Special locks for them, so that they don't wonder at night. Remove all throw rugs, on which they can trip. If there is a long hall you might want to install a sturdy hand rail. For some reason halls are a problem, as are dark places on the floor. The LBD patient thinks it's a hole. MY husband has experienced that without a dark spot. He was watching very carefully where he stepped as he said there were deep depression in the floor. That can be a deterrent for some patients wondering. Put a dark rug in front of the door. They are afraid to step on it. You may have him come in and be fine one minute, and then he can be a different person in a snap. You always have to be watchful. LBD must be treated with a lot of gentleness and kindness, along with love. We don't, and can't, argue with them. It's a no win situation. They become highly agitated. So I change the subject, and keep it pleasant. My Love stays calm most of the time. Geri, also told me that I should wear a cell phone all the time, if he is fighting his hallucinations. She said she has had patients that have called from the basement, a closet, or a locked bathroom, and one patient killed his wife. She couldn't stress safety strongly enough. Because, you never know what hallucination will set them off. I hope some of this helps until we can find help for you. My niece may not be able to help, because she is dealing with AD, and that is a whole different ball game. But, I'll see what she knows that perhaps I don't about Florida laws and care. Imogene Caregiver for my True Texas Gentleman husband of 35 years. He has LBD with Parkinsonism. In a message dated 7/11/2006 11:45:46 PM Central Daylight Time, affiliated4you@... writes: Hi! GC here. Thanks for your concern. The thing I'm trying to get done now is to get my house completely, correctly set up for my Dad's arrival in a week or so. Do any of you have contact info for a national, and especially North Florida, group that helps family-caregivers set up their home for their LBD-Loved-One? Thanks! G [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 12, 2006 Report Share Posted July 12, 2006 Great advice! Thanks G In a message dated 7/12/2006 7:48:59 AM Eastern Daylight Time, Iward27663@... writes: I don't know what help you can get in Florida, but I have a niece taking care of my sister in Ocala. I will write to her, and see what advise she has. She always refers to Counsel on aging, and Dept. of Elder affairs. I have taken advise from Geri Hall, PhD. on the Alzheimer's list to which I belong. She told me if my loved one was fighting his hallucinations, that I should get rid of all guns, and put special locks on drawers with knives, In fact get rid of all I don't use, but the rest put in a locked drawer. Some LBD patients see reflections in mirrors, or pictures, and have trouble with them. If your home isn't kept locked that he can't get out, then that is a must. Special locks for them, so that they don't wonder at night. Remove all throw rugs, on which they can trip. If there is a long hall you might want to install a sturdy hand rail. For some reason halls are a problem, as are dark places on the floor. The LBD patient thinks it's a hole. MY husband has experienced that without a dark spot. He was watching very carefully where he stepped as he said there were deep depression in the floor. That can be a deterrent for some patients wondering. Put a dark rug in front of the door. They are afraid to step on it. You may have him come in and be fine one minute, and then he can be a different person in a snap. You always have to be watchful. LBD must be treated with a lot of gentleness and kindness, along with love. We don't, and can't, argue with them. It's a no win situation. They become highly agitated. So I change the subject, and keep it pleasant. My Love stays calm most of the time. Geri, also told me that I should wear a cell phone all the time, if he is fighting his hallucinations. She said she has had patients that have called from the basement, a closet, or a locked bathroom, and one patient killed his wife. She couldn't stress safety strongly enough. Because, you never know what hallucination will set them off. I hope some of this helps until we can find help for you. My niece may not be able to help, because she is dealing with AD, and that is a whole different ball game. But, I'll see what she knows that perhaps I don't about Florida laws and care. Imogene Caregiver for my True Texas Gentleman husband of 35 years. He has LBD with Parkinsonism. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 hello GC welcome ot our family although it saddens me that you had to find us, here please feel free to vent, ask questions, scream yell, cry laugh whatever it takes we all will understand we are /have been / or already had gone thru it. be sure to go the website. www.lbda.org and find alot of hints there. from list of bad medicaions to helpful ideas, i have one file there called hints to help which has a lot of good suggestions, victoria has done a great job setting up all the files and stuff. making it easier to find. my first and foremost thought is to get all legal issues resovled now, power of atty, medical directives, wills etc, before it is too late. i also would suggets some slight renovations to the bathroom he will use, we replaced all towel racks with handicapped bars we had them installed on both sides of the wall to facilitate dads getting to the toilet and to the shower. a commode chair with arms is a great idea, although we put up a handicapped bar diagnol next to teh toilet, the high end being furtherst from toilet to ease in getting up and down off toilet. we also did something i thought of myself, we replaced the shower rod and had a steel bar secured into the studs so dad could hold on it when he was getting in /out of the shower. that helped dad alot. and he would cling to it while the hospice aided would give him a shower. if there is anything else you need dont hesitate to call me, oh by the way, one of the lewy body assoc scietific advisor practies at mayo in jackson ville, her name is dr tanis ferman, she is so nice and friendly, i liked her alot when i met her at the so fla symposium last year. also when you go the website you can ordre the dvds from the syposium, the first cd is the two doctors discussing lbd, and 2nd has questions and answers with dr ferman and then a caregiver panel with us discussing our particular sitatuion and givnig hints and advise to help, great videos, great resource and then you can copy cds and give them to other family members, doctors etc. good luck and hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away ---- affiliated4you@... wrote: Hi! I'm the brother of , and one of Dad's 4 sons. I joined your group a week ago. It is my town (Daytona Beach, FL) that Dad will be moving to shortly, to try living with me. He will have me, my son ,and caretakers in the house. And a 3rd son living 3 miles away! The 4th son is in NC. Any experiences you nice folks can share, living with your own LBD LO, would be GREAT! Thanks, GC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 No, support group in Texas yet that I know about. Donna R Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02 No dx other than mine. Re: Re: Hi all - I'm new to the group. Do you know of an LBD Support group in Texas? Imogene In a message dated 7/12/2006 9:23:53 AM Central Daylight Time, twomido@... writes: Just a quick reminder, we do have an LBD support group in Florida. I think it is in the Yahoo " footer " on the calendar. Donna R Caregave for Mom (after I brought her from WI to MI) for 3 years and 4th year in a nh. She was almost 89 when she died in '02 No dx other than mine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 13, 2006 Report Share Posted July 13, 2006 In a message dated 7/13/2006 2:21:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time, LadySmilingAtU2@... writes: hello GC welcome ot our family although it saddens me that you had to find us, here please feel free to vent, ask questions, scream yell, cry laugh whatever it takes we all will understand we are /have been / or already had gone thru it. be sure to go the website. www.lbda.org and find alot of hints there. from list of bad medicaions to helpful ideas, i have one file there called hints to help which has a lot of good suggestions, victoria has done a great job setting up all the files and stuff. making it easier to find. my first and foremost thought is to get all legal issues resovled now, power of atty, medical directives, wills etc, before it is too late. i also would suggets some slight renovations to the bathroom he will use, we replaced all towel racks with handicapped bars we had them installed on both sides of the wall to facilitate dads getting to the toilet and to the shower. a commode chair with arms is a great idea, although we put up a handicapped bar diagnol next to teh toilet, the high end being furtherst from toilet to ease in getting up and down off toilet. we also did something i thought of myself, we replaced the shower rod and had a steel bar secured into the studs so dad could hold on it when he was getting in /out of the shower. that helped dad alot. and he would cling to it while the hospice aided would give him a shower. if there is anything else you need dont hesitate to call me, oh by the way, one of the lewy body assoc scietific advisor practies at mayo in jackson ville, her name is dr tanis ferman, she is so nice and friendly, i liked her alot when i met her at the so fla symposium last year. also when you go the website you can ordre the dvds from the syposium, the first cd is the two doctors discussing lbd, and 2nd has questions and answers with dr ferman and then a caregiver panel with us discussing our particular sitatuion and givnig hints and advise to help, great videos, great resource and then you can copy cds and give them to other family members, doctors etc. good luck and hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away Thank you! This email has great ideas in it, esp. the N. FL LB scientist at Mayo 110 miles north of here! And the POA advice, I've always wanted Dad to finish a POA. Hopefully my brothers and I will get that done soon. Also, I purposely bought this house 1 year ago for Dad. It has a big walk-in shower with tile bench and ALL handicap bars in that bathroom, and wiiide handicap-doors throughout if he ever needs a wheelchair..... Thanks :-) GC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2006 Report Share Posted July 20, 2006 gc please dont wait get the legal work done, mental changes are quick and may not pass lawyers test of mental acuity, hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away ---- affiliated4you@... wrote: In a message dated 7/13/2006 2:21:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time, LadySmilingAtU2@... writes: hello GC welcome ot our family although it saddens me that you had to find us, here please feel free to vent, ask questions, scream yell, cry laugh whatever it takes we all will understand we are /have been / or already had gone thru it. be sure to go the website. www.lbda.org and find alot of hints there. from list of bad medicaions to helpful ideas, i have one file there called hints to help which has a lot of good suggestions, victoria has done a great job setting up all the files and stuff. making it easier to find. my first and foremost thought is to get all legal issues resovled now, power of atty, medical directives, wills etc, before it is too late. i also would suggets some slight renovations to the bathroom he will use, we replaced all towel racks with handicapped bars we had them installed on both sides of the wall to facilitate dads getting to the toilet and to the shower. a commode chair with arms is a great idea, although we put up a handicapped bar diagnol next to teh toilet, the high end being furtherst from toilet to ease in getting up and down off toilet. we also did something i thought of myself, we replaced the shower rod and had a steel bar secured into the studs so dad could hold on it when he was getting in /out of the shower. that helped dad alot. and he would cling to it while the hospice aided would give him a shower. if there is anything else you need dont hesitate to call me, oh by the way, one of the lewy body assoc scietific advisor practies at mayo in jackson ville, her name is dr tanis ferman, she is so nice and friendly, i liked her alot when i met her at the so fla symposium last year. also when you go the website you can ordre the dvds from the syposium, the first cd is the two doctors discussing lbd, and 2nd has questions and answers with dr ferman and then a caregiver panel with us discussing our particular sitatuion and givnig hints and advise to help, great videos, great resource and then you can copy cds and give them to other family members, doctors etc. good luck and hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away Thank you! This email has great ideas in it, esp. the N. FL LB scientist at Mayo 110 miles north of here! And the POA advice, I've always wanted Dad to finish a POA. Hopefully my brothers and I will get that done soon. Also, I purposely bought this house 1 year ago for Dad. It has a big walk-in shower with tile bench and ALL handicap bars in that bathroom, and wiiide handicap-doors throughout if he ever needs a wheelchair..... Thanks :-) GC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2006 Report Share Posted July 22, 2006 You are so right, Sharon M. So right! Imogene In a message dated 7/22/2006 4:17:42 PM Central Daylight Time, LadySmilingAtU2@... writes: my dad was diagnosed may 2004, and went into hosp walking came out with walker, we called atty in july he came to house and then took another 3 weeks to get all paperwork properly done by the time he came back 3 weeks later, dads mind was enough out of it, that the lawyer said had he not specifically heard what dad wanted before he wouldnt be able to do it as he didnt feel daddy was mentally competent anymore. so please for all important legal paperwork and for also visiting, remember one day tomorrow wont be there any more,. hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2006 Report Share Posted July 22, 2006 my dad was diagnosed may 2004, and went into hosp walking came out with walker, we called atty in july he came to house and then took another 3 weeks to get all paperwork properly done by the time he came back 3 weeks later, dads mind was enough out of it, that the lawyer said had he not specifically heard what dad wanted before he wouldnt be able to do it as he didnt feel daddy was mentally competent anymore. so please for all important legal paperwork and for also visiting, remember one day tomorrow wont be there any more,. hugs, sharon m -- Daugher of Leonard, diag May 2004, had lbd since 1993, had hip surgery from fall 7/05, aspiration pneumonia 7/05 with pulmonary embolyis, had aspiration pneumonia and uti 8/05, died of blood pressure drop on 9/25/05, may he rest in peace with his mom and dad, a smile a day keeps the meanies away ---- affiliated4you@... wrote: In a message dated 7/20/2006 11:13:47 PM Eastern Daylight Time, LadySmilingAtU2@... writes: gc please dont wait get the legal work done, mental changes are quick and may not pass lawyers test of mental acuity, hugs, sharon m My brothers and I will probably make sure that POA is done by August. Dad is still very sharp, but POA is a good idea soon. Thanks! GC Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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